The speaker initially chose to be with their partner because they found them extremely attractive, stating that their partner's looks perfectly matched their aesthetic preferences.
Physical appearance played a significant role in the speaker's relationship, as they openly admitted that their partner's good looks were a major factor in their initial attraction.
The speaker acknowledges that physical appearance has brought them many benefits, including their marriage and career opportunities, but they also emphasize that their efforts and abilities are equally important.
The speaker discusses the societal issue of unfair advantages that come with physical appearance, noting that people with good looks often receive more opportunities, which can lead to feelings of injustice among others.
The speaker advises individuals to accept their physical appearance, avoid excessive anxiety over looks, and consider the cost-benefit ratio of efforts to enhance their appearance, such as makeup or cosmetic surgery.
这一期是堂堂正正的“夫妻闲聊”(虽然,也夹带一些干货),也是一期特别的夫妻坦白局,聊一聊“外貌”这个话题。
起因是,我过去在很多地方都毫无保留地表达,当初我和他在一起的很重要的原因就是:他长得太好看了,完全长在我的审美点上。但我完全完全没有问过商老师,我这样的表达,他是怎么看的?在他心中,当时刚和我在一起时,外貌又占比多少?商老师因为自己的姿色,生活有哪些影响?
正好借着这个机会聊一聊:因为对方长得好看在一起,有问题吗?我们如何看待自己的外貌?对于外貌这件事,我们有什么建议?
当然,不得不提一下我之前写过的一本小说。
听完这期播客,你也可以说说你的想法。
【本期内容】
02:14 坦白局:商老师关注过我的外貌吗?
08:30 当时恋爱时外貌占比多少?
16:36 回忆初见:觉得对方好看的时刻
25:06因为对方好看而在一起,会伤害对方吗?
29:20 我过去写过的一本小说
31:47 如何看待因为外貌而获得的工作?
41:46 聊聊公平和平等
46:50 有没有因为外貌而出现让人不舒服的问.
51:40 聊聊假鸡汤:向外归因的问题
54:08 我们如何看待外貌
59:43 关于外貌对大家有什么建议?
01:06:15 最后的总结和反思
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