Unlock a Life with Purpose: Intentional Living Tips from the Pros (SB1606)
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I'm joe bomb's neighbor dog. And don't you think it's time you ve got intentional about your life? Man, am having some P, T, S, D, because that sounds exactly like jose mom. And then he says something like, no ground. Man, if lucky, charms are two in the afternoon.

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Either stalkers and happy friday to you. Sit back and relax because we're going to intentionally have an hour of fun getting intentional about your lives. Let's dive in to our crew that we've got here with this today.

We'll have our special guest go last. Let's start off with the gentleman behind our brother podcasting. Invest, mr.

Jordan grab and A K doc. g. here. How are you?

I am good. And this is right in my ally here talking about intention and purpose. Boy, i'm excited about this one.

I know it's funny. I thought of our special guest first, because this is a big part of her book on this topic, but then I thought second about you. I am like, all my duchy has all this you very intentionally, by the way, at a point, your life decided to change gears I did.

from living the life of a very, very busy doctor to being a pastor, author, public speaker, you know, all that important stuff. And joe, you thought of me next, but you contacted me last because I heard about this recording yesterday afternoon. So I don't know about this thought of me sex.

I think that is more about me, my organization skills at this very moment that I has to do with you. Of course not. And the woman who is in manhattan intentionally got touched about living in manhattan. Popa is here.

How are you? I am doing great. I love intentional living. It's a topic that I intentionally try to talk about. So I am intentionally on this podcast.

you intentionally pay a tune of money .

and rent every month. I sure do. I centrally, very intentionally, pay a lot and rent.

And the woman who brought this topic to my attention with her new book called the nine percent edge, Candy valley OS back, how are you?

I'm great. Thanks so much for having me back .

in the nine percent age. You're talking mostly to business owners though, right?

Yes, business owner, entrepreneur s some .

investors. I will link to our first time that you and I added, because we had such a great discussion about your amazing background, all the stuff that you've been through and becoming an entrepreneur yourself. What does the nine percent had actually mean? Kitty.

so ninety one percent of all businesses fail in their first ten years. And so we did the largest research study. I took eighteen months and looked at two thousand businesses and seventeen thousand entrepreneurs to find out why.

And so the nine percent edge are the tools for you to get the edge to be successful in business. Because often times what we hear about on social media from some guru actually isn't going to create a sustainable business. Because if we don't build a business with intention, we don't fill a life with intention. One day we're going to wake up and realize that what is this that I just built, and you are actually going to be living in a cage, is opposed to a life of freedom. So we talk about how to build more revenue, how to create more profit and eventually, how to have ultimate freedom in your life.

Do you remember when you first got intentional about your life and where you were headed?

Yeah, I was in nineteen. I was nineteen years old. I started my first business. I had a six week run rate that I got an sb, a loan.

This is back in the late nineties when women were only allowed to get loans without a man signature for about eight years at that time. So IT was a really rare thing. And I realized that I watched my dad work so hard my whole life.

My dad was a mechanic. My mom cleaned houses, and so I was intentional about building a business that I could exit. I learned to stand back then that less than two percent of female entrepreneurs ever broke a million dollars in revenue, revenue, top line revenue.

And at the time, less than point zero five percent of female entrepreneurs ever got their companies acquired. So I said, check, check. That's what i'm after. And everything I did in the start of my business was in order to be able to make work optional by the time I was boring.

which is what I what's amazing is what I was reading about that story. The part that impressed is me most about that is not about i'm after the million dollars of revenue. I'm after this a to build this amazing company's amazing life for myself, is that you had six weeks to do IT like to just to get off the ground.

And is, you know, Candy like every single time i've seen somebody's business plan, anybody's playing, they like, oh yeah, i've got enough money for six months. We're going to get this business going in six month. And I think every time i've told people like triple that number and you're good.

yeah so forty five days, seven employees, no college degree, no corporate background, and I had to figure that out and no backup plan like this was IT. So I think what happens though is when you make promises to other people, you call something out of yourself that you didn't even know that you had. And that was a gift that wasn't IT wasn't something of my planning.

I felt IT was divine. I told these seven people that i'm going to give you a position that i'm going to pay you. And IT really caused this, like other version of me, to make sure that I was not going to fail.

These people I may have failed myself, I don't know, but when I promise these other people that I was going to provide for them, and they left their jo B2Come wor k for me, and they were all older than I was twice my age, that I had to show up. And I think there's something about leverages that's really beautiful that when you're backs against the wall, we tend to figure this out as long as we don't give up. And really, that's the first part of the intention of of how I started.

I just can't imagine like offering somebody a job and thinking I enough to pay you for just six weeks. So we're going to make IT. But you're right, you set IT out there to the universe and you're going to go get IT.

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Well, the inspiration for a toy show was Cindy valentina coming on to join us. But our peace that I really want to focus on comes to us from psych central duck ham. And it's all about just living with attention because whether you an entrepreneur you're working for, quote domain IT doesn't matter really an intentional life, I would think is a Better life.

Let's talk about the downside though of not being intention because I feel i'm going to start with you duck because I feel like you know on a day like today, just an average friday, i'm washing the dishes. I'm doing the same stuff I do every day. I'm kind of an autopilot long term. What's the cost of not being intentional with our lives?

Well, I think if we are not tension with our lives, we don't really live our values. Because the way I think about IT is we come to activities trying to bring ourselves, who do we want to be? How do we want to be in this world? And so we take our values, and we translate that into action, which I call purpose is doing things that are important to that.

Let you up. But intentions are like your north star. It's the point of I have these values and i'm gonna these actions, but your intentions tell you how you're onna Carry out those actions. It's pretty much values in action.

But kd, I would bet based on what doc g, so many talks about turning values into action. I don't tell that you agree with that, but what I do doubt is that more than, I don't know, ten, fifteen percent of our audience has actually looked hard at those values. IT sounds easy. Why is IT so hard for us to do this values based approach to living?

I think it's something that we've never been taught. Most of us probably authorities, maybe if you're lucky, forties, you're like, what are even these values and what are my values? Like people are in such a reactive state, you know, it's like the work to pay bills, to just figure out life. Most people don't even remember rn to put their garbage.

It's like talk about intention that such a foreign concept, people are just trying to get by and let's be real, having intention in life is also a little bit of a lage, like some people are just trying to figure out day to day like they're like what mean intention? Like i'm just trying to figure how to put food on the danger table. So I think we have to be cautious when we talk about IT that there is a real cost to IT.

However, regardless where you are, you can start to have intention. And if you're not where you want to be, it's because of lack of intentions. So if you're in a business that you hate, guess what, you didn't build IT with intention. If you're in a relationship that sucks the living life out of you, you weren't intentional about build that relationship.

So if anyone listening ing or watching right now is like i'm not really where I want to be, this is the time for you to really double down because the cost is for you to build a life that you don't want. And we live in a society, in a world that has so much opportunity, and sometimes all that opportunity is actually disguised as distractions. So you should be very careful with what you start to place your focus on so you don't end up building a life that you don't love.

I feel that based on what Candy saying polar that you know, we talk about compounding interest. We talk about investing like the compounding effect of not being intentional. I'm here in Candy, say you can be everybody as bad as the upside effect of compounding interest and attention.

Well, I mean, the beautiful things that the compounding works both ways. So if you are unintentional about your life, then that compounds. And over time, you go deeper and deeper into a life that you are not intentional about, that you do not like, you have more some cost behind you there that you have to then untangle.

But the opposite is also true as you begin the the slow process of building a more intentional life, taking those small actions that start to get you out of IT eventually compound over time. You know, on a day to day level, IT might feel like nothing. But when you look back after five years, I feel it's just, you don't even recognize where you are anymore.

And I love duck, what Candy saying also about the privilege of being intentionally, because I remember when I was in my dark days with money, like, I like all this intentionality sounds great, but I got to put food on the tip. Like, i'm on this, i'm on this escalator to hell and I don't know how to get off, but also to can this point, I feel like IT doesn't have to be. You know, you talk about big pee purpose and little pea purpose. When you talk about this idea of living your life, I feel like there's also big guy intentionality, which is i'm going to redesign my entire day and what it's talks about this piece, which is maybe it's just taking a long walk with your spouse because movement, quality, time of priorities yeah I mean.

I don't know. I think it's a little but of a cup out to say that being intentional is a privilege. I think anyone in any situation can be in touch with their values.

And I think that once you're in touch with your values, intention is the way you Carry out those values. You know, I think people who are in a good economic situation could think about their values. I think a lot of people who in port economic situations also think about their values.

And the way they walk in this world towards purpose, which is all action base, is directed by intentions. And so you can know what's important to you and then you can try to act that out in the world by having that intention. Whether you're successful or not doesn't really matter, is that you have the right intentions. So I don't know if it's really a privilege percent.

The wait to me that I ask you the same question. I ask Candy, if you're right, then how come if people are so in touch with their values, how come so often we see people's values going one way and the things they do in their daily life going in a whole different direction?

Oh, well, I think a lot of people aren't intentional about their values. I think knowing their values is something that anyone can get in touch with. And I think if you're willing to then take those values and be intentional about caring them out, I don't think having money or not having money, and again, I don't think it's connected to privilege.

I think a lot of people, either a don't put the time and energy and to understanding their values or a lot of times that takes a lot of energy right to take those values and use intention to turn IT into a purposeful life, right to purposes about actions. It's about present, future. And a lot of people don't have the energy interest or feel they don't have the time to actually live a life of purpose.

And so in order to do that, you have to know what your values are and then you have to be intentional about caring out those activities that reflect those values, and that's what purposes. And so I don't think there's anything keeping us from doing this other than the fact that most people are either afraid to think about IT or have convinced themselves that they're not sure what IT is or a lot of people have convinced themselves they don't have enough time or money, but even money has very little to do with values. And we know the beer of labor statistics does the american time study, and most people have five to six hours of three time a day regardless of where you are socially, economically.

So I think it's all quite possible. I think it's hard. That's why people don't do IT. It's actually hard to understand what your own values are and then be consistent and intentional about translating that into activities.

Where's that five hours at? Like that five hours of free time at? Because like, after I had done watching tiktok videos, I got no time. And interestingly enough.

the study show show that people with a lower social economic class tend to have an extra hours. So really you're talking about six hours .

for people who have left. Wait to make you say to have more time. Yes.

people who are who are actually higher social economically tend to fill their time more with activities are more emails to respond to, more phone calls to make. Trust me, some of the biest people, we know our business owners, right? These are the people who working seventy, eighty, ninety, one hundred hours a week.

People who are struggling. Lower socioeconomic classes, not all, but a lot of them are working. Let's save forty or fifty hours a week.

So it's a big difference. And this has been proven. I'm not making this up. It's actually, you know, been studied.

Polar duck says that we may just be afraid. Do you think are afraid?

Oh yes. I think being afraid is natural and is Normal. The chAllenges, what do you do? Not in the absence of fear, but rather in spite of the fear?

Kenny, funny, because this police said that i'm thinking about business owners and business owners fighting that fear. If you also think people are afraid, I mean, how do you overcome that fear, especially in business? I just can't imagine walking into your place of business having these seven faces look at me and knowing that in six weeks I might not be able to continue to .

feed them yeah so I personally just I don't feel that it's fear. I feel that they don't have the information, right. It's the tools. It's not so much the idea of intentions. And actually, I feel like we got a little off topics.

We are really talking about values as opposed just intention and intentional living, which is just more on purpose, which you can do even if you don't fully understand your values, which I certainly did in nineteen. I was just trying not to be that was really the number one thing, but I was still able to build a life in a business and a portfolio with intention, right, even though I didn't fully understand my values. And so I don't nestor ly think in my opinion, that is fear.

I think people don't know what to do with this. They hear topics like this and there's a lot of attitudes of like what is purpose i'm just trying to get through the day. I'm trying to raise a family and being a single mom.

All of these real life things that people have to struggle with is like not so much the fear of doing IT. It's what do I do? Like how do I do this? Okay, you know, doctors, I need values.

Well, where do I even go to figure out what the help my values are? And then once I do, how does that actually tie into intention altogether? So I do personally think that there are two separate things and there are two separate topics.

And you can actually have values and not live with intention, and you can live with intention and not have values. And so we see that a lot in the business world. So I think it's more about the tools.

You know, ideas are not going to change our life is the implementation execution of the idea that will. So how can we empower people with more tools on knowing what to do? And I think it's all about the power of the pause. They need the one half of one second to pause and stop and identify that they may have a pattern that has either been caught or taught in their environment. They are running now like a computer, and they have the script.

And to take that one half of one second before your subconscious kicks in, and has you do this one thing because you're a ball of our habits, and see, do I really want to do this? Do I really want to live my life like this? Do I want to live or I want to live? Do I want to be in the house that I have? Do I want to be with this person? Do I want a family? Do I not want a family taking time to pause?

I think there is so much power in the pause, and we have so much activity and noise around us that people don't get intentional about pausing, figure out what they want to do, let alone figure out downloading some values based thing and seeing which ones applied to them. Like that's all separate topic in my opinion, but it's like let's take a look at where you are. And if this is really where you want to go, that's the first step. Identify where you are to see if you even want to be there. We gotta know where we are in order to know what we're doing, where we're building and what we're building.

I didn't get separate broadcasters. We're not going to continue on that line. But I do think that intentions, along with values, is is definitely the way to go. But I love this idea of lining up our intentionality for the day by taking that pause.

Give me some those ideas to some of the think you're talking about, you talking about, like when I referred to watching tiktok videos, taking a POS and go. And is this really the best use of my time? Is that what you're talking about?

I'll give you one question. So if they get nothing else from the rest of our time together, just this one question, does this decision, does this action, does this habit take me closer to the life I want to live? Or further away? Does going on getting black out drunk get you closer to being a billionaire? Or does that get you birthday away?

I I started to see ducks. I'd go up to that. Yes, yes.

right. I got one filter to just pause and ask yourself, because we are all on this photo program that we have been running on these stripes for so long, and we make a lot of decisions from limiting beliefs and things that we catch in our environment, or things society tells us we can or can do.

So it's really pausing to say, is this actually getting closer to where one to go, or is this further away? Because once we identify those decisions, those decisions are what's going to create our habits, and those habits what creates our reality. So really starts with the decision. First.

we're to talk about that in the second after the show because we're going to dive in to exactly what we do. There are some tips for intentional living in this peace. Obviously, are three contributors today.

Have some tips for you as well. But before we get there, we have the most important part of the show probably, which is where we have this year long competition between our three frequent contributors, og, pola and my mom. And mom doesn't do stairs, doesn't really care about trivia.

So today can you are going to play on behalf of mom, doc, that means you're going to play on behalf of og and, uh, Candy, play on behalf of mom. That means we've got some good news for you and some bad news. You want the good news first or the bad news.

Always the bad news. Well, the bad news is mom, is that winning and she's not that happy about IT. She's in d, she's in second play.

She's got eleven, og has sixteen and we're getting close to the end of the year. So mom needs to make a run, so no pressure Candy mum is got ta get going. And the other bad news is paul is only one behind you, which I think polar might be is is closer than .

you've been the second place yeah IT is unusually close Normally so deep into last place they need a separate score board to see how just it's like you've got number one, number two and then like miles away, like on the horizon, there's me across .

the horizon. So it's sixteen, eleven to ten policy thy mom today. Well, we need a question dug. You've got one about today's date in history and lots and .

lots and lots of Benjamin as treasure what we in history, way back in sixteen eighty four, when joe, only eleven years old, black, the parent, was killed in open hand to hand combat by british naval officer Robert manor. Blackbeard earned a tone of money, totally fair and square, before justice finally got up to him. But today's question is this, when they found blackbeard flagship named the queen ands revenge, IT was full of treasures.

How many artifacts have divers recovered from IT? And hold on because I know paul is probably thinking i'll that's not too bad. I can take guess at that. But wait, there's more. IT was reported that black beard was married fourteen times during his life.

So here's a real question, if his treasures were equally divided by the divorce court judges, how many would black beard have retained? If his treasures that they found we're equally divided by divorce court judges, how many were black beard to retain? I'll be back with an answer right after I go. Shiver me timbers for the third time today.

you know? No, no, no. I don't want to know what you mean.

Alright, pola is going last dog. You are first here to turn a treasure on that ship. But we're just counting the number of artifacts I was about.

say, but but I have questions here because we are counting the number vertie. Ts, but then do we have to divided by you? Said he was, what? Married fourteen times.

And one percent. One part that goes to him so divided by fifteen. Is that what you're .

divided by fifteen? Yeah.

OK got IT right. So how many? I I have no idea how many be.

Apparently not very good at a this .

marriage thing. Yeah yeah. seriously. So let's say i'm going to make IT easy, right? So i'm going to say they recovered hundred and fifty thousand artifacts, so divided by fifteen. So each person, ten thousand artifacts.

ten thousand artifacts. Black beer kept Candy. You think that numbers high or low?

Oh, I was going off of wealth is what I thought you were going with. So I was thinking, monetary. What he would have been left with artifacts. We never did.

by the way, we were researching this dog. And we never got the tumor of money that IT was worth, which is worked to your point. That's what we really wanted.

So each coin one art effect.

Each, yes.

each coin is one art effect.

Each thing is one art effect.

So then I would say I was in the millions of artifacts, so maybe one hundred thousand per you would remain with .

one .

hundred thousand artifacts, right? Divided by fifteen. Yes, I was going to say he'd pray, have a million, fifteen million divided by five, one million. So yeah, go with one hundred thousand.

one hundred thousand artifacts he retains. Pola, um you you got a big deal to there get one hundred thousand and ten thousand.

I'm helping polar move in the second place easily .

to my I thank you. Thank you. Oh, all right. So i've got a couple of choices. I can. I can take the over, I can take the under or I can shoot squarely for the middle.

And whichever you choose, pola, at some point they'll start .

in the opposite. So I guess I will shoot for the middle and I will say fifty five thousand.

fifty five thousand. You're not going to a seat up next anybody?

I, no, I typically do.

but that hasn't worked. Yeah.

I exactly. He, exactly. Clearly, what I typically do doesn't do IT.

What are you actually applying some intentionality to your via today? I may or may not be.

Joe, can't believe. IT, all right.

Who's gonna in this? We ve got one hundred thousand from Candy. We got fifty five thousand from polar, ten thousand from dog.

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You started off with ten thousand and I think both Candy and polis said we do low. Well, I don't think so based on numbers, I think they think your way too law how you feel.

And you know that all depends. I mean, for instance, collecting a million artifacts is not easy, but if there five hundred thousand coins in one place and they pull him out out, maybe I could be. So I have no idea after Candy say.

that must have been exactly what you were thinking again as I was going.

because I was trying to think of the currency back there and what type of artifacts would there be with gold being the currency. I was thinking that OK, he's had to had at least probably half of a million and gold coins, if not more so. If not, I will have already overshoes.

Well, we will. IT would be the first time. Dg, usually the one that overshoot and .

he's our low guy. I'm usually off multiple. Er so how .

are you feeling confident?

Fifty five thousand? I'm feeling bath LED. It's such a odd question. I've been even even by the standard. Yes, even by trivia standards, this is a particularly odd ball.

So I have no sense, even if the question had been how many artifacts, I have no sense of what that number would be. And then divide by fifteen. I mean.

how do you get married fourteen times when you is a like time number three ago? I think I .

bet at this .

maybe I should get some intention .

me exactly where was podcast back in those days? Apparently, blackbeard left his device back on the back on shore when he was out to see. All right, doug got the answer. The answers are locked in, doug, who's going to win this thing?

Hey, there, starkers of podcasting pie. And yet the guy everyone thinks of as their night shining armor, jose mob's neighbor deg while blackbeard d may have been a smart sailor, apparently he was pretty bad and staying married, or he just really liked the honeymoon, I mean, because anyway, he went through that ritual fourteen times. So in black beards, ship queenan s revenge was found.

IT was chock full of treasure. How many of these treasures would black beard have kept if he had to share them equally with all of his wives? Well, our answer is, do you know, not gone to tell you straight away. But what I will tell you is IT was eighty three thousand, three hundred hundred and thirty four less than what Candy slash mom thought, thirty eight thousand and three hundred and thirty four less than what pola thought, and six thousand six hundred and sixty six more than what duck thought. Because the great answer is black beard had over two hundred and fifty thousand artifacts in the ship, and if he kept one fifty of them, he would have had sixteen thousand, six hundred and sixty six, making dc g are unable, able winner.

That's my time this year. That's my win for the .

air you're supposed to throw IT. You can't let do. Gee, get further ahead.

What's how you do and believe? Usually when you have me up, rog e, he's going down. I can help IT occasionally, like a clock is right twice a day. You know.

he obviously, they have gold clients. So now to your point.

when we were looking at this, a lot of black fired treasures never found. They said that they're still maybe somebody. That's why you have a, generally speaking, older men outcoming beaches, right?

With the, with their weekend activity, their little, their little thing. Thank you. And their little thing.

the thing with the round thing in in the headphones and stuff.

Wow, i'm good at forming sentences. I'm going to stop trying to form sentences. Let you guys form sentences.

Let's start to get tactical Candy. Let off this tactical oh my goodness. That I say that out loud by saying maybe we take a pause.

I like that one polar. They've got some here. A psychosocial number one is they say two months noise. What do you think about two mouths? The noise is a way to get more intentional.

Al, well, okay, so I I do think that with that tactic and with some of the other tactics that they outline in the article, they start to conflict mindfulness with intentionality. Those are distinct. So tune out the noise.

Be aware of your five senses. You know, those are mindfulness practices. And mindfulness is all about being in the present moment, which is great, but it's different than intentionality, which is all about having a clear north star and knowing what value you hold above other competing values.

Doctor, not your head.

yeah. I mean, I think we it's really hard because I think a lot of what this article talks about, a lot of what we've been talking about, actually, I don't think is intention, I think that's purpose. And so we're talking about what's your intention behind this doing and doing IT intentionally.

What you're really thing is doing this in the clock wheel, turn purposefully and purposefully in the clock wheel, not the way I use IT, but in the clock wheel is kind of the reason why you're doing what you're doing. I don't agree with that. I think purpose is actually more about the actions we care about the present future.

But I think that's why this is a complicated conversation because we're using intentionally, sometimes is meaningfulness and sometimes is purposefulness. What I think attention is is intent, which gets back to what apologists said, it's the north star. So you have to have values that give you an intent and then you intentionally Carry out those values in action, which is what I call purpose. I know it's it's kind of confusing, but that's I think the words intentional, unfortunately is very confusing.

Now IT totally is confusing. And Candy, I mean, let me pal on with polar and and dog. The thing I don't like about tuning out the noise, it's a negative. How am I going to turn out effect that there's advertising around me all day that A D, D, A real thing, there's all these opportunities to go off message like I don't think focusing on the negative is truly a strategy.

no. But I do think that we have to be realistic with the amount of distractions that there are. And if we are constantly allowing our distraction to be controlled by someone else, whether its social media, email marketing or noise, or the election or whatever may be going on, then we are not controlling our lives.

So I look at IT as maybe two, not the noise. Maybe we could say a Better way if we want to word Smith IT like maybe get quiet with yourself, take time to really set tide is is like you need to go monthly and quarterly and look at your business to see what are you building. Are you intentionally building a business that you can exit that is sustainable, that will Carry you through, that you can optimize profit and created other additional cash falling assets? Or are you creating a job?

And so intent for me in the business world as we need to make sure that our actions alive with what the goal is that we want to achieve. And often times, people don't even do that. So to me, that's intent, right? I would make sure the actions align with my goal.

And then obviously, the goal should have values that should be a value driven goal. I want to have time with my family, whatever, now that your value. But if we can just get people to live with intent, we can at least start the process to get them to identify what their values are. And so to me, that's why you are a little bit differently.

I think you just said what kind of we've been talking about, right? So you start with a value and you use intent to Carry out actions. I just said to backwards, you said, always start with a goal. So we do actions to follow our values. But yeah basically, intention is the way we Carry out our values in pursuit of purpose, which is actions.

What I like to how how can you turn that to the positive? Like when you said get quiet. You know, the thing I was thinking of my head was I love the matter to focus on one thing, right?

I can't think about fifty different things. That to me, the noise, I got fifty things going on. I can think about all those. I going to look at all those.

I've got to decide which one's going to make the impact and the impact is based on the stuff that you said, right? Where's my business going? What's gonna the trigger that I pulled that lends me the biggest, makes more of the dominos fall.

I really like the positive versus too north to know I don't know what to do with two north noise further downplay IT, talks about them in skip over, identify your values. I think we will beat that one. And then what do you think about this idea of set the morning intention?

IT needs to be contextualized. I mean, you can set an intention for a given day, but if that's not contextualized within the week, the month, the quarter, the year, then it's just floating. And often times is the intention that pops in the ahead in the morning is the immediate silent source of anxiety, which might be something that is urgent, but potentially unsupportable.

But getting tactical here. The one part of my day that I know i'm going to a control every day is that first thing in the morning, and I get to choose what I do. First, I can go look at my email and then somebody else controls my day or I get to focus. I mean, I do like the idea of first thing in the morning I get to choose poll if i'm getting tactical right.

Certainly the the earlier in the day something happens, the fewer like the less opportunity there is for other things that throw IT off course. That being said, our energy peaks, you know, absent flows throughout the day. There are certain times of day when were Better socializing and certain times of day that were Better at athletics and certain times of day that were Better at clear thinking. And so there has to be some type of candian body rythm that's also taken into account when you're planning out your day. The morning isn't good for everything.

No, absolutely. But I think that duck like again, if i'm being intentional pollo talks about car, citi and rythm. I go right to my calendar then, and i'm like, okay, afternoons when I get the sleepy, this is told me, by the way, it's when I get the sleeps.

So guess what? I'm going to be in meetings in the afternoon. So I fall asleep in front of people. No, i'm kidding. So I know that i'm awake in my body.

Just respond because i'm in a meeting, right? So the sleepy don't happen in mid afternoon if my butts in a meeting also. Then I think about my workout schedule and and trying to adjust that rhythm with my workout schedule. IT seems that we could take our calendar then and be intentional about our calendar that this is kind of the offset of the morning intention.

Yeah, again, I think IT gets complicated. We are talking about the different version of how we're using intention. I guess, the way I would look at this is, for instance, I can wake up every morning, and my intention can be to be a healthy person who takes care of my body.

And so the action I can do to do that is I can go run a few miles. Now the intention Carries out the action. I could have the attention of looking really good so I could score lots of dates that's not really elected to my IT yeah that's not really connected to my values. So that's an improper intention or not an intention that series me. But if I want to do IT to be healthy, then that's the appropriate intention to start the day when I go on my exercise that make sense.

Well, the next one on here then, Candy, is to refocus. And when I think about refocus, I think about what you said earlier, somebody who's just starting out, they're strugling all these things, a full time job, they wants to be an entrepreneur, refocusing. I think it's gotta be a big part of getting into .

and we not even refocusing. I think it's just focusing like getting clear about what you want, reverse engineering that goal backwards so that you can achieve IT. But I I make this super simple, get three non negotiable les like, rather than, oh, if you do this, maybe this is your intention, or maybe know this might be the wrong value.

What are just three nonnegotiable les, three things that no matter what you have to achieve today in order to push that monthly, quarterly or annual goal or do whatever is that you want to do in your life? And if we can do that three things every single day, that's ninety things that you're doing moving forward every single months. That's the compound effect to really help you achieve whatever visitor after more easily.

Kid is sticking with you in this piece that says to create small shifts, think about small shifts first is thinking about big shift. I don't know is, is that just because people are are afraid to make the big move? Because in my life, when I just screw and making the big shift like that's when the massive change happened in my life.

I think the big shift can help you get the courage to start, but IT could be overwhelming because you don't know what to do next. It's like having that decision to take the next step without having to look the entire staircase. I think the small things stacked over time, of course, is what's going to compound.

And it's more about taking the next step. Like I see entrepreneurs wanting to start waiting to build a business or somebody wanting to create wealth, right? And it's like all I I would have a ten million dollars ortons lio, but they want to have ten thousand dollars saved.

How do you just do the first thing? You can go run a marathon tomorrow if you never run the first mile. So I think if we can start with a smuggle, because a lot of wealth building business success is all behavior and it's all habits.

So we can start with something small and we can achieve IT and we can stack on that small wind and eventually those over time, just like the small investments with small decisions or a small to deposits in your relationship, those stack and compound in order to give you the big wins. Now I see that businesses never been easier to get into, but it's harder to sustain because of so much competition. If we can focus on the end of what we want to build, but just take the next step towards and realize that you don't need to understand the whole plan, I think more people would sustain success long term.

That is the truth that I think a lot of people forget, which is that if the barrier of entry is low, the competition is immediately going to fly in. And so you're going to have to work your ass off to rise above that tide. Which to me, by the way, is the reason why getting into multi level marketing is so so difficult and wrong for most people.

I think, on one hand, is just another sales avenue. But I think because any moron can do IT, people start focusing on the wrong things. Hey, Polly, you don't have to work.

This is going to be really Grace, not about selling a product. You don't have to work. And the reason people say that is because the very entries so low. This piece as a question palm and ask you is intentional living, always comfortable in calming?

No, no. Because sometimes following that north star means that you are necessarily saying no to other things, that you also prioritize, that you also value, but you simply don't value those things quite as highly when you are directly pointed towards one very specific north star. Like the one thing that's great, you have to say no to a lot of things that are good and that can feel bad.

But let's stock that for a second to business owners like we have so often in this podcast because Candy here. But but let's talk to even in the ninety five polo getting that next race. I mean, you've got a course on negotiation like even then being intentional about what you want IT sounds like you got got to be comfortable being uncomfortable.

right? right? exactly. And in the context of asking for a race, I mean, when you think about that conversation, IT is a multi issue conversation. You're not just discussing salary.

You're discussing salary, benefits, vacation days, sick days, combination of in certain jobs, combination of working remotely verses working in person, if that's the applicable to your role. You are talking about a huge number of issues. And so gaining ground in one given issue often requires, in some cases, giving up ground, sometimes significant ground in other issues. But if there is something that's important to you, you move heaven, earth to make that happen, even if that means you have to move jobs, you know change roles, find a new employer. Like if there's a specific thing that really, truly matters to you, then you make some deep sacrifices in order to Carry that fruition.

I'd like to get all three of your take on this because I mean, this is for anybody they want dancer. But I think focusing on the things that you're going to get rid of is a mistake. I think that it's much more the things kind of fall away if i'm very intentional, the things that don't meet my intention and tend to fall away. And I wrong there.

I mean, I think you are forth levers, which is wonderful people.

So I feel a little bit yes to know about that because on one hand, I agree that if you are hyper focused on something, then IT simply that hyper focus crowds out the time, the corner of band, with the energy that you could direct elsewhere. That being said, we live in a noisy world that's full of distractions. And so sometimes you'll be offered you know, opportunities.

I i'll give you just a very small, somewhat insignificant example. Friend recently asked me if I wanted to go shoe shopping together. If I had absolutely nothing else on my plate. Yeah, I would love to. But Frankly, it's not a priority if I need new shoes, I can order IT online in five minutes.

I like being barefoot.

Yeah, yeah. exactly.

I walk .

the streets of manhattan. Bear for IT, you know? But went in that moment that he asked if I wanted to go shoe shopping.

IT sounded like fun. And so I had to be really intentional about, would that be fun? yes. Is that my north star? No.

interesting though. But if you value the friendship, if that's part of your value, then you're going to meet her some place else, doing something that I would imagine that an activity that's more headed in the same way you want .

to go yeah mean, a shoe stores is going to be open until, let's say, A P M, versus if we wanted to get a late dinner. It's the type of thing because when the time of day, right when you do something matters as well. We talked about sarra yi n. rythm. And we talked about when you have your best energy for working, not all to funy four hours a day are equal.

Cindy, I just have one more question that is burning at the end of the six weeks. Where were you at? Financially.

I have paid everybody. I don't make any money, but everybody got paid and everybody got paid every single year. Thereafter, I tend to be a little bit more. I'm realizing that i'm a little more hard core. I don't know if it's my background or the way I grew up.

You I never got that from you.

I think because I will get IT is you have to be willing to say no to things. No is not a bad work, no is not negative. The ability to say no to things gives you the opportunity to say yes to so many other things.

And I look at my own life like having the ability in the discipline that they notice so many things. When I was nineteen, twenty, twenty one and twenty four, my friends were graduating college and party, having fun. And i'm trying to figure out payroll or how to baLance inventory or how to expand. And I said no to a lot of things.

And maybe in the moment the short term gratification of IT was difficult, but I was able to say yes so far more than I could ever imagine to do things that I could not even imagine that, you know, nineteen year old kid grew up in a trailer, or teenage parents ever had the ability to do, achieve, grow or or just give, contribute. I don't think that no is a bad word. I think that sometimes we have to say, note of things in order to truly build the life that we want and for IT to be good, like I think you should say, notice something so that you can really say yes to whatever is what you want. And the only way that will ever truly expand is from elimination, from not doing something so we can really fulfill our purpose and our vision and live within tent. If you're saying, yes, all of these ten dollar decisions like you're never going to be able to get truly where you want to go.

see you saying you're not going to show you up and either that what you're trying to say.

not ask me.

there's a long way of saying i'm not going to shut. So don't ask Candy. That's the big thing.

I think that's a great place to leave IT. I'm so happy everybody got paid to that was burning the entire tire episode. Yes, and they all live typically ever after.

And now I feel feel much Better. Let's talk about the amazing work that all you guys are doing, and i'll have Candy or special guest. Go last polo, what's going on? On the afford anything podcast? This fine, free a thanksgiving week of show.

This fine, three thanksgiving week. Well, of course, every other, roughly ish, every other episode features mr. Jos C. I.

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where we answer questions that come directly from the community. So that is a that is available on the effort, anything podcast. And we recently, earlier in the month, had a three part series with doctor brad cloth, the financial psychologist, where we did a deep dive into anyone, harsh trots that will help you get rich.

Or you know, the converse of which will keep you poor. IT was a six hour interview that we chopped up into three different episodes. So we did that.

We had the mad fiends st. On our show. He reached financial independence when he was in his mid thirties.

Many people, when they reach financial independence, become work optional. But he retired. He actually left his software um he was a software developer.

He left his job. He moved to scotland with his wife. They recently just had their second child. And so he talks about he's forty two. He's been retired for eight years, and he talks about what life is like as a forty two year old retirement now with, he's got a two year old and a newborn.

E wow. And making a whole different life than before and one that .

he chooses exactly .

intentionality. Jordan, congratulations inside your win, a will to view on the interview contest.

It's amazing. Candy, this is a once in year thing. They, you are present, you no idea.

Glad I know this is dog.

is unicorn moment. What's going on? A earning investment end.

So at earned in an invest. Uh, we just dropped an episode with Frank vascular, and we are talking a modern portfolio, the efficient frontier and not looking necessarily one hundred percent returns, but looking at risk, seeing how we can minimize risk, moderate returns slightly, but generally have Better outcomes. Frank is well known for thinking about having a safe withdraw rate of five percent or higher. So he's really talking about getting the most out of your retirement portfolio.

It's how funny, how often freaking out on the same page. I've been talking about that on police podcast. Jo.

you've in my ear. That's why I decided to have a mind because i've been here here and you talk about IT so much i'm like I need to talk about this morning so I had Frank on because he's kind of like you. You're not at all uncle who can tell you exactly how IT is. And so that's .

what I want to so you me at over IT over so you fight Frank on what that about. Well.

actually specializes in risk parity, and we don't really talk about risk period as a portfolio management and asset allocation style. But he has a lot to say and know. This is is interesting because IT says things like, hey, invest in gold and a lot of people, especially in our community or like what are you talking about gold?

You don't need more gold in your acid allocation .

specializes in A D IT totally does. And that's at the earn invest podcast where finer podcast are and A A woman who is a podcast of her own and she's on the coolest network ever. You don't K I don't know about you. We can I can't stop calling the west with one I just I can't refer to IT is the humanist pocket network but the Kenny valentino show people can listen to.

Yes, we talk all about how to grow your business, grow your well, how to create more freedom um and just launched the nine percent edge, which is the live changing seekers to create more revenue for your business and more freedom for yourself. In december seventeen th, we actually have a workbook that comes out a planner so that again, I always say ideas aren't to change your life.

You ve got to implement and execute and you ve got to take action. That's where it's going to come from. So I did just that. I created an implementation guide that people can read the book and then they can apply the book and really set up to have their wealthiest year yeah ah I took over a year to put that together and some really proud of that and that's something that we're doing. But yeah can volunteer o on the cumulus podcast network .

where the fine est podcasts are like afford anything and the Stacy bedroom in show well, congratulations are joining us in the podcasting world. As we were back day at a time I was like, kiddy, whatever you do and this is a bad idea.

wouldn't tell me, do you can tell me for me, someone needed to a but .

now we're glad you're hear with us and IT is fun. IT is great that we can all talk intention today. I think, dug, you've got IT from here in what should we have learned on today's?

Well, joe, here's what stacked up on our to do this for today first takes me advice from our special hard core gst Candy. Valentina, remember that awesome thing? He said, I an, I totally say IT Candy, but IT IT means more and they come in from you. So where what was that? The thing that made that you said earlier.

oh, well, i'll give you the last month, is probably the hardest, be willing to say no to things now, so that you can truly give yourself the ability to say yes to more things that you can ever imagine.

Yeah, pretty much exactly how I was going to.

I think some of black fear's bright, should I said, no, like they should have asked a few questions, like how many times have you done this before? But anyway, sorry, doug.

Second, I still can't get over how touched I was when polo said I was her north star about living your life with intention ality. Can you say the thing about the north star again, polo, and how I, like you, just say that thing again.

You know, I said that sometimes in order to pursue the north star, to pursue that, which is great, you have to give up the good, and that feels bad.

Give up the dog. You mean that's what really talking about that? sorry. yeah.

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