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It’s alarming but important to know that the part of your brain that is in charge of your stress outs and anxiety doesn’t understand English, so it really doesn’t matter what you say to yourself. It won’t work. Instead, we’ll learn the language that your brain speaks so you can directly convey the peace and calm that you want it and you to know so you can get a handle on stress-outs and other negative emotions. What works is so simple…you just need to become brain-lingual!In this episode we will learn: Why talking to yourself is a lot like talking to a babyThe difference between the downstairs brain and the upstairs brain and why this mattersHow to become BRAINlingual, that is, learn the language of the brain so you tell your brain directly in it’s own tongue to relax and peace outHow Guided Meditation can helpQuotes:“The part of your brain that needs to hear that there is nothing to stress out about doesn’t even understand English! You need to learn the language of your brain so you can speak directly to it and your body when you are stressed out.” -Cheri Augustine Flake, LCSW“Saying to yourself or someone else, “Relax! Calm Down!” Never works…in fact, it makes things worse…instead, what if I told you to think of the last time you were in awe of nature…bring yourself there…what message have you sent to your brain now?” -Cheri Augustine Flake, LCSWBooks, ideas, people, websites mentioned in this episode: Resources for Resilience https://resourcesforresilience.comMindsight: The New Science of Personal Transformation by Dan Siegel https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/6315775-mindsight?ref=nav_sb_ss_1_8The Body Keeps The Score by Bessel Van der Kolk, MD: Brain, Mind and Body in the Healing of Trauma https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/18693771-the-body-keeps-the-score?from_search=true&from_srp=true&qid=4bRPAPvdmj&rank=1The Host for this podcast:Cheri Augustine Flake, LCSWThe Stress Therapist and AuthorTwitter: @stresstherapyInstagram: @thestresstherapist Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/cheriaugustineflakeLinkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/cheri-augustine-flake-719b044Website: https://thestresstherapist.com/Stay in touch with Cheri and sign up for The Stress Therapist's Newsletter:https://thestresstherapist.com/contact/Join Cheri Flake on her next retreat!https://thestresstherapist.com/retreats/https://thestresstherapist.com/beach-retreats/Want Cheri Flake to be your therapist? If you live in Georgia go to this link:https://thestresstherapist.com/contact/to schedule a free 15 minute consultationFollow Cheri Flake on GoodReads:Cheri Augustine Flake (Author of Honey Do to Honey DONE!)Buy Cheri's book: Honey Do To Honey DONE! A Simple System For A Productive And Happy Household With Absolutely No More Nagging! https://www.amazon.com/Honey-DONE-Productive-Household-Absolutely/dp/0997950919/ref=cm_cr_arp_d_bdcrb_top?ie=UTF8A word from your host, Cheri Flake, LCSW:Feeling good after our Stress Therapy session? Awesome. Check out the show notes to connect with me, The Stress Therapist on social media and you can always go to iLoveTherapy.com to find out about meditation and yoga retreats and other offerings that I have there. Do you live in Georgia? Are you ready to be one of my clients? Go to my website to find out how you can sign up for a free consultation with me. But at the very least, go to my website and jump on my mailer so, you don't stress or miss one thing!Time Stamps/Chapters:00:00 Introduction to Becoming BRAIN-lingual01:40 What babies and brains have in common03:45 DOS (downstairs) part of your brain vs. Macbook 2022 (upstairs) part of your brain 06:20 Where do our thoughts come from? 09:15 Why telling someone to calm down doesn’t work10:40 How to relax by speaking sensations: the language of your brain13:05 Present moment thinking and how it helps you become Brainlingual15:58 Guided meditation with Cheri Flake30:30 Closing remarks32:16 Outro