In this episode of Stress Therapy, Cheri Flake, The Stress Therapist, reveals the surprising secret to making others change – it all starts with you! Learn why your actions, even the smallest ones, can profoundly impact others. From navigating family chores to fostering deeper relationships, Cheri shares her personal experiences and professional insights on how changing yourself can lead to meaningful shifts in those around you. Get ready for a quick but powerful session that will leave you inspired to try something different – and trust us, it works! Plus, stay tuned for a guided meditation to help cultivate compassion for yourself and others.

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Stress Therapist: Hey, beautiful people. What's up? People always say that you can't change. People don't change. No matter what you do, you can't change somebody. Wrong. I can tell you how to change someone immediately. And you better be careful with this because it works so well. You gotta think this through. All right? That's what we're gonna do today. So relax and settle in and listen up because your stress therapy session is about to begin right now. Hey, beautiful people. It's time for some stress therapy. A podcast about how to meditate and get better at stress for people living in the real world. Finally, a place to park my 25 plus years of experience of working as a psychotherapist in the mental health field. And now, your host, me, the stress therapist, Sherry flake. Hey, beautiful people, what's up? Okay, today I gotta make it quick. I only have a second. I'm a little delayed in getting this episode out there. It's been crazy. I just got back from a retreat at Jekyll island. It was amazing, but there was no power, there was no gas, there was no food available on the entire island, and there was no cell service. And it was an amazing retreat. I'm going to talk about that next time. But today, today I want to quickly give you this tip, because I hear all the time when I'm working with my clients, people say, I can't get him to change. He won't change. He won't change. And the thing is, the ticket is there's one little sweet, sweet method that works 100% of the time. But you got to be really careful with this method, see, because if you don't use it responsibly, you're going to get a change. You don't want. You know what I'm saying? So you got to be really, really, really careful. Okay? Here's what you do if you want someone to change. Here's the bummer. Here's the kicker. Here's the billboard sign you need to see. You have to change. That's how you get people to change. From the most fundamental thing, where if I just started screaming and running up and down my street, which I never do, and started yelling, fire, fire, I would imagine, or help, help, help. Or call 911, people would change. Right in that moment, they would change. They would become. Hopefully, they would become really good neighbors and maybe come out and, I don't know, I have dogs. Maybe they would ignore me and let me handle it myself. But hopefully my neighbors. My neighbors are lovely, but hopefully my neighbors would come out and they would give me a hand, they would change right then, in the moment, right. Because I'm doing something that's out of the ordinary. That is what you do in the ordinary. Okay? So if you are trying to get your man to empty the dishwasher, let's say, okay, that's a feat. That's a big feat. Okay? I've been. I've done that with my man. I've done that with my kids. That's not. It ain't easy, you know what I'm saying? But you might be doing the exact same thing every time you see that. Those dishes in the sink and the empty dishwasher. You might be, you know, saying something under your breath, you might be criticizing your husband. Whatever it is that you normally do, you have to change it. And I'm telling you, the best way to change it, the best time to change it, no one ever believes me about this is when the dishwasher has been filled by your man. Right? Yeah. That's the shocker. Right? So there's two separate messages here, right? So you have something in your life that you want to be different. You want someone to be different in that scenario. And the way that you do that is you do something different. What you normally do is not going to work. What you normally do is not going to work. What you normally do, it's not gonna work. Okay, I say this all the time, but people think, you know, I have told him a thousand times. Well, then maybe this time you don't tell him. Maybe this time you write him a letter. Maybe this time you have someone else tell him. Maybe you sit him down and tell him what it feels like for you to have. I mean, I literally sat my family down, probably, I don't know, eight or ten years ago. And I was like, listen, I know this doesn't make sense, because I was trying to get everybody to load the dishwasher, okay? So maybe this is a personal testimonial, but I was trying to get everybody to build a dis

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