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Ryan Holiday: Why You Need to Reparent Your 14-Year-Old Self & How to Overcome the Fear of Not Being Good Enough

2024/9/16
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Jay Shetty:在追求成功的道路上,我们应该关注个人成长和兴趣爱好,而不是仅仅追求外部的成就。成功应该能够让我们有更多时间去做自己喜欢的事情,如果不能抽出时间做自己喜欢的事情,那样的成功毫无意义。 在设定目标时,我们应该专注于自己力所能及的事情,而不是那些取决于外部因素的事情。我们应该将目标与自身能力和兴趣相结合,即使没有取得预期的外部成功,也能从中获得满足感和提升。 在人生的道路上,我们需要积累经验、技能和能力,不断学习和成长,为未来的发展做好准备。我们应该将遇到的困难和挑战视为学习和成长的机会,不断提升自我。 为人父母需要在保护孩子的安全和鼓励孩子冒险之间找到平衡。我们需要教导孩子如何解决问题,而不是为他们解决所有问题。我们需要为孩子提供无条件的爱和支持,让他们能够自由地发展自己的兴趣爱好。 Ryan Holiday:养育子女和拥有子女是不同的,养育子女意味着将它作为人生的核心目标之一,并全力以赴。许多人努力在事业上取得成功,却对养育子女的态度较为随意,这是一种错误的优先级排序。 设定目标应该专注于自己力所能及的事情。将目标与自身能力和兴趣相结合,即使没有取得预期的外部成功,也能从中获得满足感和提升。实现目标本身并不能解决所有问题,重要的是过程中的成长和自我提升。 不必急于辞职追求梦想,可以在现有工作中寻找机会发展个人兴趣。在追求梦想的过程中,需要在个人兴趣和工作之间找到平衡点,当两者发生冲突时再考虑转换。任何事情都需要比预期的更长时间,要有足够的耐心和毅力。 不要急于求成,要耐心等待时机成熟,在能力提升后再追求目标。人生中会有机会出现,重要的是在机会来临时做好准备。生活中遇到的困难和挑战能够塑造和提升自我。 为人父母需要在保护孩子和让孩子经历挑战之间找到平衡。我们需要教导孩子如何解决问题,而不是为他们解决所有问题。我们需要为孩子提供无条件的爱和支持,让他们能够自由地发展自己的兴趣爱好。

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What would you tell your 14-year-old self?

How do you quiet the “not good enough” voice?

Today, Jay welcomes Ryan Holiday, renowned philosopher, bestselling author, and host of The Daily Stoic. With over 10 million copies of his books sold globally, Ryan returns to the podcast to dive deep into the concepts of personal growth, parenting, and finding purpose in a success-driven world.

Ryan reflects on the journey of becoming a parent and discusses the difference between having kids and truly being a parent. He explains why intentional parenting is a radical shift from simply fulfilling biological or legal roles and explores the transformative impact of parenthood on personal and professional ambitions, emphasizing the importance of being prepared for the changes it brings.

Jay also opens up about his own thoughts on parenthood and the life shifts that accompany major decisions, offering a heartfelt glimpse into the conversations he’s had with his wife about the timing of having children. Throughout the conversation, both Jay and Ryan unpack the struggles of balancing a career with personal life, with Ryan drawing from Stoic philosophy to offer guidance on setting meaningful goals, aligning actions with values, and learning from life's obstacles.

In this interview, you'll learn:

How to Embrace Parenthood as a Central Life Purpose

How to Set Goals Based on What’s in Your Control

How to Approach Parenting with Intention and Purpose

How to Learn from Life’s Obstacles and Failures

How to Align Your Career with Personal Values

How to Build Emotional Resilience through Parenthood

Whether through parenting, personal growth, or our professional pursuits, the key is to stay rooted in what truly matters—our values, intentions, and the legacy we leave behind.  

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro 01:33 Are You Ready to Become a Parent? 05:43 What Type of Goal Should We Set? 10:54 Love What You’re Doing 18:59 Stuck in Life 22:06 Trust the Process 26:04 Patience 30:18 Process of Accumulating Experiences 33:35 What Difference Are You Making? 35:57 Raise a Reader 40:14 What Are You Struggling With? 45:00 General Parenting Tip 52:56 Unconditional Parental Love 58:50 Do What’s Important to You 01:02:04 What is at Stake? 01:06:03 Comparison Game 01:09:36 Dad Guilt 01:15:30 Fear as a Parent 01:19:11 This Stops with Me     

Episode Resources:

Ryan Holiday | Website) Ryan Holiday | Instagram) Ryan Holiday | Facebook) Ryan Holiday | TikTok) Ryan Holiday | YouTube)  Ryan Holiday | LinkedIn) The Daily Dad: 366 Meditations on Parenting, Love, and Raising Great Kids)

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