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Dr. James Hollis: How to Find Your True Purpose & Create Your Best Life

2024/5/13
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是一位专注于神经科学、学习和健康的斯坦福大学教授和播客主持人。
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James Hollis 博士:本期节目探讨了如何发现人生真谛和创造最佳生活。他从荣格心理学角度出发,区分了大写字母的自我(Self)和小写字母的自我感(sense of self)。大写字母的自我是一个超越自我的存在,它有两个目标:一是疗愈创伤,二是表达自身。而自我感则是一个动态的概念,受文化、家庭环境和个人经历影响,并包含各种复杂的能量集群(complexes),这些集群会暂时性地控制我们的意识。他强调,我们不应该被过去的经历定义,而应该努力理解并超越那些经历。通过观察自身行为模式、与他人沟通、关注梦境以及探寻生命意义,我们可以更好地了解自己潜意识中的驱动力,从而做出更符合自身需求的选择。他还强调了在人生后半段,关注灵魂的渴望,探寻生命意义的重要性。 Andrew Huberman:本期节目中,Huberman 博士与 James Hollis 博士探讨了自我认知、潜意识模式、生命意义、人际关系以及如何创造更美好的生活。他们讨论了家庭动力、创伤和依恋模式如何塑造我们的生活轨迹,以及如何通过反思、冥想和与他人的对话来发现独特的自我认同和目标。Huberman 博士还提出了如何将内在的自我探索与外在的生活需求相结合的实用工具,例如每天留出时间进行冥想和反思,以及寻求专业人士的帮助。 James Hollis 博士:本期节目中,我详细阐述了荣格心理学中关于自我、潜意识和生命意义的观点。我解释了自我感和自我的区别,以及潜意识中能量集群(complexes)对我们行为和决策的影响。我强调了认识和接纳阴影(shadow)的重要性,以及如何通过反思、梦境分析和与他人的沟通来了解自身潜意识模式。我还探讨了人生不同阶段面临的挑战和任务,以及如何平衡个人成长与人际关系。我分享了如何通过每天冥想和反思来与内在的自我连接,以及如何走出刺激-反应的循环,从而避免孤独和倦怠。此外,我还讨论了男性和女性在心理层面所面临的独特挑战,以及如何通过自我觉察和与他人的对话来找到人生的方向。

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Dr. Hollis discusses the difference between the Self (with a capital S) and one's sense of self. He highlights how early family dynamics and social context create patterns of behavior and internal narratives that influence our sense of self.
  • The self is a transcendent mystery governed by instincts, while the ego is a conscious presence developed through experiences.
  • Complexes are splinter personalities that can temporarily possess our ego consciousness.
  • Our sense of self is fluid and influenced by internalized narratives from childhood experiences.

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In this episode, my guest is Dr. James Hollis, Ph.D., a Jungian psychoanalyst, renowned educator and author on finding and pursuing one’s unique purpose. Dr. Hollis is also an expert in the psychology of relationships and healing from trauma. We discuss how early family dynamics and social context create patterns of both adaptive and maladaptive behavior and internal narratives that, when examined, lead to better choices and a deeply fulfilling existence.

We discuss discovering your unique self-identity and purpose through specific practices of reflection, meditation and conversations with others. We also discuss self-perception and the evolution of roles within marriages, parent-child relationships, and work.

Throughout the episode, Dr. Hollis provides both basic knowledge and practical tools to help us assess ourselves and better understand who we are and what we really want in careers, relationships of all kinds, and society.

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Timestamps

00:00:00 Dr. James Hollis

00:02:14 Sponsors: Mateina, Joovv & BetterHelp

00:05:57 Self, Ego, Sense of Self

00:13:59 Unconscious Patterns, Blind Spots, Dreams; Psyche & Meaning

00:21:56 Second Half of Life, Purpose, Depression

00:25:37 Sponsor: AG1

00:27:08 Tool: Daily Reflection; Crisis

00:31:47 Families & Children, Permission & Burdens

00:37:27 Complex Identification, Self-Perception; Social Media & Borderline

00:41:55 Daily Stimulus Response, Listening to the Soul

00:45:40 Exiting Stimulus-Response, Loneliness, Burnout

00:51:19 Meditation & Perception, Reflection

00:54:58 Sponsor: Waking Up

00:56:15 Recognizing the “Shadow” & Adulthood

01:02:48 Socialization; Family & Life Journey

01:09:04 Relationships & “Otherness”, Standing Your Ground

01:15:51 Marriage, “Starter Marriages” & Evolution; Parenting

01:19:37 Shadow Issues, Success & External Reward, Personal Growth

01:27:59 Men, Alcohol, “Stoic Man”, Loneliness, Fear & Longing

01:37:33 Women & Men, Focused vs. Diffuse Awareness; Male Rite of Passage

01:44:31 Sacrifice, Relationships; Facing Fears

01:48:20 Therapy, “Abyss of the Self”, Repeating Patterns & Stories

01:55:17 Women, Career & Family, Partner Support; Redefining Roles

02:01:40 Pathology & Diagnosis, Internet

02:07:05 Life, Suffering & Accountability, “Swamplands” & Task

02:11:32 Abuse & Recovery of Self, Patience, Powerlessness

02:14:11 Living a Larger Life; “Shut Up, Suit Up, Show Up”

02:17:49 Life Stages; Despair & Integrity Conflict

02:25:00 Death, Ego, Mortality & Meaning

02:38:07 Zero-Cost Support, Spotify & Apple Reviews, Sponsors, YouTube Feedback, Social Media, Neural Network Newsletter

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