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There's Power in Setting Boundaries

2024/8/20
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Dr. Becky: 本期节目探讨了设定界限的重要性，尤其是在亲子关系和时间管理方面。她强调了沟通在界限设定中的关键作用，并指出持续的忙碌状态会阻碍我们倾听内心的声音，从而难以设定符合自身需求的界限。她还分享了'冲动冲浪'的技巧，即在冲动和行动之间留出空间，以便更好地了解自身需求，做出更佳决策。此外，她还建议家长们关注自身和孩子的能量水平，并据此安排活动，以提高效率和幸福感。 Laura Mae Martin: 作为一位生产力专家和四胞胎妈妈，Laura Mae Martin 强调了界限设定和沟通的重要性。她指出，清晰地沟通界限可以减少说不的次数，并建议家长们积极主动地设定界限，并以积极的方式定义界限，即说明自己做什么，而不是自己不做什么。她还分享了在家庭中设定界限的经验，例如，在工作日不使用屏幕，并解释了如何处理例外情况。她认为，在坚持界限的大部分时间里，偶尔的例外是可以接受的，关键在于沟通和解释。她还提出了生产力的五个C：创造、收集、整合、完成、平静，并强调平静的重要性，因为它能帮助我们产生新的想法。她建议家长们为孩子创造更多安静的时刻，让他们有时间思考和放松。 Dr. Becky: 本节目中，Dr. Becky 与 Laura Mae Martin 探讨了界限、生产力、日常和流程等主题。Dr. Becky 强调了沟通在界限设定中的重要性，并指出未被沟通的界限会导致积压的负面情绪，最终爆发。她还分享了在工作场所设定清晰规则和预期的经验，并指出这可以减少不必要的疑问和冲突。她认为，家长们应该在坚持界限的同时，也要保持人性化的灵活性，并与孩子进行开放的沟通。她还建议家长们在设定界限时，要先了解自己的需求和价值观，并通过一些方法，例如'冲动冲浪'，来更好地了解自己。 Laura Mae Martin: Laura Mae Martin 分享了她对生产力的独特见解，她认为生产力不应仅仅指完成任务，更应关注个人福祉和长期目标。她提出了生产力的五个C：创造、收集、整合、完成、平静，并强调平静的重要性，因为它能帮助我们产生新的想法。她还建议家长们了解自身和孩子的能量水平，并据此安排活动，以提高效率和幸福感。她认为，在坚持界限的大部分时间里，偶尔的例外是可以接受的，关键在于沟通和解释。

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Dr. Becky and Laura Mae Martin discuss the importance of setting and communicating boundaries with children, emphasizing how clear boundaries reduce the need for frequent 'no's and enhance family harmony.

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Holding boundaries with our kids but also with our time as parents is crucial. But boundaries are pointless if they are not communicated. There is power in saying "no". Productivity coach, mom of 4, and author of Uptime, Laura Mae Martin, joins Dr. Becky to discuss boundaries, productivity, routines, and flow.For more about Laura Mae Martin and her book Uptime visit https://lauramaemartin.com)Get the Good Inside App by Dr. Becky: https://bit.ly/4doK9nF)Join Good Inside Membership: https://bit.ly/4cHz2X1Good Inside's Back to School Toolkit: https://bit.ly/46yGEsw)Follow Dr. Becky on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drbeckyatgoodinsideSign up for our weekly email, Good Insider: https://www.goodinside.com/newsletterOrder Dr. Becky's book, Good Inside: A Guide to Becoming the Parent You Want to Be, at goodinside.com/book or wherever you order your books.For a full transcript of the episode, go to goodinside.com/podcastTo listen to Dr. Becky's TED Talk on repair visit https://www.ted.com/talks/becky_kennedy_the_single_most_important_parenting_strategyToday’s episode is brought to you by Skylight: Let's talk about family schedules. You know those days when you're like, "Wait, who has soccer? What's for dinner? Did I forget a dentist appointment?" Yeah, Dr. Becky too. All. The. Time. Skylight Calendar has been a lifesaver in her house. It's a smart, touch-screen calendar that auto-syncs all of her existing digital calendars. That way, they can see their schedules, chores, meals and to-dos, all in one place. No more confusion and honestly no more unnecessary arguments with her husband about not knowing what our plans are! The best part? It's kid-approved. Nothing gets a kid more excited about chores than an emoji celebration when they're completed. If you're drowning in sticky notes and forgotten appointments, check out skylightcal.com/goodinside and use code GOODINSIDE for $50 off a 15" calendar.