The speaker wanted to challenge themselves and experience the freedom of solo travel, even though they were initially scared of driving long distances. They felt that even if the trip wasn't perfect, it was worth taking the risk to gain confidence and independence.
The speaker, a beginner driver, faced significant challenges in New Zealand due to the country's poor public transportation. They bought a used car and practiced driving with a landlord before attempting a three-hour drive to their next job. They followed another driver for reassurance and successfully completed the journey, gaining confidence in their driving abilities.
After being rear-ended, the speaker faced difficulties with insurance and legal processes. The driver who hit them fled the scene, but later attempted to claim damages. The speaker took the driver to court and eventually recovered their losses, though the experience was emotionally taxing.
The speaker decided to start driving after feeling embarrassed and inconvenienced by relying on others for transportation. They were particularly motivated by a situation where their husband failed to pick them up from the train station, leaving them to find their way home in the dark. This experience pushed them to overcome their fear and learn to drive.
The speaker chose to drive alone in the Alxa Desert to prove to themselves that they could handle the challenge. They prepared thoroughly, bringing essential supplies like cash, warm clothing, and a satellite phone. They felt safer knowing that the rental company could track their car's location, and they wanted to experience the freedom and confidence that comes with solo travel.
The speaker started by driving short distances, like commuting to work, and gradually built confidence. They also practiced positive self-talk, encouraging themselves during drives. Over time, they became more comfortable and even went on a solo road trip, which further boosted their confidence.
The speaker's perception of driving shifted from fear to confidence after their solo trip to Hainan. They realized that driving didn't need to be perfect and that mistakes were part of the learning process. They also found joy in the freedom and independence that driving provided, allowing them to explore new places at their own pace.
The speaker faced gender stereotypes as a female driver, with some male drivers assuming she was less skilled. However, she used these stereotypes to her advantage, such as pretending to be a nervous driver to navigate tricky situations. She also shared observations that male drivers often blame female drivers for accidents, regardless of fault.
The speaker's relationship with their father was strained due to his controlling behavior and criticism of their driving. This led to a conflict where the speaker decided to leave home and live independently. Despite the challenges, the speaker found empowerment in driving and used it as a way to assert their autonomy.
The speaker advised setting a specific goal, such as planning a trip to a desired destination, to motivate oneself to get a driver's license. They also suggested booking non-refundable tickets to create a sense of urgency. Additionally, they emphasized the importance of buying comprehensive insurance and preparing for the trip by downloading offline maps and music.
打起手鼓唱起歌,我骑着马儿翻山坡。
04:15 “这个行程还没开始,我怀疑我分要扣完了”丨来都来了
18:52 “我就是你刚才说的老鸟”丨菲菲
33:09 “不要老反思自己,在路上我的速度就是尺”丨大树
44:17 “第一次独立把车开回家时,她一直在办公室的玻璃窗上看着我”丨小粟子
56:10“我一边在车里尖叫一边流眼泪,在非常发疯的状态下开完了这段路程”丨xuan
1:10:29 “我现在讲的时候,手还有点麻麻的”丨小谢
1:24:35 “世界是它本来的样子,我也应该是我本来的样子”丨周大福
1:38:58 “武汉市三环上面三车连撞,我是中间那辆车”丨黄贝贝
1:47:44 “如果纠结要不要考一个驾照,你可以先把机票买了”丨Amber
1:50:57 “我也有感恩大家对女司机有刻板印象的时候”丨小鹿
1:57:24 “我们一起开一辆面包车改的露营车,足够我们装很多张冲浪板”丨巧妍
2:08:39 “我的车名字叫粉粉,我会说粉粉,你看我们都很棒”丨Mandy
2:13:24 “本来特别生气,自己开回家之后心情突然好了”丨蓝莓
莫文蔚 / 打起手鼓唱起歌词:韩伟曲:施光南所属专辑:莫后年代
来都来了丨菲菲丨大树小粟子丨Xuan丨小谢周大福丨黄贝贝丨Amber小鹿丨巧妍丨Mandy丨蓝莓
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