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vol.95 别再当爱情里的小丑了

2024/10/31
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小姨:我过去常常在亲密关系中扮演小丑的角色,用尽方法去挽回那些消失的伴侣,但现在我意识到这是徒劳的。成年人应该有自己的尊严和判断力,不应卑微地去讨好他人。伴侣的消失本身就是答案,无需苦苦追问。我曾经也经历过被消失的痛苦,但后来我意识到,对方消失的行为本身就是答案,无需苦苦追问。我不会再回复那些消失后又回来的人,因为他们的行为是对我的不尊重。我不会再像以前那样,因为伴侣的消失而陷入深深的痛苦和自责。我会保持冷静和自信,相信自己有价值,值得被更好的对待。我会专注于自己的生活,提升自己的能量,吸引更好的人。我会坚定地选择离开那些不忠诚、不负责任的人,因为我知道,出轨可能只是开始,会带来更多麻烦。我会不再把自己当成受害者,而是积极地去面对生活,去寻找属于自己的幸福。我会继续提升自己,变得更加成熟、独立、自信,拥有自己的生活和事业,不再依赖他人。我会勇敢地去面对原生家庭的伤害,修复内在小孩的创伤,让自己变得更加完整和强大。我会不再试图去弥补童年缺失的爱,而是专注于当下,去创造属于自己的幸福。我会以成年人的身份去面对生活,去解决生活中的问题,不再依赖他人。我会不再让过去的创伤影响我的现在和未来,我会活出真实的自己,去追求自己想要的生活。

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Why does the speaker emphasize the importance of self-worth in relationships?

The speaker stresses self-worth because she believes that valuing oneself prevents tolerating disrespectful behavior, such as being ghosted or mistreated in relationships. She shares personal experiences of being ghosted and how she learned to prioritize her own well-being over seeking validation from others.

What advice does the speaker give to those who are ghosted in relationships?

The speaker advises not to chase or question someone who has ghosted you, as their behavior is already an answer. Instead, focus on self-respect and move on, as no healthy adult would disappear without explanation unless they are not interested.

What is the speaker's approach to dealing with infidelity in relationships?

The speaker advocates for immediate and decisive action when faced with infidelity. She shares her own experience of ending a relationship upon discovering infidelity, emphasizing that staying with someone who has cheated only leads to further emotional and psychological harm.

How does the speaker view the role of childhood trauma in adult relationships?

The speaker believes that unresolved childhood trauma can negatively impact adult relationships. She discusses her own journey of healing from childhood wounds, emphasizing the importance of addressing these issues to avoid repeating unhealthy patterns in relationships.

What is the speaker's perspective on the relationship between parents and adult children?

The speaker argues that adult children should not rely on their parents to solve their problems or fulfill unmet childhood needs. She encourages establishing independence and self-reliance, as parents cannot provide what was missing in childhood, and it is up to the individual to heal and grow.

Why does the speaker believe that self-love is crucial for healthy relationships?

The speaker believes self-love is essential because it allows individuals to set boundaries, recognize their worth, and avoid toxic relationships. She shares her own journey of learning to love and respect herself, which has led to healthier and more fulfilling connections with others.

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针对听众提出的情感问题,主播分享了自己的经验,建议不要过度纠缠,要相信自己值得被更好对待,提升自我价值,才能吸引更好的人。
  • 不要试图挽留突然消失的追求者
  • 提升自我价值,才能吸引更好的人
  • 不要过度纠缠,保持独立和自信

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