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Hi, I'm Katie Lowes. And I'm Guillermo Diaz. And we're the hosts of Unpacking the Toolbox, the Scandal Rewatch podcast where we're talking about all the best moments of the show. Mesmerizing. But also, we get to hang out with all of our old Scandal friends like Bellamy Young, Scott Foley, Tony Goldwyn, Debbie Allen, Kerry Washington. Well, suit up, gladiators. Grab your big old glass of wine and prepare yourselves for an even more behind-the-scenes Scandal.
stories with Unpacking the Toolbox. Listen to Unpacking the Toolbox on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. I give myself permission to let power move. I wanted to be on a record saying that I don't think we should be outside twerking. Where is Kate Middleton? I know y'all don't care about the Royal Family, and I'm gonna be honest, neither did I. I also said what I said, and it's out there. If y'all never hear from me again, this podcast is what did it.
Welcome to the Woman Evolve podcast. This is your host, Sarah Jakes Roberts. How are you doing? What is happening in your world? Today's episode is going to... I want to prepare you before you even settle down into this podcast to let you know that this week's episode is going to be called The Power to Be Unhinged. Turn to your neighbor and say, The Power to Be Unhinged. All right, are you ready? Because listen...
I've had a very long week and the week is not over. It's Monday when I'm recording this. Yesterday, I preached at the Potter's House Dallas. I preached a message called Hazardous Conditions, which we'll get into it. Saturday, I flew to Dallas from Los Angeles because we did Hey You in Los Angeles. And we had a phenomenal time with the women at One Online. We are still planning to host it in Dallas next.
in May, but everyone who is in Dallas is currently working for the International Leadership Summit and they weren't able to have it in March. So, Hey You is supposed to be every other month. Let's talk about it. Hey You is supposed to be every other month. And so January, March,
May, July, we're off in September, up in October, the last one for the year. So when we couldn't do it in March, we were like, well, let's just wait till May. And I was like, no, that's going to throw the schedule off. Because once I said it, call it being made in God's image. Once I said it,
I want it to stay how we set it. And so we tried to do it early. Oh, we were going to do it March 8th, but my mom had knee replacement surgery. And so we couldn't do it March 8th. And so I was like, can we do it the 15th? But the 15th was like the week leading into ILS. And it was like, there's no way we could pull it off. Then the next week is Eastern. I was like, well, can we do it in LA?
Like, low key though, I've been trying to make it to LA because I am usually in Dallas on Sundays. I'm holding things down with the girls throughout the week. And so I haven't been able to go to Los Angeles, like the church that birthed my ministry. Okay. And so I love them. Some of them probably don't even know who I am at this point because I haven't been there as much, but I love going there.
there when I get a chance to. So we had Hey You in LA on Friday. My girls were on spring break. So Monday through Thursday, we were in Orange County. We did Disney. We stayed at a hotel. We're by the pool. And so I was determined to not be consumed with the fact that I have Hey You on Friday and I would like to preach a message. And I like to sit down and study for hours on end. And then I'm also preaching on Sunday in Dallas with the travel day in between. And I like to sit down and study for endless amounts of time.
when I'm studying for a sermon. And so we spent the week in at Disney or like four days, four or five days at the hotel in Disney. And I wanted to be present with them. I did not want them to feel like, yeah, we're on spring break, but mom's on her laptop. She's got her Bible out. It doesn't feel very fun. So I'm in the pool, I'm splashing. I went into it knowing that I was just going to be
a sacrificial lamb of motherhood. Someone else don't know what I'm talking about. Have you ever been the sacrificial lamb of motherhood? Like where you have just decided like most of the time, y'all get on my nerves, but I'm not gonna let you do it this week. This week, I'm gonna be the mom I see on TV.
This week, I'm going to be the mom who the arts and crafts nailed in. Homemade, Nara, is that, who is that? No, it's Sarah because I have decided to be that mom. That's how I went into spring break. You want me to get in the pool with you? Let me change into my bathing suit. I'm going to, you want to splash around? You want to run laps? You want to get on my back? Let's do it. You want to stay up and cuddle and watch movies? I'm your cuddle buddy, okay? So unhinged, I already told you. And so I was very present. And let me tell you, God,
did what only God could do because I was studying at the end of the service, at the end of spending time with them. I would get on my laptop, get on my phone, and I would study because that was the only time I had available. And so we had Hey You. I preached a message specifically for women. It's called On the Front Lines. It was powerful. I felt like it was powerful. You should watch it. Check it out.
And then Sunday, I preached hazardous conditions. And I thought that that was a powerful sermon as well. And I felt so, I had to go into my feelings wheel. I went onto my feelings wheel because I was trying to, what is this I'm feeling? I've never, this, ooh.
I turned the sound off. Okay. What is this I'm feeling? I haven't always felt this way. What is this feeling? And so I went, I think I had something on my teeth. Okay. So I went onto my feelings wheel and it started off with happy. And I was like, I do feel happy. And then the second tier was like proud. And I was like, I think I feel a little proud, but I be careful by feeling proud of stuff that God really empowered me to do. Cause like, I don't want to take anything credit that only God could do. And then I went out and it was triumphant. Oh,
Holy Ghost, because you know what happened after that? Second Corinthians was brought to my mind. Second Corinthians 2 verse 14, I feel it right now. It says, now thanks be unto God who always leads us in triumph in Christ and through us diffuses the fragrance of his knowledge in every praise, in every place. Let me, I said praise because a praise was in my spirit because I
I felt triumphant because I was able to release the fragrance of who Jesus is, not just when I preached, but when I was with my kids too. I got to show them the love of God through me. I got to show them the patience of God, the joy of God. I was able to release the fragrance of who God is for not
Not just through the sermons for Hey You or for the Potter's House Dallas and those who watch online, but also just in my role as a mother. I wanted them to really have a good spring break. I wanted them to experience joy and that scripture stood out in my mind. And so, yeah, this episode though is unhinged because I was present with the kids and
studied for Hey You, preached Hey You, flew to Dallas, preached in Dallas, collapsed me and my boo, celebrated our 10-year date-aversary. And then Monday we came around and I was like, boo, you got a podcast on Wednesday.
Triumph that. And I don't have a plan for it, but I do have some unhinged things that I want to say to you. So we're going to call it the power to be unhinged. But can we talk for a minute? You all, please go pre-order Power Moves, Ignite Your Confidence and Become a Force. I am so proud of this book. I did an interview today. That's why I have on makeup, but
But I did an interview today about the book and the person had actually read the book. Sometimes when you do interviews, people are doing so many different interviews with so many different people that they haven't actually read the book yet, but this person had actually read the book. And as a result of them reading the book, we had a great conversation. She got it. So when you hear power moves,
Most people are thinking about businesses that make blockbuster deals or someone who did something so strategic. I'm thinking about Monique Rodriguez, who we're going to have on the podcast, who sold Miel Organics in a power move deal. So people who are making these big power move deals. And to be honest, I think most people are like, one, I'm not in a position to make power moves, or two, even if I was, I'm already tired making my life move. So-
I can't make power move and my life move. I got you.
Because Power Moves is not just about doing things in the earth that feel big and important. Power Moves is about allowing power to move through you. And this week, I was so happy because I saw power move in my expression of motherhood and then move again in my expression of just speaking to women and then move again as we made it through the airport with a flight delay. And power was patience in that moment.
and stillness and trust in God that I wouldn't be delayed, that I would be able to preach the message God gave me. And then I saw power move on Sunday and then just my anniversary. So power moves and being sensitive and attuned to the moments where power is moving so that you can move when power moves. I slept for an hour after church. I wanted to see my mom. I
And I'd slept for an hour and then my husband came home. He surprised me. He's supposed to be out of town. So he surprises me with a date and I was so excited. And he knew I was tired. So it wasn't like I had to pretend like I wasn't tired. He knew that I was tired. But even having the acknowledgement of like, I'm tired, but I want to do this anyway. There used to be times where I would go and be resentful or I would not go.
And then be ashamed that he went out of his way to do something and not turned it down. But we were able to strike this balance of, you know, she's tired, but she's also excited because it's our 10-year anniversary. And so there are no rules. Like I picked up the phone because I needed to send something to one of our team members.
in the middle of dinner. And I was like, I'm going to put the phone down because I know we're on a date and I don't want to be the girl who's on the phone on the date. And he's like, there are no rules. There are no rules. Just be free. So I want you guys to get this book so that you can experience an existence that does not have expectations and rules that you would just allow yourself to move as power moves in your life.
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Hi, I'm Katie Lowe's and I'm Guillermo Diaz. And now we're back with another season of our podcast, unpacking the toolbox where Guillermo and I will be rewatching the show to officially unpack season three of scandal. Unpredictable. You don't see it coming. It's a wild, wild ride. The twists and turns in season three mesmerizing, but
Also, we get to hang out with all of our old scandal friends like Bellamy Young, Scott Foley, Tony Goldwyn, Debbie Allen, Kerry Washington. So many people. Even more shocking assassinations from Papa and Mama Pope. And yes, Katie and I's famous teeth pulling scene that kicks off a romance. And it was peak TV. This is new scandal.
content for your eyes, for your ears, for your hearts, for your minds. Well, suit up, gladiators. Grab your big old glass of wine and prepare yourselves for even more behind the scenes. Listen to Unpacking the Toolbox on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts.
Meet the real woman behind the tabloid headlines in a personal podcast that delves into the life of the notorious Tori Spelling as she takes us through the ups and downs of her sometimes glamorous, sometimes chaotic life and marriage. I don't think he knew how big it would be, how big the life I was given and live is.
I think he was like, oh, yeah, things come and go. But with me, it never came and went. Is she Donna Martin or a down-and-out divorcee? Is she living in Beverly Hills or a trailer park? In a town where the lines are blurred, Tori is finally going to clear the air in the podcast Misspelling. When a woman has nothing to lose, she has everything to gain. I just filed for divorce. Whoa, I said the words.
That I've said like in my head for like 16 years. Wild. Listen to Misspelling on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. Welcome to Cheaters and Backstabbers. I'm Shadi Diaz. And I'm Kate Robards. And we are New York City stand-up comedians and best friends. And we love a good cheating and backstabbing story. Welcome.
So this is a series where our guests reveal their most shocking cheating stories. Join us as we learn how to avoid getting our hearts broken or our backs slashed. Listen to Cheaters and Backstabbers on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you listen to podcasts. I'm Angie Martinez. Check out my podcast where I talk to some of the biggest athletes, musicians, actors in the world. We go beyond the headlines and the soundbites to have real conversations about real life, death, love, and everything in between.
This life right here, just finding myself, just this relaxation, this not feeling stressed, this not feeling pressed. This is what I'm most proud of. I'm proud of Mary because I've been through hell and some horrible things. That feeling that I had of inadequacy is gone. You're going to die being you. So you got to constantly work on who you are to make sure that the stars align correctly.
Life ain't easy and it's getting harder and harder. So if you have a story to tell, if you've come through some trials, you need to share it because you're going to inspire someone. You're going to give somebody the motivation to not give up, to not quit. Listen to Angie Martinez IRL on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts.
This episode, we just going to kick it, all right? I'm going to mind your business still. I have a question from someone that was sent in and it's unhinged. So it goes with the theme of the podcast. And when I say unhinged, I mean, it's unhinged. So let's hear it.
Hey, Sarah. My name is Bree. And my question for you is, how did you find sisters to match your fly and fresh faith? Meaning that you're always super fly. Your perspective is fresh, but you are of the faith. I just feel like I'm a little puzzled right now because the state of my friendships is
are rocky. I feel like I'm always reaching out to certain people for those connections or I'm avoiding other friends because I'm in a space where I desire committed, healthy, reciprocal spaces, but I am not one for the things that pull me away from God.
Well, not too far at least. And let me explain. This is what I mean. If we go out and y'all drinking, y'all drinking. But if we go out and we twerking, we twerking. So I guess I'm kind of looking for friends who want to pray and fast and read the Bible and dig into the scriptures and uplift each other and encourage each other, hold space for each other, get therapy together, but still twerk.
but culturally, I feel like my ancestors be like,
It's okay to twerk, but make sure you're praying and that you're close to God. That's the only advice that I can truly think of. And I'm sure other people have some. So without like losing yourself and striving for perfection, but striving to grow in Christ with friends who are also trying to grow in Christ, because I find that many people are either or like they're all the way in the world or something. Yeah.
Okay. Thank you for listening. Bye. Did I, did I tell you that this episode was unhinged? Like someone is literally probably wondering like, how is Sarah going to answer this question? And you've never seen someone beat around the bush the way I'm about to beat around the bush. Like Mike Tyson couldn't beat around this bush the way I'm about to beat around this bush because he's
I want to tell you what I hear her saying. I know what she said, but what I hear her saying is how do I have an authentic faith that doesn't have superiority, judgment, or the spirit of religion connected to it? Is it possible? I want to say it foundationally that I do not believe that
that twerking in the forms that I have seen it is outdoor behavior. Oh God, I know. Logging off, logging off. You know, let me go deeper before you judge. You know, for me,
the way that my life now I want to tell you perspective my worldview grew up during purity culture had a kid at 14 respectability politics steeped in them okay so take this with the grain of salt if you'd like but I just want to offer
And my husband definitely not in that shake, shake that tail territory publicly heavy on the publicly. I think that there is something to be said about giving a woman the freedom to experience and express the movement of her body in the context of her marriage or in the context of her mirror. Okay.
Because I'm probably failing at this because at the end of the day, I think it is...
that a woman be able to express the full dimensions of what it means to be a woman. And I will tell you as a woman who has had promiscuity in her past, that I think it is also irresponsible to fall into the philosophy that, gosh, am I? And I've already said it.
I think it is dangerous to subscribe to a philosophy that a woman can only... I think a woman... I think a woman...
I think a woman should be able to know her body well enough to understand the effect and power that it has on other people in the world, to be a good steward of those effects and powers, to recognize that she is more than her body, and to also not give over the responsibility of pleasure, enjoyment, to...
her partner is. And so I think in order to get to that place in a healthy way, that it requires a perspective on the fullness of who you are outside of your body, I will say even culturally as a Black woman. And
And somebody may be wondering, like, what does you being a black woman have to do with this? The reality that the black body has been used for labor, for entertainment, for pleasure, whether that pleasure was sexual or leisure, that...
systemically in America that it can be very difficult to separate our worth and value outside of the nature of what our bodies can do which is why I believe we see a lot of entertainers oh gosh this is I don't even should I I'm in it I'm open for correction I have a limited perspective whatever
But I'm saying this, especially as a, I see now as a grown woman, how I grew up listening to R. Kelly's music. I wanted nothing more than to act out the lyrics of those songs. And the music today has very similar themes and connotations. And when I turn on certain music, I just don't,
When I turn on music from artists that are of another ethnicity, you know, I don't see it being as sexualized, bodies being as sexualized as I do in some of the music and entertainment that we've come to expect from some of our faves. Like, and faves, present, you know, parties included. Like, I understand that.
you know, the beats and music and how we got there. But I do think that as I have grown and deepened in my relationship with God, imagine never answering the question. Um, as I've grown in my relationship with God, I've come to see myself outside of the worth of my body, uh,
whether it's from purity or from being exploited and to really see myself as a whole person. And as a result for me, you know, I try to be a good steward of my body by the way that I try to protect it and the way that I allow it to be viewed and
taken in from outside glances. So I will say in all transparency, I don't necessarily know that there's going to be what's the best way for you to find the twerking friends. The friends who, if we outside twerking, we outside twerking. But if we praying, we also praying. I want it to be on record saying that I don't think we should be outside twerking. I don't. Unless it's your shoulders. Yeah.
Do it had to. And I will also say that when I hear twerking, I hear popped over down. I, you know what I mean? Are other things, are there other things? Are there, do fingers twerk? Correct me. Um, whoever unsubscribed, I understand. So I want to be on record saying that. And then I want to answer what I think you're saying is how do I have these friendships that feel real and down to earth?
I'm going to tell you, I believe that woman evolve events are probably going to give you the girls outside twerking and the girls praying. I believe they're going to be both of them. You know what I mean? Like, I think the girls are going to be there. I think you have the girls who ain't never twerked a day in their life, don't believe in twerking. And you have the girls who twerk at home in the closet. I believe that they go all be covered at woman evolve events. I think part of the reason why woman evolve events feel so connected is because there is a similar spirit amongst the women in the room.
Additionally, I will say that you may have to really determine what kind of person do I want to be and
Will I be able to find connecting points for every part of who I am or will I have to categorize my friendships to fit certain parts of who I am? In other words, you may find friends that are just your faith friends. They challenge you in the word. They hold you accountable to your prayer. You know,
They know scripture. You can call them in a hard time. You guys listen to the same sermons. And maybe that person, too, is a person who's like, hey, did you see the new TikTok dance? We should have a pajama party and see if we can figure this dance out. Even if it's got a little pop in it because it's just us and, you know, we kicking it and we just trying to see what's happening. We practicing. Yeah.
But there's a possibility that that's a completely different friend. That may be a work friend. That may be you may be your only your only twerk buddy in this season. That's possible. But be open to the possibilities that you are multifaceted and that not everyone will be able to live in every facet of who you are. But that doesn't mean that you cannot have connection with certain people for certain parts of who you are.
And so and then when you zoom out of the picture and you see all of those different connection points, maybe it did not come from one person, but rather multiple people came together to fulfill needs socially, spiritually, you know, professionally that were important to you. If y'all cancel me over this.
I said it the best way I knew to say it. And I'm open to being wrong and to, from my perspective, being, you know, expanded. But I also said what I said. And it's out there on a podcast now. So I'll just log off if it becomes a thing. If y'all never hear from me again, this podcast is what did it.
Here's a little secret. Most smartphone deals aren't that exciting. To be honest, they're barely worth mentioning. But then there's AT&T and their best deals. Those are quite exciting. They're the kind of deals that are worth talking about. Like their deal on the Samsung Galaxy Z Flip 6.
With this amazing deal, you can trade in your eligible smartphone any year, any condition for a new Samsung Galaxy Z Flip 6. It's so good, in fact, it'll have you shouting from the rooftops. So get yourself down to street level and learn how to snag the new Samsung Galaxy Z Flip 6 on AT&T and maybe grab a ladder on the way home.
AT&T. Connecting changes everything. Requires trading of Galaxy S, Note, or Z series smartphone. Limited time offer. 256 gigabytes for $0. Additional fees, terms, and restrictions apply. See att.com slash Samsung or visit an AT&T store for details.
Hi, I'm Katie Lowe's. And I'm Guillermo Diaz. And now we're back with another season of our podcast, Unpacking the Toolbox, where Guillermo and I will be rewatching the show. To officially unpack season three of Scandal. Unpredictable. You don't see it coming. It's a wild, wild ride. The twists and turns in season three. Mesmerizing.
Also, we get to hang out with all of our old scandal friends like Bellamy Young, Scott Foley, Tony Goldwyn, Debbie Allen, Kerry Washington. So many people. Even more shocking assassinations from Papa and Mama Pope. And yes, Katie and I's famous teeth pulling scene that kicks off a romance.
And it was Peak TV. This is new scandal content for your eyes, for your ears, for your hearts, for your minds. Well, suit up, gladiators. Grab your big old glass of wine and prepare yourselves for even more behind the scenes. Listen to Unpacking the Toolbox on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts.
Meet the real woman behind the tabloid headlines in a personal podcast that delves into the life of the notorious Tori Spelling as she takes us through the ups and downs of her sometimes glamorous, sometimes chaotic life and marriage. I don't think he knew how big it would be, how big the life I was given and live is.
I think he was like, oh, yeah, things come and go. But with me, it never came and went. Is she Donna Martin or a down-and-out divorcee? Is she living in Beverly Hills or a trailer park? In a town where the lines are blurred, Tori is finally going to clear the air in the podcast Misspelling. When a woman has nothing to lose, she has everything to gain. I just filed for divorce. Whoa. I said the words.
that I've said like in my head for like 16 years. Wild. Listen to Misspelling on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. I'm Angie Martinez. Check out my podcast where I talk to some of the biggest athletes, musicians, actors in the world. We go beyond the headlines and the soundbites to have real conversations about real life, death, love, and everything in between.
This life right here, just finding myself, just this relaxation, this not feeling stressed, this not feeling pressed. This is what I'm most proud of. I'm proud of Mary because I've been through hell and some horrible things. That feeling that I had of inadequacy is gone. You're going to die being you. So you got to constantly work on who you are to make sure that the stars align correctly.
Life ain't easy and it's getting harder and harder. So if you have a story to tell, if you've come through some trials, you need to share it because you're going to inspire someone. You're going to give somebody the motivation to not give up, to not quit. Listen to Angie Martinez IRL on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts.
Welcome to Cheaters and Backstabbers. I'm Shadi Diaz. And I'm Kate Robards. And we are New York City stand-up comedians and best friends. And we love a good cheating and backstabbing story. So this is a series where our guests reveal their most shocking cheating stories. Join us as we learn how to avoid getting our hearts broken or our backs slashed. Listen to Cheaters and Backstabbers on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you listen to podcasts.
I was having a conversation with... Who was I talking to?
Oh, it was a part of the interview. And interviews can be very, I guess, fast paced because the person is like looking at you, but they're also looking at the monitor to see the next question, to check out the time. So it's not as connected of a conversation sometimes, even though this interview was absolutely great. But we stumbled onto something that I felt like was worthy of expansion. And so I'm going to talk my thoughts out with you guys for a little bit. So we started talking about
someone who's always there for other people. And they're wondering, how do I get to a space where people don't only rely on me anymore or people see that I'm a person as well? And I was fascinated by this because this is a question I hear all of the time from people who are like, I'm the strong friend. I don't want to be the strong friend. And part of the reason why we have strong friends who don't always want to be the strong friend is that people have...
gotten into a rhythm of calling them when they need them. And that person has gotten into the rhythm of delivering. And maybe at the time they were able to deliver on those needs. And as time has changed, as their life has changed, their energy has changed, their values have changed, they're no longer able to continue delivering on that level or what could be even more
is that they were never able to deliver, but they stretched themselves. And either way, no matter how they got there, they're at a stage now where they want to change the way that they have been showing up. And she asked me what my response to those people would be. And my response to those people is, if you are in a position where you have become, we'll use the restaurant industry. I used to waitress at a strip club. So there's my take on outside twerking.
I've seen them all. I used to do a waitress at this strip club. And imagine this, if you're the strong friend, imagine that you're working in the restaurant industry and you're constantly checking on different tables. You need water? Okay, I'll go get you water. You need...
I'll go get your food. Oh, your order was wrong? Okay, I'll go fix your order. But instead of food items, hey, you need some money? Okay, here, I'll give you the money. You need some emotional support? Okay, I'll be your emotional support. Okay, oh, something went wrong with the kids? Okay, here, let me call your kids and I'll fix it. Oh, okay, you're tired? Okay, why don't I pick this up?
You're going from person to person, seeing exactly what they need. And sometimes you can deliver, sometimes you're overwhelmed, but that's your rhythm. If this were actually someone who was in the restaurant industry, just because they're serving people doesn't mean that they don't get hungry. At some point, their shift would have to end. They would have to sit down and they would have to ask themselves, what do I want to eat?
What's available for me to eat? What do I want to drink? As easy as this is to understand in the restaurant industry, it's a little more challenging for us to comprehend when it comes to our emotional health and wealth and how we are in relationship with other people.
You cannot constantly wait on all of the tables and people in your life without taking the opportunity to say, you know what? I'm hungry too. And so I need you all who are people pleasers, who are need fillers to begin to ask yourself, what do I need?
even if you're doing it while busting tables, right? There were times when I would be waitressing and I would be like, oh, when I get off, I'm gonna have me some of that steak. When I get off, I'm gonna do this. When I get off, I want you to include as a part of your rhythm, a plan for what you need. Man, I wish somebody would help me with my kids. Man, I wish that I could get rest because we get so caught up in being the strong friend and taking care of everyone else's need that we don't even ask ourselves what we need.
Maybe your shift isn't ending yet. Maybe there's no capacity in the world for you to have it right now, but get in the practice of knowing at the tip of your tongue what it is that you need. I need a break. I need rest. I need a vacation. I need a good cry. You know what I mean? What is it that you need? And be willing to embrace, be willing to embrace the reality that you always have a need. So if I take a minute right now,
You take a minute with me because we in it together. If I take a minute right now and I still myself, and I ask for my needs to rise to the surface, I can tell you that right now I need rest. I'm tired. I'll be honest. I'm tired. And right now I'll tell you, I don't have time to rest. I got to go pick up my kids in five minutes. This podcast has gone too long. I got to go pick up my kids, but I am tired. I'd like to sleep.
And I'm the only one who can pick them up. So I'm not even going to talk myself out of it, but I'm acknowledging that it is a need. I need, I can't see past rest. And maybe that's because the need is so big that I can't see past it. So because I'm in a position right now where I can't necessarily get rest in the way that I need it. God, I need you to give me rest in my spirit, to let my spirit not be anxious or anxious
worried or doubtful. Holy Spirit, allow me to have rest in my spirit and also give me strength, physical strength to carry out what's left.
And so what I know now, because I know I need rest, because I know I need strength, if someone calls me and they ask me to do something, I'm going to have to exercise a boundary because I know I need rest, that I'm running on fumes. Acknowledging your need, even when it cannot be immediately fulfilled, is not tormenting yourself with a reality that cannot be cured or changed.
It is allowing yourself to better plan for the future. It's allowing yourself to know more quickly what you need the next time someone says, is there anything I can do for you? It is allowing yourself to not just be the strong friend, but the friend who also gets hungry as well. And what's beautiful is when my need is met, I'm going to be up there pumping my chest doing what needs to be done because that's just the kind of girl that I am.
I can be strong again, but right now I need to be empty. And that is power moves. That is power moves. That is how power moves. The most powerful thing that I can give myself today is the acknowledgement of my need. The most powerful thing that I can give myself today is the acknowledgement of
of my need for strength. And tomorrow, the most powerful thing that I can do might be sharing the gospel. It might be showing up as a sister. I give myself permission to let power move. Can you say that with me? You're already repeating after me about this podcast being unhinged. I give myself permission to let power move. I'm
I'm so excited to serve you all with this, but please pre-order this book. Just do me a solid. Just do me a solid because you love me if you love me or you like me or you stumbled across this podcast. Take a step of faith, dive into this book. I believe that it's going to help you. I am contractually obligated to make sure that this podcast is at least 30 minutes long or to not do one and allow it to be picked up on the other end. But I just feel like coming on here running my mouth. So...
I hope that I haven't stressed your nerves out too bad. You know what? I should have made, y'all, okay, last thing, and then I'm late. I got to go pick up my kids. Where is Kate Middleton?
I know y'all don't care about the Royal family and I'm gonna be honest. Neither did I, but I, something came up on my for you page and I'm in there like swimwear now, baby. They didn't Photoshop these photos. They didn't give me this picture in the car and I don't care. I got other things to worry about. Y'all not the only mature people on the phone call. I have other things to worry about as well.
But also I don't have anything else to worry about. I don't, I'm, I'm, this is adulting these days. I am both fully consumed with a to-do list I cannot accomplish. And also I have nothing to do. If you don't understand that, that's not on me to break down. That is on you to take to the Lord in prayer. So rescue, rescue Kate, period. I love you. We'll see how long this episode was.
If it was 30 minutes, I can't even because I had to break it up. So I'm going to say a prayer. If it's not 30 minutes, we're going to tack on something to the end of this. And it's going to be as it'll be three minutes if it ain't because I got to be close. Okay, here we go. Oh, God, thank you. The power to be unhinged.
The power to not hold it all together or to hang on, but to let everything go and see how we flow is not something that we can do all of the time because let's be for real, we got responsibilities. We have things we need to do and we need to be very well hinged to show up in our life. But thank you God for the sweet moments where we can just exhale and let it all out and let it all go. Knowing that we're going to have to inhale again. And when we inhale, God, I pray that you would give us strength,
wisdom, insight, peace, courage, love. Sending special love to everyone listening, God. May they feel your presence. May they know you. Oh my goodness, I wish I could remember. Help me to remember, Holy Spirit. I may remember it later. I pray though, God, that as this podcast comes to the end, that they feel a little less alone, a lot more known,
and almost grown. What is it? What is it? Somebody helped me. I got to write it down. All right. I love you. I will see you next week with Top Tier. Tomorrow's Tuesday. I'm batch recording podcast. We have amazing guests. Dr. Anita Phillips, Tamron Hall. Like I'm going to be back in my bag. But right now I am in my sack and that's all right.
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