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Trauma Doesn't Like to Be Touched

2024/6/10
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Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel

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妻子:我与丈夫的关系中存在长期沟通和触碰的矛盾,这与我过去的创伤经历有关。丈夫有性瘾,并且出轨,这进一步加剧了我们的问题。我被诊断患有创伤后应激障碍(PTSD),我的创伤经历影响了我对亲密关系的感受,尤其是在触碰方面。我希望能够更好地理解丈夫过去的创伤经历,以及如何更好地应对他的触发因素。我需要学习如何更好地表达自己的需求,而不是压抑自己的感受。 丈夫:我的童年经历充满暴力,这导致我在亲密关系中存在信任问题和安全感缺失。我过去的行为(性瘾和出轨)与我的创伤经历有关,我正在努力改变。我需要学习如何更好地理解妻子的感受,以及如何更好地支持她。我需要学习如何更好地表达自己的需求和感受,而不是通过沉默来掩盖自己的情绪。 Esther Perel:这对夫妇的关系中存在长期沟通和触碰的矛盾,这与双方过去的创伤经历有关。妻子的创伤经历影响了她对亲密关系的感受,而丈夫的创伤经历则导致他在亲密关系中存在信任问题和安全感缺失。治疗的目标是帮助他们理清事件之间的联系,找到治愈、改变和成长的途径。治疗师引导他们探讨了记忆、家庭关系、出轨等问题,并帮助他们建立起一个充满爱和满足的触碰蓝图。治疗师强调了创伤对身体的影响,以及如何帮助丈夫克服对触碰的排斥反应。治疗师也帮助妻子学习如何更好地表达自己的需求,以及如何更好地照顾自己的情绪和心理健康。

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A newly married couple seeks guidance on creating a safe space for physical intimacy while addressing past traumas, including one partner's history of abuse and the other's struggle with infidelity.

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This is a classic session, from the first season of Where Should We Begin? A newly married couple comes to Esther for guidance on how to create a space of safety and physical intimacy while also giving voice to past trauma. One partner is working to overcome an aversion to physical touch due to abuse from his past while the other is learning to ask for more without triggering painful memories for his husband. From this starting point, Esther guides them through a discussion on memory, family relationships, and infidelity and helps them work out a blueprint for loving and satisfying touch.

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