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I Think I Married the Wrong Person

2024/4/15
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Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel
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妻子：我的愤怒源于长期感到被贬低和轻视，这与我童年的创伤经历有关。我的父亲经常对我进行言语和肢体暴力，这让我学会了用愤怒来保护自己。在婚姻中，丈夫的理性化回应让我感觉不被理解和接纳，这加剧了我的愤怒。我需要一个安全的空间来表达自己的情绪，而不仅仅是解决问题。 丈夫：我无法接受妻子在女儿面前大喊大叫。我试图通过理性分析来帮助妻子，但我意识到这并没有效果。我感受很强烈，但我的回应方式与感受深度不符。我需要学习如何更好地回应妻子的情绪，给予她更多的支持和理解。我习惯于解决问题，而非仅仅陪伴，这需要改变。 治疗师：妻子的愤怒是掩饰悲伤的一种方式，源于童年创伤和家庭文化的影响。丈夫的理性化回应让妻子感觉不被安全接纳。夫妻双方需要打破僵化的模式，学习在安全的环境中表达脆弱的情绪，并互相支持和理解。丈夫需要学习倾听而非快速回应，妻子需要学习表达自己的感受，而非仅仅依靠愤怒。

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The couple discusses their marriage issues, including anger and communication problems, and seeks guidance on whether they married the right person.

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She gets angry when she feels devalued and put down. He intellectualizes and rationalizes instead of sympathizing. Esther helps them to see each other and work towards dissolving the patterns they developed to protect themselves.

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