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815: How I Learned to Shave

2024/12/1
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Ira Glass: 讲述了他父亲教他刮胡子的经历,这在他看来是一件非常不寻常的事情,因为他的父亲很少主动教导他任何事情。这段回忆让他思考父子关系的微妙之处,以及父亲在他成长过程中潜移默化的影响。他回忆起父亲是一个沉默寡言、专注于工作的人,很少关注他和他的姐妹们。他认为自己继承了父亲的优缺点,包括父亲的沉默和疏离感,这既给他带来了舒适,也让他在人际关系中感到孤立。他认为我们从父母那里学到的东西,很多时候并非他们有意为之,而是潜移默化的影响,这些影响如同病毒般存在于我们体内,即使在父母去世后依然存在。

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Why does Ira Glass consider the memory of his father teaching him to shave significant?

Ira Glass considers the memory significant because it was one of the rare moments his father took the time to teach him something directly. His father was usually preoccupied with work and not very involved in imparting life lessons, making this moment stand out as a rare instance of focused attention and guidance.

What was unusual about Ira Glass's father's approach to teaching him to shave?

Ira's father had to stand behind him and reach around to demonstrate the shaving technique, which was unusual because they rarely had physical contact. This intimate moment was out of character for their typically distant relationship.

What did Ira Glass learn from his father beyond the act of shaving?

Ira learned that his father, who grew up without a father himself, struggled to understand what a son might need from a father. Despite his efforts, he was often emotionally distant and preoccupied with work, which shaped Ira's own tendencies to pull away from others.

Why was Jackie Wyant surprised by the obituary of the Trapper Keeper inventor?

Jackie was surprised because the obituary credited E. Bryant Crutchfield as the inventor of the Trapper Keeper, while she believed her father, John Wyant, was the true inventor. This discrepancy led her to investigate and challenge the narrative.

What role did John Wyant play in the creation of the Trapper Keeper?

John Wyant designed the Trapper Keeper, including its shape, folders, flap closure, logo, and even the plastic clipboard with a pencil holder. He also came up with the name 'Trapper Keeper' during a martini-fueled lunch with Crutchfield.

How did E. Bryant Crutchfield's children react to the claim that their father took credit for the Trapper Keeper?

Crutchfield's children acknowledged that their father was a talker who often played up his role in things. They admitted it was plausible he took more credit than he deserved but emphasized he wasn't malicious, just self-promotional.

What was unique about Wolf 8's relationship with the pups he adopted?

Wolf 8, a yearling, adopted and cared for pups from another pack after their father was killed. He hunted for them, brought them food, and became an alpha male in their pack, a behavior rarely documented in wolves.

How did Wolf 21 save his father, Wolf 8, during a potential pack fight?

During a confrontation between their packs, Wolf 21 intentionally ran past Wolf 8 without attacking, turning the battle into a chase. This clever move prevented a deadly fight and saved his father's life.

What did Simon Rich's great-grandfather reveal about his first date with his wife?

Simon's great-grandfather described a time before online dating, where couples met in person without exchanging nudes or knowing much about each other. Their first date involved awkward conversations, shared memes performed in person, and a spontaneous high-five after finding a restaurant.

What did Simon Rich's great-grandfather say about the role of sex robots in his marriage?

Simon's great-grandfather admitted that he and his wife had affairs with advanced sex robots in the 2050s. These robots were so persuasive that the UN had to regulate the industry to ensure people left their homes and maintained societal functions.

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Ira Glass reflects on the unusual occasion his dad taught him how to shave, connecting it to their generally distant relationship and the unintentional lessons learned from parents. He discusses the few memories he has of his father imparting knowledge and the lasting impact of his father's personality on his own life.
  • Ira's father's unexpected shaving lesson is a rare memory of focused attention and knowledge transfer.
  • The lesson highlights the infrequent father-son physical contact and emotional closeness.
  • Ira reflects on inheriting both positive and negative traits from his father, including a tendency towards solitude.

Shownotes Transcript

Things our dads taught us, whether they intended to or not.

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  • Prologue: Ira talks about the time his dad taught him to shave, and how unusual that was. (5 minutes)
  • Act One: When Jackie read the obits for the man who had invented the famous Trapper Keeper notebook, she was very surprised. As far as she knew, the inventor was very much alive. It was her dad. Not the guy in the obit. (15 minutes)
  • Act Two: A father and son find themselves in a very traditional relationship. Until the end. (21 minutes)
  • Act Three: Simon Rich reads his short story "History Report," in which a father explains the sex robots of the future. And other things as well. (14 minutes)

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