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Regrets, we all have them right? I mean they are a human response to life and living. Regrets can play an intricate part of self reflection, learning lessons and even bettering one's life so to speak. But when regrets become a ruminating thought and play like a broken record in your mind, it is then that past regrets can become crippling because your focus on the past will begin to absorb the present time. And the thoughts of the "woulda, coulda, shouldas" will become a trap that's hard to escape. This steel trap can become so intense that it can negatively affect how we view ourselves and our lives in our "present" day. This is so sad to me, because this is the space we all need to avoid The past is gone ...and what you're doing today... right now...is really what matters and that's where your power is, it is in the present where changes can be made. The past can not be changed.

Regrets are part of life, none of us can live out our lives perfectly, only Christ did this. As humans it's virtually impossible to be perfect, and regrets are going to happen and we can not let our regrets take over our thoughts in the present.

In a study performed by Harvard psychologists Matthew A. Killingsworth and Daniel T. Gilbert, 2200 Subjects could choose from 22 general activities, such as walking, eating, shopping, and watching television. On average, respondents reported that their minds were wandering 46.9 percent of time, and no less than 30 percent of the time during every activity except making love.

What this study shows is that mind-wandering appears ubiquitous across the board and that our mental lives are pervaded, to a remarkable degree, by the NONPRESENT.

2 of my favorite verses to meditate on when I find myself fixating on the past.

Matthew 11: 28-30

28 “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. 29 Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. 30 For my yoke is easy and my burden is light"

Phillipians 4:6

"Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God."

One of my other favorite verses that I use as a daily reminder for being present is this.

Psalm 118:24

"This is the day that the Lord has made we will rejoice and be glad in it."

Learning to manage our thoughts about life and past regrets,can soften, with practice. In this episode we dive

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The Anecdote for Regret