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Hello everybody and welcome back to the psychology of your 20s, the podcast where we talk through some of the big life changes and transitions of our 20s and what they mean for our psychology.
Hello everybody, welcome back to the show, welcome back to the podcast. New listeners, old listeners, wherever you are in the world, you know the deal. It is so great to have you here back for another episode. I hope that everybody has been doing well, taking care of themselves, finding something to stay optimistic about, whatever it is that gets you up in the morning, that gets you going. I
Today I have a little bit of a different episode for you. For long time OG listeners of the show, you'll know that every kind of six months I like just to do a little chatty, unplanned Q&A kind of episode. A sit down chat, a kind of get to know me, a life update and that is what we're
we're going to do today. I think it's been about six months since we last did one of these episodes, so there's a lot to catch up on and a lot of epiphanies that I've kind of realized about myself recently, one of which has to do with the fact that if you haven't noticed, I'm a little bit ill. So these last two weeks, I've had like a really serious case of tonsillitis, which is
I don't know if you've ever had tonsillitis. I'm hoping that you haven't. But for those of you who have experienced this, it is like a whole body experience. I think I get it semi-regularly, like probably once a year. And every time I forget what it feels like to go through. Like it is...
hellish. My whole body was aching. I lost my voice, which as somebody who does podcasting full time, it's like literally the worst thing ever. And it's kind of one of those hard circumstances with this job, right? Like if you lose your voice, you can't
do your job. You can't work because your main service, your main product, your vocal cords are like non-operational. And so it was kind of this like weird feeling of like, oh my God, I want to be doing things. I want to be working on the podcast. I want to be putting out new episodes when I genuinely cannot speak. And the frustrating thing was that
I think I've spoken about this before. Maybe I'm just going to go ahead and spoil it. Why not? I finished my book. My book is done. It still has a while before it comes out and goes through the editing process and all of that. But yeah, it was like a marathon when I got back from traveling at the start of the year. I'd probably only done around like 15%. And I was like, okay, time to like shift into gear and write this freaking manuscript and
So that has been like really high in my priority list. I finished it two weeks ago. Insane. It was like probably one of the most like hardest things that I've ever done like in my professional and career life in terms of like sustained mental effort. But here's the catch. I finished the book. I took a day off. And then you know that feeling where you can feel yourself getting sick, like the back of your throat is burning.
and like stinging and you can't swallow and you're just hoping that maybe you just have something like stuck in your throat or you've like eaten something spicy. No, it was the sickness. It was the illness coming on. And within like two days I was like immobilized in bed. It was great though because it gave me a chance to watch, rewatch, not watch for the first time, obviously not, but rewatch like the entire Twilight series and
I think if you haven't watched those recently as an adult, you need to be doing that because I brought like a whole new critical feminist lens to that situation and to those movies that I've never had before. So I watched Twilight. I made a lot of
soup in my new little Dutch oven and I also had an epiphany about myself because whilst I literally felt like I was on my deathbed the one thing I couldn't stop thinking about was the fact that I wasn't being productive and
That here I was with all of this empty time, this empty space that I should be filling, sitting at home and I wasn't doing anything. I would end like every single evening feeling terrible. Let me say that. Like I was not well. But the like resounding thought in my brain was like guilt. It was a sense of guilt that I hadn't gotten more done and that I had...
you know, optimistically woken up with this like huge to-do list of things that would seem like were impossible for me to do in my state. Like clean my entire house, write scripts for podcast episode, like finalize big project, like jump on, you know, overseas court. Like that was not possible. I couldn't speak. I couldn't like get up without feeling dizzy. So of course I wasn't moving through my to-do list as fast as I should have been.
And I had an excuse right there. Like I had a really valid reason for why I wasn't able to do that. And yet I wasn't taking it. That excuse was not available to me. I just felt so much shame and guilt and frustration that I just finished this huge thing. I'd finished this book that was meant to clear up so much more time for me and just
This sickness that I was experiencing, this tonsillitis, that was just like a small roadblock that I had to push through. And if I wasn't able to push through it, like I must be lazy. I must be, you know, undisciplined. I must be procrastinating when in fact it is like a very valid reason to not be getting as much done. And.
through like conversations I was having with my friends and with my boyfriend I was like oh this is not just a problem when I'm ill this is a problem at like all stages of my life that I continually tie my worth and my sense of self to my output and how much I am able to do in each day and how hard I'm able to push myself and I do think that I have become one of those people who like
sees busyness as a status symbol. And there was a really fascinating article in the Atlantic about this recently that was essentially like, you know, the way that we have glorified hustle culture and the way that we have glorified and idolized success in our society and in our culture means that it's seen as impressive when we don't have boundaries, when we don't take necessary time off, when we are genuinely falling apart and
When we don't prioritize the things that are important to us, like our wellness, like our relationships, like our free time, all of those things are seen as impressive these days. And I think that I've really been bitten by that bug. And on a deeper level, it's not just apparent when I'm unwell or when I'm sick.
it's also very apparent to me now in how I operate on a daily. So for example, I was talking to my partner about this and he made this really fascinating point. He was like, even when you are having quote unquote downtime, you feel the need to be socially productive within that. So like if I have a weekend off,
It's like seeing that weekend not as space to relax and not as space to be free and spontaneous. It's like, okay, we have these like quadrants. We have these time slots that I need to fill. I need to be seeing people on Saturday night. I need to be seeing people for lunch on Sunday. I need to be seeing people on Monday, a Monday morning for like a brunch. Like I need to be catching up.
On my social life, I need to be socially productive, even when I'm not being, I don't know, career productive or like work, work life productive. And I was kind of shocked when he said that because I was like, wow, you are absolutely right. I always just thought that I just had a higher threshold for, I don't know, connection and for seeing people. I'm such an extrovert that it didn't feel right.
I don't know, it didn't feel odd. It didn't feel problematic to need to fill my weekends in such a way or to fill my off time in such a way because I do gain energy from seeing other people, from seeing my friends, from like hearing about their lives. But when he pointed that out, I was like, no, I approach socializing like it is a to-do list.
And it's like kind of sickening. Like it was and it's not to say like, oh, my gosh, my friends are like a task that I need to check off or I have like an ongoing list of like I need to see this person by this day, almost like a deadline. No, it's just more that when I see blank space in the calendar, I want it to be utilized. And if I have devoted that space to, you know, not doing work, the other way I can utilize it is by socializing.
So, yeah, it became kind of apparent to me that I had a problem. I think that when you are genuinely so unwell that, like I said, I couldn't get out of bed, I couldn't speak, I couldn't go outside. And yet the first thing that I'm thinking of is how productive I'm being and what I'm contributing and what I'm getting done. Probably not a sign of a healthy relationship with work or with, you know, your sense of self-esteem or confidence when it comes to not working.
putting things out and not being busy. And then secondly, that need for social productivity was another element and facet of this that I don't think I'd ever been aware of before. And I kind of was like doing a little bit of investigating because I think that the big misconception I had was that I'm just an overachiever.
That is who I have always been. I've been somebody who is a perfectionist, somebody who is an overachiever, somebody who likes working hard. I don't need to work hard. I like it. But that was really like opening a bit of a box for me because I was like, why do I like it?
why who likes working more than they like having downtime who likes feeling guilty for taking a break it's the people who tie their identity and receive validation from feeling successful and feeling like they're doing things and often that really ties back to how you were like who you were taught to be as a child and when I say who you were taught to be I mean like
who you were conditioned to be through praise and through feedback and through comments from your teachers and your parents and your mentors and your friends that you meet this archetype. You are the overachiever. You are good at school. You are someone who is successful. You are a hard worker. You are gifted academically. When you hear that repeated, as I think is, you know, quite a nice thing, obviously, we want to like positively reinforce children and
shower them with praise and make them feel good about themselves. But when everything you've heard about yourself that is good, everything you hear about yourself that makes you valuable and makes people like you is tied back to how hard you can work and how much you can excel and what you can give. It's really hard to have any nuance in terms of your personality and in terms of your identity. Who am I beyond output?
If you've never been told that you are a kind person, that you are a generous person, that you are a creative person, that you're somebody who just brings peace to their life, that prioritizes their happiness. Like those are things that we are not necessarily praised for or complimented on as children. We're complimented on how we meaningfully apply ourselves to the pursuit of success and things like grades and things like academics and
And so I think the older you get, you have an opportunity to kind of release yourself from that identity. If you are somebody who has always been seen as an overachiever or like a gifted child or somebody who is an extremely hard worker, you do have an opportunity to kind of throw away that identity when you're moving through that like gaining independence phase and trying to assert yourself as, you know, independent from other people's judgments.
I don't think I ever did that though. I don't think that part of my identity was ever, I never questioned it. I never saw it as unhealthy. I never saw the bad side of it. And so it's created this version of me who doesn't know when to fucking stop. Like, sorry to swear, but it's like quite frustrating to only realize that at like 24. The other component of it is that I think that I am somebody who likes to fix things. I don't,
Like seeing that there is a problem or something that needs to be done and not in some way, in some capacity, working towards a solution for that problem. I know for a fact that I am somebody who doesn't enjoy the mess or the clutter of an unorganized life.
and doesn't enjoy the sense that there are things that are nagging me in my brain that are kind of like screaming, get me done, get me done. So there is actually a term for this. I don't know if I would call it a condition, but an experience in psychology. And it's called the Zirconic effect. And it essentially refers to how, for some of us, the like sense of an unfinished task is
is incredibly difficult to overlook. It is incredibly, you know, hard to move forward or to relax when you know that there is something that you haven't completed, that you forgot about. For example, if you know you have an essay due but you've put time aside for it next weekend, you've got a whole 12-hour period to get it done and
You know that you'll get it done. You still can't help yourself or stop yourself from focusing on it in the weeks prior, in the days beforehand when you don't have the capacity to do it. You still know that it's going to be finished. You're just not working on it right now, but it lingers and you can't forget about it.
For me, that's my to-do list. As soon as I've put something on my to-do list, I've realized this about myself. As soon as I've said to myself, okay, I want to do this. I need to get this done. I want to have five or six podcast episodes lined up. I want to be fully planned for this trip. I want to have this whole script fact-checked and done by tonight.
There is no way that I can stop myself before that gets done. It's honestly a compulsion. It is like an obsession. And again, it's this Zerganik effect where there is something in our brain that keeps coming back to unfinished business. I think all of these factors, all of these experiences ultimately lead back to this toxic productivity that I'm speaking about. This
unyielding sense that there is always stuff that needs to be done. There is always more that can be done and not doing it is kind of a blemish on my character and is something that I should feel ashamed for because somewhere out there, somebody is not making the same compromises as me. Somebody is not taking the rest day. Somebody is not being quote unquote lazy like I am. And it's really, really unhealthy and problematic because
So, in like the couple of, well, in like the week that I've realized that this is something that I kind of need to address and I'm sure it's going to take me a while to really get my thumb over it and to get control of it. But some of the things I started pondering was whether I would be
as unforgiving when it came to other people in my life who were experiencing the same thing. So let me articulate that a little bit better. Obviously, me being sick gave me a reason to not be able to do all these things that I wanted to do. And that is actually super valid. That is an excellent reason to not be as productive or active in your life. But for me personally, I am my harshest critic, as I'm sure you are your harshest critic as well.
So I thought about the compassion and the care that I would show a friend who was going through this. If, you know, like my best friend Erin was like to me, oh my gosh. And it's interesting because she actually called me yesterday and she has COVID. And so I actually got to have this conversation with somebody else, the conversation that I should have been having with myself. And she said to me, she was like, I'm super sick.
And I just can't get anything done. I need to clean the house. Like we have visitors coming. I like need to call in sick to work, but I feel so lazy. And what I said to her was, that is ridiculous. You have no reason to feel lazy. Your body is stupid.
screaming at you to take a break. It is telling you it's time to rest. It, you know, is unwell and you need to really care for it and mend it. Otherwise, this is just going to come back even stronger. Otherwise, it's going to take more time for you to heal. This was all these things that I was saying to her. I was like, you need to be kinder to yourself. You need to be nicer to yourself. This is me giving you permission to rest and to relax and to just get better.
And I believe that fully. I was fully, I believe that fully. That's the only thing I can say about that. I was like, yes, Erin, my beautiful, darling, gorgeous, caring friend deserves to take a break.
How come I don't? How come I cannot apply that same compassion and that same narrative to myself? I think it goes beyond just our inner critic and how loud they are and more so towards this concept of like the spotlight effect. And the spotlight effect essentially says that
Our flaws, our perceived failures, our perceived laziness, everything that we see is wrong or bad about ourselves. That is so much more visible to us. Whereas when we look at our friends, we don't see those things about themselves that they don't like.
We don't see the reasons that they believe they deserve to be criticized. We don't see the things that we see about ourselves because they're hidden in their own internal worlds. So when we have the option or the choice to display empathy to us, we're seeing the scales as a lot more tipped to all the ways that we're failing and all the reasons we don't deserve a break. Whereas our friends, our family, the people we love don't.
They do because they're not as lazy as us. They're not as unproductive. They're not as bad. They are more worth the rest and the relaxation and the empathy and the kindness. So it's a bit of a disease, honestly. I think that it's something that was really important for me to honestly see in real time was the difference and the distinction between the
the conversations I was having with myself about taking care of my body versus the conversations I was having with somebody that I truly love and who I really care about. So that is one factor of it. I think the other thing that I need to better recognize and get better at doing is also just like finishing my day when a task is done. I think I have this like serious problem where yes, I may have done everything that I actually wanted to do on my to-do list but
But I'm like, well, maybe the reason that I did everything was because I actually didn't push myself enough. Maybe I could have had the capacity to do more. So it's like a lose-lose situation. Either I don't do everything that I need to do or I do everything that I need to do. And that's just an opportunity for me to just pile on more or to believe that I've underestimated my ability during that day or my time.
So yeah, it's a bit of a maze. I think that the things that I really need to do moving forward is like, okay, let's focus on just doing a couple of things each day and doing them really well. Because I think that that also keeps my attention open.
on what I really need to do rather than feeling caught up in like the guilt spiral that just creates panic and worry that I'm not going to get things done and so I kind of half-ass them so that's something I really need to prioritize and just like finishing when the task is done like if I did what I needed to do why do I need to do next week's to-do list why do I need to start on tomorrow's to-do list
Like, it's just I think at that point you're asking for an endless list of things that need to be completed that never ends. And you're asking for a situation in which you just genuinely never know when to stop. Like, what's the end for that? Because if it's not getting sick, like, when do you stop? If you don't stop when you're sick, if you don't stop on vacation, if you don't stop when the task is done.
It's kind of like you're in this cycle until death. And that is not necessarily the way that I'm planning on living my life. So that's been my first revelation as of recently that I am
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So I want to give you guys like a little personal update around like my living situation and how things have changed there. A little love life update and then a general update around the next six months. So the biggest thing is that I finished my book, which is like insane. If you are considering writing a book, nonfiction, fiction, poetry, whatever it is, I could not
could not express this more, you really should do it. But the other part of that is that it's going to be really, really hard.
Because like the average manuscript is like 80,000 words, which is ridiculous. Like absolutely insane when you think about it. That is almost the size of like a PhD thesis. It's like eight times the size of a master's thesis. So pretty intense. That's been really like on my mind in my life, taking up a lot of my time recently. Yeah.
The other thing is that I now live alone, which is incredible and possibly one of the best decisions I have ever made. I lived with roommates for the last seven years, like since I was 17 when I moved out of home.
I've lived with other people and having other people around and as somebody who I think has quite an odd strange relationship with like loneliness it always felt like until I moved in with a partner I needed to live with other people because I couldn't like imagine the silence of being alone turns out
It is not as hard as I thought it would be. It's actually super peaceful and super fulfilling. I got a record player, which I think really helped because I love being able to play music when no one's home. I think it fills the silence. But the other component of it is that you just get to do whatever the hell you want with your own space.
You know, you get to have your friends over and bring like the mattress out into the living room. You get to leave the kitchen as messy or as clean as you want it. You get to take the bins out when you would like. If something isn't done, it's on you. There's not this like bubbling resentment towards somebody else. So I freaking love it. I absolutely love it. I can't imagine. I really am thinking back to how I lived with other people for so long.
I used to live with like really good friends of mine and I love them so much. That was amazing. I think the change happens when you start to live with strangers though. And it's kind of like, well, you know, you just don't have that same connection that makes it feel worthwhile. And I had the opportunity to move out by myself to like a little cottage house. I was about to say where I live, probably not smart, but yeah, to like this little cottage house in like Sydney and
and I just got like the most amazing deal. I really cannot express it. At the time, I was like, actually, I'm going to clarify. I was like, yeah, I've got the most amazing deal. Like this is so affordable. How is this house so cheap? I'll tell you why the house is so cheap. Number one, it doesn't have air conditioning or like any form of heating.
and the windows are super, super thin. The bedroom is like right onto the street, which is like kind of a vibe because you can hear every single person's conversations. But it also means that the house is freezing cold and the bathroom, the windows in the bathroom are like those pained kind of windows that like, there'll be like six and they'll like open up. Do you know what I'm talking about? It's like
Oh my gosh, I really wish I could show you a photo. But like, yeah, it's kind of like those pained windows that have like slats and they basically they shouldn't be in a bathroom, especially the ones that are this old because they don't close all the way and some of them are like cracked. So it means that...
anytime you go in there during winter which it is now winter in Australia it's like freezing cold probably not if you're probably not freezing if you live in the US or like Canada or someplace where it snows like I am still living in Sydney the coldest it gets is like 15 degrees Celsius so I can't complain too much but yeah that's the other reason why this house is cheap and the final reason is
is that you can hear everything that the neighbors are doing and they can hear everything that you're doing, which I don't mind, but my next door neighbor is cranky and I'm
I was having like a board game night with like four of my close friends. Only two of us were drinking out of the five of us. And it wasn't like we were like, listen, we're not doing like fireball shots. We're not playing like loud music on the TV. We are sitting at the kitchen table playing Herd Mentality, which is an amazing board game if you haven't heard of it. And she like comes over and is like,
basically threatens to like call the police on us and is like you are being a nuisance bear in mind it is 9 45 on a saturday night with five women in their 20s eating pasta playing a board game this is not a rager and so yeah now we're in this like kind of tug of war where she oh my god also anytime i leave my front door open because i like to have like a breeze coming through she'll i'll like see her walk past and like stare in with her little dogs
and it is super strange I'm like yep I still live here don't worry I'm not going anywhere um so that's one thing final thing it's under a flight path probably should have said that first as somebody who does like audio work for their like profession um yeah it's required a few adaptations to my life because I really cannot express how loud this is um it is like a there it is like
full-on like Boeing 777s or whatever the huge cargo planes like flying so close to my house that I can see the screws on the bottom of the plane it is something you get used to though so listen I thought I was getting a good deal it still is a good deal and I'm still so happy but this is your reminder that if something seems a little bit too good to be true
you should definitely check in on that because for what I'm playing, I definitely think that, yeah, I'm getting what I'm paying in terms of the faultiness of this place and the downsides. Moving on to a little love update. Honestly, all positive on this front. I feel like you guys have really been following along with this relationship. Obviously, when I started this podcast, I was devastated.
devastated and heartbroken from my last relationship ending. And then, you know, throughout the course of doing the show, I had my heart broken again in a situationship. And then a year ago I came on and was like, oh my God, surprise, surprise. I've met somebody and what the heck, it's going really well. And this is really healthy and he's a really nice person and I don't feel insecure at all. What is happening? What is going on?
And yeah, we celebrated our one year last week, which is like absolutely wild because I still remember sitting down for that life update episode and being like, I've met this really nice guy and I really hope that it works. But yeah, he's we're doing amazing. I don't like to speak about him too much because he has like a like real big boy job.
if that's even like a way of saying it like he's a lawyer and has like real clients and you know it just feels a lot more consequential and like a lot more serious and I don't want to like bring him on as much and like talk about his life as much in case it like interrupts with what he's doing but he doesn't really seem to mind so shout out to the love of my life he is so sweet this is your reminder to freaking wait for the right person and
you will know it when you see it and when you feel it like it's I don't know I hate all those cliches I'm so sorry to be that person that I hated when I was single who was like when you know you'll know but like
it's really true. It's really true. And as for like a more general life update, as I'm recording this, I'm literally leaving for London in tomorrow. Tomorrow. I'm leaving for London at like 12pm tomorrow. My stomach kind of dropped when I said that. I've
I'm still like deathly afraid of planes so we'll see how that one works out I'm I'll be fine it is a long flight from Australia though so if you're like listening from the UK please hit me up if you've ever done the flight to Australia because you will know how
like heinous it is it's like 24 hours on a plane and the jet lag is just like I'm not looking forward to it but I am looking forward to traveling around London I'm going to Bristol as well for an exciting launch with somebody who lives in Bristol um
That's all I'm going to say on that. Probably should have announced that before I announced my book that doesn't come out for a year, but nonetheless. I'm going to Bristol. I'm going to Paris for three days. One of my best friends from uni is living there as an actor. Insane, the places that people go. So I'm just super excited. I'm super excited to... I think that was also like some of the pressure behind why I was like, I need to get better. I need to get better.
you know this sickness cannot ruin this for me like I've spent the last months and months like working so hard I want a break when I'm overseas I think it's looking up it looks like I'm gonna have a really good time so if you're in the UK please like also message me with suggestions and
I feel like every time I go to London, I do like the same 10 things and I need to diversify the experience because when people come and visit me in Newtown and in Sydney, I'm always like, no, no, no, we're not going there. I'm going to show you the hidden spots and they have a great time. So I need like a tour guide guide.
for me in like in Hackney, in Camden, in London. So please send me your suggestions. And thank you for listening this far to this rambly episode, this life update around my recent, I guess, like emotional mental health epiphanies to do with productivity. But also just it's nice that you care about what's going on in my life and not just the psychology and the science of everybody else's lives. So thank you so much for
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