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How to Improve Any Relationship: The 4 Attachment Styles You Need to Know & Tools to Become More Secure

2022/11/17
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Mel Robbins：本期节目探讨依恋理论及其对人际关系的影响，旨在帮助听众更好地理解自身行为模式，建立更健康的人际关系。通过了解自身及他人的依恋风格，我们可以提升人际交往能力，拥有更安全、更幸福的生活。安全型依恋能够让我们在人际关系中更加自信和坦然，而了解并改善依恋风格可以让我们拥有更安全、更幸福的生活。 Mel Robbins还分享了自己在人际关系中遇到的困惑，例如总是感到被朋友排斥、伴侣对自己冷漠，以及总是与相同类型的人约会等问题。她认为，这些问题都与依恋理论有关。 Mel Robbins强调，了解并改善依恋风格能够提升生活质量，让我们在任何场合都能展现真实的自我。 Dr. Marisa Franco：依恋理论的核心在于理解我们与他人建立联系的方式。依恋风格分为四种：安全型、焦虑型、逃避型和混乱型。安全型依恋的人能够舒适地给予和接受爱，信任他人，并理性处理冲突；焦虑型依恋的人核心恐惧是被抛弃，容易过度解读他人的行为；逃避型依恋的人不信任他人，避免亲密关系；混乱型依恋的人在亲密关系中表现出焦虑和逃避两种行为模式的交替。 Dr. Marisa Franco详细解释了每种依恋风格的特点和表现，并指出依恋风格会影响我们给予和接受爱的方式，进而影响我们建立健康人际关系的能力。她还分享了识别不同依恋风格的方法，以及如何改善依恋风格，例如通过自我表达、关注自身感受等方式来重新连接自己的情绪。 Dr. Marisa Franco还强调了安全型依恋的重要性，并指出可以通过与安全型依恋的人相处，以及学习接纳爱的方式来改善自身依恋风格。她还谈到了焦虑型和逃避型依恋的人在处理愤怒时的不同方式，以及如何与这两种依恋风格的人有效沟通。

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Introduction to attachment theory and its importance in understanding and improving relationships.

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What if you could show up in any relationship feeling secure, exactly as you are?

 

You didn’t have to overthink every text you sent. 

 

You wouldn’t have to play the dating games.

 

If somebody ghosted you, it wouldn’t be the end of the world. 

 

Well I’m here to tell you today that you CAN be that person. 

 

Meet the phenomenal Dr. Marisa Franco, New York Times bestselling author of “Platonic” and expert on attachment theory.

 

Today, we’re shining a light on your attachment style.

 

What is an attachment style?

 

Simple. It’s a framework backed by decades of research that will help you understand how you show up in relationships.

 

There are 4 attachment styles, and whether you’re aware of it or not, you default to one of them.

 

If you have a hard time setting boundaries with family members…

 

If you keep dating the same kind of people… 

 

If you cling to relationships that have long expired…

 

Or if you’ve never been able to connect with someone on a deeply emotional level.

 

Blame your attachment style.

 

And here’s the good news: when you understand attachment theory, you can change your default attachment style and become more secure, which leads to happier and healthier relationships.

 

You deserve that, which is why this episode is for you.

 

Today, Dr. Franco breaks down the 4 attachment styles that make or break your relationships, AND the powerful tools you can use to improve them. 

 

Once you understand your attachment style, you’ll have a lens through which to improve absolutely every relationship, especially the one you have with yourself. 

 

Because at the deepest level, becoming more secure is about allowing love in.

 

Xo Mel 

PS: One way to let more love in is to get in touch with your big dreams. Let me help you with a free journal guide: melrobbins.com/dreambig)

 

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