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Why Do I Compare Myself to Other Men?

2024/12/6

The Dr. John Delony Show

C

Chris

投资分析师和顾问，专注于小盘价值基金的比较和分析。

J

John

一位专注于跨境资本市场、并购和公司治理的资深律师。

L

Leah

P

Paul

投资专家和教育者，专注于小盘价值基金的分析和教育。

Chris讲述了他十年来与抑郁症、焦虑症和双相情感障碍作斗争的经历，以及他如何通过药物治疗和心理咨询来管理病情。他还谈到了他与其他男性进行比较，并因此感到沮丧和焦虑。他与朋友比较，朋友拥有房产，而他只能勉强负担自己的公寓。他渴望成为一名演员，但由于社交焦虑和对自身能力的怀疑，他一直未能实现这个梦想。他寻求建议，希望能够克服这些障碍，过上更充实的生活。 John医生对Chris的勇气和韧性表示赞赏，并肯定了他为改善自身状况所做的努力。他建议Chris专注于自身目标，而不是与他人进行比较。他鼓励Chris探索自己的兴趣爱好，例如表演，并建议他从小目标开始，逐步实现自己的梦想。John医生还建议Chris开始锻炼，并与医生沟通，从防守状态转向进攻状态，积极面对生活。他鼓励Chris写一封信给35岁的自己，设定目标并为之努力。

Deep Dive

Why does the guest struggle with comparing himself to other men?

The guest struggles with comparison due to a history of mental health issues, including major depressive disorder, generalized anxiety, and bipolar type 2, which have led to a lack of self-trust and a constant need to stabilize his emotions and behaviors.

What was the guest diagnosed with about a year and a half ago?

The guest was diagnosed with bipolar type 2, identified through recurring episodes of feeling unusually good, which led to mistakes and destructive behavior.

How does the guest feel about his current job as an insurance adjuster?

The guest does not express passion for his job as an insurance adjuster and mentions it is not a career he is passionate about.

What does the host recommend for the guest to combat feelings of comparison?

The host recommends the guest explore acting, start an exercise program, and focus on building intentional relationships and community, suggesting that celebrating others' successes can be an antidote to comparison.

Why does the wife caller consider moving closer to her family?

The wife caller considers moving closer to her family to have more help with raising kids, despite liking her current area and job situation.

What advice does the host give the wife caller about building a support network?

The host advises the wife caller to intentionally build a support network by inviting friends to announce her pregnancy and establish a group of people she can rely on for help, emphasizing the importance of community and intentionality in relationships.

Why does the 44-year-old caller find it difficult to make new friends?

The 44-year-old caller finds it difficult to make new friends due to being introverted, having a busy family life, and focusing on career and family priorities, which leaves little energy for socializing.

What strategy does the host suggest for the 44-year-old caller to make new friends?

The host suggests hosting regular gatherings, such as potlucks, and inviting a diverse group of people, creating contexts for social interactions that can lead to deeper connections over time.

A man shares his decade-long battle with mental health issues, including depression, anxiety, and bipolar II disorder, and how comparing himself to others hinders his progress. He discusses his medication, therapy, and the challenges of self-doubt and self-trust. The host encourages him to focus on his aspirations and take steps towards his goals, emphasizing self-compassion and celebrating his achievements.

Long-term mental health struggles involving depression, anxiety, and bipolar II disorder
Challenges of self-comparison and self-doubt
Importance of professional help and medication
Encouragement to pursue personal goals and self-acceptance

Shownotes Transcript

On today’s episode, we hear about:

• A man struggling with comparison and self-esteem

• A wife wondering if she and her husband should move near her family before having kids

• A husband seeking advice on how to make friends in his 40s

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