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My Wife Gave Me an Ultimatum

2024/9/18
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财务规划专家和《Big Picture Retirement》播客主持人,专注于退休规划、遗嘱和信托教育。
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Devin: 我在一段关系中过度讨好,总是努力解决问题以取悦我的妻子,即使这意味着牺牲自己的需求。这导致我们之间的沟通中断,现在我们面临一个重大问题:她要我生第三个孩子,否则就离婚。我感到压力巨大,不知道该如何应对。我过去总是避免冲突,但现在我意识到这种方式是不可持续的。 John: Devin,你多年来一直过度讨好你的妻子,这导致你失去了自我,也让你的妻子习惯了这种模式。现在,她提出的生育第三个孩子的要求实际上是婚姻中更深层次问题的体现。你不能通过继续讨好来解决问题,你需要重新定义婚姻关系,明确自身需求,即使这可能导致婚姻破裂。你需要为自己的需求发声,建立健康的边界,即使这会带来不适。你需要与妻子一起,制定一个新的计划,共同创造一个你们都满意的未来。

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Devin seeks advice on navigating an ultimatum from his wife regarding having a third child. He describes a pattern of people-pleasing and conflict avoidance in his relationship, stemming from childhood experiences. Dr. Deloney emphasizes the importance of setting boundaries, open communication, and seeking professional guidance to rebuild a healthy dynamic.
  • Ultimatum in a relationship creates an impasse.
  • People-pleasing can lead to resentment and loss of autonomy.
  • Open communication and boundary setting are crucial for healthy relationships.
  • Therapy can provide tools and support for navigating relationship challenges.

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On today’s episode, we hear about:

·     A husband wondering how to respond to his wife’s ultimatum

·     A daughter about to confront her father about his past

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