I Talk to the Man Who Changed How I Connect With Others (With Will Guidara)

2024/12/11

The Dr. John Delony Show

John Deloney

Will Guidara

John Deloney: 本期节目讨论了人际关系、正直和视角等主题，并分享了与Will Guidara的对话，其中包括Will Guidara的童年经历、职业生涯以及他对人际关系和领导力的独特见解。John Deloney还分享了他自己的经验和感悟，并与Will Guidara就婚姻、育儿、友谊以及工作中的挑战进行了深入探讨。 Will Guidara: 分享了他独特的“radical hospitality”理念，以及如何在生活中实践这一理念。他强调了正直和责任感的重要性，以及在人际关系中保持积极和开放的态度。他还谈到了童年经历对他为人处世的影响，以及他对婚姻和育儿的看法。他认为爱是一种选择，需要付出努力和坚持。他还分享了“善意的假设”这一沟通技巧，以及如何避免不必要的冲突。 Will Guidara: 分享了他独特的“radical hospitality”理念，以及如何在生活中实践这一理念。他强调了正直和责任感的重要性，以及在人际关系中保持积极和开放的态度。他还谈到了童年经历对他为人处世的影响，以及他对婚姻和育儿的看法。他认为爱是一种选择，需要付出努力和坚持。他还分享了“善意的假设”这一沟通技巧，以及如何避免不必要的冲突。

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Key Insights

Why does Will Guidara prioritize integrity?

Will Guidara learned the importance of integrity from his father, who exemplified this value by caring for his quadriplegic wife for 14 years. His father's motto, "Life is filled with crossroads; at each one, ask yourself what right looks like and do that," underscores this principle, even when the right choice isn't in one's short-term best interest.

How did Will Guidara's mother's love influence him?

Despite being a quadriplegic, his mother's reckless love and radiant smile had a profound impact on him. Her persistence in living beyond her prognosis to support him instilled in him the belief in the power of love and determination. This experience shaped his approach to life and relationships, inspiring him to prioritize connection and presence.

What is "unreasonable hospitality" and how does it apply to relationships?

Unreasonable hospitality involves being creative and intentional in pursuing relationships. While it's a business concept, Guidara believes it extends to all relationships. It means going above and beyond expectations, even with strangers, as demonstrated by the gate agents' interactions with his daughter. In marriage, it translates to actively pursuing one's partner daily and choosing to love them.

Why does Will Guidara dislike the phrase "I can't"?

Guidara's father instilled in him a disdain for "I can't," emphasizing the importance of believing in oneself and pursuing goals without fear of failure. He was given a paperweight inscribed with "What would you attempt to do if you knew you could not fail?" as a constant reminder of this principle.

What is the "charitable assumption" and how does it improve interactions?

The charitable assumption involves asking a question before making a judgment, giving people the benefit of the doubt. For instance, instead of assuming someone is late because they are inconsiderate, ask if they are okay. This promotes understanding and prevents miscommunication, improving relationships both at work and at home.

Is Will Guidara optimistic about younger generations in the workforce?

Yes, Guidara is optimistic about Gen Z. He believes that much of the criticism stems from older generations failing to adapt their leadership styles to the needs of younger workers. He advocates for understanding their "love language" and giving them a seat at the table in decision-making processes.

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