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The Manipulation Expert: Most People Don't Realise They're Narcissists! You're Setting Your Child Up For Misery!

2025/2/27
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Are you being manipulated without knowing it? Robert Greene reveals the silent tactics of influence and how to take back control  

Robert Greene, returning for his third time on DOAC, is a world-renowned expert on human psychology and behaviour. He is also a multiple New York Times bestselling-author of 7 books such as, ‘The 48 Laws of Power’, ‘The Art of Seduction’ and ‘The 33 Strategies of War’.

In this conversation, Robert and Steven discuss topics such as, how most people don’t realise they’re narcissists, the hidden cost of porn, why you’re setting your child up for misery, and why good people never win.

00:00 Intro

02:14 The Most Important Decision of Your Life

04:53 Is There a Strategy for Finding Your Purpose?

09:52 Is It Harder to Find Your Purpose When You're Older?

14:30 The Only Way to Learn Anything!

15:50 Why Do We Procrastinate?

17:11 We Need to Develop Toughness and Set Limits

20:08 Skills Are the Gold of Today's World

23:02 The Longer Road vs. Shortcuts

26:34 Channeling Your Dark Side

30:31 How Important Is Focus for Mastery?

41:27 Too Many People Want Quick Returns

43:36 The Different Types of Intelligence

47:05 Controlling Your Envy Is Important

52:29 Use Your Envy to Become Better

54:13 Why Mastery Is Still a Successful Book

55:53 What Is the Solution to Loneliness and Powerlessness?

01:01:30 The Difference Between Being Lonely and Alone

01:09:49 How Pornography Hooks You

01:16:10 Ads

01:17:15 Are We Breeding a Culture of Lower Motivation Because of Porn?

01:21:43 What Do We Not Want to Admit About Human Nature?

01:24:28 The Narcissist in Us

01:27:20 Dealing With Narcissists

01:28:47 Do We Have to Be Actors to Get Ahead?

01:30:42 Do You Need Lies and Manipulation to Succeed in Life?

01:33:16 The Contribution Score

01:35:09 Let Others Do the Work, but Take the Credit

01:39:42 The Importance of Self-Control

01:44:00 What to Do When Injustice Is Done to Us

01:48:29 Predators Love Prey

01:49:31 Are We Going Through Dangerous Times?

01:57:16 Wokeism and Trump: Which Side Got Things Right and Wrong?

02:02:47 The Power of the Masses Can Be Dangerous

02:05:56 Are We Caught Up in Maniac Solutions?

02:08:33 Ads

02:09:28 What Does Our Identity Mean to Us?

02:13:59 Our Minds Are Getting Smaller!

02:19:33 Judging Based on Appearances

02:22:54 How Does Someone With Power Behave?

02:25:33 Can You Fake It Until You Make It?

02:26:10 How to Be Confident

02:28:20 How to Believe in Yourself When You Don't

02:34:36 What to Do in Negotiations

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