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Dr. K emphasizes the importance of self-understanding as a crucial first step towards improving mental well-being and relationships. He discusses the pitfalls of self-diagnosis and the TikTokification of mental health, highlighting the need for differential diagnosis and internal work. Dr. K shares his background and experiences, emphasizing the combination of spirituality and science in his approach.
  • Good diagnosis precedes good treatment.
  • The majority of men's mental health work is internal, focusing on self-understanding and control.
  • Women have a slight advantage in mental health due to higher emotional awareness and verbal fluency.
  • Self-development junkies often seek information but don't implement change.
  • Talking about problems can worsen them if it's just venting without emotional catharsis.
  • Negative emotions are the primary motivators for change.

Shownotes Transcript

Welcoming back Dr Alok Kanojia onto DOAC for the second time, this conversation covers a variety of subjects from the search for purpose, the journey of healing, the loneliness epidemic to the role of dopamine in our lives, specifically around sex and relationships, amongst many more.

Dr K is a psychiatrist and co-founder of the mental health coaching company 'Healthy Gamer', which aims to help with modern stressors, such as social media, video games, and online dating.

(0:00) Intro

(1:35) What Does Dr K Do?

(2:57) Dr K's Background

(5:35) The TikTok-ification Of Mental Health

(8:13) Dr K's Thoughts On Men's Mental Health

(10:57) What About Women's Issues?

(13:38) How Do I Understand Myself?

(16:57) Self-Development Junkies

(18:22) Talking About Our Problems Makes Them Worse

(23:00) Deficiency Promotion

(24:46) The Role Of Dopamine In Happiness

(27:23) Serotonin's Role

(28:59) Why Couples Get Comfortable & Have Less Sex!

(30:57) How To Love And Find Love

(34:11) Stress And The Effects On Libido

(35:57) The Science Behind Attraction

(40:32) Should We Plan Sex?

(41:58) Continuous Exposure Reduces Emotions

(44:08) How To Keep Sex Exciting When It Becomes A Chore

(47:38) The Dangers Of Devices On Our Relationships

(53:14) The Generations That Were Born Connected

(55:15) Are People Becoming More Narcissistic?

(1:01:30) The Lonely Epidemic

(1:03:53) It All Comes From Within

(1:09:07) Believing Something In Your Mind Makes It True

(1:13:24) You're Suppressing Your Emotions

(1:16:31) How To Process Your Emotions

(1:22:26) The Research On Yoga As A Form Of Therapy

(1:26:40) Trauma And The Ability To Achieve Our Goals

(1:31:47) Parenting With More Autonomy = Better Kids

(1:33:14) How To Become A Self-Starter

(1:34:33) Where Steven's Drive Comes From

(1:41:32) What Do People See When They Look At Steven?

(1:43:03) You Need To Fix Trauma, Not Cover It Up

(1:49:46) How Do You Heal?

(1:55:10) The Journey Of Healing

(2:03:48) What Is Mukti?

(2:05:02) How Can We Listen To Ourselves When We Have So Much To Do?

(2:08:40) How Do We Get To Happiness?

(2:11:18) Morning Routines For Calm

(2:13:27) How To Demolish A Habit

(2:14:49) The Benefits Of Keeping A Diary

(2:15:59) What Are People Looking For?

(2:18:42) How Do Young People Find Their Purpose?

(2:21:03) What Is A Quarter-Life Crisis?

(2:30:04) The Best Questions Are Deep In Your Heart

(2:32:28) How Can Steven Be A Better Podcaster?

(2:33:46) The Guest's Last Question

You can order Dr Alok’s book, ‘How to Raise a Healthy Gamer’, here: https://amzn.to/3V5jfLV

To learn more from Dr Alok in his Guide to Mental Health: https://www.healthygamer.gg/about/guide)

Dr Alok’s YouTube Channel: https://g2ul0.app.link/UmQFv9HjjNb)

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