Bonus #71 - Gavin Matts [PATREON PREVIEW]
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Hey, Savvy. I just called in and I want to redo that because they didn't give enough context. So first off,

38 years old after three year old boy. I'm married to a Japanese woman. We've been together for about five, six years now. That actually sounds like what I'd like to have going on by the time I'm 30. You don't have sex. Yeah, you don't have sex. Oh, never mind. It's been about six months since the last time we had sex. And for most people that'd be a deal breaker, but I don't know if you know anything about Japanese culture.

she doesn't care if I fuck other women. As long as I show up for the marriage, provide for the family, she's not going to divorce me. That's my question to you. Eldest, book a first class ticket to Tokyo. Eldest, get Delta on the horn. When's the next JFK to Tokyo? Laughter

Anyway, alright, sorry, let's keep going here. I know in the western sense, you want to have a woman that'll put out for you that you're one and only. In the western sense, relax. How would you feel if you were in my situation? And for some context, that's the reason I broke up with my ex. You know, I wanted to fuck with women and now I have that.

I'm sorry. For some context, my last relationship didn't work because I wanted more pussy.

The fucking academic language and being like, no, I know in the Western sense, like, relax. I don't like judging anybody off like the tone of their voice. But I am like, I don't think you should be around any women. Yeah, this guy just feel, I mean, maybe he's not like this, but he feels like a fucking, just like some way too skinny white guy in a kimono who knows like, who has samurai swords. Yeah.

who's really feeling himself and he talks about how he connects more with the eastern ways and it's like he's some fucking guy from Ohio or whatever. Anyway, let's finish. Let's finish. You know, I wanted to fuck with women and now I have that and I kind of get everything that I wanted to. Like, I got a good wife, I got a good mother and I can fuck the people I want. Who are these people? But I'm conflicted. You know, I grew up in the West, I grew up Catholic,

not Eastern Orthodox like you, but, uh, just... Yeah, the sect of religion is the problem. That's how you'd feel about it, you know? Anyway, I'm curious as to the way you think.

Thanks. Looking forward to your response. Oh, man. Dude, this is so interesting. I got everything I ever wanted. I got a good mother. I got a good wife. I can fuck the people I want. That was kind of like going into life. I was like, I need three things. I need three things. Good wife. Good mother. Who raises my half-Japanese son well and some strange pussy. I mean, look...

What is the... This is just a brag.

He's calling in to brag. Yeah, he wasn't being like, how do I get my wife to be sexually active with me? It's just like, should I fucking fuck other people? Yeah, the problem is you grew up Catholic. That's your problem. What in this voicemail is an issue? I don't think he got everything he wants. I think he's uncomfortable with how much she's just turning a blind eye.

He's not. What are you talking about? I'm also like, did she move here? Where is she from when he's saying Japanese? I think he lives there. Does he? Or no, she's a Japanese woman. Yeah, she's a Japanese woman. I feel like... And they have a three-year-old son, but I'm like, is this like... Because my dad had a friend, Paul, who he was like...

worked in like travel and he had like a chinese wife that he brought over to canada and then they had a son and then they later like divorced and my i remember being like this is weird yeah and this isn't gonna last and it didn't right she just wanted to take it to america yeah is that the situation which i'm like that's a come up and you paid your dues if you had a son with this guy absolutely you know what i mean absolutely yeah is this like i also like also i

I'm not super familiar with Japanese culture, but I also feel like from what... From the movies I've watched, I'm like, it is very controlling from men over...

over women like talking about sex like the handmaiden or something yeah they fuck octopuses or something well like i know i know they don't see well according to like four tiktoks i've seen i know they don't see prostitution as like cheating they see it as like yeah oh yeah you're just knocking it out which and cite those references in the show notes yeah yeah yeah yeah and and then but i don't know like she just lets you fuck other like

Are there parameters? Is it a don't ask, don't tell? Do you want to have a fucking... Do you want to have a girlfriend? Are you allowed to have a girlfriend? Like, what do you mean you're allowed to fuck other people? Also, he hasn't brought up that he's fucked anyone, right? I mean, maybe he has, but I feel like he'd bring it up if he's already... Like, who are you fucking? Where are these women? And... No, they're people, man. Uh...

You don't know him. I don't know him. He could be fucking, you're right. I do kind of want a list of like, I'm fucking people like this and I meet them here. I'm like, how are you going about this? And like, when's the last time? How often are you having sex with other people? And like, it feels very like in a way you're trying to control a sex addiction almost. Well, yeah, that's the thing. But I'm like, six months is a long time. Six months is long. That's the other thing. It's like, you don't, I guess my question to this guy is, that's cool, but

But do you not want to fuck your wife? Like, that doesn't to me sound like the best setup. Like, it sounds like you're just partners now, like in a business venture. Even if I had a wife who occasionally let me fuck other women, which, you know, I think if I really thought about it, my dream would be like, my wife, like, would be bi and wants to fuck a woman with me every like two, three years, you know, spice it up. Maybe I'd think I'd die. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Like an eclipse or something. Every, every, yeah. February 29th.

On the solstice, we get pussy together. But like, even if I had something like that, the idea that I wouldn't fuck my wife ever and I would just... Like, he acts like he's a king who was forced into a political marriage and he has to have concubines now. Like, what?

are you like truly are you happy even him saying also you might not get this because you're eastern orthodox yeah right right right right the culture might be too different but like is this what you want like he said for some context my last relationship didn't work because i wanted to fuck other women i think like it's just it's a little weird here i know so then is it like because you want i'm just not sure what he's even fucking asking

I think he's just kind of uncomfortable with being a white guy who probably exclusively dates Asian women or something. He's not uncomfortable about that. But I think he is. Where do you see that? I think what he's saying is... Well, he did point out that she was Japanese. But that's only to give us... Why do we even need that context? Well, it's Japanese culture. Because it wouldn't matter if we were like...

Oh, I'm married to someone who wants me to fuck other people and doesn't want to fuck me. Well, I think to be clear that it's not a weird poly setup. It's like a traditional... It's almost like you're so misogynistic, it's your polyamorous. And so that's traditional over there? Huh? That's traditional? Yes. I don't even know that that's true. The thing that he's saying is normalized in Japanese culture is not just that your wife lets you fuck whoever you want. It's that...

I feel like in their culture, like, it's so based on, like, shame or something that you would rather turn a blind eye than, like, get angry and divorce or something. And I think, like, I think it's kind of weird. But why don't they fuck? Here's the thing that I don't get.

He's a white guy. He's not Japanese, so he doesn't have honor. Yeah, exactly. I know, but that's what she sees too. And they probably fuck it like she resents him or something because she knows he's fucking around. But he's claiming that she lets him. This just seems like a weird setup to me. It's just not a big enough window into his life. We don't know enough. I'm like, what's the one with lack of context? Because I still don't.

I still don't understand. Like, are you happy? Like, scroll all the way down. What's this even fucking... That's what I'm saying. What the fuck is this question? He wants... It's not even anything he wants to know. How we feel about it? Okay. We think you'd be sick if you fuck other women. I think it's weird unless your wife is either cool... Like, she... Because she's basically saying...

You can fuck other women as long as you provide, right? Which, again, I'm not even sure is exactly what Japanese culture is. I think, like, to just say this because of Japanese culture, like, are you in a good marriage? Do you want to be fucking married? Does your wife... Your wife doesn't want to fuck you? Is she just not interested in sex? Like...

That to me is weird. It is like a fuck. It's one thing to be like an open thing or like she likes it, but she just don't ask, don't tell. I handle raising our son. You bring in the checks. We don't fuck ever anymore and you get to fuck whoever you want. That's not a real, that's just a weird setup to me. I don't get it. And I wouldn't like it to be complete. If you're asking how I feel about it, I wouldn't like that. I'm like, how do I explain that? Why am I with this woman? Why aren't we just divorced? Yeah.

Yeah. Is it? Yeah, exactly. Who's now forming memories as I'm... Should I fuck other people? Well, that's the thing. It's like, I guess the idea is he has to cheat. It's not an open relationship. He just has to do his shit...

It's like, why do you want to live that way? Yeah, then I guess it's just sex work and you go get that head. Doesn't sound bad, actually, now that you say it that way. But you have to pick up a couple extra shifts to buy pussy. I mean, what he's describing sounds not healthy, but normal, just in an old-fashioned... I'm sure there's plenty of Albanian couples that I've known who are probably sexless, loveless marriages where the wife turns a blind eye.

But they're not happy about it. He almost makes it seem like it's just part of cult. Like, that's my thing. I don't think he's saying she's happy about it. Because if she's not happy about it, then he's giving himself a pass and saying, well, she's Japanese. I get side-pussed. Because if she's not happy about it... I think that is what he's doing. So if she's not happy about it, then, like, to me... And maybe that's why she's not having sex with him is because she knows he cheated. Yeah.

But it's also like, why are you trying to get side? Yes. He's like, or he wants to cheat. It's like, yeah. Why? If she's not happy about this, why don't you try and repair your fucking relationship and fuck your wife? I just don't get that. Yeah. Isn't that awesome? Because to have a wife and you fuck. That's the whole point. Yeah. That's like the dream. Yeah. It's like, I just don't. Yeah. So I guess I need a little more. Could you imagine just having sex with your best friend? Yeah, dude. That's fucking awesome, dude.

But they're obviously not close, you know? No, I don't want to fuck Elvis. He's disgusting. I don't think they have, like, inside jokes. Yeah, that's a good point. Maybe this is just some kind of weird, yeah, I don't know. Sorry if you do have inside jokes. Yeah, I mean. I need to know more because, like, what's even the point of this setup? Yeah, I just feel like you're kind of abandoning. I mean, I guess he's 38. He's kind of fucking, you know.

He's probably some fucking anime fan. Got himself some Japanese pussy. Yeah, I think for me, I don't have a hard time imagining like this setup is like weird and that it's not healthy, but I can totally see it. Anime is cool, but I can't like binge it, you know? She like hurts my eyes, dog. Yeah, okay. So I guess if we're reading this right and she's not into it,

Then I don't know, man. Try and fix your fucking marriage and don't cheat that much. And this is crazy to get me to be anti-cheating. I'm usually pretty pro-cheating, but something just feels bad about this. Understand if she feels comfortable with this or not. Because here's the other thing. I have friends with young children. It's like,

Your life is fucking chaos when you have a child that's like ages one to like four. Yeah, and it's the first time they've done it because it's their first kid. Yeah, and it's like, do you help with that? Or is she just completely overwhelmed? Yes, she doesn't want to fuck because she's like... Tired. Yeah, exactly. And you work. And what are you even doing? And then you come back after, oh, I provide for my family. I want sex. Come back smelling like pussy. Yeah, come back smelling good. Yeah.

Anyway, that's what I think of it, if that's your question. Sorry, I don't... Whatever, fuck this guy.