cover of episode Bonus #103 - Sydnee Washington [PATREON PREVIEW]

Bonus #103 - Sydnee Washington [PATREON PREVIEW]

2024/11/22
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Key Insights

Why is the caller concerned about karma despite her involvement in an affair?

The caller believes in karma and worries that her current actions might lead to her being cheated on in the future, possibly by someone younger.

What specific actions by the older man indicate that he is cheating?

The man hides evidence of the caller's presence, such as returning her hair clips and using a handheld vacuum to clean up her hair strands.

Why do the hosts advise the caller to end the relationship?

The hosts believe the relationship is unhealthy and that the man does not care about the caller, as evidenced by his actions and the fact that he is cheating on his long-term girlfriend.

What does the caller fear about her future relationships?

The caller fears that her future partner might cheat on her, possibly with someone younger, similar to her current situation.

How do the hosts view the caller's moral stance in the affair?

The hosts find the caller's moral stance confusing and hypocritical, as she is aware of the man's cheating but still engages with him.

Chapters

A woman questions whether she's morally wrong for dating a man she suspects is cheating on his girlfriend.
  • The caller is dating a man she believes is cheating on his long-term girlfriend.
  • She feels guilty but believes she's not the one hiding or cheating.
  • The hosts advise her to leave the relationship due to its immoral nature.

Shownotes Transcript

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So I am seeing a much older man right now. He's very hot, very charming. He's British, so he has a really fun accent. And we met on a certain app that is used for hooking up.

And yeah, we've been having a really good time together, but there is a really big problem. So I am pretty positive that he is cheating on his girlfriend. We talked about it before. He has a long-term girlfriend, probably about four or five years. And he keeps on saying, oh, they're in a sexless relationship. They never have sex, yada, yada.

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I'm pretty certain he's cheating. He's openly talking about cheating. What are you talking about? You're pretty certain. Girl, you just wanted to send this to us because it is clear. There's no, yeah, there's no pretty. You're not really. Yeah, I mean, this is hilarious. But let's see. We're feeling some mental gymnastics on her part already, but let's see the rest of it.

So awesome. Or he'll be like, oh, yeah, I did. And she probably wouldn't be happy if she found out about it.

Um, and he also hides all the evidence of me when I come to his place. So he has sent me my hair clips before that I've left over, which thank you, I guess. Um, and then the last time in particular, he, I came out and he had one of those handheld vacuums and he was hitting the couch. And I was like, what are you doing with that? And he was like,

Oh, I am picking up your hair. Like, picking up my strands of hair. Whatever.

- So my question is, am I morally wrong for doing this? My opinion is that I'm not the one who's cheating. I'm not the one who's hiding. But I do feel horrible if this is hurting his girlfriend. And also, I totally believe in karma. - Hilarious. - I'm worried that when I'm in my 50s, maybe my partner will be cheating on me with somebody in their 30s. - They will.

And then also, does it sound like you've done this before? Oh, it's not his first video. Oh my God. Yeah, would love your thoughts on this. Thanks, bye.

An incredible call. Girl. It sounds like. I'm pretty certain. I mean, yeah. Girl, you crazy for this one. Honestly, you need to get out of this because this is going to end bad for you. Yeah. Like, this guy doesn't get, like, I'm sorry, he doesn't give a fuck about you. This is what he's doing to his wife. You think he cares about you? He's vacuuming in front of you. Wow.

Babe, like you're some golden retriever and all your hair is around. He's like, oh, you know, I got other guests coming and I don't want to get in on their coat. Like, girl, stand up. Stand up and get out. Stand up and get out. This is not... You haven't told me anything that is so, like, good for me. Like, you got to stay. Yeah, yeah. It's not like...

He's investing in a nonprofit that you started or like your mother's sick. Are you on the payroll? You know what I mean? Is there like an arrangement thing? I said, is your mother sick? Or you said, are you on the payroll? Well, yeah, sorry. I didn't hear the is your mother sick part. I sort of said it. But go ahead. Yeah, is your mother sick? Is he helping her? Is that what you're saying? Yeah. Yeah. This is a no for me. And karma is real. I don't know about that.

You think karma's real? Yeah. Evil people will die happy so much. I don't think so. You really don't think so? They're miserable in a way that we just can't see. Maybe. Well, either way. Okay. I think even if we weren't even to delve into the moral question here.

that You this would be what when you're like you're right. You don't hear anything. That's like why should you stay? Yeah, unless it was like I'm just having if you really were having a good time in a Disposable way you're like look I'm just looking at if you're like our first caller or our last caller who was like I'm just trying to fuck and he's hot and all his shit is none of my fucking business I'm in and out

- We can't support this. - And then we would be like, okay, there's a reason to stay, but now let's talk about the morals.

we haven't even crossed over to that. Like, it's not even worth talking about the morality because I just don't think this is a good relationship for you. Even if we haven't gotten into like whether it's right or wrong, which of course it is wrong. I mean, it's wrong, but it's a matter of like, do you really give a fuck? Girl, you wasting me and Stavi's time because you know what it is. Yes. I mean, even the thing about like,

You being worried that when you're in your 50s, it's like, girl, it can happen to you in your 20s, your 30s. It doesn't matter. Like somebody, if he's dogging you out, he going, somebody else is going to dog you out. Like, that's just how I think the tables turn. And it's just better to not have that on your, like, how are you coming? Knowing that he's not making somebody else that he's married to come. Yeah.

uh yeah i mean i'm probably not thinking about her at that moment i would think about it wow i would think about it because when i've been with somebody and they're not making me come i'm like damn there was somebody before me that was not busting that time right that's wild how far back does this go

Start with they father. It's probably they dad. Or they grandpa. You never know. So yes, I think you're, and maybe it's not karma, but maybe you're the kind of person who is attracted. This type of guy really works on her. This type of like debonair, whatever dickhead. She didn't tell me, she didn't tell us though why it works. She doesn't tell me why she's pressed. Rich,

Rich, old, British, like cheater. These guys are charming. You know what I mean? You got an accent? Teeth are fucked up. So yellow, like butter. I don't. He could be a piece of ass. But anyway, yes, you don't want to do it. And you're too naive about this whole thing. Yes. And you're doing weird mental gymnastics.

You're not happy. You got a couple nuts off, hopefully. - Hopefully. - And go on, let go. You lived through it and now you can reflect on it. And I think when you're not in the middle of it, you will actually, when you're not in the middle of engaging in the behavior, you'll learn how you actually felt about it. And my hunch is you're not gonna, you're gonna feel a little embarrassed and like, I shouldn't have done that. Just 'cause you sound like a nice person.

What else we got, Eldo? Why does she sound like a nice person? She does. She sent us a voice memo or some shit. She knew she was dead wrong. Girl, you like hearing your voice. All right, fuck you. I don't care. Fuck this bitch. You fucking homewrecking whore. Is that what you wanted, Sid?