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Hey everybody, welcome back to our podcast. This is Murder With My Husband. I'm Peyton Moreland. And I'm Garrett Moreland. And he's the husband. And I'm the husband. Well, if you are watching on YouTube, you have already noticed the newest addition to Murder With My Husband. And if you are listening on podcasts...

Garrett finally got me a puppy. I did. So, yes, we have a puppy. She is hanging out right here on Peyton's lap. And no, we do not have a name.

We are working on it. I think we've narrowed it down to two, but we're not going to say anything until we know for sure what her name is. So she's super cute. That's all I can say. And she's been really good. She has been really good. She sleeps through the night. She's had a couple, you know, potty mistakes, but that's all I can say.

That's probably on us more than anything because we have no idea what we are doing. We are reading a lot, though. We're not being irresponsible. Yes. We're trying our best. She's doing pretty good. But so anyways, Murder With My Husband now finally has a mascot and she is sitting on my lap and she will be named here shortly. Next week, we will for sure have a name for her. Yes.

Right now she is like 3.3 pounds, 3.2 pounds. Yeah. Um, we'll see how big she gets. It's kind of a hit or miss. She could be seven pounds. She could be 10 pounds. She could be 15 pounds. I'm not sure. I don't think she'll be bigger than, than 10 pounds, but we don't know. She is a micro mini golden doodle. Um,

I don't know. I wish I had a name for her, but we don't. Other than that, she's extremely cute. We're super excited. There's now three of us. It feels kind of weird. I don't know. It does feel weird. It was definitely like a pretty big life change the first couple days. It was very last minute. Yeah, just kind of out of the blue. Well, you guys know that we've been wanting one for a long time, but this one just kind of came right time, right place. And...

It's definitely weird because we're just so used to it being us two, but it's starting to feel more normal. Like we're starting to feel like a little family. Yeah. But other than that, Garrett, do you have your 10 seconds? For my 10 seconds this week, hopefully it is not a letdown. We are actually doing a redrop of Strangey Dangy merch. This has been the number one most asked product.

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Very quickly, last week we did drop three more episodes of our new show, Binge. So if you haven't listened to it yet, go check it out. Okay, our case sources are Mommy13, Wikipedia, charlieproject.org, krqe.com, and newspapers.com. Now, anyone who's listening to this, including me, has heard Garrett say before, actually pretty recently, this is the craziest episode I've heard.

But today's story may top anything that we've ever covered before. Today's story has UFOs, alien lizard queens, cancer cures, petri dish babies, cannibalism, ninja swords, murder for hire militias, new world order, you name it. Everything. And of course,

There's a murder. Sounds like a video game. It also may not surprise you to learn that with its UFO and alien theme, this story takes place in New Mexico, home of Roswell, the flying saucer capital of the world. And also, I know that they are not called UFOs anymore. They're called UAPs now for Unidentified Aerial Phenomenons. But I grew up with UFOs, so I'm going to refer to it as UFO because I feel like everyone

Everyone refers to as UFO and I like UFO. So like I said, we're about to land in some pretty wacky terrain with this case and it all begins at SeaWorld. Now I know that a lot of us are aware of the moral issues that arise with SeaWorld. I don't need nor really want to go into that but couldn't continue on without acknowledging that unethical animal parks do exist and it's important to do your research before supporting such places.

But our story takes place back in the 90s. And so in everyone's defense, this was far before the general public had knowledge and insight that we do now. And needless to say, SeaWorld in the 90s was the kind of

place that you... It was poppin'. Yes, it was poppin'. And you could take for granted as an adult, you know, there was the whale's majesty, the dolphin's intelligence, the sea lion's personality, and their often adorable interactions with trainers and park visitors. Back then, and even now, if you so wish, you can go to SeaWorld as an adult and find yourself totally blindsided by how enchanted you are. And

And that's how it was for Gurley Chu, the woman at the front of our case, the first time that she visited SeaWorld in 1989. Now, Gurley was visiting the U.S. from Malaysia, where she was from, and she was visiting with her friend Susan Oh when they stopped at SeaWorld in San Diego. And they actually had such a good time that they went back again the next year and then the year after that.

And in 1992, Gurley's trip to SeaWorld came bundled with a surprise. A chance meeting with a captivating American man who charmed her from the word go.

His name was Diazin Hosenkoft. And though he was only in his late 20s, Diazin was as accomplished as he seemed worldly. He was a medical doctor, a geneticist, a thoracic surgeon who had also worked in the past as a scientist for the CIA and for NASA. He was born in Switzerland to a Japanese mother and German father.

And Diazin had a bachelor of science degree from Tokyo University, a master's in chemistry from Stanford, a master's in genetic engineering from San Francisco University, and he'd gotten his PhD from Cornell. - Geez, this guy's a wizard. - Right. He was a man who had written over 40 medical research papers and had a CV that was seven pages long.

But not only was Diazin an impressive high achiever, he was also confident, outgoing, funny, and he quickly wooed Girly Chu at SeaWorld that day. Told her she was a beautiful, dazzling woman. And when she returned to her native Malaysia, they actually began a pen pal correspondence that quickly ripened into a romance.

Gurley and Diazin were not just a vacation fling. And pretty soon, Gurley was planning her next visit to the States, not for SeaWorld, but to see Diazin in person again. Just butting in here real quick. When I was in sixth grade, I had a pen pal from England. We talked for like a couple of years. I don't know. What are the chances he's listening? I don't remember his name. So it's not going to help very much.

So he's probably not listening either. But I think his name was Ryan. I, gosh, I can't remember. Anyways, I had a pen pal from like sixth to eighth grade and he's from England and he was awesome. I had a pen pal in fourth grade. Okay. It was my cousin. She lived in Tennessee. Don't try to one-up me. Keep going. Okay. So Gurley is going to go back to America and much to the disapproval of her parents, Gurley moved to Albuquerque, New Mexico in December of 1992.

This is after Dyson bought her a $7,000 engagement ring. And on January 8th, 1993, the two were married. They were moving into a house together in Albuquerque. So it's safe to say that this was a courtship that moved very fast.

And Gurley Chu, who was now Gurley Chu Hosenkoft, the wife of an esteemed young doctor, had hardly spent any time at all with Dr. Dyazin before making this move. He even sent a letter apologizing to her furious parents for not requesting their daughter's hand in marriage. By the way, if you're wondering right now about the name Dyazin, you're not alone.

Wow.

Seems like there was only one person in human history who ever had this last name, and that was Diasenhausenkoft, Gurley's new husband. But his parents didn't? No. Okay.

So, so Dyson explained to Gurley that his name was actually equal parts German and Japanese, which he added were the two master races, in his opinion. He explained the name came from representation from both of his parents. So they combined their name and gave him the last name. And Gurley Chu accepted this explanation. That's why he's the only one.

And she accepted this kind of like she accepted everything he told her. For example, his story about his first wife that she had been, you know, he told Gurley gravely injured in a car accident that took the lives of his two young children. And then he had another revelation for Gurley. He was dying. He was dying of leukemia. Oh my gosh. Okay. And that's why he was devoting his career to curing cancer. In fact, he claimed that

girly, I've already found a cure, a cure for cancer. And he was his own test subject, and it's what had been keeping him alive. Oh my gosh. But this cure for cancer was also one of the things that kept him afloat financially. This is why he had so much money. Over the years, Dyazin attracted hundreds of thousands of dollars from investors to fund his miracle cure for cancer and his various research projects.

He claimed to have patented a machine that was able to map out the entire human genome. And he had split the machine into five parts. And he was keeping each at different universities scattered across the United States to protect it. So basically, he's Iron Man. It's kind of what I'm feeling. You know when it's too good to be true? It's too good to be true.

He claimed that he was working on a way to create human beings in a laboratory in test tubes and Petri dishes. He would tell his investors that his groundbreaking work would generate billions of dollars in revenue for himself and them. And he always found people willing to invest. People like his 70 something year old neighbor, Pedro, much of whose savings were absorbed by investing in Diazin's work.

And if someone to whom Diazin pitched appeared skeptical at all, like if he tried to pitch this and they weren't having it, Diazin had a way of picking up on that and understanding his limits, basically just walking away from the interaction without so much as a word. He's like, okay, they're not interested, I'm leaving. He always seemed to have money.

And Gurley herself, after moving to America, had a full-time job working as a teller at the Bank of New Mexico, where she was a model employee and highly valued by her coworkers and supervisors. And for a while...

Life was good. I mean, strange, but good. Both Gurley and Diazan drove luxury cars. In 1996, they moved into a nicer house, and Diazan traveled a lot, almost always alone. He would leave town for long periods of time, and especially once they moved into their new home, he was leaving more and more often.

Now, Gurley asked him what this was about, and he kept explaining to her that he was flying out to perform surgery, surgery on women and children who had sustained serious injuries in car crashes.

And now by this point, something told Girlie that there might be some weirdness going on in here. Like exactly what everyone's feeling, she's starting to also feel about her new husband. Important things to understand, it's the 90s. We have a better ability now to look at something and question catfishing, anything like that. In the 90s, not so much.

And also in this situation, there is a cultural wall here that might make alarming things to us seem just like cultural differences to Gurley. And then just as Gurley was becoming wary of her new husband, there was the secret room that he built in their house that all but confirmed Gurley's now strange feelings.

Diazin had one room in their house that no one was allowed to enter. No one but him. And also no one but him knew what was inside of the room. It was a room that was kept locked at all times and was off limits. Just seems weird that there's people out there that don't ask questions. Right. They're just told something and they're okay. But again,

Cultural differences. And it's not just someone random, though. It's like it's your husband. Right. Right. But relationships are just so different. So interesting. I mean, I'm not trying to play the devil's advocate. Even Girlie knew something weird was going on here. But there's just always more to this story and a dynamic that we'll never understand. But despite this, Girlie loved Dyson. I mean, she had...

moved here. She loved her new life in America. So beginning in 1996, Diazan and Gurley began trying to have children. This was something Diazan had actually suddenly become super fixated on. While, you know, Gurley wanted kids too, but Diazan seemed to be pressuring her. You

He told her he was the last of his family line, the last of the Hosenkoffs, which is one thing we at least know at this point in the story to have been true. There were no others. So he's never met her family and she's never met his family, correct? No. Okay. And after many frustrated months of trying, they went to a fertility doctor and learned that Gurley was just unable to have children. She was infertile, which of course was heartbreaking to learn.

Now, to ease the void, the Hossenkopf's ended up getting a dog instead. But that new member of the family wasn't around for very long. One day, the dog just began convulsing and stopped moving. They brought it to the vet, but it was too late and the dog had died.

Bad time to tell this episode. I know. While I was researching, I went into like, oh no. Freak out mode. Yeah. Yeah, seriously. So the doctor said apparently someone had maybe just fed it chocolate or grapes, which if you are a dog owner, hopefully you know you should never feed an animal anything with chocolate, grapes, or raisins because even small quantities can cause kidney failure in dogs.

No one's really been able to figure out why, but this is just something that we know. So anyways, after the death of their first dog, Gurley and Diazan got a second dog, but then that dog also didn't work out. One day, Gurley returned to find the dog was just gone. What is going on? Apparently, it had slipped out through the back fence and gotten away. It wasn't entirely clear what happened, but she was devastated.

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And when he returned, this time he wasn't alone. And what Diazan had brought home was about to confuse Gurley even more. He came back home to Gurley with a newborn baby boy. Okay. He returns home from work with this newborn baby boy. He explained to Gurley that the baby, whose name was Dimitri, was a Mexican orphan that was given to him by a friend, and now they were going to adopt him. And Gurley's like,

Okay, I guess. After all, she did want a child, and here was one who was an orphan, and so she didn't probe too deeply. This was just such a diazan thing to do. This is just right up her husband's alley. And she still trusted him, and she believed the things he had to say. But pretty soon, things would begin to happen that Gurley had no way of ignoring or excusing anymore.

Phone calls began coming into the house when Daizan was away and Gurley was raising their baby. Phone calls from women asking for him. Women, plural, multiple women calling. And when Gurley inquired further about why, why...

why they were calling, who they were, what they wanted. One of these women claimed that she was Diaz-Anne's fiance. This was in January 1998, five years after Gurley moved to America and married him. So angry, suspicious, and confused, Gurley felt betrayed. But where was she supposed to go? Like what's she supposed to do? She had no family. She had abandoned her life and everything she knew to be here. And now she has this brand new baby.

So it was around this time that one afternoon at home alone, Gurley happened to find Diazan's secret room unlocked. It had been left unlocked. All right.

And since she had begun to question her husband's honesty and a lot of other things that just hadn't added up, Gurley made the decision to enter the secret room even though she knew it was forbidden. But what she found inside confirmed all of her worst fears. She found not just love letters from multiple other women, but legal documents.

Legal documents that, once she read them, made her feel absolutely rug pulled. As it turned out, Diazin Hossenkopf was not a real person. So who was the person that she had been married to for five years and was raising a child with?

A child that he just brought home one day. Yes. That's absolutely insane. His real name was Armand Chavez, and he'd been born not in Switzerland, but in Houston, Texas.

And not to Japanese and German parents, his entire backstory had been made up. Yeah, for sure. He had four social security numbers. He had been slapped with a protective order demanding that he stay away from another woman. And he was under investigation from the FBI. He was not a doctor. He was not a geneticist. He was not a scientist, nor was he a surgeon. He was a con artist.

and a snake oil salesman, a crooked imposter who had been scamming cancer patients and other vulnerable marks out of their money. And I mean lots of money. I don't understand how he's not in jail.

Well, all of this he had kept hidden from Gurley successfully for more than five years. But Diazan's whole adult life had been a scam. Even before he was kicked out of medical school, when it was discovered that he'd falsified documents, it was then that he changed his name from Arman to Diazan. Maybe that was kind of his way of not facing the shame over what had happened and that his academic and professional careers changed.

weren't working out that he believed he was entitled to, but it was after high school that he had begun a life of delusion and lies. He got married and had a child in the eighties with a woman named Rosemary, whom he eventually abandoned. So his first wife and child were never in a car accident. This tragedy was totally made up and,

And then in 1986, there was a woman named Cindy White. This isn't her real name. This woman was very well off, but she struggled with mental health issues. And around this time, she kind of fell into a deep depression to the point that her father, a wealthy entrepreneur, hired a staff of several people to help manage the things in her life that Cindy's mental state left her unable to attend to. So this would be shopping, cooking, house cleaning, and balancing her checkbook.

And the man that he hired to do her bookkeeping and serve her her meals was none other than Dyazan Hosenkoft, who by this point was still actually going by his birth name, but we're just going to keep calling him Dyazan to avoid confusion. So Dyazan had been working for Cindy for two years when suddenly in May of 1988, Cindy became gravely ill and ended up in the ICU at San Francisco's Presbyterian Hospital. Okay.

Poisoned her for sure. The staff ran tests and found out that Cindy had been given a massive dose of arsenic, which if you listened to last week's binged episodes, you are very familiar and right up this alley. So although Cindy did survive, her vital organs were extensively damaged by the amount of arsenic her body had absorbed.

Now, in talking to police, Cindy recalled that she had begun feeling ill the day after eating a meal of chicken and vegetables that her employee, Diazan, had served to her the night before. In particular, she remembered the squash tasting peculiar, sort of bitter, sort of sour, and she remembered Diazan checking in on her several times during that specific meal, asking if she had eaten her vegetables and reminding her to finish her vegetables.

So it was pretty painful for her to consider that Diazan would have poisoned her because she kind of adored him. She liked him, but she was smart enough to see that this was almost certainly what had happened. So when investigators asked Cindy what his motive could possibly have been, all she could think to answer was,

maybe for the fascination of watching it happen as a medical study remember this guy is pretending to have gone to medical school and be a doctor so diazan was then interviewed by police and the home was searched but nothing incriminating was found so charges were never filed and the matter was officially dropped i assume he got fired obviously yeah but still he could have killed her yeah 100 in

In July of 1990, Diazan showed up at the University of California, Berkeley campus and enrolled in a biochemistry class taught by Professor Charles Grissom. Now, Diazan's professor and all of his classmates really did like him. They thought he was interesting and friendly, and they were also touched by his tragic story, which, of course, as we know, was total BS, but no one at this time knew it, except...

Professor Grissom kind of had his suspicions.

Now, Professor Grissom was an educated man who wasn't an easy mark. And something about Diazan's story just didn't feel authentic to him. Diazan kind of had this superficial upbeatness to him. He was lighthearted, but kind of empty. And it didn't feel to Professor Grissom like this young man had suffered this kind of loss that he was claiming. And on the one hand...

The professor felt guilty, like doubting this young man's story if it was true, but he just had to find out for sure. I mean, he's a professor. So he settled into the campus library and began searching the microfilm archives of the San Jose Mercury News around the date that Dyazan claimed it occurred for any mention of a fatal car wreck, because surely an accident claiming the lives of a young mother and her sons would have made the papers.

But Grissom found no record of it. And just to double check, he went to Stanford University Library and did the same thing. It's just so weird because it's so different now. Now you could just look up his name and be like, wait, your name doesn't exist anywhere. Yeah. There's no Facebook. There's no Instagram. There's no Twitter. There's no LinkedIn. There's no, I mean, there's no nothing. So I think it actually says a lot about this professor that he, that's how suspicious he was. Like that's how awful.

Because he had to really dig into it. Yes. So all of this created a sort of air of mystery and doubt around Diazan, who at this point, besides abandoning his wife and child and almost poisoning another woman, had discovered a host of peculiar new traits.

One of which was he really liked to draw blood from his fellow students, getting them to consent to it by telling them that he needed it for laboratory research. Now, unbeknownst to Professor Grissom, Diazan frequently drew blood from his first wife as well and was keeping vials of it in their refrigerator. That's weird. And this is something he would do for years. So this is just like a weird habit he had.

And I don't know, maybe he's a vampire. Like, I don't know what he's doing with the blood, but this is what he's doing. Whatever the case, Professor Grissom was really uncomfortable with this. And so he finally pulled Diazan in and said, quit asking your classmates for blood. Like, we're not doing this anymore. And then one day Diazan informed Professor Grissom that he wouldn't be returning to class.

He then moved to Utah and enrolled in the University of Utah's medical school, but was soon expelled because he had falsified lab reports, forged a letter of recommendation from a hospital in California, falsified a federal grant application by fraudulently listing himself as married, and conning two women out of money in the process. So, I mean, obviously this guy's a con man, right? Yeah.

However, conning women out of money kind of was his forte. He has all these other weird things that we've talked about, but really, yeah.

His main thing was conning women out of money, which is a very common con. But even this continued to happen even after he married Gurley. In 1993, a 72-year-old woman, Aris, named Penny Evans, again, a fake name, placed a personal ad in the Albuquerque Journal. It read something to the effect of wealthy woman seeking end-of-life companion. And of course, this caught the eye of the man now calling himself Dr. Dysan Hosenkofft.

He reached out to Penny and she was instantly smitten by this exciting young man who could talk her ear off with his colorful stories and scientific ambitions. So it was after meeting that Penny told him that she had breast cancer.

And Dyazan told her that he was, again, a geneticist who had invented a breakthrough serum that would not only cure her cancer, but could reverse the aging process and make her young again. It's crazy. I mean, I get it. I probably would. But again, she's 70. Yeah, yeah, I get it. And ill. Yeah.

Yeah, I'm not going to say anything. So he says the way it would work, since he'd injected himself with the serum, it was already in his blood, so he would just draw his own blood and inject it into her. And she totally took him at his word, asking him what his price was. He told her the fees would vary depending on the services, and she immediately entrusted him to become her caretaker. So for the next two years, Penny would pay Dr. Dyzan an average of $25,000 a month.

Holy crap.

It was also during this time that he told Penny he used to have a daughter, but the daughter had died tragically in a car accident. Why would he inject her with his own blood? Why not just water or even like why his own blood? Isn't that, that seems dangerous. I don't know enough about the medical field, but if someone doesn't have the same blood type as you, I would assume that's extremely dangerous. Maybe to make it more believable. Yeah. I don't know. I think that they would have had to have the same blood type. Yeah. Um,

Again, I'm not a doctor. Someone correct us. But he explained that he had discovered a way to genetically recreate his dead daughter in a laboratory using just a strand of her hair. So not to worry because he was going to bring back his daughter into the world. And...

The only issue is he would need a house to raise her in. So, of course, Penny did what any gullible dying heiress would do, and she bought the doctor a two-story house in Albuquerque that he then moved into with his new bride, Gurley. Oh, okay.

By this time, the tumor in Penny's breast had doubled in size. Dr. Hossenkopf's treatments were not working. And Penny's son, Steven, not his real name, began insisting to his mother that she needs to see a reputable doctor with an actual practice. So she gave in to her son's nagging and went to see an oncologist. Now, this oncologist very bluntly told Penny that she had stage 3 breast cancer and the prognosis in her case was poor.

Best case scenario, she might survive another 18 months. By this time, Penny had paid Dr. Diazan nearly $500,000. Holy crap. And her son, Stephen, decided to put his foot down. Stephen established himself as his mother's court-appointed guardian, and despite his mother's protests,

because she had just invested not just money but hope into diazan he refiled a restraining order against diazan who had milked his cancer-stricken mother out of half a million dollars penny then fell into a depression and began to isolate herself and six months later she would die at her home from the cancer that diazan had promised to cure that's absolutely horrible awful

And so now we are back with Gurley in her husband's secret room where she is learning about all of this.

When Gurley found out the full extent to which her husband had deceived her, she decided to confront him about this when he got home. Oh, bad idea. And she couldn't have anticipated what happened when she did so. Hearing her accusations, Diazan then flew into a rage and relentlessly beat Gurley. And from this point forward, this was the kind of violence that became routine as Gurley's situation grew unsafe.

When Diazan found out that Gurley had contacted one of his other girlfriends to inform her that Diazan was actually a married man, he got drunk and put Gurley in a headlock, repeatedly punching her in the face while Gurley struggled for air. Now, a woman named Shelly Abrams, who was renting a room from the Hossenkrofts, heard the commotion and came out from her room to see Diazan walloping Gurley before dragging her into the bedroom out of sight.

Oh my gosh.

When the police arrived and saw Gurley's injuries, they immediately placed Diazan under arrest and charged him with several domestic violence-related offenses. Now, in a just world, Diazan would have gone to prison for a long time, and Gurley would have been safe. But that's not how things unfolded, and often doesn't. Instead, Diazan posted bond, and the case never went to trial. After about a year, the charges were dropped.

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One night in January 1999, Gurley and Diazan were watching TV in bed when Diazan suddenly turned to Gurley with a request. He wanted her to run an errand with him at the Hyatt Hotel the next day and it was important he said that she take the freeway. He couldn't offer any explanation why. But then he got out of bed and she heard him go into the garage so Gurley slipped out of bed and followed him. And when she opened the door to the garage, she saw Diazan crouching behind her BMW trying to loosen her tires.

She asked him if he was trying to kill her because he said, you have to drive on the freeway. And now he's loosening her tires.

And his response was he suddenly lunged at her and tried to pin her down. So I'm going to guess that's a yes. Like that was a yes. Fortunately, Gurley was able to escape by opening the garage door and rolling under it. She ran to Pedro's house next door, but Diaz-Anne ran after her. Pedro let her in and told her to quickly hide. Meanwhile, Diaz-Anne barged in and then became violent with Pedro, but Pedro still wouldn't give in to him.

And then when the police finally arrived, they accompanied Gurley back to the house to collect her belongings. And as soon as she was able to, she got a restraining order against Aizan. This was it. She had hit her breaking point and she was leaving. Gurley signed a lease at an apartment two miles away, an apartment in a secure complex with a guard gate and perimeter fence.

and she took a unit in the very back of the building. She told no one, not even her closest friends and coworkers, where she was living. She was trying to keep it a secret, with the exception of her coworker, Jesse, who helped her move her stuff in. She then confided in some of her other coworkers at the bank branch where she worked that she had to get a protective order against her husband because he wanted to kill her, so if she ever was late or absent from work, she told them to go straight to the police because Diazan had probably found her.

her and killed her. That's how scared for her life she was. Now, during this time, Gurley initiated divorce proceedings against Diazan and sought full custody of their adopted son, Dimitri, who at this point was three, but also was seeking possession of half of everything Diazan had because, I mean, she had moved to America. Yeah.

Wait, so where did he get this kid from? Like, is this even real? Did he steal the baby? Like, what's up with this? We'll get there. Okay. Diazan blocked her efforts and she was eventually made to sign an agreement that terminated her parental rights to see Dimitri in addition to paying $100 a month in child support. So she completely gets screwed.

And he had all the money. He had all the power. Yeah, but I understand how the court system with all the, anyways, that's probably a whole nother story. Right. So, Girlie no longer had access to her son and she lived every day in fear.

And Diazan at this point was calling her workplace nonstop even after screwing her over. And on two separate occasions, Gurley returned to her car after work to find her windshield smashed in. Now, eventually, all of this leads to Diazan being arrested for violating the protective order. And after his arrest, it was around this time that Diazan actually met a new woman that would end up being the perfect pairing for him. So he starts to move on.

This is 45-year-old Linda Henning, whom he met at a David Icke conference on UFOs. Now, if you don't know, David Icke, by the way, is a notorious conspiracy theorist who believes that the British royal family are shape-shifting reptile people and the world is run by lizard Illuminati and that Jewish religion people bankrolled the Holocaust. So these are his main conspiracy theories.

So after meeting at this conference, Diazan and Linda hit it off almost immediately, realizing how much they have in common. They love conspiracy theories, lizard people, aliens, UFOs. It was a match made on Mars. And within a week of meeting Diazan, Linda decided to dump her fiance for Diazan.

So she literally leaves her fiance for him a week later. Is he like an extremely good looking guy? He's just a con man. It's so crazy. It's like that story you told where he went to, he scammed like 20 different girls out of. Yes. Which one was that? Yes. And then they had to hire a private investigator to find him. There's like a movie, right? There was a Netflix series on it. But it's just con man. Like it's crazy what they get away with.

And in order for her to dump her fiance, Linda, she has Diazan and a friend of his named Bill show up at the house that they shared and forcibly remove him from it. So not only does she dump him, she like literally drags him out of the house. And then a week later or only two weeks after meeting, Linda and Diazan were engaged and

Diazan began telling people he was a 2000 year old alien and that alien lizard people ran the government. This is getting ridiculous. And we're going to kill off two thirds of the world's population by poisoning the global water supply. And that only a select lucky few individuals living inside special vortex zones would survive. Okay. And Diazan's effect on Linda's personality was pretty startling to everyone who knew her. Like,

They knew she was kind of into UFOs, but once she met him, she really fell down this rabbit hole. And meanwhile, the fiance who got ousted from the home he shared with Linda hired a private investigator to probe into Diazan's background. He's like, how does my fiance just leave me in a week for a person like this?

Now, obviously, we know what the fiance found while looking into Diazan's background. But when he tried to tell Linda that her new fiance was a fraud and a criminal, Linda didn't believe it and also said, if it's true, I don't care.

Now, while being engaged to Linda, Dizan actually meets another woman named Julie and he introduces his son Dimitri to Julie. He talks to Julie all about the alien stuff and everything, offers to give her the serum he's made that makes people stay forever young. He has Rapunzel's magical hair. By the way, probably one of the best Disney movies ever made in history. Flowers.

Good job, man. So he didn't actually have her hair and he was just a con man. But he tries to give it to her. And Julie kind of is just like this, Dimitri, your son, where'd you get him? Who's his mom? She starts to like question it. And then him and Julie kind of fade off. This is while he's still engaged to Linda.

So back in Albuquerque at this time, Diazan was seemingly growing tired of having to take care of little Dimitri all the time. And although he had blocked girly Chu from any sort of custody rights in the divorce settlement, he was basically offloading Dimitri to his neighbors, Pedro and his wife, all day long, all week long. Like he did not want to be a father. And so he was able to take care of little Dimitri all the time.

And after a while, this elderly couple, as much as they cared for the little boy, had grown tired of being the child's unpaid babysitter. So they told Diazan enough's enough, so he'd have to make other arrangements. And that he did. He found another elderly couple in the neighborhood. But again, they reached their limit. So with no one else to unload on, but also not wanting to let down his pride and just give Gurley some parental rights, Diazan decided to take Dimitri to an adoption agency. Oh, man.

And met with an adoption caseworker named Vonda. He explained to Vonda that he was dying from leukemia and was not going to be able to raise his son. It broke his heart. He's going to have to put him up for adoption. This seems so ridiculous because wouldn't they say, okay, I understand, but we need proof that you're actually dying. Like, I don't, I don't get it. Well, so he supplies Vonda with a New Mexico birth certificate for Dimitri that listed himself and girly two as the boy's biological parents.

But then he was unable to produce any documentation that proved Gurley had been pregnant with Dimitri. He also could not cough up any medical records for the child that dated back any earlier than when the boy was one month old. And because Vonda is a professional at an adoption agency, which Garrett just pointed out, all of these are red flags.

So she had to ask him for an explanation. And when she did, Diazan then came clean and said, okay, Gurley was not Dimitri's biological mother. Rather, I'm a genius. And the boy's biological mother was an Asian woman who provided her egg. And I fertilized that egg in a laboratory and grew this baby in a laboratory.

This is what he tells the adoption agency. So this was the kind of tall tale that may have found traction with some of the impressionable women that he had met. But for Vonda, our caseworker, this was like alarm set, like these are blaring. There was also the fact that Diazan had initially told her he was dying from leukemia, but

But a medical examination that's required to get as a condition of the adoption revealed that he was just fine. He didn't have leukemia. There was no leukemia. He was perfectly healthy. So after her meeting with Diaz and ended, Vonda was like, that's it. Calling the FBI. She calls the FBI. She's like, I think this kid, this guy kidnapped, like he lied. I think he kidnapped this child. I don't know what's going on. But before she could stop it, the adoption process was completed.

Like she's like sitting here saying, no, no, no, we can't. And it goes through anyways, just based on air paperwork. Wait, isn't this doesn't make sense. What do you mean? Like it just goes through, even though she is like, something is weird about this. Isn't she like signing off and everything? Yeah, but I'm pretty, it probably just went to a different caseworker because she said no. And he probably just tried again. Oh, like to a different company or something? Yeah. And so on August 27th, 1999, Dimitri was sent to live with a new family.

And Gurley, having just relinquished all custodial and parental rights, would never see him again. And despite the fact that we have now introduced multiple women and people who have been conned and hurt by Dyzahn, we are going back to Gurley, who, despite doing all she could, would continue to be his victim.

On the evening of September 9th, 1999, girly Chu got off work and drove to her apartment and on the way home stopped to mail a letter to her parents in Malaysia. When she got home, she placed a call to the telephone company at 7.03 that evening. And you know that when I start to get specific about times, something bad is about to happen. And then her good friend Ernie called her apartment a short while later, but she didn't pick up the phone.

He called back several more times that night, but the phone just rang each time. The next morning on September 10th, the normally punctual girly did not show up to work when her shift began. Now remember, she told her coworkers, hey, if this happens, I'm in trouble. So at 8.15 that morning, her boss, Kathy, picked up the phone and called the police.

Now, meanwhile, Gurley's friend and coworker, Jesse, drove over to her apartment to check on her. When he got there around 830, he noticed that Gurley's car was still in its spot. He knocked on her door and rang her doorbell, but no one came to the door. In fact, everything at her apartment was eerily silent. Finally, the apartment manager lets them in and asks,

There's nothing amiss except for three large wet stains on Gurley's orange carpet, which look like they have been cleaned with a steam cleaner.

So police arrive and they talk to Jesse and they talk to the apartment manager. And then they drive to Diazan's house because this is the only name that comes up. Like everyone is like, hey, yeah, it was him. And when they arrive, they find the front door wide open and his house is totally empty. There's nothing there. No furniture, no dishes, no odds and ends. Everything was gone. Okay.

So at this point, police begin looking for anyone in Diazan's life who could help them find him because they're like, he's our only lead to find Gurley. But there's no DNA. There was nothing in the house that... They pull everything up, but it's going to take a minute to check. So was it obvious that he killed her at this point or you just couldn't really tell? So police are pretty sure that this is their suspect. Okay.

Police became aware of Linda Henning when they found her name as an emergency signature on some adoption papers inside Gurley's apartment. Now remember, Linda is the one who left her fiance a week after and became engaged to him. And so they went to interview Linda and she claimed she didn't know anything. She never heard of Gurley. She couldn't be of any help. And then afterwards, Linda disappeared and seemed to be making conscious efforts to evade the police by driving other people's cars and staying at hotels.

But the search for Diazan remained hot when on September 14th, police received three separate phone calls from women who claimed that Diazan had called them and was threatening them. The third woman who was called by Diazan and threatened immediately hung up the phone and called police.

And when they heard that Diazan, their number one suspect, had just called, they asked the woman named Ruby to do them a favor. They asked her to dial star 69, which for those who don't remember, that was back in the days before cell phones when only some households had caller IDs. So when you dialed star 69, it would tell you the number of the last incoming call. So they say, please dial it back and get the number for us. And she does.

And the number began with an 843 area code. This is the area code for Charleston, South Carolina. They traced the numbers to the exact location and on September 22nd, Diazan was arrested on three counts of making threatening phone calls across state lines.

Now, with him in custody, police were able to get a search warrant on his new house in South Carolina. Inside, they find a gun. They find multiple vials of blood. They find Gurley's address book and ID card. And they find a steam cleaner, which remember those stains in Gurley's apartment? Those stains tested positive for blood. And the DNA revealed that it was a mixture of Gurley's blood and the blood of Linda Henning.

They also found arts and craft glitter and a pink deer head inside the apartment as well as cat ears. So she helped? She helped. No way. And while figuring out that she helped, they also discover that Diazan's friend Bill, who was the man who helped physically remove Linda's ex-fiance, he

He starts to turn out to be involved. Turns out he has this hunting cabin in Magdalena and they found a tarp with bloodstained clothing and duct tape there. The blood on the tarp and clothing turned out was girly chews. And then there was a single long dark hair found on the duct tape, which belonged to Linda Henning. So basically, yes, I'm telling you right now that Linda,

Diazan probably did kill Gurley, but not alone. Got it. When the grand jury trial convened to figure out whether or not to charge Diazan with murder, Linda Hending continued to lie, despite the fact that it was very clear that she knew Gurley. Police decided not to charge Bill with murder because they felt they couldn't find sufficient evidence of his involvement, so all he was ever convicted of was evidence tampering and he was sentenced to time serve.

but Diazan Hossenkoft and Linda Hending were both indicted on November 17th, 1999 on charges of Gurley's murder conspiracy to commit murder and kidnapping.

To this day, no one knows exactly what happened to Gurley because neither Linda nor Diazan ever came forward. What were the charges, though? Eventually, faced with the overwhelming evidence against him, Diazan agreed to a plea deal, pleading guilty in exchange for a life sentence instead of the death penalty. Oh, so no matter what, he was...

He was screwed. Yes. And Linda Henning pled not guilty to all her charges. And at her trial, Diazan actually testified against her and said, go ahead and kill her. You'll just be killing my next victim. Oh my gosh. In April, 2003, Linda Henning was found guilty on all counts and sentenced to 73 years in prison. Two days, she continues to maintain her innocence. And Diazan in January, 2020, nearly two decades after he was sentenced, filed a new motion to vacate his sentence. Okay.

But then 2020 pandemic happened. The extension was granted, but there's not been any news since. So we're still kind of waiting out. Now, if there's anything positive to report at the epilogue of this bizarre story, it's

It's that Dimitri, whose name was changed, was adopted by a loving family and is actually doing well. But if you're wondering where he came from and who his biological mother really was, it was discovered and it's a sad story.

Dimitri's mother, we now know, was a Japanese woman from Canada who Diazan impregnated and the woman then returned to Japan where she gave birth to him. But then Diazan contacted her and told her that the baby had a rare genetic disorder and because he was a geneticist who knew how to treat it, he needed to take the baby so that he could save

the life and help it thrive. So this poor woman snuck into the U S and afterwards she surrendered her baby and returned to Japan where she never saw her son. Oh, that is horrible. But that is the story of girly chew. There's no happy endings. No happy. Well, except for,

He was adopted and lived a better life than he would have ever with his father. There's so much to it. That's so crazy. But what an insane story. What a weirdo. Like, what a just straight, I don't know. Like, who does that? Con man just never makes sense to me. I don't understand that at all. It's not even like, it is a con man, but it's not even con man. That's just like next level. Just, I don't know.

I feel like I'm sure it happens these days, but I feel like now people, like you said, are probably more skeptical. Like, no way. Yeah. Like, come on. And that's the thing. When these things are happening in the 90s, again, I feel like a lot more people today are skeptical. It's just different with social media and everything. That's just crazy. That's sad. But it's still so hard. All right, you guys. Thank you for listening to this week's episode. And we will be back next week with another one. I love it. And I hate it. Goodbye.