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#779 - Hamza Ahmed - The Harsh Truths Young Men Need To Hear

2024/5/4
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Hamza Ahmed：僧侣模式的危险在于它可能导致个人提升与社交技能脱节，最终形成一种“自我提升自闭症”的状态。他认为，在现代社会，男性被要求过度表达情绪，这实际上并不利于他们的发展。男性需要学会觉察和接纳情绪，但并非必须以暴力或不加控制的方式表达。在亲密关系中，展现最佳自我并不意味着伪装，而是持续付出努力。追求长期稳定的亲密关系需要展现脆弱和真实的一面。 Hamza Ahmed还谈到了“Lux Maxing”（追求精致男孩形象）的流行，以及不同年龄段男性吸引女性的策略差异。他认为，对青少年男性来说，提升吸引力的五个步骤是：增肌、降低体脂率、选择合适的髮型、穿搭风格以及提升社交媒体影响力。而对21岁以上的男性来说，吸引女性的重点在于展现更男性化的特质，例如更强壮的体格和更成熟的风格。 在内容创作方面，Hamza反思了自己早期视频内容中过度追求刺激和多巴胺的不足之处，并谈到了内容创作者职业生涯的周期性以及受众的影响。他认为，内容创作者容易受到受众的左右，成功具有周期性，如同健身房中的“热门人物”，容易出现起起伏伏。 Chris Williamson：自我提升可能会陷入循环，让人停留在舒适区而不愿融入社会。人们容易批判自己未曾拥有的事物，这往往源于内心的不安全感。与他人互动能带来非线性的学习体验，带来突破性的成长。成熟的男性能够觉察并接纳自己的情绪，并将其整合到与伴侣的互动中，而不是被情绪控制。在亲密关系中，坦诚表达自己的脆弱和真实感受至关重要，这能帮助双方更好地了解彼此，并促进关系的健康发展。 Chris Williamson还谈到了16岁的年轻人应该多尝试不同的生活体验，而不是过早地陷入对人生规划的过度思考；追求完美的生活规划可能会让人成为自身习惯的囚徒，应保持平衡，避免过度优化；以及Hamza的社区成员主要面临的问题是难以找到志同道合的朋友，普通年轻男性普遍面临的问题包括：沉迷色情和电子游戏、缺乏自信、对自身外貌不自信等。

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Hamza Ahmed is a YouTuber, personal development coach and a community leader.

"What does it mean to be a man today?" is a question many young guys try to answer, with varied success. Hamza has a huge community of young guys looking for advice so I figured it would be useful to find out what they're struggling with and try to offer some solutions.

Expect to learn about how monk mode can go wrong, the dangers of audience capture, why young men are struggling to find direction in life, the role of vulnerability and authenticity in relationships, my advice to Hamza on how to actually improve himself, how to integrate your emotions, what Hamza learned from his breakup and much more...

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