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现在快节奏的时代每个人似乎都在忙碌着忙加班忙工作忙赚钱......有多久没有安静的读过一本书？上次和朋友、家人促膝长谈是什么时候？图片、文字归原版权方或原作者所有录音、剪辑、主播：孟飞Phoenix背景音乐：1.松谷卓 - 别れ22.車谷浩司 - 青空 ~How To Make Friends & Connect With People In Challenging Times如何在逆境中交到朋友主播：孟飞PhoenixIt can be difficult to make friends living in a big city, especially when you don’t know many people.生活在一个大城市里是很难交到朋友的尤其是当你还不认识很多人的时候Over years of experience and studying social skills,I discovered that it’s possible to make friendswithout even trying. 根据多年的经验以及对社交技能的研究我发现其实你甚至能毫不费力地交到朋友There are just a few strategies that you have to use ona consistent basis.这里有一些你一直可以用得上的方法That’s what I’ll outline a few simple steps.在这里我将列出几个简单的步骤。1.Be seen without trying to get attention.不刻意地引人注意也能获得他人的注意You don’t have to say anything witty or interesting to get people’s attention, all you have to do is place yourself in environments where people will see you.你不必说诙谐或有趣的事情来吸引人们的注意你所要做的只是将你自己置于人们能注意到的地方This can be done anywhere you go, such as the supermarketor your yoga studio.这可以在你去的任何地方奏效比如超市或是瑜伽馆2. Use the power of listening.使用倾听的力量 There’s an interesting phenomenonthat occurs when you listen to other people, they’ll keep talking. 有一个有趣的现象当你听别人说话时他们会一直说话Just keep giving them good eye contact and show with your body language that you care.只要和他们保持良好的眼神接触并用你的身体语言显示出你对他们的关心 Listening is a mechanism to build trust and likeability.倾听是一种建立信任和魅力的途径3. Think about what you can give to the other people.想想你能给别人什么So often we think about what we can get out of others when we try to make friends, but that thinking needsto be flipped around.当我们试图交朋友的时候我们经常会考虑我们能从别人那里得到什么但是我们需要扭转这种想法Try offering a piece of helpful advice or invite someone you just met to grab coffeeor lunch with you the following week.试着提供一个有用的建议或邀请你刚才遇到的人来喝杯咖啡或者邀请他在接下来的一周和你一起共进午餐4. Always have 3 good storiesto tell other people.总是有3个好故事来告诉别人When you have at least a few stories to share with others,you’ll never run out of things to talk about.当你至少有几个故事与他人分享时你将永远有谈不尽的话题5.Smile like there’s no tomorrow.尽情微笑It may not be natural for some of us to smile, but a smile is one of the most attractive things that someone can display when they’re meeting new people.对有些人来说微笑可能是件不自然的事情但是微笑是最有吸引力的事情之一当结识新人时人们可以传递他们的微笑Think about these 5 strategies as tools. They’re always available if you want to connect with people instantly and develop true lasting friendships.我们可以把这5种策略作为工具如果你想与人立即建立关系并且发展成真正长久的友谊它们总是有用的主播 ： 孟飞Phoenix暂居 成都现某学校 英语教师关键词【低音炮】【英文】【双语主持】【摄影】【吉他】【唱歌】【演讲】. . .欢迎关注孟老师微博微博：@孟飞Phoenix随时留言和互动