Friendship love bombing, mixed-gender wedding parties & AB’s back in NYC
Mean Girl
Deep Dive
Why did Alex and Jordyn feel it was important to discuss friendship love bombing in this episode?
They wanted to highlight the difference between the honeymoon phase of a new friendship and toxic love bombing, where a friend becomes obsessive and possessive, often leading to drama and boundary issues.
What is the concept of a 'bench holiday' as discussed in the episode?
A bench holiday is a holiday where someone opts out of celebrating because they don't enjoy it or feel obligated to participate. It's a term coined by Eli Rallo on TikTok to describe holidays people can skip without guilt.
What was the price per room for the new hotel in Soho that Alex and Jordyn stayed at?
The hotel, which is one month old, was purchased for a million dollars per room, making it the highest purchase of a hotel in New York history.
What was Jordyn's experience with being love-bombed by a friend?
Jordyn had a friend who became obsessively attached, even going so far as to avoid her and run away when they saw each other. The friend also created drama within Jordyn's friend group and would call her in the middle of the day with panic attacks, demanding her attention.
What was Alex's reaction to the baby clothes prices at Kith Baby?
Alex was shocked to find that a baby top at Kith Baby cost $85, which was just for the top and not a set. She decided not to buy anything due to the high prices.
What was the highlight of Alex's trip to New York?
Alex's highlight was walking the Brooklyn Bridge at sunrise, which she had been wanting to do for a long time.
What was the main issue in the AITA story about the best woman at a wedding?
The groom wanted his female best friend, Zara, to be his best woman at the wedding, but his fiancée, Sarah, objected, feeling it would give the wrong impression and make Zara stand out among the groomsmen.
What was Jordyn's opinion on the AITA story about the best woman?
Jordyn thought the groom was the asshole for insisting on having Zara as his best woman, especially since his fiancée felt uncomfortable with it. She believes opposite-sex best friends should fade away when you find your partner, unless they are gay or siblings.
What was Alex's recommendation for a show in this episode?
Alex recommended 'Tell Me Lies,' a dark show she is obsessed with, which she thought Jordyn would enjoy.
- Love bombing in friendships involves excessive affection and attention initially, followed by controlling behavior and toxicity when boundaries are set.
- It's crucial to distinguish between the honeymoon phase of a new friendship and toxic love bombing.
- Love bombing can manifest in various ways, including obsessive attention, manipulation, and attempts to isolate the victim from their support system.
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