CIA Spy: How To STOP Narcissists, SPOT LIARS in 30 Seconds, & Protect Against Being Controlled!
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What is the rule of thumb taught by the CIA about control and influence?
The CIA teaches that you are either in control or under control. There is no other option. You must choose to take control or you give it to someone else.
What is the process for rapidly building trust and influence in someone according to CIA tactics?
Ask two questions and make one validating statement. This cycle makes the other person feel understood, important, and significant, creating a dopamine rush that makes them feel good being around you.
What are the three primary paths to becoming a CIA spy?
You can be recruited through college or military, volunteer by applying online or at job fairs, or be guided into the intelligence world during a parallel process like trying to join the Peace Corps.
What is moral flexibility and why is it important for CIA operatives?
Moral flexibility is the ability to lie and manipulate while maintaining loyalty and personal values. It's crucial for operatives who need to lie to protect national security and then live with the consequences.
How does the CIA test for moral flexibility?
The CIA uses a multi-tiered psychological aptitude battery, including panel interviews, one-on-one role plays, and empirical rubric tests, spread over many months to assess candidates.
What is the typical profile of a CIA core collector?
A core collector is skilled at lying and manipulation, can keep multiple relationships, and fits a psychological profile of someone seeking external validation with a mix of loyalty and moral flexibility, regardless of socioeconomic background.
What is the government’s attitude towards Andrew Bustamante sharing CIA training techniques?
The government has a mixed reaction, sometimes supportive and sometimes stern, as long as he adheres to his secrecy agreement and doesn't reveal classified information.
What is the difference between persuasion and influence?
Persuasion involves actively using emotional ploys to change someone's thinking in person, while influence is when someone recalls and acts on your ideas even when you're not around. Persuasion is the foundation of influence.
What is a practical tool to detect if someone is lying?
Ask a feelings question. A truthful response shows little effort and natural emotional reactions, while a lie shows more effort, confusion, and a lack of genuine emotional display.
Why did Andrew Bustamante believe Michelle Obama was the only Democrat who could have beaten Trump?
Michelle Obama had both high political credibility and popularity, making her the only Democrat with a strong enough appeal to compete with Trump’s broader influence.
What are some long-term changes Andrew predicts for the United States in the next decade?
The U.S. will face a decade of discomfort with small changes like more expensive products and mandatory recycling, and big changes for corporations and the political elite as the country evolves and faces new challenges.
What is the CIA’s approach to mental and physical health for their operatives?
The CIA has a strong mental health component, providing staff psychologists, therapists, and training to help operatives cope with the stress and trauma of their work. This is crucial for maintaining their operational effectiveness.
What are the key skills taught by the CIA that are applicable in everyday life?
Skills like optimizing health, improving memory, reducing stress, and building trust and influence are taught using cutting-edge research from leading universities and are applicable in personal and professional life.
Why does the average American tend to be less informed and less healthy compared to the elite?
The average American is not given the same resources and training as the elite, who are optimized for performance. The general population is often stuck with less effective, processed solutions and limited access to high-quality resources.
What is the primary need for human beings that is often missed but crucial for connection?
The primary need is for connection, which involves feeling seen, heard, and present in a moment with another human being. Meeting this need is crucial for building trust and influence.
- You are either in control or under control.
- Rapid trust-building involves two questions and a validating statement.
- Humans need connection, to feel seen, heard, and present.
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