Loving BDSM

External (extrinsic) motivation is about doing something because of outside expectations – your part

We’ve experienced “task creep” – the act of taking on tasks/routines that weren’t specifically negot

We don’t know how we’ve made it to 400 full-length episodes, either, but here we are! We didn’t get

We’re one week away from our 400th episode, so we’re starting the celebration early with a BDSM Redd

Most kinksters aren’t communicating too much, but some of us (like Kayla) could be, so let’s talk ab

A submissive has a recurring issue about aftercare with their Dominant partner and wants to know: ar

We joke about Kayla’s control issues, but they’re definitely a thing we both have to navigate in our

This week, a submissive is ready to get back to their previous kink life but their partner might not

Hair pulling inspired this week’s episode – because it was a grounding and/or centering moment in ki

A submissive needs more commands and strictness from their Dominant to feel the power exchange, but

Each partner has responsibilities to the other, to yourselves, and to the power exchange relationshi

This week, a kinkster asks if it’s time to let their kinky relationship go. Here’s the question: My

This week we answer relationship questions that are supposed to make us feel “warm and fuzzy.” In th

This week, a submissive has been assigned the task of coming up with ideas for punishments and rewar

If Kayla Rants™ are one of your kinks, our BDSM Reddit episodes are made for you. In this week’s Red

This week’s question is something both of us have dealt with – and there aren’t any easy answers. He

We didn’t have it in us to focus on a single topic, so this is a bonus section episode – rambly, poi

A kinkster feels like they’re the only monogamous person in their local kink community, and it’s rea

This week’s topic came straight from a recent Patreon live stream where we were asked about how to b

We are so sorry for the sound quality on this episode. We knew we had issues with the video, but we