Kelly Bensimon Wants To Help You Get A Date
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I do part two is a one of a kind experience in podcasting and love. If you didn't get love right the first time, our hosts and celebrity mentors are here to help you get it right the next time. I'm one of your celebrity mentors, Kelly Ben Simone. You may know me from the Real Housewives of New York and the Ultimate Girls Trip.

I have been having so much fun doing this podcast with all the incredible people on this show. It's almost like this podcast is therapy for me. So today I just want to kind of talk about what's been on my heart, my heart and on my mind. I may get a little emotional. What I want you listeners to know is that you're not alone. Heartbreak sucks and I'm literally going through it just like you.

So let's get started. We're going to go from heartbreak to manifesting love. And I'm so excited to do this with you guys.

I just want you guys to know really where I've come from and who I am. So I got married at a very young age and I was married for 10 years to a man that's older and French. I have two beautiful girls who I love so much. But it was a really difficult marriage because it was more about me being

being his wife and doing things for him than us being partners. And I didn't really know like what a partner meant or felt like when I was in my early 20s. And, you know, you have to also remember, like I started modeling when I was 15. And so the men that I was meeting were guys from college,

And they were all at a totally different pace in life than I was. And so when I met my ex-husband, he was older, he was savvy, he was sophisticated, but it was all about him. And it was really, really difficult to be in a one-sided relationship. And I had my first daughter who I love so much. And by the way, I didn't even know I could have kids. I went to this...

to a woman and she said, "You're never gonna have children." And so I never even thought that like kids were on my radar. And I had my first child and the minute I had my first child, what was bad before was even worse because it was just me and my daughter alone in New York while he was off doing what he was supposed to be doing.

Which was great for him, but it was really, really bad for me. And then I had my beautiful second child who I love so much. And after I had her, I was like, I'm done. I can't do this anymore. But it's not like, oh, I'm done and finished. You know, I'm so empowered. I'm so great.

It's like this is 2007. There's no dating apps. There's no nothing. I was on my own. I was providing for my kids. I was writing at the time. I was working at Elle Accessories. You know, I was wearing multiple hats at that time and raising two young girls. And so for me to leave a relationship, whether it was a healthy one or not healthy, it was still something that kept me safe.

but I just needed to move on and I just wanted to do something that was right for my girls and that would make

help my girls be the best version of themselves and that wasn't a sexy decision at the time you know people were like oh my god why would you like why would you like ruin something you know he you know you have a house and you have kids and you have a car and you have you know you're working and you're doing all these things but it wasn't about all of those things I mean there were a lot of indiscretions that were happening and there was a lot of time when I was so alone and

When you're alone a lot as a married person or just in general, I mean, you start to like really believe the stupid things that go through your head. And I was very, very insecure. I couldn't drive a car.

I couldn't be alone. I had to have like my, you know, people around me all the time. I didn't want to hold my oldest daughter. So I had severe postpartum with my oldest and I, I think it really translated to my second. So I was going through a lot of things emotionally, but the good news is that I was able to move forward and make that decision. I felt really, really good about the decision. But then when I was out in the wild,

I was like, what is going on? I'm, you know, 37 years old. Who are these people? My dad's like, what are you doing? You're like 37. Like, well, who's going to want like, you know, a woman with, you know, 37 years old with two kids. And people were like, oh, if you don't find someone tomorrow, you know, you're not be able to have any children and you're going to kind of be like used goods forever.

And again, there were no apps. There was no opportunity. And my friends weren't exactly like, oh, my God, let me set you up with, you know, someone that would be great for you. People, I think, really liked watching me feel really miserable and be really, really alone. I know that you guys have some of you guys have seen my psoriasis. It was so bad, so bad that it literally like wrapped around my entire body like a snake.

And I was on all these different steroids. My, my elbows were bleeding. It was just like my entire, I was breaking down physically and mentally and emotionally. And it was a very, very, very difficult time.

And I think that a lot of guys too were like, if they did want to date me, it was like, I was a kind of a trophy, even though I wasn't a trophy because I was like a mess. Um, but they thought like, Oh, well she's, she was a model. So she can, you know, we can kind of figure this out. And I was just such a mess. I'm so glad that I wasn't a trophy. Um, but it was a really, really, um, challenging time for me. And, um,

Just hope that nobody else has to go through something like that. I did not feel love I did not even know what love meant people are like, well, were you in so in love? I'm like, well, I wore the dress he wanted me to wear and I you know got married and built the life for him, but I I didn't feel love and I didn't even know what being in love Felt like and to be honest with you. I have never been in love. I've never felt love

I know that I know what it's supposed to feel look like. I know what it looks like on social media with rose petals, but I personally have never been in love or felt what love really, really feels like. I'm just getting really emotional because like I've never articulated that before. And, you know, I guess, you know, the past couple of months have been very difficult for me and I

It's been difficult because I don't have that outlet to go on social media and, you know, cry to people and show like how I'm feeling. I, you know, try to mask it. So because I don't want people to, you know, be afraid of, you know, running away from something they didn't want.

And I think it's really difficult for me, you know, even though, you know, I was with him for 10 years, but I stayed with him because I thought it was the right thing to do. And it was so harmful to me and to like my mental health that when I was like started to even date and at, you know, 37, which is not young, by the way, I had such like a rested development. I didn't even know like who I was.

I would date a guy and if I didn't like it, I just was like, dump him. I was completely unavailable. I chose men that were...

wildly abusive verbally, physically. I guess maybe that's also, you know, I, when I was very, very young in like literally in, you know, like six years old, I was abused at my school by another classmate. And I always felt so dirty about sex and having that, those kind of, you know, being touched like that.

And then later on in life when you're supposed to feel loved and everyone's like, oh, you guys are so in love and you have this perfect family and you're supposed to be doing all these things. And they weren't. There was no perfection. Perfection is just a it's just a word people try to use so that it masks like, you know, all the imperfection. And people don't people either. They want to commiserate with you like, oh, my God. Yeah, that really happened to me.

But they don't want to hear your bad news. They just don't. Like they have their own bad news. And I just felt very, very, very alone and very, very lonely. So over the years, I've had a handful of boyfriends. And I mean, you can't even call them boyfriends because I mean, they were dating me. I definitely was not dating them.

I had no interest in dating them. Zero. I was so laser focused on providing for my girls and making sure that they had what they needed in terms of education and in terms of upbringing that I thought was the right thing to do for them. I was so laser focused on making money, making whatever it took for them to

That if there was a guy that was a nice guy or not a nice guy, I didn't even notice him. Had no interest. Would fake and tell them I love them. I didn't love them. I would pretend that we were like boyfriend and girlfriend when I could not have cared less what they did.

I would say like, oh, you have to go on a trip. Okay, great. Call me when you're done. Like never even call them or ask how they were. It was just completely unavailable. And the irony of it, they all thought that I was like so into them and that I was just super hard to get to, super cold so that they couldn't get into me. But I just wasn't available at all. And I was miserable, totally, totally miserable. I would have sex every

um, how many, whatever I wanted to, why, you know, just because like not even like caring about who they were or about their feelings. It's not like I was having sex with random people, but I would pick guys and I would date them and knowing that they were the wrong people. I mean, if they had drug issues and whatever they were doing, uh,

I didn't care because I was like, I'll find something great about them so I can just, you know, have sex with them and they're unavailable. And it's just a very dark, dark, dark, dark time. And, you know, at the same time, I'm at home crying in my closet like I want love. I want to feel love. What does love feel like?

And so it was just like very strong juxtaposition of feelings where you're putting something out there that is so negative and you're at home desperate for something that's so positive. And it was just a very, it was, it was a very, you know, difficult time. And then I was on television and I had guys that were trying, they would be like, oh, I dated a housewife.

And, you know, sometimes I would be like, okay, maybe I should just date them to date them. I mean, dating some guy that wanted to date someone that was on a TV show, like how pathetic is that? And like, imagine my sense of like my self-esteem was zero. And then I was engaged to my most recent ex who really, really wanted to marry me. And I just wasn't available for him either.

I was happy for him and his success, but I didn't really care about anything that happened with what he was doing or his family. I didn't want to be a part of his kids. I didn't want to hear about that part of his life. It just had zero interest. And now that I reflect back on that,

I just, you know, it's not fair to be with someone who's emotionally unavailable. It's just not fair. It's just not fair. And, you know, whether he's a Superman or whether he's Clark Kent, he just wasn't my man. And I'm just excited to meet my man. Like, what does he look like? What does he smell like? What does he feel like? Like, I want, I can't wait to,

to meet someone that I just want to tell the whole world. Like, I've never been like, I have a boyfriend. And it's, you know, when you're like in the, you know, in papers and people are like, are you dating? And they would ask me, are you dating anyone? I'd be like, no, no, I was dating all these different guys. I was saying, no, no, I'm not dating anyone. Lying, lying like crazy. Didn't want anyone to know what I was doing.

because I, first of all, it was none of their business. But second of all, I didn't want anyone to know if I was dating someone, if I wasn't not embarrassed by them, but just humiliated by my own self. And, you know, it's ironic because I have this, you know, I was raised with a twin brother. So I have this amazing twin brother who I used to fight with, argue with,

You know, we'd have so much fun with, do stupid things, watch sports with him, do all these things. And so I know what it's like to have a, I mean, he's my brother, but I know what it's like to be around a male who's amazing and who's fun and exciting and interesting and engaging. And he has a beautiful wife and amazing kids. So I know what that looks like. I just didn't want it for myself for some reason. I just was like, I don't deserve that.

And maybe the guys that I was dating or that I was choosing just made that even more real because they didn't deserve me and I didn't even deserve them. I mean, they could have been the worst men on the planet, but they still were a lot better than how I was treating myself.

See what I did there?

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Your risk of severe low blood pressure and fainting is increased if you drink one to two standard alcoholic drinks close in time to your Addi dose. Wait at least two hours after drinking before taking Addi at bedtime. Your risk of severe low blood pressure and fainting is also increased if you take certain prescriptions, over-the-counter or herbal medications, or have liver problems. Low blood pressure and fainting can happen when you take Addi, even if you don't drink alcohol or take other medicines. Do not take if you are allergic to any of the ingredients in Addi. Allergic reactions may include hives, itching, or trouble breathing. Sleepiness, sometimes serious, can occur.

Common side effects include dizziness, nausea, tiredness, difficulty falling asleep or staying asleep, and dry mouth. See full PI and medication guide, including boxed warning, at addy.com slash PI, or call 844-PINK-PILL. Addy. That's A-D-D-Y-I dot com. So when I called off my engagement four days before the wedding, there was like this, there was like a lot of mixed emotions.

She wouldn't, you know, she broke up with him because of money. It's all about money. Or she's not, you know, oh, he dodged a bullet because she's so crazy. Or, you know, all these awful, awful things. And when you are, you know, in the public eye, you know, you have a responsibility. And...

I wanted to say, I'm feeling like shit. I'm feeling awful. I'm feeling so humiliated. I'm so humiliated that I couldn't figure out who to be with or that I didn't say to him before, this is not working. This is not right. I do not want this. And it's not that I didn't want this because I was running away again.

in like the newest sneakers so I could get away as fast as possible. It's not like running away. I just, I knew for myself that he wasn't the right person a long, long time ago. And I should have had the confidence to sit him down and say, or just the decency to say, this is not working. And not for the reasons that you think, but because I'm not ready. I'm not ready. So again, like,

you know, here's a laundry list of all these different guys, drugs, infidelity, cheating, like you name it. The worst of the worst. I was like, Oh, I'll date him. I'll date that guy. That sounds great. Making excuses. But like who wants someone like that? And even if on paper they looked like they were incredible, but

They were single for a reason and so was I because we were both like totally – all these men that I was dating were just as unavailable as I was. Hiding all these issues, porn, like all this crap and it was really awful and I just – when I remember –

I remember a year ago and I just was like, I cannot do this anymore. There were situations that were happening with his children. And I just was like, I am not ready for any of this and I can't do this. And instead of being an adult in the room, because, you know, I always talk about being the adult in the room. I always talk about like, oh, finally, there's an adult in the room. I'm up here. You're down there. You know, you know, I always know the right thing to say.

I don't know the right thing to say. I just say that because that sounds good. Because it sounds like something that someone like me would say. That's not the right thing to say. It's not. You have to be honest with people and say to them, first to yourself, forget them. Like you're not, you don't need, you don't owe anyone anything, by the way. So the first thing that you need to tell yourself is

is here are the non-starters. Here are the things you cannot put up with. And that's not like, well, Kelly, when you're like dating, you're going to have to be a little more open because like everybody's got their flaws. So I've recently started dating again since I called off my wedding. And not because I'm bored, but because I have been going to therapy and because I started this podcast.

And listening to all these different mentors and people talk about their different stories made me feel safe. So I was like, hey, you know what? Like someone's been married four times. People, you know, like I'll never forget TJ with like there's eight divorces in this room. And I was like, what? Eight? That's just a crazy number.

And I just started to feel safe about what I wanted for my own self. And so I have an amazing therapist and we've been talking through and walking through what are the things that are non-starters for me. And if I am going to go on a date, what am I going to bring to the table? Not him, but what am I going to bring to the table? First of all, I'm going to bring to the table things that I will not put up with. And those are things like no cheating, no lying, no

No violence, no emotional abuse, no sexual abuse, no any kind of anything that makes me feel bad. If you don't make me feel good about feeling good, you're out. And you can tell that about a person immediately. You don't need to talk to them. You don't need to ask them about their last relationship. All you need to do is give them a couple of seconds to say,

How are you? Or you're just kind of talk, you know, you're just kind of how they introduce themselves and you'll know immediately if it's about them or if it's about you guys. And that was something I needed to learn that it's a we. It's not like I'm going to lure this guy. I'm going to show him how pretty I am and funny I am and smart I am. No, you want, I needed to, I need to be, and I'm going to be open.

I'm going to be more relaxed, maybe in my body language, maybe the way that I dress. Just everything about me is going to be different because it's on my terms now. And all those things that I said before, the cheating, the lying, the violence, all of those things are just absolutely unacceptable. And so run away from all of that. Run fast. Sprint. So no more abuse of drugs or alcohol.

No more anger. No more fixing men. No more, oh, I see the potential in him. I just see so much in him. If he's not there, he's not ready. No more dating someone that doesn't want to have a future with me. No more dating someone that's not saying, oh my God, I would love to do this on Halloween or making plans in the future. Whether it's like going to the movies, doesn't need to be

you know, some wild thing. It needs to be something, a tomorrow thing. Oh, I would like to get a coffee with you. I'm going to meet you. Those kinds of things. I'm not going to go on a date with someone who doesn't understand my kids because they're my number one priority and they will always be. So that's like an absolute no. And no more self-sabotaging my relationships. So like I said, being more relaxed and when I go on a date, um,

not feeling like I have to get dressed up or put on any pretenses. You're around more single people and everybody starts talking about being single and what single looks like, but they don't talk about what single feels like. So there's no connectivity. There's no spending time with people. There's no back and forth. There's no

How was your day? Not like, how was your day? How was your day? How was your day? How was that meeting that you had? How did that go? What did you say in that meeting? Did you feel good about it? Life is about these small little moments. And when you're single and by yourself, it's not that it sucks. It's just these moments that you're having these memories by yourself. And

I'm not judging anyone for wanting to be by themselves or for enjoying their own personal company because I think that's amazing. I personally am not that person. I don't enjoy being by myself. I don't enjoy myself. I don't enjoy being by myself. So for me, being single is the worst thing. You know, I remember thinking to myself, oh my God, my kids go away. What am I going to do?

Like I'd always be like, oh, I have to go home for the kids. I have to go home. My kids, my kids, my kids. I was like, what happens? I mean, fortunately for COVID, I would have been by myself four years ago, just alone by myself.

And it's not like I'm just one of these kind of people that's like walking down the street, like winking at people. Hey, tiger. Like, I'm not that person. I'm so introverted. And so I'm so like frightened of people. I'm like, oh, my God, they're probably saying something about me. And I'm just so insecure that I'm so afraid that they are, you know.

Looking at me poorly or being like, oh, she's awful or she has big shoulders or whatever it is that they say that's mean. Like that goes that's what goes through my head. So being alone and being single sucks because you allow your that's that's your that's your partner is your your mind that's like place tricks on you.

And I don't want to make those memories in my life. And I don't want to have that partner. I want to have a solid partner that we're talking about things and we're interested in things and we're making plans and we're building a family, whether that's with his family or my family. I want to create those memories. I always talk about creating memories.

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Addi, or flovancerin, is for premenopausal women with acquired generalized hypoactive sexual desire disorder, HSTD, who have not had problems with low sexual desire in the past, who have low sexual desire no matter the type of sexual activity, the situation, or the sexual partner. The low sexual desire is troubling to them and is not due to a medical or mental health problem, problems in the relationship, or medicine or other drug use. Addi is not for use in men or to enhance sexual performance.

Your risk of severe low blood pressure and fainting is increased if you drink one to two standard alcoholic drinks close in time to your Addi dose. Wait at least two hours after drinking before taking Addi at bedtime. Your risk of severe low blood pressure and fainting is also increased if you take certain prescriptions, over-the-counter or herbal medications, or have liver problems. Low blood pressure and fainting can happen when you take Addi, even if you don't drink alcohol or take other medicines. Do not take if you are allergic to any of the ingredients in Addi. Allergic reactions may include hives, itching, or trouble breathing. Sleepiness, sometimes serious, can occur.

Common side effects include dizziness, nausea, tiredness, difficulty falling asleep or staying asleep, and dry mouth. See full PI and medication guide, including boxed warning, at addy.com slash PI or call 844-PINK-PILL. Addy. That's A-D-D-Y-I dot com. So I really appreciate you guys going through this with me. Being single just really sucks. And there's like no one that you have, there's no one that you have in a crisis.

Like something happens to you. Like one, you know, Christmas I'm driving with the girls and, and my oldest daughter's car, she blows a tire and I'm like, I don't want to fix a fricking tire. And there's no AA, there's no nothing. And I literally just melted down and start bawling my eyes out. Like I had just, it's like, and I know that sounds like, Oh my God, you have no one to fix your tire. It's like on the road, it was Christmas. There was no one there. And I'm like with my kids, like,

So there's no one to help you in a crisis. And the idea of turning 60, I'm 56, that's around the corner and being alone makes me really sad and really scared. And the idea of my youngest child leaving and moving on, even though I want them to be healthy and happy and amazing, I'm scared to be alone. And I feel like they...

are like so close to me because they don't want me to be alone and they don't want me to be, you know, scared, which is awful. This is everything that I didn't want for them. And I don't want a photo album. I don't want to like my phone, fill the pictures of myself, Facetune photos. I really don't want that. I mean, everybody loves that. I do not like that. I'm like, ugh, look at these fucking photos. Like where are like the fun photos of like eating ice cream or like the, you know, like

Like hanging out with your kids eating, you know, watching a movie or just like fun selfies.

And I don't want to have lack of sex and lack of intimacy. I don't want to have sex anymore. I don't want to have some guy taking a Viagra with some angry bird penis, like looking at me, frightening me. I'm like, I need an ice pack. And this is not what I want. I want to have intimacy and love and kindness and just to like, just lay there with them and talk about whatever it is.

I don't want some like red, you know, like arm coming after me. Just don't want that. Nothing wrong with guys that take Viagra. But if you're going to take Viagra, why can't you say I'm going to go in the bathroom and my little friend and I are going to have a power, you know, like a little moment together and we'll be back. Like, so at least I'm involved in the narrative and I'm not just like, you know, standing there with like a tripod in front of me. I'm just like, that's not what I want. I don't want that kind of sex. And I don't want to be go to events by myself.

So it's, you know, everyone talks about how I'm always late to an event. The reason I'm late to an event is because I don't want to be at the event by myself. So I go late because I'm like, if I go late, then I can leave early because everyone else is leaving early. So I'm only there for a certain amount of time.

He's like, don't want to be by myself. Oh yeah. So I went to this event by myself and it was really, really great. Me, myself and I sat in the chair together. I talked to people. They were really not interested in talking to me, but I was talking to them anyway. And you know, they were talking to me about whatever it was. And then I left. And it used to make me so sad and miserable. I was miserable, miserable sitting there.

I'd make all hair and makeup and people were like, oh my God, you just get ready for 20 minutes? Yeah, because I was only there for 20 minutes to do what I needed to do and then I left. And not that I don't respect the people that have me at these events, but I was just so unhappy with myself that I wasn't even enjoying the moment that they were celebrating. So I missed out on that. And I want to have someone to vent to like I'm venting to you guys. I want to be in a safe space where I can just be like,

I'm fucking miserable today as opposed to being like everything's fine everything's great we're gonna get all this together I'm gonna go on a run and feel good just want to vent to someone and just be like I am having the worst day and I'm feeling that feeling that I don't want to feel I'm feeling that I'm that part of me is telling me I'm not good enough and I don't want to feel that anymore

So something I'm really big on now is therapy and I'm working on myself post breakup, but I'm really into manifesting my own future. This is something that I was, I was like manifest. I was like, that is a crock. I'm like, I'm not going to manifest anything, but you know what? Since I've been doing this podcast and I actually have been looking up in my TikTok is like manifestation, you must manifest. And I'm like, what is going on?

Now I have this new person in my head that's trying to help me to be better. And it's working. It's working. I mean, for me to be able to sit in this chair and talk to you guys like this is not who I am. But it's me now. So when I get married someday, I have a really strong idea of who that's going to be and what they're going to look like. After all this, after this disaster, after this like...

pile of rubble of my feelings and my emotions and my old self is like I'm just like gonna clean that all up and I am going to start believing in myself first and giving myself a chance and giving myself a chance to feel and to be open and to be available and to be kind really kind to another person

So after all this, I wrote a journal entry to my dear future husband. And I want him to know how much I love and care about him and why I'm so proud to be with him. To my future husband, I'm so happy to have finally met you. Now that I have a healthier mindset, I'm doing the work with a therapist. I'd like to express to you how thankful I am

to finally have you in my life. I've never written a heartfelt note or vows or anything outside of one love letter in my entire life. When I was writing my novel, The Second Course, I was asked to write a letter to the man I was dating at the time. He was an amazing person from a prestigious family, but he was myriad in a world of prescription drugs. Looking back, I didn't know I would engage in with a man with addictions.

But I saw who he was without the drugs. And that was incredible, bright, educated, and thoughtful. But what about me? Why did I gravitate towards a man who was emotionally unavailable? And why was I writing him a love letter? Why wasn't I writing the love letter to myself? What I quickly learned in writing that letter was that he, his addictions, and I couldn't sustain a love triangle. And I came to understand that I deserve a man who could be a safe haven.

So who is that man? He's always there for me, whether the good, the bad, the ugly. He won't let me run away from uncomfortable moments and he makes decisions with me, not for me. He's you. Always surprising me and constantly piquing my curiosity. My non-negotiables are that I cannot live with a cheater, a liar, anyone who abuses drugs or someone with anger issues. They must love me and my family and allow me to love theirs.

I need to protect me and not have to protect them. In the past, I would sabotage a relationship if I felt I was not good enough. I wanted to protect myself from hurt, and maybe that was manifested by me taking control, which is ironic because I found myself in abusive relationships time after time. The lines were blurred. The desire was for a strong man to take control but to protect me, not to physically assault me. That was the theme for too long.

Here is who you are to me. You make me a better person. You inspire me with little things like hot sauce and you treat my children and their emotions with kid gloves. You make me want to nest with you. You make me want to tell the world who you are and why you're my Superman. Not for the reasons you think, but because you walk next to me holding hands as a partner in everything. I'm not an open person, but I want you to know everything about me.

It hasn't been the easiest to navigate the world of relationships and love, to understand who I deserve. I tell you these stories so you can hear the pain and the fear in my heart. And I now know that love isn't supposed to hurt. I can feel love in my bones, wrapped around me like the coziest duvet. And you are the man I want for myself, the man I've always dreamed of. I can only pray that my daughters find a kind person like you for themselves.

Here are things I'll never do. I'll never run away. I'll never belittle you. And I'll never make you insecure about how I feel about you, cheat on you, or lie to you. Thank you for believing in me, Kelly. I just feel so much better after reading that out loud. This was so vulnerable to put out there. And I really enjoyed connecting with you. And I think that we've been through it. We've really, really, really been through it today.

We loved and we've lost and still we want to find love again. I'm being real and raw with you guys because it's the only way that I know I'm going to grow and heal. So if you're wanting some relationship or dating advice or you're single and ready to find love again, call us at 1-844-4IDOPOD.

It's 1-844-443-6763. Or email us idopod at iheartradio.com. Follow us on Instagram at idopart2pod. All this information will be in the show notes and make sure to rate and review the podcast. I can't wait to hear what you think. iDo Part 2 and iHeartRadio podcast are falling in love is the main objective.