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The secret to making new friends as an adult (w/ Marisa G. Franco)

2023/5/1
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Marisa Franco：成年后的友谊并非自然而生，需要主动付出努力。人们往往低估了别人对自己的好感，主动假设别人喜欢自己能增加建立友谊的可能性。克服"隐蔽性回避"，积极参与社交互动，而不是被动等待。在群体活动中，与特定成员建立专属的联系，能促进友谊的进一步发展。参加持续性的群体活动是建立友谊的有效途径。"单纯接触效应"：重复接触能增加好感度。拥有良好的友谊关系有助于维护健康的婚姻关系。建立友谊的关键在于让对方感到被重视，而不是试图取悦对方。维系友谊的关键在于保持积极的预期和灵活的态度。童年时期的朋友帮助我们克服羞耻感，更好地认识自己。"超级朋友"的特质：安全感、同理心、积极主动、乐于付出。 Whitney Pennington Rodgers：引导话题，提出问题，并对Marisa Franco的观点进行总结和补充。

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Psychologist Marisa Franco discusses the difficulties of making friends as an adult and the importance of platonic love in our lives.

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Making friends as an adult can feel like a baffling obstacle course. Why was it so much easier to connect as kids? To help you find well-rounded and fulfilling friendships, psychologist Marisa Franco discusses science-backed tips on how to make (and keep) friends, like the optimism-inducing "acceptance prophecy" and the shame-reducing "theory of chums." Learn more about the power of platonic love and how it can help you experience the full richness and complexity of who you are. This conversation, hosted by TED current affairs curator Whitney Pennington Rodgers, was part of an exclusive TED Membership event, and later published on TED Talks Daily, another podcast from the TED Audio Collective. You can find more episodes wherever you're listening to this or visit ted.com/membership) to become a TED Member.