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Your Value and Worth Live Inside You

2024/10/15
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Allie: 我六岁的女儿与一些朋友相处模式让她时而快乐时而情绪低落,这种不稳定的友谊让她感到焦虑。我希望她能够与那些让她感觉自己是最好版本的自己的人交朋友,建立健康的人际关系,而不是总是等待被别人喜欢。我担心她会因为朋友关系而感到不值得、孤独,希望她能够建立内在价值感,而不是依赖外界的肯定。我尝试过用肯定的方式鼓励她,但效果并不理想。 Dr. Becky: 父母应该关注孩子人际关系背后的动态,并区分当下情况与对未来的焦虑,帮助孩子建立健康的人际关系模式。建议不要仅仅依赖外界的肯定来获得自信,而应该培养内在的自信,即使在没有得到肯定的情况下也能感觉良好。建议培养内在价值感,即使在别人没有给予积极回应的情况下也能感觉良好,并建议父母和孩子一起努力。强调培养内在价值感的重要性,建议使用积极的自我肯定来建立内在的自信,并解释“内在性”的概念。建议父母与孩子分享自身经验,并用具体的例子说明如何建立内在价值感。建议先了解孩子行为背后的动机,再尝试引导孩子改变行为,并用具体的例子说明如何与孩子沟通。建议父母通过引导孩子思考,而不是直接告诉孩子道理,来帮助孩子学习处理人际关系中的问题。建议父母在日常生活中向孩子示范如何处理类似情况,并强调潜移默化的影响。强调父母应该以身作则,并接受孩子学习过程中的反复。建议关注自身感受,并建议参加工作坊来学习如何建立内在自信。

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A mother, Allie, expresses concern about her six-year-old daughter's friendship with a girl who displays fluctuating kindness. Allie seeks advice on how to guide her daughter towards healthier relationships and build her self-worth.
  • Allie has five children, her oldest being six.
  • Allie's eldest daughter experiences emotional distress due to the unpredictable nature of a friendship.
  • Allie seeks guidance on fostering healthy relationships and building self-esteem in her daughter.

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What do you do when you see your kid engaging in a type of friendship pattern that makes you cringe? Or one that reminds you of yourself? Or one that makes you worry about their future relationships? On today's episode, Dr. Becky talks to a mom who doesn't know how to stop being triggered by her kid's tricky friendship moments. Good Inside's Building Lasting Confidence Workshop - https://bit.ly/3XkorMLGood Inside's Tricky Friendship Moments Workshop - https://bit.ly/4cjuJR6Get the Good Inside App by Dr. Becky: https://bit.ly/4ehhlOA)To learn more about the How to Give Your Kid a Phone Workshop: https://bit.ly/4gOu8tEFollow Dr. Becky on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drbeckyatgoodinsideSign up for our weekly email, Good Insider: https://www.goodinside.com/newsletterOrder Dr. Becky's book, Good Inside: A Guide to Becoming the Parent You Want to Be, at goodinside.com/book or wherever you order your books.For a full transcript of the episode, go to goodinside.com/podcastTo listen to Dr. Becky's TED Talk on repair visit https://www.ted.com/talks/becky_kennedy_the_single_most_important_parenting_strategyToday’s episode is brought to you by Airbnb: Before Dr. Becky was a parent, she thought planning a family vacation would be a breeze… until she realized how much has to come together for a trip with two adults and three kids. Then she discovered Airbnb Guest Favorites. No more combing through options, reviews, and features. Guest Favorites are the most loved homes on Airbnb according to other guests. And that peace of mind when preparing for a trip is huge. Using Guest Favorites couldn’t be easier: Just go to Airbnb, add your destination, tap the filters and hit the toggle for Guest Favorites. It’s that simple.Today's episode is brought to you by Hasbro: As a parent, no one understands play better than you do. That’s why Dr. Becky wants to tell you about Hasbro’s Innovators of Play Challenge. They’re inviting women all over the world to submit their ideas for a brand-new toy or game concept–starting right now! Whether or not you are in this field already, if you feel something inside you that is yearning to be creative, or if you’ve ever been playing with your kid and thought, “You know what could make this better?” This is for you. Winners will receive a $10,000 cash prize, a trip to Hasbro HQ, and the opportunity to be mentored by Hasbro’s award-winning toy and game design teams. If you’ve been looking for a sign to put yourself out there creatively, this is it! To be considered, make sure to submit your idea by November 12th! One important thing to note: all contestants must be 18+ and from select countries. For a complete list of rules and eligibility requirements, visit spark.hasbro.com/womeninnovators.)