Sleep Struggles are Separation Struggles
Good Inside with Dr. Becky
Deep Dive
Why do parents and kids have different needs at night?
Kids want more connection, snuggles, and time with their parents, while parents often want alone time to recharge and do things they haven't had time for.
Why do sleep struggles often feel like power struggles?
Because parents and kids want opposite things at night, leading to frustration and reactive behavior from both sides.
Why do sleep struggles often get worse after trips or long weekends?
Sleep struggles are separation struggles, and changes in routine or location can make it harder for kids to separate from their parents at night.
Why did Dr. Becky's perspective on her daughter's sleep struggles change?
She realized that her daughter's sleep issues were actually separation struggles, not intentional misbehavior. This shifted her approach from frustration to empathy and effective support.
Why is understanding the root cause of sleep struggles important?
Understanding that sleep struggles are separation struggles provides clarity and a direction for addressing the issue, leading to better sleep and overall well-being for both parent and child.
Why is self-care important for parents during difficult sleep stages?
Self-care helps parents maintain their energy and patience, which is crucial for effectively supporting their child through sleep challenges.
Why does Dr. Becky emphasize holding hope for parents struggling with sleep issues?
Holding hope helps parents stay motivated and believe that they can overcome sleep challenges, which is essential for making lasting changes.
- Sleep struggles stem from the conflicting needs of parents and children at night.
- Children seek connection, while parents often want less interaction.
- Recognizing this difference fosters compassion and better leadership in parents.
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