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My Number One Job as a Parent Is Not to Make You Happy

2024/10/1
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主持 STAT 的生物技术播客「The Readout LOUD」，讨论生物技术行业的最新发展和事件。
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Dr. Becky: 本期节目探讨了父母如何克服对孩子说不的困难。Dr. Becky 提出，父母的主要任务是设定界限和确认孩子的情绪，而不是让孩子一直快乐。设定界限是为了孩子的长远利益，而确认孩子的情绪有助于孩子发展应对困难的能力。父母应该明确自身的角色，并坚持设定界限，同时以同理心回应孩子的情绪。 Dr. Becky 强调，将满足孩子的需求与爱孩子混为一谈是错误的。真正的爱是为孩子的长远发展着想，即使这意味着孩子在短期内会感到失望或沮丧。她鼓励父母在设定界限时要坚定，并帮助孩子处理由此产生的负面情绪。 Dr. Becky 还建议父母关注自身的需求，并学会在满足孩子需求的同时，维护自身的界限。这不仅有益于父母的身心健康，也有助于孩子学会独立和解决问题。 Eileen: Eileen 分享了她难以对孩子说不的经历，并表达了希望孩子感到被倾听和重视的愿望。她承认缺乏边界导致家庭关系紧张。 Megan: Megan 描述了她总是对孩子说不的困境，因为孩子不断提出各种要求，导致权力斗争。她感到压力很大，并希望找到更好的方法来处理这种情况。 Allison: Allison 也表达了难以对孩子说不的困扰，因为她想满足孩子们的需求，并让他们感受到爱和被照顾。她经常满足孩子的要求，即使这些要求对她来说有些不方便，因为她想让孩子知道寻求帮助是可以的。她意识到这种做法可能导致孩子依赖性过强，并希望找到更好的平衡点。

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Parents often struggle with saying no to their children, wanting to validate their feelings and desires. However, it's crucial to separate validation from always saying yes. Saying no teaches children valuable life lessons about not always getting what they want while still feeling loved and respected.
  • Saying no is a way to teach children resilience and prepare them for adulthood.
  • Validating a child's feelings is different from fulfilling all their wants.
  • It's essential for children to understand that they are loved even when they don't get what they want.

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Everyone in a family unit has a job. As parents, it's our job to hold boundaries with our kids. It's also our job to validate their feelings. And boy do they have feelings when we say no. On today's episode, Dr. Becky explores the reasons behind why so many parents struggle with saying no to their kids and provides some new strategies you can start using in your house today. Get the Good Inside App by Dr. Becky: https://bit.ly/3zntTVA)Follow Dr. Becky on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drbeckyatgoodinsideSign up for our weekly email, Good Insider: https://www.goodinside.com/newsletterOrder Dr. Becky's book, Good Inside: A Guide to Becoming the Parent You Want to Be, at goodinside.com/book or wherever you order your books.For a full transcript of the episode, go to goodinside.com/podcastTo listen to Dr. Becky's TED Talk on repair visit https://www.ted.com/talks/becky_kennedy_the_single_most_important_parenting_strategy

To learn more about the How to Give Your Kid a Phone Workshop: https://bit.ly/4gOu8tE)Today’s episode is brought to you by Airbnb: Before Dr. Becky was a parent, she thought planning a family vacation would be a breeze… until she realized how much has to come together for a trip with two adults and three kids. Then she discovered Airbnb Guest Favorites. No more combing through options, reviews, and features. Guest Favorites are the most loved homes on Airbnb according to other guests. And that peace of mind when preparing for a trip is huge. Using Guest Favorites couldn’t be easier: Just go to Airbnb, add your destination, tap the filters and hit the toggle for Guest Favorites. It’s that simple.Today's episode is brought to you by Hasbro: On October 10th, Dr. Becky is giving the keynote address at Hasbro’s Women Innovators of Play virtual conference…and you’re invited! Hasbro’s mission with this annual conference is to attract more women and girls to the toy and game industry and inspire anyone with a passion for play. They’ll have panel discussions, fireside chats, and so much more that will leave you feeling energized, educated, and maybe even inspired to use the skills you learn to dip your toe in the toy and game design field or help your kid get the most out of playtime. The best part? It’s completely free to attend. Join us on October 10th from 10am-12:30pm Eastern! To learn more, register, and watch, head to www.spark.hasbro.com/womeninnovators.