#309 Arnold Schwarzenegger (Before He Was Successful)
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Arnold mentioned that a particular incident of rejection had influenced his motivation to succeed on his own terms. I felt cheated, he said. My parents sent me to a farm and took minor as his brother on vacation.

I was sent to my godmother's farm fifty miles away, when they took my brother to vienna and south burg in all these other places. I was ten. I was left there for two months.

I was in denial that they had gone away without me. I knew IT had an impact on me. I gave me the will, desire and drive that Normal life doesn't create.

They discounted Arnold from the start when no one encouraging his vast potential until age fifteen, arno's father goose returned from the miserable front of war. War two defeated. He was now a thirty eight year old man, diminished but dominating gu stops, military tic regulations blanketed his sons.

Arnold obeyed his father without question. Discipline, consistency and excEllence became his family's model. Gu staff drank the entire story in two words. He forced his sons to eat with silver ware at perfect right angles.

They had to keep their elbows to their waist if the boys did not obey, the back of his hand was quick to strike their face. Arno's father pitted his two sons against each other. He made them compete in every activity.

Because his brother is older, his brother would usually be the one to win or not gonna turn all of this into fuel and drive a swift learner of life are not often covered more value from associating with those older than him. Some of the older guys in his town worked out in a makeshift gym. They invited him in by fifteen.

Building a stronger body became all the matter to Arnold. He found old body building magazines around the gym. He spotted ridge park on a magazine page, his eyes open to the future.

Annabi inspired to learn that read had earned a lucrative income to his physical, and he made his way into movies. Arnold instantly resonated with a redge parks path and chose to replicate his professional life. Redge became are not silent mentor.

His life began to flash to the art in science of body building are not aid sleep IT worked IT imagined IT thought IT believed IT interested IT body building became his existence. A muscle obsession allowed him to endure his parents complaints in the region. Over his bizarre obsession, he sacrificed a routine life.

He discussed himself of all current norms to become the ridge park of europe. He duggin ing to mass herself. Discipline not only did he improve his muscularity, but he also developed a harden outer shell he had no time to waste on.

Nay says he aligned only with those who shared his passion. He knew that to succeed according to his manic standards, he needed to master an individual sport. His entire being forged a lifetime plan to build upon his muscles, build a way out of town, a way out of his country and a way out of this continent.

His intelligence did not show on his report cards yet. He mastered his goals like a wizard. That part reminded me of linden Johnson.

L, B, J has one of my favorite maxims. He said, if you do everything, you will win. This sounds exactly like where we are, an ono's life.

His singular concentration provided iraq solid belief in his own potential. Arno had a deep seated need to prove himself. He talked his way into managing a gym in munich.

He never looked back to his tiny country for any further resources towards his in munich. He, he was happy to meet crazy new friends who also practice a similar resource veness to train and eat without financial worries. The results paid off.

He won three contests in one thousand nine hundred and sixty six. No time could be lost in his training. Emotionality had no place.

Arnal felt as if he stood alone, unable to relate to anyone who could possibly share his excessive drive for both body building and his business schools. Not even his peers could understand the enormity of his lifetime dreams. His lifestyle remained centers around the gym.

He developed an obsessive dry for public, a claim he became the world's Youngest amateur r universe. After any contest that he would win, he would say, this is just the next step. You haven't seen anything yet.

He had an inability to experience satisfaction. The one thousand nine hundred and sixty seven mr. Universe contest became the turning point in Arnolds body building career.

He was discovered on london stage by body builder business tacon joe weather, who invited him to amErica to start and jose muscle magazines. Through this new charismatic body builder, joe could hype his muscle products through this brilliant entrepreneur, Arnold could become an icon to coal beevers. okay.

As a brief overview of Arnold early life and an expert from the book, and they talk about today, which is Arnold in me, in the shadow of the austrian oak and IT was written by his former girlfriend, barba outland Baker. So I stumbled upon this book because I was watching the new documentation on nef lix. It's a three part series.

It's called Arnold. And in one of the episodes, barber makes an appearance and IT mentions like who he is in the fact that he wrote a book about the six year relationship that he had with on again before he was famous. And so I didn't remember her name, but all the way back on episode one ninety three, I read this short is like a hundred fitting page biography autobots phy of oral, when he was like thirty years old.

It's called the education of a body builder. And the book ends with or no, dumping his girlfriend. And so i'm going to read this quote that I think sets up the fundamental mismatch between Arnold and his girlfriend at the time.

And this is what aren't said. A conflict grew in our relationship. He was a well baLanced woman who wanted an ordinary life, and I was not a well baLanced and hated the very idea of an ordinary life.

He thought that I would settle down, that I would reach the top in my field and then love l off. But that's a concept that has no place in my thinking. For me, life is continuously being hungry.

The meaning of life is not simply to exist, to survive, but IT is to move ahead, to go up, to achieve, to conquer. I wanted to grow. I wanted to continue on the life.

SHE wanted would not permit that. And so what this part gets going to be about is this is honored before the fame, before the success. Like this is the person that built the foundation upon which all his future success rest upon.

okay. So main theme of the book is that, or know, is the most goal oriented person that barber had ever met. And so I want to go right to where they meet, are those twenty one years old at the time? He just got to america.

He's living in south n. California, and he's working with you wear. And so we see this list of goals that he makes for himself.

So he has five exact goals that he he wants to accomplish immediately. He wants to rent a one bedroom apartment near gold gym. m.

He wants to acquire a motivating training partner. He needs to find a freeLance writer to help him write his required articles for jae magazines. He needs to get access to a car, and he needs to get a raise for his salary from joe.

And so at the end of every chapter, you see the exports from this interview that Barbara does with Arnold when he is the government of california, is the back in two thousand and four. And so he goes back in time. He's talking about like this is why I had the singular focus.

There is like a clarity of purpose. I think when you find one single thing that you can focus on to the exclusion of everything else arnal talks about in interviews and in books and everything else, he didn't believe in plan b. He believed, you pick what you want to do and you burn the boats, and you never doubt yourself.

And I think most people never experienced in life, I think a lot of people that have never experienced limiting, I I would argue, is actually it's the opposite. It's freezer because you know exactly which emissions ed, is that life, and if you watched documentary with any other grapes are not like your miss could change at first. His body, body that there was this move, career and this that's that that documentation and ethnics is a three part series.

But let's go to the fact that, hey, this is my way out. I'm going to reference that L, B, J, maximum over over again, because I feel that that it's Arnold all day long. If you do everything, you will win.

IT became clear to me that body building was the thing for me. This is what I was meant for at that time. And I then saw very clearly what I could achieve. And that gave me a tremendous amount of motivation.

Instead of training two hours a day, like most people did most of the body builders, I would train twice a day, totally abNormal, sometimes three times a day and sometimes four times a day. I would go home during my lunch time and then for an hour straight, just do sit ups s to get that extra hour that no one else had gotten in, just to be ahead of everyone else. Many people have potential.

What separates the champion from the guy that is the second best or the loser is the person who really has the psychological advantage. Everything is in the mind. I had a psychological advantage, and he talks about why he's like, group.

He group in house. There's no television, no such television. See the first movie.

He was like ten years old or fifteen years old. So like that, there was no indoor plumbing. There is nothing to do.

So he says, I had no other things available, meaning no other distractions. IT was easy to have that drive and develop. This kind of attitude of, this is my only way out.

Every thought, every action, everything is directed towards us. One goal I always in this is why I always felt that my way out was through body building. I could not have figured any other way.

And so the singular focus on the clarity of mind about what he wants to do actually makes him really, really easy to understand. If you go through, I probably, I don't know, sixty, fifty, fifty or sixty. Highlight the book.

Most room are not a paragraph one most room are sentenced to. Its very easy. Understand him. He makes IT very easy for people to interface with him because he tells you very clearly what's important time, and you'll see what I mean in one second. This is the fundamental mismatch between him and barber.

Remember how how the court I just read to you? Hey, SHE wanted, you know, a Normal life. I hated that very idea.

I got a repulsive SHE wanted me to, I am always going to grow. I want to continue SHE wanted a life that would not permit that. He says, multiples book.

Like, why would you just get a Normal job, be a Normal person? And she's constantly trying. To change him.

And I think the benefit of understanding this is because I think anybody that's trying to do something difficult to build a business, achieve a goal, must have a support of spouse. You either have a support of spouse or you don't have a spouse. All of the greatest founders have high levels of disagreeable ess are not as no different.

There are eight months into the six year relationship, right? SHE is SHE write him a note saying, hey, these are the things I don't like about you. These are things that you should change.

This is what he does. I gave him my note. He read IT, tossed aside and announced my departure.

Boom, we were over. No response, no conversation. Arno was not a man of many surprises. He was clear in his focus, firm in his decisions, an egocentric at all cost. So this is the fundamental mismatch.

He's going to be rude in sensitive machine, like willing to not be in a relationship if you try to change him, because nothing is going to distract him. He keeps saying, hey, let's get married. Let's have kids.

But marriage and kids is not becoming, they getting to the top of my profession and body building. So then I can then use that as a launch pad, right? He told her, like, i'm just going to run reg parks blueprint.

He was very open and honest with her, which is the the frustrating part of our reading book because I know this is what i'm going to do do and she's something like, no, do this other thing he's like, I just told you i'm going to focus like a machine, get to the top of body building and once I get there, are use that as a launchpad to get into movies and build my business empire. That is what i'm doing. That is what i'm obsess with.

From the time my eyes open until the time I go to sleep, IT is futile to make suggestions that are not that to me. And so what i'm describing to you is the reputation that Arnold has now, right? Everybody know that what's fastest is he had that when he was twenty.

He had when he was twenty one. He had that when he was fifteen. And I think the best description of this is there's a book I did a long time ago to very popular with entrepreneurs.

The scanning bill walsh, who was uh uh maybe one of the greatest coaches of all time I think was like maybe epsom one of six or something like that founder is called the score takes over itself and there's a line in there as a paragraph in that book was really alist that champion's behaved like champions on before the champions and we're seeing that with Arnold. And bill walsh says like the culture precedes positive results, IT doesn't get tacked on as an after thought on your way to the Victory stand. Champions behavior, champions before their champions.

They have a winning standard of performance before they are. Winners are not had a winning standard performance before he was a winner. And the great thing about this perspective is we have a Normal person by her own show, repeat over, and I just am a Normal person.

I just want of a Normal life. And yet she's in the intense relationship with an absolute manik. And SHE is shocked at his level of focus and discipline.

This is why all we say that if you think about the people to unite IT in the bike ast, they are much more similar to each other. Then they are elected, the range person on the street to the average person, Arnold and people like him. Most of the people are united in the podcast.

They have a ruthless competitive drive that is terrifying to an ordinary person, terrifying. And so barber sees that I think aren't like what twenty two, twenty three were in the story. They hadn't seen each other for like three months.

I think he's in art. You might have been in europe or he's in europe or something and because he's getting ready for a contest rate and he's got blinders on focus. So she's oh my god, we have seen southern n watch a few months.

It's going to be like we're going to get away this romantic time and he gets there in are not like, no, i'm gonna working and i'm gonna focused. Arnold had endured a labor intense of summer dedicated to the art hoo's body, grueling training, weight conscious eating, restricted socializing and scientific sleeping. He stocked through the season with impeachment discipline.

The man I be held was more competitive than boyfriend, and she's showing a rival competition and expect this is so crazy to me and expecting him to, like, get off for the weekend, right? His unenthusiastic response to a passionate weekend caught off guard. I tried to reassure myself that I would be arno's top priority after the contest was over wrong.

You're asking him not to be Arnold. And then he goes into all the additional things that he was willing to do, that his competitors or not that this is on the existing page, goes back to the L, B, J. maxim.

If you do everything, you will win. I had heard him, they set the aspects of a body building contest. He had talked about his posing routine, and that he had taken private ballet classes to protect the flow of his, to perfect the flow of his mosquito posits.

He had mentioned the mine games that he would play to psych out his fellow competitions. And this is here with her response of watching how he purchases work. Hearing him speak about IT, I feared the consequences of merging with a boyfriend so addicted to discipline, goals and a claim.

And what fascinating is that sentence is on one page, on the left side of the book, on the right page of the book, goes into the environment in which he grew up, the fact that his family had no indoor plumbing, no shower, no flushing toilet. Think about the contrast. Think about the jack opposition there.

I'm shocked. I'm kind of a scared that this guy so addicted to discipline goals in a claim, he grew up without running water. Now he is the ability to channel his focus into an activity that will make him in his unborn grandchildren, wealthy.

And you find IT surprising. My responsible is, of course, he's like this. And or no, does exactly what I think. If you're this driven, monumental maniac, what you should do, clear communication with the people in your life about what is important to he made a clear that his world was huge, and I must learn to accept that other people in activities demanded his attention.

He discussed his cache up before contest, his testicle drive for success, his compulsion to postponed alternatives and the let down that he felt after each one of his body, body building goals were met, I found him incredibly insensitive to others. Again, there goes the fundamental math match. He is focused much time in the book.

She's just like, hey, why she's? She's a teacher. I want you come and like, hang out with me, my teacher friend.

He is like, why would I do that? Like, hanging out with your teacher friends is not chasing after my goals. And so therefore SHE missed hurries as though he's intention.

I found him incredible insensitive of others. He was not want to take responsibility for hurting other people's feelings. He said that they should, that other people should toughen up again.

I don't think that should be surprising. He grew up with a military tic father who felt like a loser. He talks about this and other books where you, the austrians, they want of getting, they want of losing the war.

Then they come back. There was alcoholic all in. His most social were drunk all the time.

They were depressed. They felt like losers. They went up, beating on their kids, beating on their wives. He grows up with no access to media, no access to running water. He comes to america.

He finds people like, you know, caused in one other book I read caused them lazy bastards, you know, they don't know how good they have IT. So again, I don't think that that that response would be surprising if you put into context of his early life. To him, life was something you directed to me, life with something that happened again.

There's a fundamental match, or know there is a high agency person. The the world does not happen to high agency individuals. High agency individuals happen to the world, to him life with something you directed. And so you have all these other people is there's older mentors around Arnold and barber.

They want of knowing both Arnold and barber and they trying to explain to barba how Arnold is uh, here's one of them that becomes is like, geez, father figure in amErica to to and he says he offered his interpretation of Arnold extreme drive his family foundation was instrumental and setting up his intense motivation to succeed are no sensitivities to his father's reMarks left him with A I am going to prove you wrong attitude this negative, this is one of my favorite lines in the book, is that really is a great way to think about this negative motivation pushes him to achieve the maximum potential in every activity which he didn't. He got to the highest, uh, love on body building. He became the highest paid actor in movies, and then he gets to the highest political office that he was actually eligible.

So that's a great way to think about this. He had negative motivation that pushed to achieve the maximum potential every activity. Frank zine was also a competitor in front theirs, and he would give his breakdown of our annals extreme drive.

He believe that arno's self discipline was what allowed him to accomplish his overreaching goals and that he was motivated to succeed at any cost, which would include his relationship with barba. Franklin also studied call Young and, uh, this, I think, this form of buddy m. So he actually gives us another mental model of Arnold as the trickster tighten.

And he says Frank would study call Young story of archetypes. Frank saw the Arnold fit the trickster archetype, the one whose humor, who is humorous and perhaps mersey cunning, could outsmart others. Frank also expounded upon his what he, london tibetan buddhists, the six arms of being.

Frank believed that honor lived in the tighten rem, where he was the consumer leader, and he was filled with passion to achieve something Better. This leader is able to master the his sphere of influences to affect change. And so bar we are saying, you know, having these conversations with people to know him, IT helped give her a Better understanding of why Arnold would had such a single minded motivation.

And then here's the problem. She's not, I say, like, learning is not memorizing information. Learning is changing behavior or so I go, this makes you feel Better and then she's like, oh, I just wish that IT had made him so mono monico.

If he wasn't so mono monico, he wouldn't have been Arnold. And so another thing about arnos, he had this like superhuman h levels of carma. There is many stories in the book where, like her at first, like why you dating, you know, they look at body budders like freak. That was a very unusual thing to do at this point. history.

And yet he he was so like unpredictable and boisterous and would say things that you know you should say if you had manner you won't say like I want to redo something here that just made me laugh but people found him in during so much so that, like barbers, mom, decades, I got fifteen years after they broke up. We would be inviting, but are not to like family celebrations, are having lunch with them or talking to on the phone. And you know, he didn't know any Better.

So he would just say outline or maybe he didn't know Better. He just would say outland understand people to laugh, even though most people would say, hey, if you've having dinner with like your girlfriend's family or sister and stuff, don't accuse her of like farting and self about to happen. He Carried his boy to man, or everywhere, even into my families home.

But he was such a novelty that most family members became captivated by his blast of personality. Everyone in the family soon learn that the more he poked one of you, the more he liked you. He might ask, who farted here now come on and tell me IT was you wasn't in marian.

Marian is party is sister just imagine being at the dinner table in some two hundred and forty pound austrian body builder is like a who's in who's taking up the place and and her mom loved IT SHE called him, uh, hit her little devil SHE says mom's little devil man SHE become the silicious the most desired guest at each frequent family gathering. And this another important part, I think, of our story is the ability to build a network of allies to get people they were tracked to him, and they want to build relationships with him. Such attention to detail, market difference between oral and all the body builders, his mind was focused on his body, yet he never lacked the vision and foresight to establish public relations with those you could profit him.

He had unlimited imagination and ambition, and he believed in statistically setting up a firm network to written corresponds. That's another smart move. This there's a line in the documentary africa who said up, but they said that orono was the most calculating person that they had ever met, is a bunch of great what liners in the book.

This is just fantastic. No one could restrain his mutant energy. Arnold is about twenty four years old at this point in story.

More insight from his live in girlfriend. Ah he he possess unfathomable dedication. Arnold spent three hundred and sixty four days a year on his own terms.

Arnold always felt self confident, no matter the disparity and sophistication, income or status. Arno the woke in the mornings on an edgy high and left to work out his competitive nerves through barbels. I thought about arno's road to power.

He is fulfill his childhood dream to capitalize on being a unique reviewed winner. He had stacked on muscles quite intentionally for the past eleven of his twenty six years, and now they separated him from his rivals. Arnold evoked not only respect, but god like wonder.

There's a bunch of things going on in this page. These are not like what i'm reading to is not coming run, right? Afterall, these is random sentences, I feel, tell entire stories about who is excessively high energy, a power law type of person, unfathomable levels of dedication and discipline, a singular focus.

And then you package that would, like Steve jobs level of carma Arnold evoke not only respect, but god like wonder. To be in his presence was to fall under the spell. This is exactly how they talked about the great leaders in history, ever, that almost that exact same line in a bunch biography of Steve jobs.

There's a line in George lucas biography where he meets his lifelong friend. But also this point was like this kind of older mentor, tom h. Frances, for copa.

And George lucas had spent a lot of his early life reading a butros graph in history. And when he meets copa, he's like, oh, so this is what what these books men he says, are this a line? Pull over quick.

Lucas is talking about Frances for copa. Francis could sell ice to eyes. He has a beyond logic.

I can see now what kind of men the great scissors of history were they were magnetic, is exactly the same description that I we're reading about. A Young Arnold to be in his presence was to fall under his spell. He had that uncanned ability to connect immediately with anyone he chose.

And so that part, reminding me of Steve jobs, Steve jobs was known to have underived rima and to have an intense presents, aren't not had that too. And the amazing thing is, as you go through the years into the pages and as you turn the pages aren't get older, and yet he remains remarkably consistent. He is smarter than he looks.

He understands the world, runs on relationship, so he cultivates them. He's concern using the way he grew up as few. I love that that quote by the investor josh wolf, that chips on shouders put chips in pockets.

And he's always learning an oppression that a friend john offered of Arnold is that Arnold mind is like a steel trap, are not had a neck for meeting unusual people, are not always rooted for the underdog success. The dog had to fight for himself, just like honey l had to fight for himself to get out of austria. And so even though or not working in real state, he's got a construction company like a brick ir company.

He's working on five hours a day. He's uh doing a bunch of media work for joe winter. He's continuing to train.

He's creating his own products. He's doing seminars. He's also constantly taking classes.

He is always learning. He has steadily recruit undergraduate credits from cinematic college. His vocabulary expanded by several thousand more words.

And he worked to like to he worked to make his accent less gutteral. He enrolled an adult education program, U. C, L.

A. And took classes on philosophy in business. He acquired the bulk of his information from listening.

He admired anyone who contribute knowledge into his mental storage tank. He was always observing. He grew more refined every day.

These sentences, again, are not next to other, disappearing over multiple pages. He was orderly, consistent. And this is reminding me of what I could join, said in his automotive fee, back and to thirteen.

I'm not so dominant that I can't listen, idea, as coming from other people. Successful people listen. Those that don't listen don't survive long.

So at this point, the story, his father is dead. His older brother, who know, didn't really have a good relationship with once up, dying rather Young. He was like twenty five, twenty six from driving drunk, been stacking one accomplishment on another.

And so his mom comes to amErica and visit them, spends time with both barber and armed. And then when he drops her back off at the airport, this was fascine. What do you think that he thinks of me? Is still matters to him, is still motivating him to prove his parents wrong.

And he had had been incredibly satisfying because I was obvious that he was extremely proud of who he became in what he accomplished. And unlike his father and unlike his brothers, you live long enough to see IT. okay.

So another good idea of the Arnold is the fact that he always spun everything for the positive. He was consulting barber would learn like a problem we talked about again, go from uh, opportunity problems, just opportunities in worker. I think a lot of Normal will they let themselves get down ah they get no upset about something and or would like laugh at off if I give nothing to worry about their C A repeal.

Like there's always uh uh a solution ary problem. There's always a way out. Just keep going forward.

And so when I just got to this one line, just says he always spent things for the positive. I thought of two quotes that absolutely love, one from my personal hero at vinland. He says, optimism is a moral duty that is such a great line.

Optimism is a moral duty that every lame, repeated IT so much that when you read about these of he has these statements, like a lot of founders, they identify a handful principles or a maximum that they repeat over over in the review was so frequently that you they become jesus in the case of like jaso s inside amazon, he yet there is so much of these in inside polar o there is land and and optimism is a moral duty was one of the land ism. There's another quote, uh, that I thought of from actually came from Andrew carne's autobots phy, when I got to this part, and he says that a Sunny disposition is worth more than a fortune. Young people should know that I can be cultivated, that the mind, like the body, can be moved from shade into sunshine.

Let us move IT, then laugh trouble away, if possible. And one usually can. And so I think this idea, like optimism, looking at the for the bright side, changing your mind, just like you can.

I love that ideas like, I can get out from the into the sunshine. I can physically move. My body can do the same thing in mind, I think, is something that every and carnegie and or not ahead in common. Another smart thing that aren't h understood. He understood from the very beginning the power of media with its magazines when he first saw the redge park and realize this is my blueprint, is my my escape out of austria, something that he says in the documentary.

This is why I thinking about this, is he's like, sometimes you hear a line that you didn't come up with, but IT IT perfectly, just like you could have come up with that because the perfect describes how you feel. And so we heard this line from ted Turner that says, early to bed, early to rise, work like hell and advertise. And that he's like, I love that.

That's exactly how, like, how I try to prove my work. And so aren't saying that as an older man, but even when he was Younger, he would do this. And so they called him a german pied pipers, which is heras.

He was a german pie paper who would lead his supporters. Arnold kept visualizing in an tear space where his leadership skills would constantly promote him to higher levels of fame and power. In the early seventies, each new medium, mt.

Form, like mass media, was expanding, and honor was able to navigate through every medium with remarkable dexterity. A cover story here, a documentary here, an interview after that. This importance and emphasis on promoting your work is something he talked about when he was in his chinese, something he still believed in when he was in his early art and seventies. There's a line when I got to this part of the book that came to mind that, uh, when I was reading and the bargains a bargrave y where he said that you will have to promote, promote, promote, are all goes away.

I think arnal would agree with that sentiment as if something else to talk about the documentary that I think a lot people to know is the fact that aren't became a millionaire in real state, making his first fortune, real set, actually gave him the independence to let him pick the movies because because he was so big and unusual looking at the time they try to get play all these roles. He like, good, and i'm not. There is actually a fantastic wine when he meets James Cameron to be interested in doing the terminator.

He's like, so tell me about, like, you want to be an actor? Like, no, I don't want to be an actor, I want to be a star. And so he was very selective onto what roles that he wanted to play, because that was his goal.

And so for most of their early relationship, they are just living in like the small apartment together until are not so to buying these like multi family like apartment and just living in one. We lived in a frugal apartment for five years. So on could crew a critical mass of liquid capital.

And he's making that money because he's on salary at for joe, for his magazines. He has like this male ador programs that he selling h hearns a bunch of money. I like traveling the country doing, like body building exhibitions and everything else.

And so again, he wind up, we just get these master for building relationships. This is insane. On at the time, he says arno had uncanny neck for networking and uncovered a wise old, real turnage alga.

Together they would buy a bunch of apartments on the west side, said they want to buying one. And this, as we lived in the manager's front quarters, while he rented out the rest of the units at twenty six years old, he now owned in comparing real estate. And so even though now he has, he added real stay to his job, he says he maintained his rigorous training schedule.

And so they started having these fights again, because he refuses to slow down. He refuses to not keep taking on more projects, not keep expanding his empire. After five years with him, I become condition to endure in emotionless, increasingly self center robot.

I dreaded competing for his time. And he would describe his behaviour when he's concentrating on a goal. He would turn off his sensitivities to concentrate that he would grow distant and he would become unfeeling to anyone other than himself.

Arno was never satisfied. This man was masterful and plodding the necessary actions to Carry out great feeds through goal setting. He filled almost every competitive and financial craving. He was the most goal oriented man I have ever met in this crazy line. If you raised his motivation to succeed, he would rather die.

And as the book goes on, SHE gets more, more desperate because she's realized this, oh my god, he's going the exact same way he was with body building. He is with business and now he is with movies. This is never going to stop.

And really, for our purposes, is like Operated with the belief that he can learn every anything, anything that he wanted to. If he put his mind to wait, invest at the time, he could learn IT. He immersed himself in excess removal sessions, acting classes in fiddling lessons, so he does actually for a role that he's about to play.

He craved the interaction with each new expert and remembered every tip are not already recognize that he had the ability to learn any content he chose. Now he was eager to take that same drive and learn everything he could about the movie making world. I'm not sure, but when I got to that paragraph, maybe think of one of my favorite quotes from nove rava on.

He said, the best jobs are neither decreed nor degreed. They are creative expressions of continuous learners and free markets. Creative expressions of continuous learners in free markets is a great description of what arnal is doing right now.

And we see that he's learning from past examples of people that already accomplish what he's trying to do. So what seem in king said that ima proceeds creation, he kept focus on past crossovers like Steve reeves, gordon mitral and ridge park. They had all for success ccea ful makeovers from muscles to movies.

But also helped is that he held or not held A P. H. D. In crimea. And so if you happen to pick up this book and read IT, you're gonna notice some differences between what unit i've talked lots so far in the book. There is a lot of sex in the book and also her inner like monologue and struggle.

Just one thing wants to pull out because she's, you know, you do feel sorry, they're just so fundamentally mismatch yet she's addicted to Arnold SHE cannot SHE tries to keep pulling herself way SHE just cannot and so you see this inner monologue here. She's like five years and nine months time is enough to know that this man will never marry you. He does not even believe in the kind of love that you do.

And so it's finally clicking towards the end of the relationship. Aren't t need a time for his personal expansion? Body building had only been its beginning.

He now needed just as many powers of concentration for future development. He was not motivated to merge our separate dreams. He would ask him over, over again, why you want you marry me? Why I would you ask me to marry you? Please marry me.

Why don't you want to get married? And what makes matters even worse is that as their relationship is declining, he's starting this rapid ascent. And sure, he saying, I would never be the wife who would enjoy the delights of his career.

I was just a girlfriend, supported his accent. I knew I was destined for relative Normalcy, and as a result, is starting to resent him. And so SHE talks about the fact that their old friends, including her, are now resenting him because he is like, why you changing? N, J, Z has his great lines.

Like you think i'm doing all this work to say the same. And so I need to include this par because this is just an aspect of human nature. If you're constantly putting time and effort into your own personal development and those around you are not, they're going to recently, this is inevitable. So he says, a, we of the leftover friends became annoyed. Ed watching him act as if his stardom had been a certain fate.

His increasing arrogance cause speculation among his old friends in our, in our former onto h are frequent phone calls, meaning people that are no longer you in on its life are no longer on like the same path of him, traded nasty gossip friends, reveled in stories that placed or not in a shabby light. We revel in bad mouthing Arnold. Each friend was losing him to agents, directors, actors, managers, businessmen and and politicians.

However, despite our jealous anger, each accommodated our schedules to meet for lunch or accept an invitation at at the last minute Arnold sponsored party. This is an ugly and pathetic part of human nature. I just wrote a little note to myself, keep these people out of your life.

This continues over several pages of this group of friends who share our caster Marks about Arnold rise to fame. He can even act such a country bumpkin. We all kept flinging lines meant to degrade the man who would move beyond our familiar world into the status sphere.

Yes, let's tear down this idle. And so there's two things that are amazing. Her one, this is not the behavior of friend. Like if you find yourself talking crap about people are jealous of their success and you're not actually friends. And if people do that to you, that's the sure sign that you probably limit them from your life.

But was so fascinating, like theyve, these people who are not, they saw him for year after year after year after year to be completely committed to what he wanted to do, to talk about this. Like he hit IT, he was very clear up front of of what he was going to do. He made IT very easy for you to interface with them.

And yet they still were surprised by his success and continue to underestimate him year after year after year. And even is living girlfriend who had the closest the front rose seat to everything that's going on is still surprised. This as many years after they break government may be two, three years after.

So IT says my sister marian, this is the one that aren't not made fun of at the table for finding this. My sister marian called me SHE had read an article about an unusual coupling. Mister olympia and star of the pop of pumping iron and Joseph Kennedy es granddaughter maria driver, were an item.

And this is barbour's response. okay? I had to sit down to understand the nature of his colossal climb. He had now marked new territory and high. In this point, his girlfriend laid claim to Kennedy royalty.

And so this mistake, this mistake of continuing ly underestimate, and therefore being surprised of a formidable individual like Arnold, continues as I watch this is many decades, is like a decade in decade and a half after they broke up, as I washed, or those film credits melt throughout the eighties, I became stupified over his success in hollywood. I found IT steadily strange to realize I had known him prior to such gering fame and wondered if I should have been smarter or wiser in being able to predict his legendary outcome. I knew that he would become an outstanding businessman.

But this, and I think that, is one of the greatest things about reading back with great people, hopefully, of the things that are getting out listen to this podcast, is not only can we know that we know a lot can change in one lifetime, that we can turn ourselves, we can build ourselves into formidable individuals for the benefit of our own life. But you will also be able to spot IT and therefore not be surprised when you see IT and other people too. And so everyone about book actually have, I live link to this book and the other two books.

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