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All right, gentlemen, coming to main stage next, this is Bunny. Get up there. She's got a tornado of titties coming your way. Get those dollar bills ready. She's got an ass that shakes like Michael J. Fox. So get up there and throw, throw, throw them dollars. Dude, that is fucking iconic. What's up, you sexy motherfuckers? Welcome to another episode of Dumb Blonde. Today we have one of the most original comedians, in my opinion, on the podcast. And I'm so honored to...
How's everyone doing? And I'm so honored to have him here. Dane the Great, aka Southern Dad. What's up, baby? How are you? What is up? What is up? Thank you so much for having me. Dude, you, uh, you, it was almost hard getting you here. It was. Uh, I was late. It was me. You can blame me. I was late. I'm sorry. Were you partying like a rock star last night? Was Nashville just tearing you up? Always. Man, every time I come to Nashville, it's just like...
I'm waking up at 3 in the evening. You know, usually I'm 6 a.m. The wife is over here sitting down and she's like, I'm 6 a.m. and I'm doing breakfast. You're doing Southern Dad shit. Yeah, right. So where do you guys live? Where are you from? Louisiana. Oh, so you are from Louisiana. I'm from, you know, born and bred. Born on a bike.
Right on the bayou. Right on the side of the ditch. That's where I was born. So you're from Louisiana. You're born in just pretty much just, have you ever left there? Have you ever lived anywhere else? No, Louisiana. Um, all my life. I was born in Covington. Um,
I started doing my TikTok stuff in Ponchatoula. That's between New Orleans and Baton Rouge. How is the proper way? Because I always say New Orleans because I'm from Vegas and we're on the West Coast. So we have hard, you know, R's and...
Fucking pronounce words How is it really pronounced? A lot of people call it like Nola You know A lot of We got a different kind of slang Like Especially in the city Like yeah baby How you doing? Ah okay yeah What's up big daddy? You know like that's how I don't know I feel like
In Louisiana, it's just even the white people have a little soul to them. Oh, yeah, for sure. I follow this one chick on TikTok and she cooks all the time, like like Cajun food and all that stuff. And I love the way she talks. Like, it's just it's different. And I didn't want to be that kind of like I don't want to be that Louisiana creator where they're always, you know, with the.
Yeah, right down the bayou kind of I'm like, man, I want to do something different, you know, where like I want that trailer trash vibe. Yeah, because that's what I grew up in. Yeah, the hood. So you were raised in a trailer. I was raised in the projects, you know, but you know, every you know, we had to go to some trailer parks. Do you think that's where your personality came from? Yeah, big time growing up rough. Tell me a little bit about your childhood. I would grow up.
I would make fun of the crackheads that would come to my mom's house and stuff like that. I'd be like, mom, ain't a mic like this. Hey, baby, look, I need two. I just need two 20s. That's all I need. Can you call your boy up right now? You know, that's. I think, you know, when people come from humble beginnings, it makes for amazing humans. You know, like I fucking struggled whenever I was a kid, too, and grew up in a really rough part of town in Vegas. And, you know, here we are now. So it's like that just gives you character.
So you're not from Nashville. You're from Vegas. I'm from Vegas. Oh, I didn't know that. Jelly got himself a Vegas hooker. Oh, my goodness. He went shopping outside of Nashville for a wife. Hit the bling, bling, bling, bling, bling, you know. 777. Yeah. Okay, so growing up, you had a rough childhood. Your mom, you know, was into drugs. Where was your dad? My dad wasn't, he wasn't really in my life.
He was doing his own thing, you know? Yeah. Was he like in and out or just you never really knew him? I never really known him. Gotcha. That's all right, though. So, I mean, I met him when I was 15. How'd that go? My mom went to prison. I met him. I saved with him. He put me through high school and stuff. And like he really like, you know, I came from like...
the hood to, you know, proper living and, you know. So dad wasn't in the hood? No, dad, no, that was, it was just. Just complete opposites? They hated each other, you know, when they, yeah. And then Hurricane Katrina happened and that was a big deal. Like that wiped out Louisiana, but he recently passed away.
February. That's so amazing that you got to rekindle that with your dad. Yeah. That always feels like a part of your soul. That you didn't know that you were missing until it happens. It sucks whenever you have to go through
Can I cuss on here? It sucks whenever you have to go through shit. Because, I mean, me and my wife, we just had some problems. I lost my dad in February, and I still got to be like, hey, man, what you doing? Yeah. You know, and then still be the funny guy. Right. You know? Yeah, because that's your persona online and stuff like that. That's it. It's funny that you say something about you and your wife going through something. If you guys don't want to talk about it, it's fine, but I definitely wanted to bring it up. I think I saw a post that said something about...
Dane was cheating or something like that and I was like and everybody's like this is a joke and I was like oh that is a woman scorn baby I've been there are we allowed to talk about this yeah you want to come on I mean I don't want to do you want to talk I love that me and listen Jay and I went Jay had an affair behind my back and we've talked about it to the world I mean we can you know like some of the I get I got lost I got lost a little bit in the sauce you know and then
I suffer from anxiety and depression a lot. Trust me. It's doing this podcast has become therapeutic for me. The first couple of seasons I would sit here and have panic attacks while I had guests on because it's just when you battle something like that, I've had an addiction to Xanax my all the way up until I was about 36 and it's hard, man. When you, do you battle anxiety too? I do, but, um,
I try not to take the venet as much, but I have like panic attack medicine. Yeah. Or like stuff coming up. Yeah. I have to go to learn on notes and call someone. Yeah. Do you want to go into talking about that? You can come on. All right. So Dan's wife is here. Yeah, come on. What was your name again? I'm ready. Chastity. Chastity's here. Can we just call her Chastity the Great? Chast. Chast, baby. I love it. How long have you guys been together?
Five years. Oh, I love that. You're going to have to pull that forward if you're going to sit back. Yep. And then just kind of like you like almost want to like have it on your lips. Grab that dick. We know you can do it, baby. We got faith in you. And asking her basically like how it is. I mean, because I know it's got to be tough. You know, I went from working a nine to five and then all of a sudden,
We're going to Walmart. They're like, dude, dang. I love your shirt. Can we take a picture? I mean, I know that had to be tough on you or...
So let's okay. Well, then let's rewind it a little bit. So, okay, you graduated from high school. Dad got you through high school, right? Were you always doing comedy? Are you were you always the funny guy? Always the funny. I was the kind of guy that was just like, like, all my friends would be like, that's why I fell in love with him because he was funny. That's what I fell in love with Jay for too. Because he's just so that personality, dude. Yeah. Personality over fucking anything. Yeah, always. Yeah.
So you're always the funny guy. And then what happened after high school? Did you go to college? I did plant work. Okay. In the South, that's what you do after high school. You get your twickenosha. You go work in the refineries. And that's it. And I had two kids with my high school sweetheart, I guess you could say. How many kids do you have? I got three kids. You got three? Okay. And then I met someone else.
So what did you meet her right after? Like when did you guys meet? When was that? He was actually going through his split with her. Okay. We met. And we were friends. Yeah, we were friends for a while. We weren't doing nothing. Like no intercourse.
- Intercourse. Who says that? He wasn't pounding the pussy out, Chas. - Well, I mean, you know, I don't want to like fully say it, but yeah. - No, we didn't. We didn't do it. - Yeah, so. - But that's how it happens. Jay and I were friends before we anything, you know? It's like, you have to have that friendship in order to have that bond, I really truly believe. If you don't have a friendship in a relationship, it's never gonna work. - Never. - Ever. Okay, so you guys got together.
And you guys, what? You started having, you guys have a baby together? He had two, Bella and me.
Yeah, I got Bella, Trenton, and... Bella was four, and Trenton was two at the time. Okay. And then we were together for about eight months, and I found out I was pregnant. Aw. Jordan. Straight to work, baby. Straight to work. Straight to work. Pounding it. I'm sorry. I love it. So now they are eight, six, and three. Gotcha. Aw. Today's her birthday, by the way. Your birthday? Yeah.
Happy birthday. I'm so sorry you're here. It's okay. Oh my gosh, I feel so bad. She's spending her birthday doing a fucking podcast. No, she low-key is a big fan of yours. Oh, I love it.
Well, thank you for making him come here. I really appreciate that. I know it sucks. I know. I'm sorry. No, you're fine. You're fine. You were the biggest diva out of everybody this run. It was awesome. Yeah, no, it was great. And I deal with it. I'm not usually the diva. I'm usually like, I have to bust your balls. Oh, no, I know. So when did TikTok come about? Because you are fucking huge on that platform. Do you want me to tell them?
I tell them, I mean, I started basically like doing videos and it sucks whenever you have a, you know, your, your wife is like, is he doing another tech talk? Here we go. Well, was Southern dad on any other platforms or strictly for tech talk? He started with Facebook and he just started doing like these random videos and tried to build that up. Okay. And he, right.
And he wasn't, it wasn't doing good. And he was like really discouraged. And then Facebook was dead for a while. Now it's fucking cracking again. Yeah. Yeah. So then I remember he was at work one day and he was like, I posted this video on Tik TOK last night and it's already at,
whatever it was uh 13k oh it was like 48k and i'm thinking like yeah i reposted the same the same video and it got to like 3.2 million but the video was when you and a cousin smoked before eating thanksgiving dinner i saw that one okay it's fucking funny but um and then i just kind of like i was like man maybe i can be a creator and i just did it every day every day every day and then i studied
the algorithm to a T I would say up all night long. Like now it's just like, I do my times. I like, I'll keep everything at, you know, usually 30 seconds. What I, what, what my goal is, is I want to grab your attention real quick. I want to keep you there for 25 seconds.
And that's it. Yeah. I just want, and I don't want nothing from you. I'm not trying to sell you shit. Yeah. I just want you to laugh. That's all I want. So I think in like September, that's kind of when you, September of 2020.
Yeah, and then... 2020? When I quit my job? Uh-uh. September 2020 was when the TikTok first started taking off. Then in December of 2020, I think you had a million followers. Remember? Yeah. And then in February of 2021, you were suspended from the Creator Fund. Yeah. Definitely. Can we talk about what a fucking scam that shit is? Yes. And let me tell you, that's right there, right there, is where my whole family was just like...
Yeah. Okay. So you tried. And I did. And I was like, no, fuck that. Like, I'm gonna go, go, go. Everybody goes through that with the creator. Like it was a bubble buster for me. I'm like, oh gosh, this is like, you have two jobs. You're going to continue to do this, even though they're not going to pay you anything. But he did.
He did. When's your birthday, Dane? February 11th. Oh, you're an Aquarius. I'm an Aquarius. Me too. I'm an Aquarius. You are? Yeah. That's why you studied the algorithm. I'm the same way. I'm like, so like, I want to know numbers. I want it down to. Because it would suck because you'd make a, like, I make, you know, an actual skit and then you look at, you know, Tyler on there doing his dance. Yeah. I get millions of views.
and I'm over there with fucking 20,000. Yeah, no, I'm the same way. I study everybody's numbers. I'm like obsessed with it like Rain Man and shit. It's crazy. Yeah, you know, it pissed me off. No, I get it. So I just like put the TikTok back in my head. I was like, I ain't doing this. She was like, fuck this. After the money went away, you were like, mm-hmm. We just kept doing it though. And then in July of 2021, TikTok sent an email. No, I actually mailed. A handwritten letter. A handwritten letter to TikTok saying, hey, look, this is bullshit.
So then they sent an email. I'm very curious to know what did this letter say? Cause I might need to write. We sent it.
And then the next day we got the email. There's no way it got to TikTok that. I'm so glad she's here. She keeps you grounded, right? I had like a feather with the ink. Just blotting. Just some bullshit. With your fucking Declaration of Independence signature. So then they said in that email, we have decided to make your...
Creator Fund ban, only a six-month ban instead of forever. So you'll get it back in August. Don't you feel like the Creator Fund fucks with your views? Yes, I'm telling you. It definitely does. He almost had $2 million. Yeah. So from February when they cut it off to July, August, he almost had another million in that time. Right. I told Jay to take the Creator Fund off. If you're on the Creator Fund, take it off. I'm going to tell you why. Absolutely. Just do it.
well if that's the case then you could post a video that's went viral multiple times and get paid for that you know what i mean yeah so yeah take it off what for me i sell my engagement right you know what i mean to uh to brands and stuff i'll say you know you want me to post whatever whatever about your brand okay well i mean i can do that look at my look at my engagement look at every video i post you know right and then if that that creative fun it really it'll
take your views down. Totally. And well, they fucking kept trying to ban me. Anytime my creator fund is on, they fucking try to take my whole account. So I was like, turn this shit off. Yeah, he was getting violations that weren't. Left and right. And even if you do get it like appealed and they say, yeah, it's okay. It still counts towards your violations. Yeah, it's fucked up. TikTok is a fucked up tricky little beast, man. I mean, I imagine, you know what I was thinking? This is how my brain works. Okay, so hear me out.
I'm thinking, can you imagine like the creator who's out there trying their best and they have some shit going on in here. And then TikTok's like, Hey, sorry, we're going to have to go ahead and shut your shit down. Yeah. With no warning. Yeah. Just fucking takes your shit. Yeah. And imagine that person just goes and,
jumps off a cliff yeah i don't want to say i am we don't condone yeah but no yeah no but it's real like and a lot of people this is their fucking livelihood they're feeding their families such as you guys were doing you know they're fucking building you literally are at the mercy of this network because you build your entire fucking brand on this network and they can take it from you in the blink of an eye they banned my account two weeks ago they said i was underage
I'm like, are you fucking kidding? Like, thanks for the compliment, but no. And it sucks because you can't get, there's no person to get in contact with. At all. That's why like we're kind of, that platform's just used to show the followers, the engagement, like not so much. We're not depending on it for financial or like if they ban it. You can't. It's fucking so unstable. So how did Southern Dad come about? Southern Dad, basically, I got the shirt from Goodwill. No, that's.
Oh, I'm sorry. I got some of the clothes from Goodwill. I got like a fat suit from Party City and I just whipped them together. That is not my dad. My dad is not. The shirt is actually the shirts that he uses because they're really... Yeah, that's true vintage. I didn't know that you were like a cute dude. I always thought you were the old...
I didn't know that. I didn't know you were a decent looking Dane. I thought you were a fat piece of shit. I just thought you were this fucking, you know, big, funny old guy until I fucking knew you were coming on the podcast and I had to do some research and I was like, oh, okay. So it's a whole shtick like trailer trash Tammy. Right. Yeah. Which is my, which is, we could touch on, uh, based on that. That's my, yeah, she's my inspirer. Like I, um, I inspired like,
Have you ever talked to Chelsea? Yeah. I met her in person and I got to say that to her. I said, hey, look. Aw.
You cannot watch my video and not, you know, I used to watch you in high school. Oh yeah. No, she's amazing. Like she is such a dude. I love her as my sister for life. Like she's got a cigarette. Yeah. Well, fuck you. It's this number. Yeah. Yeah. No, she's great. So Southern dad, you went to Goodwill. You just one day were like, you know what? I want to be a fat Southern dad. I just wanted to try it out. And I just kept doing it. A lot of ideas with that.
character like he would always think southern dad was mean in the beginning southern you know and i was just like nah and then you know i honed in on let's be family friendly you know let's be and you're smart because i should have done that but i could never um huge well now you got people from like kids old people yes everybody yeah some of your southern dads yeah i love
You know, and then you got the five-year-old. Why do you sound like the guy, we want some popsicles? Yeah, I want some popsicles. The dude on The Simpsons, you know who I'm talking about, who tries to lure Chris in the basement? Yeah. That's exactly what he sounds like. Yeah, I mean, that's what I wanted, you know, and now you got these, you know, because no one wants to be like, hey, look, we want you to promote our brand,
Yeah, show your titties. Yeah, you can. No, I know. Trust me. All the brands that reach out to me are like sex toy companies. Anything that has to do with that part. Adult industry, all love me. But anything like family brand, they're like, no, no, we can't. Yeah, no. I've had people say they can't come on the podcast because it's too explicit. What?
You were very, yeah. You were very smart to go the family route though. So Southern dad, you put on this outfit and it just came to life. It just came. Yeah. And like, it just, uh, every day. I mean, you gotta think about the first time. Cause I don't, I don't, I don't know. Um,
Same fat suit. He still used the same one. Same one. Did you bring it today? It stinks. I didn't bring it, but I brought some other little stuff, but it stinks. It's like a man musk. It's not a stinker. I don't stink. It's literally like, it's like a pillow, right? It's not a pillow, but it looks like a pillow right here and then has like thing that like comes up over your neck. I like to smell things. Then it goes around. Right here.
So let's talk about the notoriety that you've received now because of TikTok. And like, is it hard for you guys to like go out on like dates or without people turning into a meet and greet? Well, let's see. In August, right when they gave the creator phone back, by the end of that month, so like the 25th, he quit his job. Like his real job. And so...
Creator Fund was doing okay. You were back in it for a while. It was enough for us to live. It was a little bit more than he was making. So I was like, okay. It was still scary. Plus the brand deals. And then by January, that's when you start doing Facebook.
And that was when you were able to turn off TikTok creator fun. No, she's talking about notoriety. Like, like how is it whenever kind of like showing how you kind of went up the ladder and when that stuff happened. Yeah. Once you go viral on Facebook too, man, it's a whole nother, there's a whole nother set of fucking people. Yeah. Yes. It's insane. I grew my Facebook from 74. What was it? 74,000 last November to almost 750,000 today. Like it's,
crazy over there right now. Facebook's his main platform now. I believe it. Yeah, we really can't go anywhere without... I don't go out with my husband because of that. It's cool whenever you get noticed. It's aggravating, isn't it? And he gets upset with me because I feel like it's aggravating, but I'm like, you're sitting here putting food in your mouth and... No, ain't nobody did that to me yet. I've seen me and my boy John... Somebody did it
I love this dynamic. You don't remember when we were eating and the guy came up?
listen nashville's been good to dane he well if you can't remember what's going on you're having a great time let me tell you what happened so um when i started banging them out in nashville was uh i did i was like you know the sisters using lose for your complexion so you know i did that one i didn't well i didn't sing it i was singing and then clay walker messaged on there was like
you know hope you enjoy nashville it's my first time ever being in nashville sure enough the next day i ended up at his house and we did that and then so that started like like whenever you go to a different area and and like you're dropping like them bangers it hits that that spot yeah you know so i guess yeah that was crazy i was telling dana all the way there i was like are you sure this isn't like somebody's gonna try to like kidnap
Are we really going to Clay Walker's house right now? And sure enough, Clay Walker comes out. What a fucking surreal moment, though. Oh, yeah. We're on the way there, and me and Dane are listening to the songs. I'm like, all right, learn it. Hurry up, learn it. The second one was what? Coe. Me and Coe, we tight. Oh, we love Coe. And then Luke.
And then Luke. I didn't meet Coach. Luke. Luke. Luke Bryan or Luke Combs. Luke Combs. Oh, Luke Combs. Okay, gotcha. Luke Combs. I figured out that he was following me and then I just, he was at, he was in Louisiana and I met some, like, little man. I'd love to kind of like link up with you, meet you and
He left us some tickets at Will Call for the show. And then at the end of the show, somebody's like, hey, listen, you know, look, won't you backstage if you guys want to hop this fence, you know, come on. I'm like, yes, please. Yes, we do. That's pretty cool, you know, coming from nothing, you know, and like just doing what I love.
You know, it changed my life. You know, it really. It's crazy how people fall in love with you, right? Like, it's just nuts that just from seeing you on a screen, these people just become obsessed. Some people, you know, being that I'm a, you know, TikToker, I hate saying it like that. But, you know, some people automatically think like,
Like, oh, yeah, we got it. I could say and do whatever, you know. I've had people like, hey, man! In, like, the gas station or, like, you know, and I'm like, oh, God. Hey, man.
You know, like, I don't, I don't know. It just, I like attention. I just don't like it like that. Right, right, right. No, I'm the same way. I like controlled attention. Like when I know what vibes is coming in and stuff like that. But to answer your question, I don't ever look, think of it as like aggravating because I love that my husband touches so many people, you know, but at the same time I get almost sad sometimes because I'm like, when do I get him? You know, like when do I get him alone? So I can totally understand what you're saying because it's,
I will not, I refuse for the past year and a half. I've told Jay, I will not go out with you in public unless it's big events. Because if we even try to go have like a private dinner, it's literally a meet and greet all night long. He's taking pictures. I'm having to take pictures of him with other people, you know, and I'm just like, bro, this is not quality time. How do you guys make up for that lack of quality time? Well, we're actually working on it.
Yeah, we actually, I guess we'll just be vulnerable right now. We actually were on the road to divorce. It was signed. It was signed. It was paid for. So you guys, and this is the dark side of popularity is like, you know, sometimes shit has to fall apart so that it can come back together even stronger. The same thing happened with Jay and I. So what happened with you guys? I just, I don't know. It just came so fast and like,
I pushed my wife, I pushed my kids out because my head was so like, I gotta get it. I want more, I want more, I want more. That stems from your childhood. Right. You know, like I want to be able to be like, hey baby, look, I got a $100,000 check. Hey baby, I got, you know, and I got lost, you know. That shit will do it to you, but I'm getting back right, you know, we getting back right and we working things out. I mean...
You guys want to touch? I'm not trying to get emotional now. I just had some, who's cutting onions back there? And I guess. No, I think it's very sweet. That shows that you feel really bad about it and that you feel guilty. I mean, I do. You know, it's just like, imagine, I can imagine being in her shoes. You know, we's working a nine to five, all of a sudden we go, you know, boom. I know it sucks. And for me, the hardest part is I work, I'm a teacher. So I just have a normal job. You're a hot teacher. We have three kids.
So, I mean, when he goes to Nashville or wherever he's going, and even though it's work, it's partying and it's fun, you know. And I'm just at home working my normal job, taking care of our kids, sometimes for weeks at a time. And so it's just like, I wish I could be there. So that would cause fights and stuff. And I'm going to tell you right now, like there was times where like I didn't want to bring her.
You know, because like, I'm like, man, she's just going to be sitting there. But I think we just started kind of growing apart. We weren't friends. We weren't friends. Yep. We weren't riding in the same vehicle. You always have to. And all relationships go through that, especially if you're going to be together for a long ass time. Jay and I are going on seven years. There comes a point in your relationship where sometimes you look at that person and you're like, who are you?
And you have to remember why you guys fell in love. And you have to remember that you're friends above anything, dude. And once you guys lock that in again, the passion and everything will come back. Oh, that passion's back. Oh, baby. He's like, it never left. Hey, that passion's always been there.
I love that you're so forgiving of him, though, because a lot of women, you know, aren't forgiving. And I've been very forgiving for five years. But I do understand that any today. Oh, yeah, that's right. Shit. She told me that. God, I'm worried. I'm worried. It's your birthday. I'm listening to everything you're saying. I'm no better than a man. Let me tell you. I'm just looking at how hot she is. I'm a cancer. So I'm like carrying and.
Yeah. I can see it though. You're very sultry. All cancer women have that like sultriness to them. Yeah. But that's awesome. I just feel like any long marriage has been through shit. Absolutely. And it's taken a lot of forgiveness, a lot of forgetting and moving on from it. If you want to make it last, not saying that that's okay. Just saying that, I mean, one day you might have to forgive me for something. And I'm not saying, I hope not. I might run off and suck a dick on you. Yeah.
I'm just saying that. How many dicks did you have to do? So if there's a couple at home listening to this and they're going through problems too right now, what would be some advice that you guys would both give them? Take some time for yourself. I don't know. It depends on your kids. My youngest, Jordan, sleeps in the middle of me and her.
I think that, and I don't know if this helped you, but like. We got him out. Push Jordan in his own bed. Get Jordan in his own damn bed. Get closer. Yes. You know what I'm saying? Like, get closer. And then we started saying thank you to each other. Hey, thank you for folding my clothes. Hey, thank you for.
doing the pool. You know, when I, when I went, when we decided to split, we just had got this big, beautiful house. I mean, a pool. I'm, I come from the hood. We don't, I ain't never had a pool in my life. Yeah. You know, so, and, and, and, um,
just walked away from it I guess all but not so what we're doing better I guess my advice would be just like communication even if it's something that you don't necessarily want to talk about or if something is bothering your partner then you have to listen absolutely and I think we kind of got the tables turned on that this time because before we split it was me I was always the one going to him saying like hey this is bothering me can we talk about this and he'll be like oh you
want to do is fight right but then this time it was him wanting to talk to me and i'm just like i don't want to talk about this i'm not fighting right now how many dicks was it but um i think we're getting better with that too and he can really understand that he was doing that to me and i can pick up on now oh gosh now i'm doing what i hated you doing to me so that's called growth yeah like i'm really proud of you guys both of us being able to see that
You know, he did it. I did it. Yeah. That you're both feels on both sides. Now he knows how it felt on my side. I know how it felt on his side. Yeah. That's what I always tell everybody. Uh, you know, when I talk about the affair that Jay and I went through, um, is that I had to realize that it wasn't all him, you know, that I played my part in it too. And I was a fucking asshole and I was very hard to love and came in with a shit ton of baggage and he had to heal a heart that he didn't break. And I had to heal a heart that,
that I didn't break, you know? So it's like, that's just the beauty of relationships. And I'm really proud of you guys. My, um, I'm sorry to cut you off, but basically my thing is what you just said is like, you know, you had to say like, okay, Hey, I wasn't asking. That's hard. People can't do that. People are not like, they just can't sit back and say, man, you know what? Maybe I was being a dick or two, you know what I'm saying? But
I guess a lot of things like, you know, my love language is words of affirmation, right? Very simple, very easy. Hey, that was thank you, or I'm proud of you, or you know what I mean? And I guess Chaz, you know, at the time, you know, we grew apart. It was...
I didn't get that, you know? Well, I might have been being an ass, but if I was being an ass, it's because I didn't feel a certain way from you. I was like empty. Like it wasn't. You guys were both, you just get to that point in your relationship where a person could fucking chew and they piss you off. It was getting there. It was getting there. But that's just tons of resentment. That's tons of not communicating and not getting out what you guys need to get out. Not feeling love, not feeling appreciated.
I'm just thinking about a story where like we were driving and she's got the visor down and I'm driving like this and I'm just going. I was trying to do my lipstick. Oh my God, that is so funny. I'm like kicking her. So then when we split, I'm like in the car with somebody else. I'm like, do you mind if I put this visor down to put my lipstick on?
And then that's another thing too is like, another thing is whenever you meet different people, you know, I don't take shit. I'm like, oh God, here they go. You know? So I'm, you know, I'm glad we worked it out. I'm glad you guys worked it out too because you guys are fucking cute together. Have you guys ever considered doing like couple stuff on TikTok together? Because you guys have a fucking hilarious rapport. People would eat this shit up. Well, and
And hold on. It doesn't... Stop it. Wait. Go look. I don't. And let me tell you why. Because I feel as if, like, I don't want to... You didn't even know I had kids, huh? Uh-uh. That's what I want. Yeah. You know? And I understand that because, listen, in his defense and my defense... They're both laughing. What are they laughing about back there? That's just hard to believe now because... Her. Her.
That's the same thing he said before he cheated.
Can we not talk about the girl told me she had no idea that you were married or had kids. Maybe if she would have known you were married and had kids. I get that. I get that. I need to post more about. Okay. I understand that. Well, why don't you start your own page? I have one. I just don't really. And she's not really into it. Like, you know, I guess like I can't tell you how many times where I'm like, Jess, check this video out. And she's just like.
Yeah. Okay. So, you know, it's like she, she's not, well, yeah, some people are creatives and some people, you know, are the backbone of the creatives. But, and what I was going to say in his defense and, you know, the defense about the relationship not being online, um,
My husband and I are both very public people and I literally have to go to war every day protecting him. And that's just a whole nother battle that he probably doesn't want to deal with because every fucking day, some, I mean at least fucking 500 people come for our relationship, you know, and that's a lot to deal with. Like it drains you mentally, it drains you physically because you're just,
constantly protecting this person but I also understand on your hat on your side you also want to be seen every now and then too every now and then even if it's just like a story post or I don't want to be in your skits yeah how did you get access to his tick-tock whenever you posted that
Because I... Listen, I don't even... Your shit doesn't even... I have access to everything. I can't believe... I can't... I'm just sitting back going like... In my brain, I'm going, how the hell did Bonnie see that shit? I know. Can you imagine the motherfuckers that follow me, you know? I don't see anything else, but I saw that. It was crazy. I actually hit Mimi. I was like, what is going on? And she's like, I don't know. Maybe it's a joke. I'm like... Went through some shit. No, I mean, it was one of those...
It was one of those things. Sorry about that. It's okay. Where it was like, I'm sleeping and I wake up to, so what is this? And I was just like, okay, yeah, that's it. Got me. But. Well, I think it's, I think it's amazing that you guys have forgiven each other and you guys are here in Nashville. Are you guys having a blast together here? Spending some quality time together? Yes, we have had a lot of fun. This is my favorite place. The first time Dane came to Nashville, actually, I,
I brought him. Yeah, that's when I did the Clay Walker stuff too. And you didn't even want to call him, remember?
I didn't want to because I didn't, I don't know. Well, when you have anxiety, it's hard. It's like you don't want to just go to places because you don't know what's going to happen. He wanted to go hike or do something like that. So we did. We went to... Cooksville. Cooksville and hiked to a waterfall. I like that. Yeah. I like doing that. I'm a hiker. I would never fucking even take you to be a hiker. I don't want to promote this. All right. We're not like hikers, like hiking boots and like... I was like, what are you guys doing? Mount Everest? What are we doing here? Like we wore like... What did we wear?
or like night like you know like like crotch and shit you know like bring a good little hike so you guys are just going up hills yeah we're just going up hills we're like like walking on rocks we don't have the hammer hike you know yeah no yeah like we like
easy hike yeah like waterfalls and shit i gotcha hard level hiking yeah no no fucking uh expert level no no no yeah we do expert level hiking so today i wanted if you have time i wanted to shoot a couple tiktoks with you and i wanted to run them by you and see what you thought about it all right what's up so i want to teach southern dad how to be an instagram thought is that possible
I didn't bring the Southern Dan. Well, what did you bring? I got me a badass mullet. Okay. And I got like a... You don't have the gray wig? No, I don't. It's okay. We could do any character, whatever character. It really doesn't matter. As long as the hook of the video is you and me. Of course. I told that to Jay. And I want to tell you a story about this. Yeah.
My husband loves you, by the way. I love him. Yeah. We did the one where it's like we're behind Bayless. Listening to the cocaine song? Yes. With Coe. And I said, look, bro. The hook is me and you side by side. We both...
And I'm like, it's that, that's the hook of it. That's what's the, the idea is to stop the finger. Yeah. Okay. And shit. That was the biggest tip. It wasn't, I don't, it was pretty big. Yeah. I don't know the numbers, but I do know my husband knows all the numbers. And I asked him, this is where, this is the story. This is where I'm like, Jay, look,
Just I'm going to tell you exactly what we need to do. Give it to me. Let me. He's like, oh, yeah, this is your. And sure enough, I did it. Yeah, good. And he loved it. And I love it. Well, so the idea I have is we have some poses that are on my Instagram page that I want to teach you how to do. Let's do it. I'll do it as I'll do it with this character. That's fine. Yeah, perfect. Whatever. And then the other one that we wanted to do was even though you're not Southern dad was teach me how to cuss without cussing.
you know, like how like people say like dab, nab it and stuff like that. Like come up with like your own, like I want to learn how to cuss without cussing. Cause I need to be more ladylike. Son of a bum. Yeah. And I'll just copy whatever you say. Yeah. So we'll think about it. But what is the next, what is the next year have for Dane? Are you doing standup? Uh,
I don't know. No, I don't want to do stand-up. That's a lot. I'm just so scared that I'm just going to go on stage and just say the... Get canceled. Yes. Hey, guys. You have to write it out. You have to write out what you're going to say. Yeah, you got to practice. I want to do acting. I think I'm a better actor more so than like, yeah, so talk to me about tech. I don't want to do that. Right. I want to be like...
Yeah. He did stand up one time. Did you do stand up? I did. How was it? Oh my God, that's gotta be so fucking nerve wracking. It was very, it was very, cause it, yeah, it was, it was, but it was my first time and it told me bad. She's right. I love that though.
Only your partner can tell you the truth. He tried to go up there and just like wing it. Oh, freestyle. And I said, no, you have to have a little piece of paper and you just need to write down some topics. Well, you got to practice your spiel beforehand. What makes people laugh, honestly, too, is dark humor. And I'll be damned. You know, if I'm not going up there going like, yeah, so I'm like, I'm so scared that I'm going to lose the little bit of
you know, zest. Right. So, but yeah, I'm down to do videos. I do those always. Whenever I do my videos, it's always one take too. I love it. I'm the same way. I, what is it? Oh yeah. Yeah. You used to be a fucking model.
That was in my Google thing. Do you remember that thing? Yeah, he models on the... Because when I read that, I hit her and I go, he used to be a fucking male model. What is going on? I was like, what the hell? That was somebody wrote that on... I Googled that and someone wrote that. I don't know why they did that.
You might have thought you were the model. I read it and I asked you why it said that and you said no. Alright, now this is the truth. People come up with some crazy shit on fucking Google. That's what it is. It's just people, I guess, like
Have access if you took pictures which you have that's considered modeling. They say you take a lot of shirtless pics No Listen I'm gonna tell you right now hold on let me get my bifocals on hold on These are some of the notes he frequently uploads shirtless pictures
he endorses various brands he has been documenting many outdoor excursions and travel experiences he hopes to inspire the next generation to follow their dreams and succeed his tick tock has 2.1 million what do you have now 2.4 2.4 this one also says that you like let's see he's nothing short of an inspiration to those that follow him and he has various tattoos on his body
He also has a little weenie. On his body. He's quite popular. He's quite popular for his stylish looks. It's so funny, too, because Dane never had any style before this. He just, like, came up with this style out of nowhere. I love that she just keeps you grounded. I love it. He'll tell me I embarrassed him. No.
No, because like... No, this is great. You guys' dynamic is fucking gold. Because like, you know how whenever you're around people and you're like, yeah, what's up, man? I'm Dane and stuff like that. She's like, shut up. You ain't shit. Bitch, you ain't... You know, and
But you need that because when we get to a certain status, we have nothing but yes men around us. My man, Mimi is my manager. She will put me in my place. No problem. She'll be like, bitch, what the fuck is wrong with you? Like, what did you just say that for? You know, Mimi or Haley too. My makeup artist over there. That's why I keep my team around. You can't have a bunch of yes men around you. You got to have that one person who's like, yeah, no, come back down to size, buddy. So no shirtless been there before all of this. Yeah. Yeah.
I hate we're still normal. That's what I learned from Clay Walker and Luke Combs is that these people who probably just like y'all can't even go out and have a normal dinner are just normal people. Oh yeah. Absolutely. We sat and talked with them for hours and they were no,
Just sweethearts. Just normal. Just like us. So no backless shirts. No topless shirts. No. No topless shirt pictures. Sorry. I recently did a video where it was like, it was 4th of July. We were shooting an AR and I'm like, yo, yo, film this. And I pulled, I took my, my,
I saw your little butt. Yes. I was like, I'm going to protect this. That was shirtless. Yeah. That was hilarious. Some cheeks. You did do the one that time with like naked with just the cowboy hat.
Yeah, that was... You posted that. No, I didn't. Yes, you did on your story. No, I didn't. He's like, it wasn't me. I promise. That was our calendar. I want to do a calendar. Well, you should. Dude, Chelsea fucking kills it with her fucking calendar, dude. I know. She looks good. Doesn't she look fucking great, man? Are those titties? Yes. I just want to wear them like earphones. She looks like a completely different person. Like a scarf. Just fucking... That was funny. Remember the chip one?
Yeah. Did you see that one? She did a video where she was eating at a, I don't know, like a restaurant. Oh, and she put her titties. Boom. Boom. Chips go everywhere. And I stitched it, you know, and so it goes like, boom, plop, titties, chips. And it goes to me and I'm like, damn. I'm like, damn, baby. Yeah.
Be careful with those pillows. When are you and Chelsea going to make some content together? Oh, God. I don't know. She's moving to Nashville. Yeah. I heard. I don't know. You know, with people like that, you don't want to bother them. Chelsea lives for that shit, man. She loves to make people happy.
happy and just, and you know what? At the time of that chip video, all Dane wanted was her to just comment and acknowledge. I'm sure she did eventually. It didn't have anything to do with a stitched video. Did it? Like when she first talked to you? Yeah. Whenever we, we met at the, uh, gosh, what's the old, is it the old Opry or something? I think, I'm not sure anyway. Oh no, it was Opry or whatever.
I could be saying it wrong. I'm sorry. Grand old Opry. There you go. And like, we both turned to each other. Like we're talking about, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. And we both turned to each other and she's like, bitch, get over here. And I, when we both, you know, I gave her a big hug and I told her, I was like, look, I watch you in high school.
I love you. Okay. But that meant a lot. Yeah, you guys definitely need to do some stuff together. So if you don't want to do stand-up, you want to just get into acting, don't you think that you could take Southern Dad on tour and like all your little characters? I want to do something like that. I want to also like emcee tours. I did the, I was on the Snoop and Co. Why don't you talk to Daddy about
I feel like he needs someone that can push him to do that or knows what he needs to do to do that. I wanted to do that. And I'm not going to say anything about managers or anything. I just feel like you need a new connect that's going to be like, hey, I think we can take this Southern dad and all your other characters on tour. Do you have a manager? No. I do. I have one, but he is not like, he's just, I mean, he does like, he's a tour manager, I guess you could say, but he doesn't do the kind of shit that like, you know. Right.
it's jachi sorry he's pretty much like a he gets if it's a brand or something like he gets those deals okay gotcha type of man but i mean even if it's just like a small like tour like and now you funny that you said that because i did want to uh do something on the lines of like working with jay because like i know everybody in the band yeah and uh the boys would love you you would fit right in with the tour crew we did uh colfax yeah and uh he's like man
The venue was horrible. And I'm like, Jay, I know the crowd that you could bring. Please don't, you know. He's like, you don't have to do it. And sure enough, I went on stage and I did it. And it sounded pretty good. Yeah. That's what I would like to do too, like MC shows. Something that shows your personality more than a scripted show, like a stand-up thing. Where you go out there. What about a Netflix special?
Yeah, maybe that. Have you guys thought about shooting a sizzle reel and submitting it as a Netflix original or a Hulu original? I don't even know what that means, what you just said. I can't help him. That's what I'm saying. He needs someone who can act like those ideas, they know stuff about that, are like, hey, what do we need to do to start this? I'm sure my husband could probably point you in the right direction. He knows everybody. And he always asks me to help, but I don't know.
Not even help, but just hold the camera. Yeah, that's why you get on Google and just search. Listen, as much as you fight it, you're in this with him. So you might as well just fucking, if you can't beat him, join him. And that way you guys just build this fucking empire together. That's what Jay and I did. I just have a normal job too, though. She's like, so in other words, I need to quit my job. No. Negative. He said no. I don't want to quit my job.
I like my job. And actually, I'm working from home this year. Yeah. Is everything remote out there? No. So the district that I teach in...
It came with COVID whenever all that was, but they have an actual virtual school now. So the district created, it's like a new school. So if they would have built a new brick and mortar school, but they didn't, it's a virtual school. And so in September of last year, I quit my job in one district. It was a far drive because,
because i got offered this virtual high school math job that's like a teacher's fucking dream is to fucking teach from home so i didn't get to teach from home last year we were out of school but it was fine but this year our building's not done so we get to teach from home yeah gotcha same thing everything so well dane why don't you tell people where they can find you shout out your socials and all that other stuff all that other family on facebook
Only fans. I'm just joking. That was a joke. I was like, wait a second. Rewind. I got so excited. Facebook, TikTok, Instagram, and YouTube all Dane the Great with two Ts. Yeah.
I can't wait to see what this year holds for you guys. You guys are really going to crush it. You guys have something really cool and really special and unique that nobody else is doing. So this is your time to fucking just run with it. Run with it. You too. I've watched a lot of your videos too. I think you're very funny. Thank you. I don't try to be, but. I think we need to sit down and get some goals together though. I love that. Yeah.
Like, you know what I do every year, every fucking January 1st, I make a vision board. I sit down with magazines. I know it sounds childish, but the shit really fucking works because as
in January, I made this vision board, cut out everything that I wanted to accomplish this year. And I've accomplished everything but one. And we're actually doing it right now. We're buying a house in Vegas, different topics, everything. I'll send you, I'll get your number. I'll send you a picture of it. If you ever need help with whatever, like, you know, learn how to assist your man. I got you, baby. Cause that's what I do with him. And it's, it's hard because like you were asking, you know, like, what do you see? Like, I think about that sometimes, like, what are we going to do when this just like dies off? So like, we have to
Make it bigger. No, but you got to learn how to live in the moment, baby. And like, be excited that this is happening right now. I'm good with that. But do you know how many people we meet and they're like, so what is your long-term goals with this? I'm sitting back like, I mean, I still got a career. Like I still got a, I can go back in a plane. But I don't want to go back to that. Let's see. We need to figure out how we can make this career work.
Well, the first thing you got to do is hop on board and fucking be his biggest fan. Hop right on here. Yeah. You got to be his biggest fan. You got to make sure she's getting what she needs to. You guys have to, you know, just be there for each other and just fucking take hands and walk through the fire, dude. That's what you guys got to do. And I promise you, it took Jay and I seven years to get to where we are.
Like you guys are crushing it. You guys have something really fucking cool here. So just fucking run with it. Run wild and free together and just fucking have fun. Just fucking build this empire. These young ass kids holding us back. Fuck.
I'm just kidding. We love him. We miss him. His face. He was like... I know. Y'all don't have... We have full custody of Bailey, who isn't mine, but she's mine. We've had full custody ever since she was seven. And then Jay has another son who is five, named Noah, whose mom is in his life. And we see him whenever we can. You don't want kids? You know, Jay and I... My husband...
How do I answer this without sounding terrible? We don't have to record it, guys. No, no, no. We just... No, I don't... I'm so honest with everybody. Jay and I want to fucking be buck wild. So we are waiting for fucking Bailey to hit 18 so we can hit the ground running. Because if it wasn't... If we didn't have full custody of Bailey, we wouldn't even be living in Nashville. If I could go back...
Huh? If I could go, I love my kids so much. No. But if I could go back and wait longer. Yeah. Because I did eventually want a kid, but I could have waited until 30 or 35. Everything happens for a reason though. And those babies are going to grow up and fucking be a part of you guys' empire and help out and fucking could be Southern dad too. You never know. Like there's everything. My daughter, yeah. Those are like. All three of them. They are so funny. Are they? Yeah. They're like, my daughter's like, uh, so I went to my so-and-so and like,
her dad loves your video you know like that's it's getting to that point yeah that's really cool and then my son comes in there's like dad dad you do the gritty and then you know i love that see bailey was embarrassed of us for the longest time and it finally to this year she hit 14 and i'm finally like the cool stepmom and jay's like the cool dad so it's like she's like but for the longest time it was she was so embarrassed of us and
And it's crazy that kids go through that because you're like, bro, I'm fucking cool. You know, like what? How? Everybody else thinks we're cool, but you don't think we're cool. Have you guys gone through that yet with your kids? Yes. I don't think they think we're cool. I know.
The oldest is eight. So it's coming. Oh, like 13, eight. Wait, wait, 10 to 13. They're going to be like, uh, no, I don't want my parents around. Like it. It's crazy. I didn't, I didn't think it would ever happen. And it did. And it was pretty fucking wild.
Well, I really appreciate you guys coming on the podcast. Thank you so much. Thank you guys for making time for me, for little old me. I really appreciate it. Hey, little old me. Thank you guys for tuning in to another episode of dumb blonde. I will see you guys next week. Bye.