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Confidence Classic: Finding The COURAGE To Let Go With Kute Blackson Transformational Teacher & Best Selling Author

2024/11/7
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Kute Blackson: 臣服并非易事，它意味着放下自我认知、梦想、工作或人生阶段，需要经历悲伤的过程。这并非软弱或被动，而是通往更高层次的关键，是实现目标的真正秘诀，也是获得自由的密码。历史上许多伟大人物都通过臣服实现了非凡成就。人们对臣服存在许多误解，认为它是软弱、被动和放弃的象征。但实际上，臣服并非让你失去更多，反而会让你获得超乎想象的更多。臣服是放下对控制的幻想，因为我们以为自己掌控一切，实际上并非如此。控制是主要的成瘾行为，是自我保护机制。臣服是去除对人生的限制，放下对自我的既定认知，才能真正地接纳并感受真实的人生。臣服并非消极被动，而是从“我想要什么”转变为“生命想要通过我表达什么”，并与之对齐。臣服后，你可能比以往更努力，但你的努力方向与你的本真自我对齐。臣服可能意味着经历意想不到的挑战，但这些挑战最终可能帮助你成长并实现更大的目标。臣服不是强制性的，而是自然而然的过程，不要试图强迫自己臣服。生活本身就是一个臣服的过程，臣服的关键在于如何参与这个过程。我们出生时是自由的，但随着成长，我们受到各种条件反射的影响，开始建立自我保护机制，并因此难以臣服。自我（ego）的形成源于童年时期对痛苦的压抑和自我保护机制的建立。为了避免再次受伤，我们会在内心筑起高墙，并通过各种防御机制来避免感受痛苦，这最终限制了我们。自我（ego）是认同的过程，我们认同自己为某个身份、形象或行为模式。我们成年后遇到的瓶颈往往是因为我们固有的自我认知（ego）限制了我们，而突破这种限制需要我们放下自我。臣服让人害怕是因为它意味着放下自我认知，但重要的是要意识到我们并非我们的自我认知。克服抵抗的关键是感受和释放被压抑的负面情绪。真正的臣服和疗愈需要我们直面真相，并放下自我欺骗。我们内心深处知道真相，但自我会通过混淆来阻碍我们。真正的自由需要放下那些不再有效的东西，这才能让我们达到更高的层次。坚持不放手是对宇宙缺乏信任的表现，而放下则能提升我们的能量频率，吸引新的祝福。接纳只是臣服过程中的一个阶段，真正的臣服是积极参与生活过程。真正的臣服需要相信生活总是为了我们的最高利益，并且认识到我们是灵魂，人生是灵魂成长的过程。臣服不是消极被动，而是积极地从经历中学习，并从中成长。很多人无法臣服是因为他们忽略了悲伤这个阶段，臣服是一个放下自我、梦想、工作或人生阶段的过程，需要经历悲伤。所有的感觉都是暂时的，悲伤也是一个阶段性的过程，只要我们能够感受并释放悲伤，它就会消散。感受悲伤的关键在于关注身体上的感觉，而不是思考悲伤本身。跟随内心的指引，臣服于真实的自我。作者在写作过程中，经历了抵抗、承认真相和最终臣服的过程。臣服是相信生活中的智慧，并允许生活引领我们。臣服是信任内在的智慧和生命的魔力，放下那些不再与我们对齐的东西。 Heather Monahan: 为了迎接新的事物，必须先放下旧的，而这需要我们愿意去悲伤。作者在经历事业失败后，被迫臣服，并因此获得了不可思议的成功。

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Why is surrender often misunderstood?

Surrender is often misunderstood as weakness, passivity, or giving up, which leads people to fear it. They think it means being a victim or losing control, when in reality, it's about letting go of the illusion of control to access a deeper, more authentic power.

How does the ego hinder personal growth?

The ego holds us back by reinforcing a limited identity based on past conditioning and fear of pain. It creates a defensive mechanism to avoid feeling hurt, which limits our ability to access our true potential and live authentically.

What is the role of grieving in the process of surrender?

Grieving is a crucial phase in surrender as it allows us to honor and let go of the past. Without grieving, we cannot fully release old identities, dreams, or phases of life, which are necessary for embracing new beginnings.

How can one practice surrender in daily life?

Practicing surrender involves shifting from asking 'What do I want?' to 'What is life seeking to express through me?' This shift allows you to align your actions with your soul's purpose rather than ego-driven desires.

What is the significance of truth in the process of surrender?

Truth is essential for surrender as it allows us to see reality for what it is, without lies or denial. This clarity helps us let go of what no longer serves us, creating space for new, authentic experiences to unfold.

How does Kute Blackson's personal experience with his mother's illness relate to his understanding of surrender?

Kute's experience with his mother's illness taught him the importance of being present and surrendering to each moment. It showed him that true surrender involves accepting life as it is, without attachment to outcomes, and finding peace in the process.

What are the potential benefits of surrendering in terms of personal achievement?

Surrendering can lead to greater personal achievement by aligning you with your soul's purpose and allowing life to guide you. This alignment can unlock potential beyond your imagination and lead to outcomes that are more fulfilling and impactful.

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Kute Blackson explains the concept of surrender, emphasizing that it involves grieving the old to embrace the new. He discusses the misconceptions around surrender and how it is not about giving up but about letting go of control.
  • Surrender involves grieving the old to embrace the new.
  • Surrender is not about giving up but letting go of control.
  • Surrender is the key to authentic manifestation and freedom.

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In This Episode You Will Learn About: 

  • Breaking down the process of surrendering 

  • The misconceptions around “giving up”  

  • Why your ego is holding you back

  • Letting go of control

 

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LinkedIn) & Youtube): @Kute Blackson 

- Twitter) & Instagram) & Facebook): @kuteblackson

Show Notes: 

Surrendering is NOT easy. Most people never open up to their TRUE selves in order to surrender and let go of whatever is holding them back! Inspirational speaker and transformational teacher, Kute Blackson is here to help us embrace the new, and let go of the past. When you surrender and give things up you don’t get LESS, you get MORE! Allow yourself to release control and STOP limiting yourself by listening to your ego. Instead, start paying attention to your soul, and move with LOVE.