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Hello beautiful people and welcome back to another episode of the Claim Your Power podcast. I'm your host Kim and in today's episode we're going to be talking about how to turn our pain into power. And I've wanted to film this episode for actually a really long time and I didn't feel ready but today, today I woke up and I was like I am ready to conquer this topic. So

So today, we're going to be talking about it all. We're going to be talking about forgiveness, our pain, vulnerability, being raw. And I really hope that this episode's

this episode, sorry, not plural, makes you feel supported and you feel like you're in a safe space to listen and to feel validated. And I genuinely hope that coming out of this episode, you feel like you're able to transform your pain, your wounds into your own personal power. All right, so I want to kick off this episode with a universal truth. And that universal truth is that we live on earth and on earth,

There are good times and there are bad times. Earth is a planet of polarization and there will constantly always be ups and downs in our lives. One day we will be very happy, feeling vibrant, feeling joyous.

And another day, we could be feeling pain. We could have endured something in our lives that challenged us, that challenged our perspective, that challenged our way and ability to accept things. And we could be feeling sad and anxious and worried. And that is part of the human experience is to feel those emotions.

and to go through certain events in our lives that challenge us, that are there to teach us something, that are not always easy, that are difficult to overcome, but when we do overcome them, and we see them in a different perspective, or we heal ourselves, and we commit to healing ourselves, that is when we claim our personal power. I want to dive into the concept of forgiveness right now. I think in society, we're not taught

the value of forgiveness. In fact, a lot of the times we're taught that forgiveness is bad because when we forgive someone for doing all these wrongs to us, we allow them to walk all over us and we allow them to basically make us feel invalidated or insignificant.

But really, that is not the concept and true essence of forgiveness. Because when you forgive someone, it does not mean that you forget. In fact, forgiving someone does not mean that you straight away allow that person to walk back into your life. You know, forgiveness is a general topic that applies to a lot of different situations. So whether it's a friend or a family member or something more serious that occurred, forgiveness

Forgiving that person for whatever wrongdoing they have done to you, whatever way they have hurt you, does not mean that you let go of all your boundaries, that you now allow this person to enter right back into your life. In fact, forgiveness allows you to develop those boundaries and allows you to claim back your power. When you go about life

hating someone, avoiding someone, resenting someone, you are carrying those frequencies and energies with you. You're carrying the frequency of hate. You're carrying the frequency of resentment. And whether you feel like the way you feel about that person is validated and justified, and that you should hate that person for doing something to you, you should resent that person.

When you have those feelings towards a specific person, you're creating an energetic knot and connection with that person to start off.

But you're also influencing your well-being and the way you feel about yourself because you're carrying all this resentment and hate within your own body, within your own soul and mind. And that is something that is so, so hard to let go of. And trust me, I know this. When you get hurt by someone, whether it's something recent or something deep, traumatic in your past...

Forgiveness and forgiving that person is so difficult, but I want to share with you something. Forgiveness is the attribute of a strong person. It's an expression of love and it's a commitment. So forgiving someone or even forgiving yourself, that is not an easy mundane thing that you can do in your life.

letting go and being committed to letting go of your wounds to letting go of your past trauma to letting go and healing the way you feel about yourself the way someone has ever made you feel it's a commitment but when you wake up and you conquer that commitment and you tell yourself it won't be easy in fact it could be difficult

But that does not intimidate me and I am committed to this healing journey and to claiming back my power and forgiving whether it's myself, a family member, a friend, some stranger that has hurt you. When you commit to forgiveness, when you commit to honoring your inner peace over grudges and resentment,

That is when you have your personal power. And I want to highlight that I said that you claim your personal power when you commit to forgiveness and letting go. Because forgiveness is a long journey and path that takes a long time, especially if this is a traumatic event, situation, relationship that has deep-rooted foundational wounds that need to be healed.

forgiving that person that experienced that event takes a long time but when you commit to healing and forgiving you already have the power the ball is in your court because no matter how long it takes no matter how hard the journey is towards forgiving that person you are strong in your power you're not lost you're redirecting

You're not a failure if you didn't forgive someone right away. You're learning, you're experiencing, you're growing, you're feeling, and it's okay to feel. I was actually thinking about this a lot, how in current society, a lot of us have been so domesticated to feelings

avoid and suppress our feelings and whether it's in a habit that yes we're going to be numb we're not going to feel at all or it's the complete other polarizing side of it that's like we should be grateful we should always be positive and then we suppress our I guess lower frequency feelings but I want to challenge that because I think when you suppress your feelings and you don't honor them

as they should be honored, you keep and maintain them inside you. And then they come back right up when you least expect them to haunt you another time. But when you take the time to really feel an honor. So if you're sad, feel that sadness, honor that sadness. You can still be grateful and have gratitude

and have hope and love but you can have a moment in your day where you feel sad maybe something happened to you that day that you weren't expecting and now your sadness you feel upset about the situation when you honor that feeling you sit and marinate in that feeling

You're able to come out of that feeling and that funk a lot faster because you felt it. You didn't hold it. Our bodies have energetic and meridian points. And when we don't properly honor our feelings and we suppress them deep inside, they build up. Because everything in life is energy. Our feelings carry an energetic force.

footprint to them they carry a frequency so if we're suppressing our sadness if we're suppressing our fear if we're not honoring those feelings

then we keep them inside. But the moment we honor them, the moment we honor our feelings as part of our human experience, but we also see them in a different light and say, okay, feelings and emotions are temporary and I'm honoring them right now, but I am above them and I love myself anyways. If I'm sad, I still love myself.

If I'm feeling anxious, that's okay. I honor that. But I still love myself. And when you start getting into that habit of honoring your feelings, you are able to cultivate an amazing, beautiful relationship with your personal emotions. Now, why is that important? Because I want to offer a different perspective.

We see our experiences, our lives, all from our own perspective. We see them from one, I guess, think about it like this. We are the narrators of our lives. Different people narrate things differently. So one situation could happen and we see it in this straight, plural way that we do. But for other people, they might see the situation differently. So

When you are experiencing emotions over your personal trauma, over your personal wounds, over someone who has hurt you, and it's very difficult for you to forgive them, just remember that behind the person that hurt you, behind the person that made you feel a certain way, there is a soul and there is someone who is hurting. There is someone who...

has not fully fulfilled and healed themselves because people do things all the time to us people can hurt us with intention or without but regardless of that nothing is personal to you because what people say or do is a projection of their own reality emphasis on the there

People are just a product of their environment and the way people treat you and the way people handle things is the best way they know how to. I really believe in the good of people. I really believe that humans are born inherently good and we go through things in life through trauma, through loss, through death, through heartbreak that make us bitter and

And life is all about unraveling that bitterness, unraveling our traumas, and honoring them, honoring our emotions, and moving past them into this frequency of love. So instead of seeing the person who has hurt you as an antagonizing persona, look at that person and imagine them as a hurt child.

someone who has been neglected, someone who has been hurt, someone who has not been able to freely express themselves and send that person love. When you forgive someone, you don't have to forget what they did to you. You do not have to get close to them. You do not have to let them back into your life. You can uphold those boundaries 100% but you can always send them love.

Because the universe has infinite love. Love does not run out. In fact, love is this escalating frequency that the more we give it, the more we share it with each other, the larger it grows. I really want to inspire you to think of someone, think of an event, think of a person,

that you want to forgive. Whether it's over something small that happened to you today, your sibling annoyed you and they hurt your feelings, or whether it's something serious and traumatic that has happened to you. I want you to think of that person of that event. And I want you to find the willingness and love and commitment in your personal heart

to start cultivating forgiveness for that person. Your wound is not your fault, okay? The way you are feeling, you are validated. Whenever you are feeling something,

It's 100% okay. You should always be the number one validated for your feelings. You should be like those fun soccer moms that sit in their kids games and cheer on them. Okay, whenever you are feeling something, let your highest self be that soccer mom. That's like you feel it. You embrace it. You embody that emotion and then you move past it. And going back to the idea that your wound is not your fault.

But healing is your personal responsibility. Committing to forgiving, whether it's yourself or someone else, that is only something that you can do for yourself. I think when it comes to forgiveness, if you're someone that the topic and the concept of forgiving someone else, that seems really daunting to you right now, I want to suggest that you start your journey with forgiveness among yourself.

What is a wound that you've been carrying? What is an emotion that you have suppressed? What feelings of guilt, of shame, of lack, of sadness have you been carrying within yourself that you want to forgive yourselves for?

Because your journey starts within. Everything starts internally. When we forgive ourselves, we are becoming so much more open to forgive others. When we are open to loving ourselves, we are so much more open to loving others. And that is how you turn your pain into power. When you fearlessly and truly forgive yourself for all the things that you've resented yourself for, that is when you claim your power.

And that is when you can start applying it to other people. Because sometimes in life, you have to forgive someone who isn't even sorry. And that is probably the most difficult, daunting, discouraging experience. But guess what? You are strong. And you being able to overcome that discouragement and to say, all right, my inner peace is

is more important and I let go that person even though they didn't apologize even though they're not sorry I wholeingly lovingly forgive that person because I know deep down inside they have good in them and I know that my inner peace and my love for myself is priority and I want to end on this point since we've been talking a lot about forgiving ourselves and forgiving others

I just want to remind you that you are exactly where you need to be in life. All of your experiences, the good and the bad, you are meant to experience them because you're here to grow. You came here to grow, to evolve, to learn, to experience. And sometimes the ups and downs are just part of life. And the down and the bad moments remind us to be grateful for the good ones.

And I just want to end on this point that if you feel like you're a failure or you feel lost or you feel unfulfilled, I want to remind you that in life, sometimes there's phases of transformation. And if you feel right now that you are not where you need to be, you are exactly where you need to be. But you may just be redirecting and learning some skills and

in this beautiful earth school before you need to move on to the next amazing purposeful endeavor in your life.

Alright beautiful people, that is the end of this episode. I really hope that you feel empowered to love and forgive yourself today and take care of yourself. And I just want to thank you again for joining me and tuning in. And if there's something specific that you want me to talk about in the next episode, feel free to message me on Instagram. Bye!

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