Disagree About Discipline? Want to Get Control of Screens?
2024/5/1
Calm Parenting Podcast
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Kirk Martin
专注于家庭教育和儿童行为管理的专家，提供实用的策略和脚本来改变家庭和学校中的行为。
Kirk Martin: 本期节目的主题是关于家庭中过度使用屏幕和夫妻在管教孩子方面存在分歧的问题。节目中，Kirk Martin 分享了他帮助一个夫妻解决孩子管教问题的经验。他指出，母亲过于温柔的语气可能会导致孩子不尊重，而父亲过于严厉的语气也不合适。他强调，管教孩子并非非此即彼，既不能过于溺爱，也不能过于严厉，需要找到平衡点。夫妻双方在管教孩子时，应统一语气，这样孩子才能更好地理解和接受。夫妻之间应该互相支持和肯定，而不是互相指责。父亲的角色不应仅仅是纠正孩子，更应该是孩子的教练，陪伴和引导他们。良好的管教方式应该是陪伴孩子，帮助他们解决问题，而不是一味地纠正错误。父母之间需要坦诚沟通，明确各自在管教孩子方面的角色和方法。妻子应该直接而坦率地与丈夫沟通，指出其在管教孩子方面的问题。可以使用更直接的语言与丈夫沟通，以表达自己的不满和失望。母亲通常已经承受了很大的压力，因此不需要再给予她们额外的指责。夫妻双方应该积极寻求帮助，例如一起收听播客并讨论，而不是让问题恶化。不要试图通过让孩子做运动或呼吸练习来强迫他们平静下来，而应该引导他们参与其他活动。父母应该引导孩子，而不是试图说服他们。建议每周选择一天晚上进行两小时的无屏幕时间，以帮助家庭减少对屏幕的依赖。父母的职责不是让孩子快乐，而是引导和教育他们。建议父母利用无屏幕时间与孩子进行互动，例如玩棋盘游戏、户外活动等。建议父母利用无屏幕时间与孩子一起进行一些传统的户外活动，重新建立联系。
Kirk Martin: This episode discusses the common issues of excessive screen time in families and disagreements between spouses on disciplining children. Kirk Martin shares his experience in helping a couple resolve their child discipline issues. He points out that a mother's overly gentle tone can lead to disrespect from the child, while a father's overly harsh tone is also inappropriate. He emphasizes that disciplining children is not an either-or situation; it requires finding a balance between being too lenient and too strict. Spouses should use a consistent tone when disciplining children so that children can better understand and accept it. Spouses should support and affirm each other instead of blaming each other. The father's role should not only be to correct the child, but also to be the child's coach, accompanying and guiding them. Good discipline should involve accompanying the child and helping them solve problems, rather than simply correcting mistakes. Parents need to communicate honestly and clearly define their respective roles and methods in disciplining their children. Wives should communicate directly and frankly with their husbands, pointing out problems in their approach to disciplining children. More direct language can be used to express dissatisfaction and disappointment. Mothers usually already bear a lot of pressure, so they don't need additional blame. Both spouses should actively seek help, such as listening to podcasts together and discussing them, instead of letting the problem worsen. Don't try to force children to calm down by making them exercise or do breathing exercises; instead, guide them to participate in other activities. Parents should guide children, rather than try to persuade them. It's suggested to choose one night a week for two hours of screen-free time to help families reduce their dependence on screens. The parents' responsibility is not to make children happy, but to guide and educate them. Parents are encouraged to interact with their children during screen-free time, such as playing board games and engaging in outdoor activities. Parents are encouraged to engage in traditional outdoor activities with their children during screen-free time to reconnect.
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