Outsmarting the Fuckboy
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What is your daddy game? IT is your founding father, alex Cooper, with call. Hello, daddy gang, welcome back to another episode color, daddy. I am aware that this week is the presidential election, and by the time that this episode comes out, we may all know who the next president of the united states is, but I am recording the episode before all of that so that alex, you're looking at right now has no fuck and idea what the election results are or who the current president may be. So don't worry, no politics will be discussed on called ready today.

Today is going to be one of those days where it's just a little T, L, C time, you know, just mean you, baby. So let's hang out. Let's tell some stories. And i'm going if you guide some life updates, if that's okay with you.

Last week was obviously halloween, and while I was mindlessly scrolling in back on tiktok, I came across the video that made me giggle. IT was this girl who was, like, shout out to all a college freshman who are having their can in halloween event this year. I pauses on IT and I screen shot at IT.

Because first, while if you're not up today on tiktok lingo, a can in event is basically a life experience that you'll never forget, that IT either altered your life to dictator or IT altered your brain chemistry. And I just really shaped who you are to the core. That is, a can in event is a dramatic, yes, but I personally fucking love IT.

So I got me remember zing though, trying to think like, what was my halloween can an event? What was my freshman year of college specifically? What was that canada event? Here's the thing when you're freshman in college and halloween roles around, that's the point in the year, in my opinion, where you're kind of starting to figure things out a little bit, right? Like you're beginning to have a friend group established. You kind of know where the parties are and where they'll be happening. You essentially start to feel like hot shit, right, and sense you're feeling yourself so much.

The obvious next step is that you dress up as bloody as humanly possible for halloween, okay, because you're not cool enough yet to like go the weird, embarrassing around like you're still trying to make a name for yourself on this campus and your freshness, you're like, I want people to like that and remember me anything of hot so my freshman year, I was none other than a slady schoolgirl, so fucking original. I had the pig tails, the glasses, the micro little skirt with the thy highs, the whole thing OK. So I remember I was all dressed up IT was halloween weekend.

And my friends and I were hitting the fronts of boston and on Austin street, ready to find ourself, some men at be. you. And I remember shortly into the night, I found myself talking to one of the boston you hockey boys that I had my iron for the first semester.

okay. And so i'm land down my moves, i'm popping out the tips, and eventually I worked IT enough that we headed back to his dorm to hook up. And this is where this is, really where the canada event begins OK. See back, relax and get your fucking and popcorn.

I was a water bottle of oda deep at this point, if you know, you know, and i'm in the elevator up to the dorm, and I decided my drunken state, that dressing up as a school girl was only the beginning, right? So we got into his room, and we started to aggressively make out. And when the moment felt right, I knew IT was time for me to fully embody my costume.

And I flip the switch, and I began to role play as a school girl as if my life depended on IT naturally. You know, you may be wondering, like, oh damn like, was role play like a thing that you had been doing before. Alex, were you like a role playing IT up in fuck in high school? Absolutely not.

This probably first time I was fucked in the playing. Okay, I had zero experiences with that. But in that moment I felt a god, an veteran.

I got into character, and I was the school girl, and this guy was my teacher. I started slow. I started to slow. I started off uz for one, a little soft ball. I said something like, do I get extra credit if I make you come just like some light porno classics, you know, like, just like really scratching the surface okay.

And as we kept going, I kept ramping up and I was so in to my character that I wasn't picking up on the cues that this guy he wasn't necessarily um he wasn't vision with my performance. Kate still hurts to say stay. And so after I was hitting him with lying after line, like giving him, honestly, like grade a pope shit, his energy had clearly shifted.

And he kind of looked at me. I was like, just like enough talking, like, just suck my back and deck and again, IT intoxicated. Like, you don't take the social cues like you would if you weren't bucky drunk daddy gang. So i'm in my own world and I was fully a school gate at this point.

There was no turning back and I was not ready to give up yet because i'm still like in a fanta asy land so i'm like, okay, if he does not want me to talk, I just got to act the shit out so um I remember I jumped off this man's bed. I stumbled over to his desk and i'm on the hunt for a ruler and unfortunately, news flash, unfortunately, guys in there twice apparently don't keep rulers around. So I found the next best option, a thc spiral notebook, a five star thick boy.

okay. I brought the new book over to this man, and I handed IT to him, turning around so he could speak me. With that, I was so proud of myself like, i'm thinking i'm rocking this guy's role in the moment like, oh my god, i'm fucked up and I can think of this genius ship.

I'm literally bends over ready for pop. T I give you a swing then i'm just kind of like, air is like bristling my bt hole and i'm like, he didn't spend me, okay, he didn't spend me. He'd even pick up the fuck in a book, okay? And after a minute I looked back at him, kind of like, well, the first is he doing.

I turned around, this man was sitting up, getting out of bed, putting his fuck in pants on. And I watched in absolute horror as he proceeded to button his pants, put his shirt on. He handed me my schoolgirl skirt, and he said, the most dreaded words a girl can hear.

He said, i'm gonna go back to the party. Like, no, am I ego in that moment to be like your my skirt was off. I'm ready for the big boo boop and he wouldn't even back in touch me.

In that moment I realized I was not the school girl of his dreams and I ended back to made a massive full of myself. And I think I remember like waking up that morning so fucking modified about what he probably told his friends and was like talking about with them that morning. But the glorious part of college, I will say, is that you are never, ever, ever, ever alone in ruining your life, especially on halloween.

Something about costumes clearly makes all of us girls act fucking insane. And I remember i'm tucked in bed in my single fuck and trunk in my little dorm room, and I am, i'm on the verge of just bringing myself out the window and ending at all because i'm like, it's the hockey guys. They're going to talk.

I was supposed to be the hot new freshman. what? And I remember the next morning, my first friend bargees through the door and SHE has cap makeup, smear down her face under her tits.

SHE has a little band. Dewan and SHE is wearing long, long, long boy shorts. He has sized sixteen shoes on sneakers, like whale fucking and boots. And SHE comes in announcing that he had fucked the captain of the cruel team, hence the size sixteen, fuck and chill.

And SHE says, and when I say fuck, I say that loosely because I attempted to ride, said captain of crude team with a little soft winner. And then the rest of that morning all of my friends trickled in my fuck and slady as bumble of a friend, try to fuck the restless ler. SHE got tag timed by two men at night and literally just know my friends came one and one.

And if anything, i'm not to lie. My story was like, locky not the worst. And I just remember we talked about IT, and we'd demoed, we debriefed so hard, I will never forget all of us that morning just really helping each other up because what the else can you do and saying it's not that bad, like you probably won.

Remember, truly, the reason we were doing this, all of that, was that that we could get the courage to walk into the dining hall with our head tells high and potentially come face to face with our demons if I saw that man in the dating halt. This is quick note, just for daddy again, if you ever have an awkward moment with a hookup or someone or anything in your life, the rule that I live by is IT isn't awkward. And you can completely move that person's memory and perception if you are so fucking more Normal the next day that they're like a we I forgot she's like caught and cold, like weed like she's so much more coal than I thought she'd about that like trust me when I say I wanted to literally exit and run and transfer.

But I saw that kid the next morning in the dining hall and I walked right up to and IT painted me to do so. I was, like, last night was weird fun. Uh, what you guys doing tonight and my I I hope, well, I know my casualness about the absolute demolishment that I did, my personal career, my ego and my reputation, kind of one to the wayside because he saw the tips.

I was looking good and he said, like, oh, we're going out tonight and I am updating the kid so you know what, it's never as bad as IT seems. But that moment IT really put me IT put me into the ground and let me know, like you're not shit, alex, and don't for a fuck. And second thing that you can just swing the shit left and right without consequences. So that was my fresh in here. Honestly, not as much as I could have.

My junior year halloween, oh my god, okay, story time. This was a different type of cannon event. This is where I would say I was less humbled um and I really started this year two master financing.

Fuck boys. Let me set the theme. So my junior year, I was talking to this professional athlete who lived in new york city.

I knew that he would have the best halloween plans, and so I was determined to get myself invited and to spend the weekend with him. Now the problem was this guy wasn't really the type to make plans. I had a time with me, you know, I was more of like a spur the moment type of relationship.

And I had to kind of be ready and on call at any given moment. We weren't dating. So yes, he was a fucking boy. And yes, I was at, he's like a backing call, okay, but don't fuck and judge me.

So I was so fuck and desperate that I ended up believing boston and all of my friends on halloween weekend to return home to guddle, newtown, pensylvania. Now why did I do that? Let me explain my logic here.

I needed to go home so that when I got the last minute text asking me to join in on his halloween plans, I would be only one state away, ready to plot my house on new jersey transit and have a straight shot in the new york city. Okay, so I lied, and I told him that I was gonna in the city, and I was going to be out with some of my friends. Little did.

Did he know? I was little, sitting in my fucking and childhood with my parents, watching them prepare for all of the Young. Young brought kids to come in trickery tree in our cold disaze.

okay. But he thought I was going to be in new york. okay? And so my costume this year was very strategic.

I knew I was guaranteed to make this man fun love with me. He was obsessed with game of thrones, and I was going to dress as policy at that point in college. I had platon blond hair that was so fake was nearing White, honestly.

Now I look back in them like that was ill. But at the time, I was perfect for the costume, so I didn't even need to wear a wig. Okay, he was perfect.

And I would buy no mean if i'm being truthful with myself, like I wouldn't really consider myself a halloween girl, but I put suck and effort into this costume, hours of blood, sweat and tears. I was so committed. So it's friday night of halloween weekend.

I am sitting at home in pencilling, ia. With Lorry and brian. It's early in the afternoon. I would say it's about like two or three o'clock. And I start texting him IT start to small talk. But my goal is to have him invite me to his halloween plans in new york city.

Okay, now the problem is because I really want to break this down and the desperation, I needed a strong firm invite from him, because I had to get on a train, pay for a train ticket. That train ride was an hour and a half to york city. And when I got there, my brothers could not afford for him to cancel the plans, because I had no to stay like I couldn't afford in new york city hotel room, right? So if I was going into the city, I had to be able to rely on this man.

Now, why wasn't I just truthful? Why didn't he just tell him that I was in pennsylvania and I would come into the city if he wanted me to, and if he wanted to invite me to his plans? Because IT gave to which fuck in power.

Okay, this is when I was in my toxic days. This was my, I couldn't be truthful with a man and face. Okay, because anybody who has ever hold up with a fuck boy knows the chiller, the plans, the Better. You know what i'm talking about? If he knew that my mom was putting me in her fuck in minivan and driving me to the train station in threatened new jersey just to come see him way too much effort, game over, like he would have freak out.

He's like, that is way too committal, that way too serious like your mom about me like, no, no, no, no, no, no like IT needed to seem like I was already out and about so chill, I wasn't even in the city just for him. But like, if you invited me, like, sure, i'll pop by and cool like that. Meanwhile, like, when you're on a budget and nothing is fuck and chill, okay, nothing is slutty cool about this.

So I hope i'm painting enough of the picture of, like the intricate and delicate dance I was having to do with this black point. So i'm passing in my childhood, my mom's on my bed because she's like, fully include into the story and she's like, send the text, send the text like we got to know like, are we get near to the transition? And not like, send the text.

And i'm like looking at my hand of montana poster and my my high school musical poster and my jonas brother poster and like, I need to get the fuck out of here. I got to send the text, so I shoot IT off, and I asked him, what are your plans for tonight? So chill. I ended up throwing my fucking phone across the I tell my mom like you're going to need to fuck and check IT like and of course I had like his little um like ring a tone if he texted me like I knew his exact ring tone and i'm waiting for the ring tone and my mom's like, it's going to be fine you're so gorgeous, sweet as mom are so annoying like that we shut up, mom OK, i'm one of many. I know my bucking plays bit.

She's like OK we do you think you should be talking as man? And like, yes, bitch, you're driving me if buckin says, come she's like, okay so the dreaded hour goes by he finally answers and you know it's good when like you text the fuck boy and like you've been like, get after IT like, he ATS like, oh, one minute after another and then you ask, what is fucking plants are in its ghost you're like, oh, oh, that's like that's a direct attack. You're like a bit tween were you?

I just saw like you were fucking typing and now you're not typing like, what the fuck so finally, he answers and he says, I don't know yet. What are your plans? I want to smash my phone into my fucking and forehead.

And again, like, I had no fucking plans, but i'm going along with the lie. So I tried to play a cool so I was like, oh, like me. My friends are probably just going to like bop around to some bars.

Like, but let me know if you want to meet up and poor my mom is just like, why don't you just be directly like mom, if you give me advice one more fucking in time i'm a fucker. Y, i'm gonna fuck and lose my sheet. She's okay, sweet.

Okay ay, let's go make you some a coco. Now, here's the thing. I was actively refreshing new jersey transit times and losing more and more hope. And when I say, actually dly, my daddy s like sitting there with me, like, work in the system, like this is a family Operation OK.

But this guy's communication at this point was so non committal that I knew if I got on a train and just kind of went for IT at that point, I would have been standing alone in new york city with nowhere to stay dressed as classy. You don't me. Look, none of my friends were in new york city at this point.

So give in mind. okay. So when IT hit nine P. M, I made the executive decision to shift gears and shift my plan for the night.

I saw on his friends social media that they were out, and I saw only the back like a little strand of his hair. The back of his had a strand of his hair, but I knew with him, and he ignited something in me. I knew, I knew in that moment I needed to strategize.

So I called my parents into the living room for family meeting, and I said, if you guys have ever loved me, I need you both to buck up and pull this next. Move off with me. okay? Our family name is fucking on.

This should okay. They're, we have literally lost. We have lost our daughter, okay? But immediately there are in.

My parents were like, so used to my antics at this point, they're just like, happy. I'm fucking home and i'm including them in any of this. So I told them that here we go.

I told my parents that we had to transform our garage into something that would pass for a sick halloween warehouse part. Because I needed, this is attention, and I needed to post on social media in my classy costume, a sap. But IT needed to, like, look somewhat a jacon into something you could see IT.

Like a rusty in new york city, like a grunt. Speak easy, okay? We headed into the garage and we started to really like, clear the shit out and like throwing on the driveway, right?

My childhood bike, kick to the bug and curb the box of Christmas decorations. Get the fuck out of my way. My dad's lawn mower gone.

I was like, mom, what is this box? She's like, those are your baby photos. How cute we go through and like, mom, put into the fucking ground.

Okay, we need to get this Operation up and running. I was a woman on a mission, my poor parents. Once we cleared out a corner of the garage, I had my mom work in the camera.

My dad was standing behind her, manning the lighting. okay? We needed IT to look, spur the moment, like even a little blurry could do, while also hiding the perfect tangles.

okay? And so by the Grace of god, my parents got the shot, and I immediately went inside, and to the only thing I knew I could do to make the shit even, even Better. Photo, shop the shit out of this photo on, pick monkey dot com.

Tits bigger. Ask bigger. Lips bigger, waste smaller. I look fucked and amazing. Honestly, I was, I looked, I looked day plus I was playing right into his fantasy y now I knew I couldn't just throw up any basic alloweth post, right? This man isn't going to call me if he sees a little fucking and bopeep on his feet.

And he did this costume to awake in something in him and alter his brain chemistry. Was I doing too much? H, yes, each.

okay. I, I wanted, I wanted to put in the work. I'm a creative person. okay. So there I was, like, picture this. I'm not fucking kidding you guys because once you get your family involved in shit, they want to see IT through, right? So i'm like on my fucking phone.

It's like the beginning days of instagram, my dads on my right right chiller, my I left my moms and the phone with my brother, my dads and the phone with my sister to the whole family Operation. My brother's like, you are a book in IT. My sister is like, god, this is so fun.

Like, fuck them. Like, everyone has to say I like, 需 post。 My mom, like, oh my god, to be at the right lightning, should we do another? And like, mom, shut the fuck up.

And like, clock work. Less than ten minutes later, I got a text. I got a text, and IT said something along the lines of holy shit, babe, your costume, you look fucking insane.

Where are you? I need to see you check part. But something inside me shifted, and I realized so much of that night, and my relationship with that person was based off of who had the power.

And a light bulb went off in that moment when I realized, holy shit, this new plan would be even more effective. Then if I went into the city, I had a chance to make this man jealous based off of this picture alone. okay?

He was under the assumption that I was somewhere in york city wearing the costume of his dreams, and he wasn't with me, right? So what did I do? I took the costume off, washed my face, didn't everything shower, cuddled up on the couch with my mom and pop, okay, turned on halloween town, said ostia, wo mother fucker.

And an hour after he sent that text, I replied to his text with a simple cassim. Og, what did that do? What would did that effect do? What was his canada vent? Okay, IT made this man spiral.

Think about IT daddy going, if you're fucking with a fuck. boy. He had just asked me where I was A K, I got what I wanted. He wanted to see me, and I was ignoring his request. He just asked me a question, and I just hit him with a fucked in a oj.

So what do you think happened next? He texted me again, babe, where are you I want to see in that outfit? I dozed off at around ten thirty sharp. Okay, I was fucking exhausted. And IT was a big day of work.

You know what I mean, crawled up in my child hod bed when I tell you, daddy, again, I woke up to twenty two text messages and about eight calls from this man. When I woke up, I was the best fuck and gift I had ever received him down. Okay, the texture, like, alex, where are you? I need you like, it's all like, sweetly come to me, baby and then all the site it's like, wow, so you're with another guy cool.

I wanted see you and I guess not damn like just the spiral. It's the fucking best when you are in that position and you wake up to that shit, you're like, I can be the easy, like, dm, IT feels good to be on top. And when I felt like the appropriate time that morning, I picked up my phone, feeling absolutely Victorious, and I said something along the lines of, why do you, like all these technologies, just memorized you guys?

I IT was ill, okay, but when you spend that much time on a text message and you're going back and forth with your friends and your mom and your grandma, like you remember that shit, okay? And I wrote, haha, wow, chill 哒 哒哒。 How's your night now? That may have taken me about an hour a concoct, but was perfect.

He texted me back immediately and he said, come over. Let's spend the day together and go to this party. I got invited tude tonight. I mean, men, you're sofa and stupid and predictability, like annoyed.

But if really what IT is also women, if you are in your toxic face still like that advice to you is just like you just have to like, have your friend lock your phone away, have them literally physically removed IT from your body and hide IT because it's going to do so much Better than the good when you just ghost, when you're just like, uh, have gone girl IT IT works magic. So what did I do? I, my dad drove me a new jersey trans that I got on that train.

I rolled up to his place purpose, sly, looking like a load to chevelle. He was insecure. Ever asked me like, why did you answer me last night? Like, were you with another guy? And I was so coil, like start, like we're not even exclusive.

Like chill, like you would come down like we're going to have fun tonight, just playing IT so casual. We went out together that night. And later he floated the idea of us being exclusive.

The war was over. Ladies, I had fucking done IT. I got more out of that policy costume that I could have ever drapped of. And a cannon event was secured for sure because that I fear was the moment, like one of the moment I really, truly saw, like the power of financing a fucking boy in a way that, like, you can't help but get a little off on IT, right?

Because when you've been done dirty by them and every girl has had that where you're sitting up and you're waiting for their text message and you're like kind of just completely on their terms, when you flip the switch and the rules are reverse, you're like this isn't toxicity and this is. And then I went on to date time and I was like, the most toxic relationship. But like, it's a classic.

Like, like exactly how you gotten is how you're going to lose them. It's a classic. And IT detailed all the design ways. Those are my too, like memorable halloween. I mean, I have a lot more hlo ween stories, but that's enough for today.

This year, I did not participate in halloy at all that I actually this is more wholesome now we're going to transition and do more side of the episode. Madi actually flew to chicago this past weekend to spend IT with laun, who you all know. She's one of my childhood best friends.

She's spent on the show. And IT was lawn thirty eighth birthday. And he is going through an unexpected life change right now and is moving into a new apartment by herself, which is definitely overwhelming.

So matter. I knew we weren't going to let her just like do this all alone. And we wanted to physically be there with her to support her in person.

And so mad, I told that we were going to come to chicago. But we had also cooked up a little surprise of our own. We had told lorn that we were going to come in town and like hang out and go to dinners and like celebrate her birthday.

But little did he know we were planning to surprise her by furnishing her entire apartment. Um our girl didn't have a single piece of furniture to her name in that place yet. And like SHE needs this and we got her.

And so we got to chicago friday night we met up with Laura and Christian, my other child, hod best friend. He also lives in chicago. Imagine the former.

I have that my two best friends live in the same city and i'm just like over here in less Angels, the amounted dinner where i've been like, but what if you guys just like moved and they're like, no. Like, okay. But like, what if, you know, just come visit us more? Like, okay.

So we went to dinner that first night and IT was ten and a ten amazing IT was just like the three of us girls in with mat. If you're ever in chicago, also just highly recommend. We went to the this restaurant called the bovee.

It's like every time and with learning Christian, we're always looking for, like dark vibes, good energy, good music, tiny but not too tiny and just like a good hang and I remember as we were singing happy birthday to learn she's blowing out her candles and Christian is like, is that welfare all we're all like what and that's like, yeah that's definitely welfare all and like that will and we all realize that the entire night turns out welfare all and his entire family were just dining next to us all night IT was a glorious experience that made her birthday even Better. Um the other side of the night after dinner was, I forgot to mention match one stipulation of the weekend was that he was happy to have a girl's weekend with us. Okay, but we had to watch the dodgers because they were planning the inky in the world theories and mad as a huge dodger fan.

Okay, so after dinner we all went to a bar and we watched the game. And I was quite entertaining, honestly, like, I ve had enough baseball in my life for a lifetime. But I was like, you know what? It's fun.

It's the fuck and real series. And I ended up ending on like a grand slammed walk off the night that we were watching. And that was so fucking empt up.

I don't if anyone has this, but like, IT was such a fun game. I get math. We get back to her, tell him he's paying.

He's calling everyone he knew. And I recap in the game called his that calls his brother. He calls us because he I like jesus crist time. He's like, I can't the fuck in best thing ever so that was fun that he got a little him time. But the big event, saturday morning, saturday morning, was our big surprise.

So we had lawry and Christian come over to our hotel for breakfast, and we SAT learn down, and we told her, sweet, get ready today is entirely for you. We hired a driver for the day. We are going to go to every possible store, and we are going to fully design and furnish your apartment this weekend on us.

Get in and get ready. And IT was just like, he was in complete shock. And I was so cute. I was just, I will say, like, IT is so surreal being able to do stuff like that for my friends and I don't know.

IT was like a really fun and like emotional moment and we like hug and cried and I was like a whole thing all fuck. And weekend we were all just like crying and emotion. IT was beautiful, but okay, so first stop of saturday, we go to her apartment.

We see a beautiful, we wipe out the measuring tape classic. okay? We made a list of every single possible thing he needed. We're taking pictures of the walls. I like post some of these pictures because funning, because math like directing traffic. And we basically started to formulate our design plan, which is IT is so fun to design a new space if you're moving into a new space like we're going organized things.

But it's also very daunting because I think understandably, some stuff is not in stock and it's everything's coming in like peace meld moments and it's just like overwhelming if you don't have a vision um we ask laun like, what's esthetic like, what do you want this new chapter of your life to be and she's like, uh like I wanted to be like classic, but like have tinges of like moodiness like kind of like weird nesson like maybe like library. We're like, okay, okay, that s like great chAllenge, accepted love. Um so after we got all the dimensions and we're taking pages of notes, we were off to fuck up the furniture stores of chicago.

I will say my husband really comes alive. Furnace store and IT is IT is quite attractive because he is so like I wouldn't say aggressive. He's just if if we're like, is this cute? He's like, no, we're like, is that he's like, absolutely yes.

That goes with that. Like when I tell you we were like three little ducklings following mats lead around all these stores, he was a man on a mission. Also, maybe he was on emission because, like he didn't want to miss the fuck and dodgers seven P M game that sort of the night he's we're getting in and out or cut this should six oconto a cock tail.

But nonetheless, we hit all the places. We went to crate barrel. We went to west alm cb to potty barn rejuvenation vintage stores.

And I could you not multiple stores asked like, oh, what interior design firm do you guys work with because we can get you guys a discount code for that. We were like, no, we don't. We're not.

We're not. It's just like we looked like a crew on emission. You guys like our measuring tapes. Like at one point embrasure larn had the measuring tape like holstered on her belt buckle. We had our dimensions printed out that is walking around like he's fuck in Amber interiors in this bitch like he cannot be stopped.

I will say people are probable why reminder, why is not so good at this? Math produces movies, right? So like he's walking around and he treats everything in life, whether we like throwing an event or he's doing something this like math is going to treat anything like he is producing a movie.

He knows budget, he knows color pilot, he knows how he needs to visually look. He knows where people need to congregate, where people will stand the lighting, that the whole thing so was very fine. Like, see him do his thing and I was honest like so relaxing at a couple of times we're walking around with our coffees.

We got like child like taes match just like you like this lies like, uh, so we went non you guys from a eleven A M to six P M. I am so excited for everything to get delivered that ARM can begin to create this new chapter of her life for herself and matt. I are so invested now, if anything met more than me.

He's little like texting our group chat to arms, like updates, photos, updates, updates or held me like it's delivery day and i'm like, how do you know that he is? The tracking information is like, I know exactly when they said it's getting delivered. I'm waiting for the photos were very invested.

Every time a new piece of furnace arrives, he will send us a picture and will be like, can you move the chair a little bit more on to the rug and go a little like two inches to the left? Like IT is fun and we're all just like, I don't know, it's fun to be a part of that with her and I think again, like scary, daunting moments in your life when you have the right people around you. I think you IT IT literally is just about like the vibe and and who you're surrounding yourself with can immediately change the way that you view something that you're going through. So i'm just so happy because IT felt so amazing to be there for my friend in a moment where he needed me because he has certainly ban there for me when roles have been reversed. I i've only told this story on tour, so maybe I need to tell them on the podcast one day.

Um i'll spare you like all the details, but I will never forget when I started over in a new york apartment, a back in new york city, i'd gone through a break up and I was sudden and I was basically like on the street and didn't have a place to say and I found this place, their facebook marketplace, whatever the fuck and IT was like a two month rental and I remember I was like the dead of winter in new york and all that was in the room was like a mattress on the floor and lawn came over, and we went across the street and like got like a delly sandwich and ships and sour patch. And we sad on the floor. And SHE helped me while I cried.

And we slept ed on the mattress with no sheet that night. And IT was one of the dark est points in my life. And the one thing that allowed me to keep going and not feel ugly alone was laun being there for me.

So I was just so special that I was able to almost like, do you like give IT back to her also because that's the weird about friendship. You're like, oh, I didn't think that ARM m is going to be moving into a new place and now he is and i'm here for her. I also will say IT is so special that learn and math are close.

Now there is truly no Better feeling than when you are best friend and partner also have a friendship of their own. And I think it's no secret that when you get older, you don't have as much time for friendship as you did when you were in high school or college, right? Like you're not running into each other at class.

You don't live together anymore. Probably you're not meeting up in the dining hall every day. Now you're adults and you have a career and a life. and. Taxes in a mortgage or rent and you're all over the place and like you may not even live in the same city.

But the point is, I think when you get older, you have to make so much more of a concerted effort to see your friends and stay connected with them. I think another point to ult friendship is you really start to learn who is gonna show up for you and be there for you in those hard moments, like my friends and I were talking about IT this past weekend. But like as you get older, understandably, the stakes get so much higher.

I'm not really looking for a drinking buddy. I'm looking for someone who I can call and ask for their advice. So when your priorities in friendship shift IT kind of just naturally weeds some people out because it's like, do I respect your opinion? Are you someone who I want to go to for advice? And I also think one of the most common things that is kind of this, like unset dynamic and adult relationships, is the reality that you're ever fully on the same page, like learn.

And I right now, we both just turned thirty. Learn is recently single and i'm married. And on paper, our lives couldn't look further from aligned. But on one hand, IT doesn't matter and IT shouldn't matter, because how I see IT and how we see IT is how we are aligned is our values and how we show up for each other and the way in which we give each other advice and how we treat each other. Like when I look at IT, learn and I always laugh, but it's like learn.

And I have been on different pages through most of our friendship, although we dating back to literally being like almost six years old, like I feel like if i'm thriving, she's usually down and if i'm down, she's usually thriving like we're usually rarely ever on the same page. But that friendship, you know what I mean, like I feel like those moments, though, in my opinion, when you are on different pages, are when IT is even more important, that adding to poor effort and energy and time into your friendship, it's easy when everything is aligned. But the mark, in my opinion, again, like I know everyone has different fucking definitions, but the mark of a good friendship to me is showing up for each other when IT isn't necessarily fun, when it's toward and it's exhAusting and it's stressful and things are tough and one one of you is up and one of you is down and it's like, fuck.

Like, I wanted to have a good time and night, but she's fuck and crying like, yeah so then you sit the fuck down and you be there for someone and like, I think having to go out of your way in moments to fit into each other other's lives is so beautiful because IT shows like you want to because there's rea prosy in the dynamic like lawn meets me where I met and I meet her where she's at, even if for on complete different pages. Oh my god, I didn't exact to feel like go deep but um I think friends can be truly just as important to your life as your romantic partner and I am so grateful for the friendship that I have with laun in Christian and so to close out our little girl chicago trip um on sunday Christian had us all over to her apartment and he cooked us brunch SHE made us a lot tien omelet ts and SHE had her record player on and we were just recapping the image late vibes the weekend and we were just started to talk about like, okay, what's next for all of us? Like what do you guys doing and what am I doing? And so currently learn and Christian couldn't be more alive in on the same page.

They are both recently single and both just turned thirty and so IT was really fun to see them planning single girl activities together. Because when your single, let's be real, you socially have a lot more free time. And I want to say to the daddy gang, and one of that is single right now, that is listening and you're kindly struggling because maybe like you have more friends that are in like relationships or they are engaged or be some your friends are married or you're always put in third wheeling.

Like my bit of advice to you when I was talking my friends this weekend is like you need to seek out at least one other person who is single. You have to, you have to. And IT doesn't mean that laun and I and Christina and I can be friends. Like it's not that like i'm like a loser or now in a meeting or like therefore cc and losers because now they're single, like me to know it's just like they now are able to show up for each other in a different way than I can show up for them, right?

And I will just overall say one yes, get single friends because you don't anna do that shit alone and it's so much funder to like have someone next to you and like go through those like escapees together but too, now from my perspective, I will say this as I continue to build a life with that. I feel so fortunate that my girlfriends are such a priority and important part of my life. And something I realized is that when you find the right person and get your relationship to a healthy place, you are capable of being there for your friends.

Even more like I have been in toxic relationships where my entire emotional band with was being absolutely consumed by trying to manage and fix and deal with the relationship that I was in, that I was like, nearly impossible to turn to my friend and be like, what's going on you? Like, yes, go head dump, ed. Like, tell me what's going on with you and even if you do, you're like hat listings because you're like, I am just trying to keep my fuck and head of of water.

We've all been there that is so fucking common and I will say daddy gay, when you see those friends were in those situations and you're like a note with that mean like you've been such a fucking and bad friend lately, I know that sometimes our national cultural inclined is to be like she's just been like such fuck and shit like she's got I get IT when they're ma. But if you're really turn into your friend, you should know IT is nothing if I can do with your relationship and your friendship, and IT has everything to do with the fact that your friend isn't in a good place in their romantic situation and IT is like eating them alive and it's affecting everyone around them. It's difficult to see you when you're in IT, but it's obvious like one person is usually way more capable to show up for the other and that's just the national evenfall of friendship.

I'm also pleased don't get me fuck and wrong. I can only see the dms coming like i'm not talking about the people who are like, well, SHE hasn't shown up in seven years, alex. Like that is in fact like no, then it's time to boot the buck and bitch.

That's not what i'm talking about, but everyone goes through their hard spells. Um the point is I think female friendships are some of the most incredible relationships. And I have been through so much with my friends and even when my life feels good and that I are good, there is truly nothing like when i'm with them.

And IT was so cute, oh my god. IT almost like, maybe emotional. IT was so cute because matt and I were on the plane ride back from chicago.

And mat, like, grabbed my thigh and turned to me and was like, I love seeing you this happy. And I was like, what? And he was like, this weekend was so amazing.

And the bomb that you have with your friends is so incredible. Like, you guys are so lucky to happy each other. And I member just looked at him, and I was like, there are my people, like, since six years old, they've been my people and will always be my people. And so the last thing I guess I will say is, like, remind you're daddy gang, especially when you become an adult, you don't need a giant friend group. You don't need all these different people in your life.

You need one honestly and unfortunate to have a few but you don't need a big friend group to feel fulfill if anything that allows you to invest more time into those few friends that you're really, really close with anyway that again um thank you so much for listening to the week's episode just a little girl chat for us. You know sometimes on a wednesay we ve got a kick back and just talk and hang um so thank you so much for listening. I love you guys very much and I will see you fuckers next wednesday. goodbye.