my emotional crutches, a talk with emma
anything goes with emma chamberlain
Deep Dive
Why did the speaker feel grumpy recently?
She felt grumpy because she had eliminated almost all of her emotional crutches, which were things she used to soothe and distract herself.
Why did the speaker consider her emotional crutches detrimental?
Emotional crutches prevent logical reasoning, allow self-deception, and ignore reality. They also prevent growth and can lead to addiction.
Why did the speaker develop an oral fixation and nicotine addiction?
She developed an oral fixation and nicotine addiction as a way to cope with anxiety and stress, starting from a young age with thumb sucking and later transitioning to vaping and nicotine.
Why did the speaker's shopping addiction form?
Her shopping addiction formed because she always wanted the freedom to buy things and felt a sense of instant gratification from shopping, which became a way to combat boredom and stress.
Why did the speaker choose to date avoidant boys?
She chose to date avoidant boys because it boosted her self-esteem and provided a distraction from her other anxieties, even though it ultimately prevented her growth and made her unhappy.
Why did the speaker find it hard to quit her emotional crutches?
Quitting emotional crutches is hard because they provide a familiar and controllable type of pain, and the pain of reality can be more challenging to deal with. It also involves finding new, healthier ways to release happy chemicals.
What positive changes has the speaker noticed after removing her emotional crutches?
She has noticed lower anxiety, clearer thinking, and a better overall quality of life, despite the initial difficulty and grumpiness.
- Emma's recent emotional struggle manifests as grumpiness, impatience, and lack of willpower.
- She connects this change to removing emotional crutches from her life, both consciously and subconsciously.
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