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Why does Debra feel her self-esteem is low?
Debra feels her self-esteem is low because her husband is a womanizer and walks all over her, making her feel unvalued and disrespected.
What advice does Dr. Laura give to improve self-esteem?
Dr. Laura advises Debra to focus on accomplishing meaningful tasks, such as taking courses, learning new skills, or getting involved in charity. She emphasizes that self-esteem comes from impressing oneself through personal achievements, not from others' behavior.
What specific goal does Debra mention she has always aspired to but never pursued?
Debra mentions she has always wanted to go to college to become a therapist but never took the step to pursue it.
What does Dr. Laura suggest Debra do immediately to start improving her life?
Dr. Laura suggests Debra immediately apply to a two-year college, specifically Ivy Tech, to start working toward her goal of becoming a therapist. She emphasizes that taking this step is more important than focusing on her husband's behavior.
What does Dr. Laura say about the relationship between self-esteem and a man's behavior?
Dr. Laura states that a man cannot take away someone's self-esteem. While a man can cause sadness, anger, or regret, self-esteem comes from investing in purposeful and meaningful activities in one's own life, not from how a man treats them.
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What can I help you with? I'm calling because I want you to encourage me and give me some better insight on how to get my self-esteem up. Because my husband is a womanizer, and I know it, and he walks all over me. I have self-esteem. I don't have self-esteem because a man does not walk all over me. I have self-esteem because I'm proud of myself for the things that I accomplish.
So if you're looking around in your life and you're seeing you're not accomplishing anything, you're not taking on a task, taking a course, learning something, becoming entrepreneurial, getting involved in charity, stuff of life. If you're not doing any of that, then you're not going to have self-esteem. If you're doing all of that, you will have self-esteem and you wouldn't live with a man who was womanizing.
So it really depends upon what you do in your life that impresses you. It's a matter of impressing yourself. Never blame a crappy man for your lack of self-esteem. That's just silly and lazy. Well, I do thank you for that. I'm very accomplished. It's just that I don't have the strength to, I need strength to let him go. I know he walking all over me, but yet I'm tolerating it.
Well, it's because you're not really invested in things in your life that are meaningful and productive. You may be doing a lot of stuff, but clearly none of it is impressing you about you. How about we name something you've always aspired to but never took it on? What might that be? That's a good question. I've been on my job for 33 years, but it's just good money. Your job is not impressing you, woman.
Please don't act like you don't want to understand my point. I do. So what have you always wanted to take on as a challenge, but you never did? Go to college to become a therapist. Good. All right. You can start out with a two-year college in your neighborhood somewhere. Go apply today. Don't give him any thought. You don't have to leave him. Just let him hump other women. It doesn't matter. What really matters is that you get a college diploma.
and enter into a career that you believe is meaningful. Well, thank you. And I just want you to know I listen to your radio station, and I admire you, and you keep me laughing with the way that you answer people. And thanks for taking my call. What's the name of the two-year college closest to you? Ivy Tech. That's a two-year college? Yes. With an associate's degree? All right. Yes. Get in the car and go there and apply. Well, thank you.
Now, don't just, it doesn't make me feel happy that you listen to my show. I mean, it doesn't depress me either, but what would really make me happy right now is if you promised me you'd get in the car and go apply. Now, that would make me happy.
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Well, thank you. Are you going to do it? I will. No, you're lying. I will. No, you're lying. No, no. I work midnights. I have to wait until I have an off day. Call in sick. No, but thanks for taking my call. 30 years. They're not going to fire you for calling in sick. Just don't say it's PMS. Yeah.
Yeah, at 63, that wouldn't fly. My number, 1-800-375-2872. I hope a lot of you learned a lot from that call. No man can take away your self-esteem. Can't happen. Impossible. Man can make you sad. Man can make you angry. Man can make you depressed. Man can make you feel regretful. But if you're invested in something purposeful and meaningful in your life,
That's where the self-esteem comes from, not some guy not walking all over you. So if she doesn't immediately go to that two-year college, nothing's going to change in her life, and she's going to be unhappy till the day she's dead. So what's the point of that? You want to be unhappy till the day you're dead? Really? My number, 1-800-375-2800.
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