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In today's episode, we're going to be talking about the concept of letting go because if you're not able to let go, you will be dragged, okay? And I'm going to kind of explain what that term means, let go or be dragged, how to apply it into your own life and how to really use the power of letting go in order to maximize, level up and align with your higher self and your highest potentials.

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So let's talk about letting go, okay? Because this is one of the things that we as human struggle with the most because as humans, we are built for attachment. We all have attachment styles. Part of human nature is wanting to be accepted by others. It's wanting to have company around us. And that is why, especially as women, we are trying so hard to always hold on to things that we know deep inside are not meant for us.

And if you look at it even from like a societal perspective, women are taught to have a lack mentality. We're taught to make peace with what we can get and hold onto it super tightly and not be able to let go. We lack an abundance mindset. And that is the difference between somebody who is able to let go more swiftly and release the things that no longer serve them and someone who isn't and is constantly a victim and is constantly holding on. It's a difference between a lack and an abundance mindset.

The reason that we struggle so hard to let go all the time is because we think we're never going to meet somebody like them. We're never going to attract a better opportunity. We're never going to have another experience like this. We struggle so hard to let go because we are in a lack mentality. So part of being able to let go and learning how to let go is learning to recognize that abundance is all around you and abundance is your birthright. Because let me tell you something, let go or you will be dragged. If you are not able to let go,

then it's going to hurt. The more that you hold on, the more that you cling and force and try to just make something work and you're just like controlling everything, the more devastating it's going to be for you when the universe forcibly removes that thing or removes that person. Because deep down inside, you know what is and isn't meant for you.

Deep down inside, you know the things that you are holding on super tightly and you can't let go. And the more that you hold on super tightly to these things and you cling on to them, the more it's going to hurt when the universe and God removes them from you. Because let me tell you, no matter how much you hold on to something, no matter how much you force something, no matter how much you control and cling on, if something is not meant for you, if something is not meant to stay in your life, if the soul contract ended, if the purpose of that thing ended in your life,

then nothing that you do will make it stay. And vice versa, the things that are truly meant for you will feel like an effortless exhale. So by you letting go, you're not giving everything up. You're not saying, oh, this isn't for me. By you detaching, you're not just throwing hands. You letting go is you choosing your peace.

You letting go is you having faith and letting God and the universe take the steering wheel. This episode, this is your sign to let go of the clutter in your life. Let go or be dragged. Take a deep look at your life. What is serving you? What people, what habits, what hobbies, what actions are serving you and what isn't?

Because the more that you hold on and you're just trying to make everything work so hard and you're not able to let go, the more you're also in this very forceful energy. You're not allowing things to happen for you. That's the opposite of feminine energy. Feminine energy is about being. It's about allowing. It's about receiving. And the feminine energy, us, when we're truly in our divine feminine energy, we have mastered the art of letting go.

Because we know letting go doesn't mean giving up. Letting go doesn't equate throwing hands. It just means letting what's meant to happen happen.

And you knowing that there's a higher power behind you, that the universe has you in the palm of your hands and you don't need to constantly control. You don't need to constantly chase and make things work. You can let go. You can release and relinquish control and let the higher power, God, the universe do the steering wheel. The more you're able to release things in your life, the more you're also able to create space for the better things to enter your life.

Because if your energy is always on the past and what happened to you and they did this to you and they hurt you and this person and you're not able to let go, then your energy, that's all there is to it. Like,

Like all of your energy is in the past. So you have physically and mentally and energetically no space to welcome in new things, new experiences, new people into your life because your energy is already preoccupied. So letting go is actually a big and massive act of self-love.

When you let somebody go or you let something go from the past or you're able to have the power to walk away and release and detach, you're showing up for yourself and you're putting yourself first. And that's the greatest act of self-love. When you start letting go of this idea of how your life should be or how things should turn out or how things should happen for you and you just start letting life be, how

how it is, then you're creating massive and beautiful space for what's meant for you to happen for you. But the problem is we as humans, we're constantly trying to control. This is what our brains do. Our brains are problem solvers. So when we feel a certain emotion, our brain tries to rationalize it for us. And you have to notice there's a big difference between your ego and your brain and your human self and your soul and your spirit.

because the spirit and the soul whispers. The soul always knows when to let go. Your soul has already let go of the things that aren't meant for it. Your soul has already let go of that person or that experience. It's the ego and the human self that is constantly holding on, that is constantly trying to make it make sense, that is constantly trying to look back and rationalize the things that you have been through. When you realize that you're doing this, your brain and your ego are doing this to protect you, to keep you safe,

then you can also show up for yourself and let go. Because you realize, you know what brain, you know what ego, you're just trying to protect me. You're just trying to keep me safe and I love you for it, but it's okay because I have my back, my spirit has my back and it is safe for me to let go. A lot of the time, many of us have this limiting belief that if we finally let go, then it's never going to happen for us. If we finally let go of the idea or the dream or the person,

and we detach ourselves from it, then it's never going to fall into place. But it's actually the mere opposite. When you finally let go, your energy shifts, you become more open and receptive, and then what's meant to happen in your highest good always happens.

Because the universe never says no. It says yes, not yet, or I have something better. So by you letting go, by letting go of the control, so you don't have to let go of what it is that you desire in your life. If you desire love or joy or success, you shouldn't let go of that. I mean, you don't have to live in constant neutrality all the time. We were meant to experience emotions and dreams. But by you letting go of the control, you letting go of the how,

You're allowing life to surprise you and you're allowing life to bless you and you're allowing the things that are truly meant for you to enter your life with ease. And if you struggle with this idea of letting go, one mindset shift that's really going to help you is instead of constantly telling yourself, oh, I have to let this go. I have to force myself to let this go.

Give yourself instead permission to release it. So instead of saying to yourself, I need to let this go, tell yourself, I allow myself to release this as long as it takes. Maybe it takes me a few days, maybe it takes me a few months, but you constantly make the decision every single day that you allow yourself to release it. Whatever it is that's hanging on you, whatever it is that's carrying weight on you,

Allow yourself to release it. Give yourself that permission first. When you give yourself that permission, the letting go process starts to begin. Because let me tell you something, I know that letting go hurts, letting go of whatever it is that you're trying to release in your life. But something that hurts more is holding on so desperately and clinging on to things that you know in your highest good are not meant for you. It hurts a lot more to hold on and to grip yourself so hard to something than letting go.

They're equally difficult decisions, but letting go is a decision that will set you free and holding on is a decision that will keep you in a cage. Because part of life and part of being alive and being human is learning that sometimes you're going to have to let go of certain things. Sometimes you're going to have to outgrow certain things. Sometimes you're going to have to make peace with the fact that something or someone was only in your life for a season, not forever. Every single time that life

pushed me to let something or someone go or an experience go from the past, as much as it hurt, it was also an awakening for me. And letting go is every single time I have to let something go is also an experience where I find more of my power.

Because letting go is being in a state of surrender. And when you're in a state of surrender, your heart opens and you find a strength within yourself that you can't really discover when you hold on. Because I think people think that the more you hold on, the stronger that you are. But let me tell you that it takes real strength to let something go, to forgive, to release something from the past. And if you're the type of person who's sitting here right now and you're telling yourself, I'm ready to let this go. Maybe I don't know how, but I'm ready to do it.

That takes real strength and you should be extremely proud of yourself. You can't water a dead flower and accept it to grow again. If something in your life isn't meant for you, then no amount of you holding on and watering it and overcompensating and clinging and forcing is going to make it be what it was.

And you letting go is actually you choosing yourself. It's you realizing that by you letting go, yes, you're allowed to mourn and you're allowed to grieve, but you also know that you're headed towards a new direction with new blessings and new gifts that you haven't even thought of and you haven't even experienced yet. Because when one door closes, a new one soon opens.

But if you're not able to let something go, you're going to be dragged because if something isn't meant for you, then no matter how much you hold on, the universe is just going to come at some point and pick you up forcibly and remove you from the situation. Think about situations in your life that you really, really held on and maybe now you look back and you're like, wow, now I realize why this didn't work out for me. But also at the time, it was probably removed or taken out of your life very forcibly.

I personally had a few situations like that in my life, both in my relationships and just like in situations in life in general where I really held on to something. And it wasn't until the universe literally came, picked me up forcibly or forcibly just took me out of that situation that I was forced to let go. And that's this idea of let go or be dragged.

If there's an inkling inside of you to let go, then I urge you to follow that intuition as it begins. Because the more you hold on, the more painful it's going to get for you when it's forcibly removed or taken from your life. Because you don't ever know what you're being guided and protected from. And usually the things that you're being protected from in your life are things that you haven't even thought of. So if you're trying so hard to force something and it's not working out for you, maybe there's a reason.

Maybe you're being redirected towards a different path. Maybe you're being protected from something. You really never know. You have to get yourself to a place where you realize truly in your heart that your peace is more important than understanding why something happened to you the way that it did.

Because in life, we're not always going to get the clarity and the answers right away. But your peace, your emotional well-being, your mental health needs to come first. So I'd love to share with you guys some practical tips that you can start implementing into your life that are going to help you let go instead of be dragged. So these are tips that I have implemented in my life in a lot of different scenarios and situations that have really supported me and I know are going to support you.

you. So the first tip that I really want to share with you is getting yourself to a place of acceptance where you're accepting the fact that you need to let a situation go.

So that's the first initial step of letting go is not the actual releasing process, but it's accepting the fact that you're going to have to let this go. So sometimes you're going to have to let go people. Sometimes you're going to have to let go of old ways of old experiences. Sometimes other people are going to outgrow you and you need to start accepting that you need to start accepting that that's part of the cycle of life. The second thing that's so helpful for me when it comes to letting go of things in my life is asking myself,

Does holding on to this actually feel good for me or is it just comfortable and familiar? This is so important because a lot of the time, the reason that we're not able to let go and we hold on so tightly to things and people in our lives, not because it feels good for us, but because it feels familiar. It feels like what we're supposed to do. And you need to genuinely take a deep look in the mirror and sit with yourself and do the shadow work and ask yourself, does me holding on,

Is it actually serving me? Does it actually make me feel good? Or is it expending my energy? Is it draining me? The third tip I have for you has to do with closure because I think the reason so many of us struggle with letting go and the reason that we're dragging things and relationships in our lives for so long is because we didn't get the proper closure that we needed. We didn't get the proper clarity from the situation or the person, but we

One of the biggest pieces of advice I can give you is sometimes no closure is your closure. And sometimes getting closure is actually you accepting the fact that the past can't be changed, that you can't understand everything that's happened to you, but you fully trusting that it happened for a reason.

Sometimes in life, you have to be able to genuinely pick up your book, turn the page for you to realize that there is another page and another chapter in your life that is so good that you haven't been experiencing because you've been so stuck on the old page. Step four of letting go is getting yourself to a place where you're letting go of the illusion that things could have been different or turned out differently for you.

Because you can't go back to the past. No amount of anxiety and overthinking is going to change the past. And it's not serving you and letting go and releasing. So if you truly want to let something go or someone go in your life, you actually have to get yourself to a place

where you realize things couldn't have been any different. This is how things turned out because this is how things were meant to turn out. Even if you made mistakes, even if somebody hurt you, even if things didn't turn out the way that you wanted them to, this is how it was supposed to unfold.

And by you accepting and coming with the terms to that and breaking off the illusion is you actually taking the first initial step to moving forward and focusing more on the future that the universe has for you. The fifth step to letting go is by recognizing that there was a purpose to every single experience or relationship that you went through. And instead of focusing on the hurt, you start to focus on the lesson. You start to ask yourself and put the

focus back on you, not the other person or the thing that you went through and you start to put the energy back on you and ask yourself, okay, what did I learn from this? What is the lesson in this? Because there's always a lesson and a gift and a blessing in every single expired relationship or experience that you've been through. The lessons that you have learned from each of your experiences will be the things that pull you out of the quicksand, will be the things that are your stepping stone to a higher version of you, to a newer life.

And the sixth step, and this is one of the most crucial steps to letting go, and I saved it for last, is actually to use and harness your creative energy in the letting go process. So a huge example of how a lot of people do this is singers and songwriters. When they go through a really tough breakup, what do they do? They harness their creative energy and they write a song or an album about that. So what I want you to start doing is whatever you're trying to let go in your life right now,

I want you to ask yourself, how can I actually harness my creative energy in order to let this go? So maybe it is by creating art. Maybe it's by starting a YouTube channel or a podcast. Maybe it's by writing a song, journaling, writing poetry, whatever it may be. I want you to start channeling your creative energy.

Because the creative energy is the energy of a rebirth. It's the energy of creation, essentially. So when you start channeling that creative energy, the reason that it helps you with letting go is because it actually repels the energy of attachment. And it actually repels the energy of holding on because creation is about creating something new. It's about a new door, a new beginning, a rebirth.

And so it is one of the greatest things that I always use. You actually can't start the new chapter of your life if you keep rereading the old pages of your book, okay? So this is why letting go is such a crucial process in order to let new energy and make space for new things to come in. Because if you're letting go, then you're able to create energy and space for what it is that you desire, what it is that's meant for you to enter your life. But if you're holding on,

There's no space. There's no space because all of your energy is in an older place. So the universe will sometimes come into your life, drag you out of that relationship, drag you out of that situation, drag you out of that environment for you to actually marinate in the gap, marinate in the space for something new to come in.

Because let me tell you something, in the process and in the journey of you letting go, yes, you're going to lose certain things, you're going to lose certain people, you're going to lose certain, you know, experiences, but you're going to find yourself.

letting go is one of the most crucial steps to finding yourself. I cannot tell you how many times in my life I had to let something go forcibly and then I found something else new about myself. I realized another courage, another strength that I had possessed. So letting go is actually how you find yourself. It's actually how you prioritize yourself. And if you're not going to be able to let go, then at some point you're going to be dragged and the universe will do it for you. So the question is, do you want to be dragged?

forcibly or do you want to choose peace you want to choose letting go even when it comes with pain so that the new things and the new experiences can come into your life with ease this is what the true spiritual journey and the self-development path is about

That's the difference with people who are on a self-development path and who aren't. It doesn't mean that people who are spiritual and on a personal growth path do not experience challenges. No, we all experience just as much challenges, but the reason it seems like our life is easier or we're happier or we get more lucky and we're more blessed is because we're so centered and in tune with ourself and we know how to let go.

That's the huge difference between a victim and a creator is a victim constantly hold on and the victim constantly marinates and constantly forces and the co-creator of their life lets go and allows the universe and God to lead their path. Because let me tell you one last thing and this is how we're going to end this episode. Letting go will feel like the end for you, but it's actually the new beginning.

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