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Welcome to Claim Your Power podcast, your all-inclusive roadmap to self-love, mindset, spirituality, and personal growth. I'm your host, Kim Peretz, and you are at the right place if you're ready to tap into the knowledge, advice, and inspiration you need to become your higher self. It's time to claim your power, baby.

Hi guys, welcome back to the pod. If you're new here, my name is Kimmy and I am your host. And in today's podcast episode, we are going to be talking how to get your spark back, how to claim your power. So this podcast is called Claim Your Power, Baby. And today we're basically going to be talking about the epitome of this podcast. We're going to be talking about how to get your spark back, how to get your spark back,

How to get your power back from any person or situation. So I honestly recommend you save this podcast episode because you might find yourself wanting to come back to it because everything we're talking about today can be applied to so many different areas of your life, to your friendships, to your relationships, to any situations where you basically found yourself giving your power away and that's

That manifests in a lot of different ways like overthinking, doubting your worth, doubting your value, overgiving, overcompensating, people-pleasing. If you find yourself in any of these things and there could be a lot more different traits, then you have probably given your power away. So today we're talking about how to take that power back, how to get your spark back.

back because this is such an important podcast episode and I will vulnerably share that I have found myself in a personal situation in my life where I had given my power away. I had kind of lost my spark for a few days and I was honestly just riding in my car today and I gave myself, I turned off the music. I did like a whole self-soothing pep talk to myself where I basically spoke out loud to myself everything that I needed to hear that moment and

And I really felt my power and my spark coming back in that moment, being able to self-soothe myself and get myself to a place where no matter what I'm going through,

At the end of the day, I am my best friend. I am my safe space. I am my center. And coming back to that center because, guys, we fall and we rise up. That's what life is about. Life is not about your strength and your courage. It's not about the fact that you fell in the first place, the fact that you doubted yourself, the fact that you got hurt, that someone hurt you, that someone rejected you, the fact that

you lost touch with yourself, that's not what defines you. What defines you is your getting back to yourself rate, is picking yourself up. It's how you rise once you fall. That is where your power is. So no matter where you found yourself in today's episode, we're going to talk about how to get that spark back, baby.

Because on this side of the podcasting world, we're all about claiming our power. Also, if you don't already know, on August 8th for the Lionsgate portal, this is one of the luckiest, most abundant days for manifestations out of the year. I decided that I am hosting a live manifestation masterclass. It's going to be honestly, guys, I don't know if you can tell my excitement through the mic.

I'm so excited. It's honestly one of the best masterclasses I've ever planned. We are going to be getting down to the nitty gritty on how to manifest your dream life. There's going to be an intention setting ceremony, EFT, journaling, meditation, a live Q&A with me. It's honestly going to be incredible.

Tickets are limited because it is live on Zoom, so there's limited spots in the Zoom room. But if this is feeling like this is for you, like, yes, I want to be part of this manifestation masterclass, then please check out all the information in the episode notes and grab your tickets sooner than later before all the spots run out. So let's talk how to get your spark back.

So you have found yourself in a situation right now in your life where you have given your power away. Maybe it's to a friend, a significant other, a stranger in your life. Maybe it's about a certain situation or experience that you're overthinking, that you're overcompensating. In whatever way, you are right now in a place where you have given your power away.

So you might find yourself feeling drained. You might find yourself feeling anxious, overthinking, wondering, self-doubt. And the number one thing that you have to realize when you have given your power away is that you can take it back at any

at any moment and any time throughout your day. So just because you have given your power away does not mean that it is permanent. It does not mean that it is permanent because in this world, my friends, we all have free will and we all have a choice. So the fact that you are clicking on this podcast episode, you're deciding to listen to it is already the first initial step that you are signaling to the universe that I'm ready to make a shift. I'm ready to take my power and get my spark sparked.

back so that's already such a powerful step that i want to just tell you and tell you to be proud of because it's such an important step part of the process and as i'm recording i'm seeing three three three on the clock which is just the confirmation that everything i'm seeing is so aligned guys the fact that you are here right now is already one of the biggest and initial steps the fact that you're going to take your power back now the fact is that you have given your power away okay you have given it away so you're finding yourself drained confused overwhelmed

belittling yourself, doubting yourself. And the number one thing that you have to realize is when you give your power away, there is a direct correlation. And this is something that I have found in every single situation in my life where I've given my power away is I have almost always been in a situation where I was giving my power away because I have lacked self-love and faith in the universe in that moment in my life.

So I want you to ask yourself, have I been lacking trust and faith in the divine, in God, in the universe, in whatever term you like to call it, because it's all love at the end of the day. Have I been doubting myself? Have I been disconnected from my center and my self-love?

because that is the only moment that you can give your power. Because when you realize that you are part of source energy, that you are the divine, that you are part of the universe, that you are the universe's golden child, then you realize that nobody can ever take anything away from you because you are already whole and complete on your own.

This is something that especially manifests I see in romantic partners, whether it is someone broke up with you, you got ghosted, somebody hurt you, somebody doubted you, somebody belittled you. You find yourself feeling small and confused and you find yourself lacking what you love and lacking your joy and lacking your spark. But what you have to realize is, and this is something that I have made a decision with myself,

that I will always commit to and even if I have slip ups where I feel small again, I will always come back to this promise to myself and I really want to push you to do the same. Promise yourself that you are always number one priority because I will share that all the moments in my life that I have given my power away and my spark away is because I had put myself as number two. I had forgotten who I am. I had given and given and given without receiving and

And I lacked trust in myself and trust in my strength and my divinity. And you have to realize that for you to take your power back, you have to recognize who the fuck you are. I know that was a bit of profanity. I am sorry. I'm very passionate about this topic. You have to realize who you are.

who you are and that is that it does not matter how other people treat you, how other people say, what other people's inadequate actions or behaviors, that is on them. You are only responsible for yourself, your reaction and your choices. And now you have a choice. You are at a crossroads where you have a choice. Am I going to respond like I always did, where I made myself small, where I wallowed, where I gave my energy away? Or am I going to choose a new direction and a new path?

where I am powerful no matter what. Nobody can take your power and your spark away unless you permit them to. So what you have to do right now is make an executive decision with yourself that I'm no longer putting myself in a position where I'm permitting other people to have power over me, to have power over how I feel about myself, to have power over how I recognize my worth or my value, to have power over my life. No.

Uh-uh. We are done. We are done with this energy because that is a victim mindset. And what a goddess does, what someone who truly loves themselves, what someone who truly recognizes their divinity and knows that they are a co-creator, they know that the ball is in their court and they know that

But if they are in a position where their spark was given away, it is because they have allowed that situation and they take accountability. I always take accountability when I give my power away, when I react, when I feel bad about myself, when I feel like I'm losing my spark in a moment in my life. I take accountability and I tell myself, you know what? This is mine.

Because if somebody else is reflecting this energy, this is not theirs. It is mine because I'm feeling that. So if somebody is making you feel a certain way, it's only because that feeling already exists within you. You have to take accountability for your life, for your feelings, for your mindset, and for your thoughts. And realize that the more that you blame other people and pinpoint and put the finger on other people, the more miserable you're going to get. Because you're going to go down a loophole that you will never get out of. But the loophole to get out of

of, you know, this misery and getting your spark back and getting your power back and feeling, you know, powerful and centered again is taking accountability for your life and moving forward. Telling yourself, okay, this happened in the past. They treated me this way. They hurt me. I had this experience. It is in the past. And now I have a choice. Do I wallow and do I give it my power or do I move forward?

Do I move forward? Because at the end of the day, the most important relationship of your life is the one with yourself.

And when you learn how to always come back to your center and know that your power always comes from within you, that means that any love or admiration that you feel for somebody else, something that already exists within you. For instance, this was a really hard life lesson that I had to learn in my dating life is any love that I feel for a man or any feelings of warmness or fondness that I feel or even vulnerability that I feel when I'm around a man.

When that man leaves my life, those feelings don't leave with him because my ability to love somebody or my ability to be warm and feminine and open, that's my heart. That's not somebody else. Or for instance, if you have a friendship where you're able to give a lot and you're able to invest a lot and that friend is not reciprocating that energy,

When they leave your life, that friend's not taking that from you. Your generosity and your ability to give and open up, that is yours. And you have to realize that when people that you shared, you know, amazing experiences with, that you felt good and then they hurt you, when they leave your life, they're not taking away the good feelings from you.

They don't have the power to do that because everything that you've ever felt around other people is yours. That means that any love, any feelings of warmth, any abundance, any joy that you felt around somebody else, when that person leaves your life or that person hurts you or that person doesn't choose you, they're not taking those feelings with you.

That's something that I had to realize. And when I realized it, my life changed. My life changed because I realized, you know what? It does not matter who chooses me, who loves me, who desires me, who leaves my life, who doesn't, who invests in me, who doesn't. It does not matter because at the end of the day, anything that those people do is a reflection of me.

So now what you need to do, how you're going to get your spark back is you're going to put yourself first. You're going to be a little selfish. And I know this whole podcast episode, I'm very passionate and motivational, charismatic because this is something that I'm so passionate about. And I really want to get through to you through my energy because you guys can't see me.

You need to put yourself first, even if it means being a little selfish. I personally, for a long time, had this very big limiting belief that it was crazy because it took me a lot of subconscious work to actually discover this belief. But the reason that sometimes I would wallow a lot over certain situations and overthink and just kind of like put all my energy on the past and not be able to... With Lucky Land Sluts, you can get lucky just about anywhere. Dearly beloved, we are gathered here today to...

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I felt like if I would move forward, I would be too powerful. And I was scared of my own power.

And let me tell you, there are so many people out there that are actually scared of their own power. And the reason that you're not able to move forward is not because you don't have the strength and not because you don't truly love yourself. It is because there is something within you that is so powerful and so strong that your subconscious mind is so afraid of it coming out. Because when you unleash that part of yourself, you become extremely magnetic and extremely powerful. And that for many of us is uncharted territory, especially as women in our society, we're conditioned.

to not be powerful, to be afraid of our power. That is literally look around in society, everything in society right now, well, not everything, let's not generalize, but almost all the systems that are old in our societies were created to disempower women. So when you realize this,

You actually can understand something so pivotal about yourself. And that is that most of the time, the reason that you're not able to move forward and take your power back and claim your spark back is not because you're not strong enough, not because you're not courageous enough, because subconsciously you are scared of your own power. Because what happens when you tap into your power? You have to take accountability for your life. You can't be a victim anymore.

And that scares a lot of people. And that scared me for the longest time. I didn't want to take accountability for my life. I prefer to be a victim. It was easier because guys, at the end of the day, you can be a victim. You know, a lot of there is definitely something in your life that you're a victim of. So the victim complex is often something that we attach ourselves to because it gives us meaning and it gives us security in a way.

But at the end of the day, it keeps you small. At the end of the day, you being a victim doesn't help you level up and it doesn't help you heal and get your spark back. You have to take responsibility for your life. You have to put yourself first and realize that when you are powerful, the world changes for the better and that you deserve to be powerful. Just because somebody else hurt you doesn't mean that you deserve to feel like shit for the rest of your life.

Just because somebody didn't treat you right, just because somebody didn't see your value, just because somebody didn't behave the way that you deserved doesn't mean that you have to now feel like shit for the rest of your life. Excuse my language. But just because somebody has inadequate actions does not mean that you have to pay the price with your own mental health.

You actually can choose a new path for yourself and decide that, you know what? No, I don't want to pay the price of my mental health because I deserve to be happy and I deserve to be in my power and I deserve to be joyful no matter what other people do, no matter what other people say, no matter what I've been through. I deserve peace and I deserve happiness and I'm going to go after those feelings no matter what.

Make a pact with yourself that moving forward from the moment that you're listening to this podcast episode, nobody will ever have the power to take away your spark. This is one of the hardest but most important lessons that you will ever have to learn on your spiritual journey. Never, ever, ever let anybody else take your spark.

I don't care how much you love them. I don't care how much they did for you. You are not allowing anybody else in your life to ever take your spark away. And do you know why? Because your spark is your birthright. And that is your direct connection to your source, to God, to the universe. And when you give that away, you disconnect from your birthright. The reason that you're struggling to move forward and to get your spark back is because you keep reapplying the same patterns and the same old formula to a new level in your life.

Right now, whatever it is that you are going through, it is calling you to dive deeper and it's calling you to level up and discover a strength within yourself that you haven't even unlocked yet. So for you to get a different result in your life, you're going to have to change the way you approach it. You're going to have to change the formula. So what have you been doing? How have you been approaching things right now in your current situation recently? How have you been handling it? How have you been thinking? How have you been reacting? And I want you to ask yourself, is it helpful or is it harmful?

If it is helpful, keep it up. If you find that it is harming you more than it is helping you, then change course, change direction, choose a new path, choose a new reaction, and you will discover a new result with how you feel about yourself and you will start to reignite the light within you. Guys, it does not have to be though that because somebody hurt you or somebody didn't treat you right or you went through something in your life that for the rest of your life, you're going to have to be a victim.

Also, I will preface that saying I'm all for feeling and I'm all for knowing that healing is a nonlinear journey. You know, you take one step back, two steps forward. So you don't have to be perfect at this. We all have moments where we don't feel good, where we look back, where we feel bad, where we feel that emotion. Every time you find that emotion coming up, what you have to do is feel it and then release and surrender more and feel it and surrender and let go more and feel it and forgive more and surrender and let go more.

The more that you do this, the more that you will embrace your inner warrior. This is exactly the type of energy I'm trying to help you embody in this podcast episode. Embrace your inner warrior, okay? Life and being a woman is not just about, you know, being feminine and butterflies and softness. No, it also is about power and courage and strength and boundaries and knowing that at some point you can pick yourself back up because you are a warrior on the inside.

And nobody can mess with a warrior because you are powerful AF. You know why? Because you are the universe's golden child. You are its daughter. You are its beautiful work of art. And you deserve to feel powerful in that because that's who you truly are. One of my favorite quotes ever, and I feel like it is so connected to this podcast episode, is it's okay if you fall down and lose your spark forever.

Just make sure that when you get back up, you rise as the whole damn fire. Like, can we get some snaps for this quote? Okay, it's okay if you fall down, baby. It is okay. We all do. I literally had felt like I lost my spark last week. I'm going to be completely honest with you guys because I'm also on a path with you guys and I'm evolving and growing and expanding. Okay, I do not have it all figured out. But you know what?

I decided that when I was going to get up, I was going to rise like the whole damn fire. Okay. I was going to find the inner warrior in me. And that's what I want you to do. I want you to find your fire. Okay. The fire within you is a part of yourself that is so strong that you don't even know how strong you are. It's something that exists within all of us. So when you start to feel yourself falling down and losing your spark, I want you to find your energy again. We need to find your fire.

And I want you to remind yourself that nobody deserves your power like that. No situation, no person deserves your power like that. It is way too holy and way too amazing for you to give it away just like that for somebody else. And for somebody else's inadequate words or actions, it does not deserve it. Why? Because your power is your holiness. It's your divinity. It's

what you came on this earth with and it's something that nobody else deserves. Something that I really recommend if you have found yourself giving your power away in a situation or to a person, it's actually to do a cord cutting meditation and ritual in your journal.

and I can read you guys like a mantra that you can say out loud to yourself that's really really helpful and the idea is to continue doing this as long as you need because every single time you find yourself giving your power away again and getting your spark away then you call back your energy and you call back your power back but this is something that you can start telling yourself and I suggest to even like pause and repeat it out loud with me or just soak up my words but this is a mantra that I love to use whenever I feel like I've given my spark away

I call my power back now from any people, places, or situations. My power fully returns to me from all realms and timelines, past, present, and future. I release any energy that is less than love and I fully stand in my power now. And so it is.

So this is a mantra that I tell myself all the time because truthfully, the way that you take your power back and put your spark again on the top of your life is by putting yourself first. The best thing that I can recommend you in order to get your spark and power back is

is by actually finding your own validation and your own love and your own self-worth as your only source of nourishment. So what do I mean by that? A lot of the time, the reason that we lose our spark and we give our power away is because we depend on the nourishment of others. We find love, self-worth, validation, inner value in the source within other people.

This is what happens a lot of the time when you fall in love with someone. You think that that person is the one giving you that love. But in reality, it's just when you're around that person, what they're doing is they're opening a key. They're triggering a love that already exists within you.

So one of the best practices that you can start doing to get your spark back is everything that you feel like the negative side right now from your situation or anything that you've been through, the negative emotions, you're feeling small, disappointed, sad, angry, confused, overwhelmed.

I want you to ask yourself, what is the opposite of that emotion? And how can I self-soothe myself right now and give that to myself now, not depending on other people? So for instance, if you've had your heart broken or you got hurt by someone in a relationship, so you feel small, you feel unchosen or unlovable, then in that moment, what you have to do and ask for yourself is, how can I love myself even more now?

How can I choose myself even more now and make that decision and self-soothe yourself? It's like reparenting yourself time and time again. That's what the spiritual journey is coming back to that wound, to that trigger and patching it up, doing it for yourself, finding your power from within.

showing yourself that love that you create from other people, showing yourself that validation and choosing yourself time and time and time again. Because let me tell you something, your energy and your power is special. I hope you guys love this podcast episode. Again, make sure to grab your ticket for my Manifestation Masterclass happening August 8th. All the information is in the episode notes and I will see you next time.