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参与了与前谷歌CEO埃里克·施密特关于AI、算法和创业的深入讨论。
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Dr. K: 本期节目探讨了现代人面临的各种心理健康问题,例如孤独感流行病、社交焦虑和约会失败。Dr. K 认为,解决这些问题需要先了解自身原因,而非直接寻求解决方案。他将这种错误的解决方法称为“毒性燃料”,并强调只有理解自身运作机制才能真正改变行为。他结合自身经历和神经科学研究成果,阐述了如何通过了解自身行为背后的驱动力来改善自身状况。他还指出,单纯的发泄情绪并不能解决问题,反而会削弱改变的动力。Dr. K 认为,理解自身需要结合精神传统和科学方法,特别是神经科学和精神病学领域的最新进展。他帮助人们找到自身运作的“说明书”,就像汽车的说明书一样,帮助人们了解自身运作机制,并从负面状态走向积极状态。 Steven: 本期节目中,Steven 与 Dr. K 探讨了多种与心理健康、人际关系和自我提升相关的话题。他与 Dr. K 讨论了男性和女性在处理情绪和寻求帮助方面的差异,以及如何克服社交焦虑和孤独感。他还探讨了多巴胺和血清素在幸福感中的作用,以及如何保持亲密关系中的性生活激情。此外,他们还讨论了创伤对个人目标实现的影响,以及如何通过自我认知和情绪管理来改善自身状况。Steven 分享了他自身在约会和人际关系方面的经验,并与 Dr. K 共同探讨了如何通过了解自身来改善自身状况,以及如何克服自我提升的陷阱。

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Dr. K emphasizes the importance of self-understanding as a crucial first step towards improving mental well-being and relationships. He discusses the pitfalls of self-diagnosis and the TikTokification of mental health, highlighting the need for differential diagnosis and internal work. Dr. K shares his background and experiences, emphasizing the combination of spirituality and science in his approach.
  • Good diagnosis precedes good treatment.
  • The majority of men's mental health work is internal, focusing on self-understanding and control.
  • Women have a slight advantage in mental health due to higher emotional awareness and verbal fluency.
  • Self-development junkies often seek information but don't implement change.
  • Talking about problems can worsen them if it's just venting without emotional catharsis.
  • Negative emotions are the primary motivators for change.

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Welcoming back Dr Alok Kanojia onto DOAC for the second time, this conversation covers a variety of subjects from the search for purpose, the journey of healing, the loneliness epidemic to the role of dopamine in our lives, specifically around sex and relationships, amongst many more.

Dr K is a psychiatrist and co-founder of the mental health coaching company 'Healthy Gamer', which aims to help with modern stressors, such as social media, video games, and online dating.

(0:00) Intro

(1:35) What Does Dr K Do?

(2:57) Dr K's Background

(5:35) The TikTok-ification Of Mental Health

(8:13) Dr K's Thoughts On Men's Mental Health

(10:57) What About Women's Issues?

(13:38) How Do I Understand Myself?

(16:57) Self-Development Junkies

(18:22) Talking About Our Problems Makes Them Worse

(23:00) Deficiency Promotion

(24:46) The Role Of Dopamine In Happiness

(27:23) Serotonin's Role

(28:59) Why Couples Get Comfortable & Have Less Sex!

(30:57) How To Love And Find Love

(34:11) Stress And The Effects On Libido

(35:57) The Science Behind Attraction

(40:32) Should We Plan Sex?

(41:58) Continuous Exposure Reduces Emotions

(44:08) How To Keep Sex Exciting When It Becomes A Chore

(47:38) The Dangers Of Devices On Our Relationships

(53:14) The Generations That Were Born Connected

(55:15) Are People Becoming More Narcissistic?

(1:01:30) The Lonely Epidemic

(1:03:53) It All Comes From Within

(1:09:07) Believing Something In Your Mind Makes It True

(1:13:24) You're Suppressing Your Emotions

(1:16:31) How To Process Your Emotions

(1:22:26) The Research On Yoga As A Form Of Therapy

(1:26:40) Trauma And The Ability To Achieve Our Goals

(1:31:47) Parenting With More Autonomy = Better Kids

(1:33:14) How To Become A Self-Starter

(1:34:33) Where Steven's Drive Comes From

(1:41:32) What Do People See When They Look At Steven?

(1:43:03) You Need To Fix Trauma, Not Cover It Up

(1:49:46) How Do You Heal?

(1:55:10) The Journey Of Healing

(2:03:48) What Is Mukti?

(2:05:02) How Can We Listen To Ourselves When We Have So Much To Do?

(2:08:40) How Do We Get To Happiness?

(2:11:18) Morning Routines For Calm

(2:13:27) How To Demolish A Habit

(2:14:49) The Benefits Of Keeping A Diary

(2:15:59) What Are People Looking For?

(2:18:42) How Do Young People Find Their Purpose?

(2:21:03) What Is A Quarter-Life Crisis?

(2:30:04) The Best Questions Are Deep In Your Heart

(2:32:28) How Can Steven Be A Better Podcaster?

(2:33:46) The Guest's Last Question

You can order Dr Alok’s book, ‘How to Raise a Healthy Gamer’, here: https://amzn.to/3V5jfLV

To learn more from Dr Alok in his Guide to Mental Health: https://www.healthygamer.gg/about/guide)

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