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The "More" Kids

2024/6/18
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Dr. Becky: 本期节目讨论了如何理解和帮助'深度感受型'孩子及其家庭。她分享了自己的育儿经验,并指出父母在孩子经历困难阶段时常常责备自己,但当情况好转后,又会因没有及时寻求帮助而加倍责备自己。这可能是因为父母太忙,无法充分利用他们可能投资的任何资源。她还强调,如果父母感觉孩子的负面情绪和困难比其他孩子更强烈,这并非他们的错,而是孩子本身的特质。她建议父母应该从希望而非恐惧的角度来养育孩子,并避免犯'快进错误',即根据对孩子未来的担忧,来回应孩子现在的行为。父母应该关注孩子当下的需求和技能培养,更有利于孩子的长期发展。 Debbie Reber: 她认为'不同线路连接'和'神经多样化'这两个术语可以互换使用,但她更倾向于使用'不同线路连接',因为它更积极,避免了负面含义。她分享了创建'Tilt Parenting'的初衷,以及'不同线路连接'这个术语的积极意义。她指出'不同线路连接'的孩子在应对社会期望的环境(如学校、工作场所和社交场合)时,体验的强度更高。她还谈到了父母在养育这类孩子时常常会进行比较,并因此感到绝望,以及如何帮助父母从恐惧转向希望。她建议父母应该质疑他们对养育孩子的既有认知,并根据孩子的实际情况调整策略。父母需要深入了解孩子,并根据孩子的实际情况,在合适的时机提供恰当的挑战,帮助他们拓展舒适区。父母不应该因为孩子有特殊需求而限制孩子的能力,而是要帮助他们发展能力。 Dr. Becky: 父母不应该过度迁就深度感受型孩子的情绪,而应该帮助他们建立界限和自我管理能力。深度感受型孩子的情绪波动剧烈,容易在需要帮助时拒绝帮助,父母需要理解并应对。父母应该在孩子表现出勇敢和韧性时,给予积极的肯定和鼓励。

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Some kids are just more. More emotional. More resistant. More reactive. Just more. Dr. Becky thinks of them as Deeply Feeling Kids and author and parenting activist, Debbie Reber of Tilt Parenting, thinks of them as Differently Wired. Today, Debbie joins Dr. Becky to discuss different frameworks and strategies for parents of kids who are just more.Join Good Inside Membership: https://bit.ly/3x99pPw)Follow Dr. Becky on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drbeckyatgoodinsideSign up for our weekly email, Good Insider: https://www.goodinside.com/newsletterOrder Dr. Becky's book, Good Inside: A Guide to Becoming the Parent You Want to Be, at goodinside.com/book or wherever you order your books.For a full transcript of the episode, go to goodinside.com/podcastTo listen to Dr. Becky's TED Talk on repair visit https://www.ted.com/talks/becky_kennedy_the_single_most_important_parenting_strategyToday’s episode is brought to you by Airbnb: After years of traveling together, Dr. Becky now loves staying on Airbnb so that their vacation can feel, well, more like a vacation. On a recent trip to visit family in Chicago, she found the perfect family-friendly Airbnb that had toys for her youngest, family games for all of them, and even the same book series her eldest was in the middle of reading - oh, and gave her and her husband a living room so they could have time to themselves after the kids went to bed. Talk about an all-around win. Did you also know that while you’re away, your home could be an Airbnb for another family? It’s a great way to earn some extra money to use on your family’s next vacation. Your home might be worth more than you think. Find out how much at airbnb.com/host.