The "More" Kids
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navigating many environments that are kind of expected in society, whether that's school for little kids or the workplace for adults, social situations. There is just a little bit more intensity in how they experience it. And I like to think of the parents of these kids as kind of being engaged in an extreme sport. I say that we're like the wingsuit flyers of parenting because everything's just a little bit more intense for us.

Let's talk about kids who are more. You might be thinking, more what? I'm just going to say it again because you have one of these kids, like I do. I know you get it. Kids who are more, more emotional, more reactivity, more resistance, more tears, more meltdowns, more defiance, more. And if you're nodding along...

This episode is definitely for you, and I can promise you, you are one of millions of parents who are nodding and cannot wait for the rest of this. I often think about these kids as deeply feeling kids. I love these kids. I understand these kids. I have one of these kids. I worked with so many adults who were these kids, and I'm so proud of my approach to help these kids and their families.

I'm also very aware that other people think about kind of kids who are more in a different way. And to me, it's just all about parents having some framework that makes sense to them and help them feel empowered, which is why I'm so excited to have Debbie Reber on the podcast today.

Debbie is a parenting activist, a best-selling author, a podcast host, a speaker, and a founder and CEO of Tilt Parenting. She focuses on helping parents of differently wired kids, and she's full of frameworks and strategies that are so important for parents to hear. I'm Dr. Becky, and this is Good Inside. We'll be back right after this.

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why you use this term differently wired as opposed to neurodivergent. Are they the same? Are they different? Let's just kind of jump in there, and I know we'll go to lots of places after that. Yeah, sure. So I see them as being synonyms for each other, but when I first started TILT Parenting, which was now eight years ago, and was early on in my journey, I'm a 19-year-old, but was realizing my kid was...

Differently Wired. I really struggled with all of the deficit-based language surrounding neurodivergence. And neurodiversity as a term was really not commonly used in the vernacular. So I started talking about Differently Wired as a way to have a positive reframe for really any way of moving through the world differently.

Whether that's with the diagnosis of autism or ADHD or learning disabilities, or just someone who is maybe a little extra sensitive and isn't really thriving in their environments. And understanding it that way, differently wired, like,

How do you feel like you've seen that help so many parents and kids? Yeah. I mean, I will say when I came up with the term, I got my child's approval, which was a big deal because he was very connected to the stigma and the negative connotations associated with so many things. So when I put it out into the world, the response was really immediate. People were surprised.

So happy to have a term that felt positive, that wasn't focused on deficits, that didn't make them feel like they were like a member of a club they did not want to be in. And it just kind of made sense in a way that he had just created more common peace. So it was really well received. Yeah.

Sounds like there's something internally that just, like, felt right to people. Like, oh, that resonates. Yeah. Yeah. And how would you describe, like, how are these kids, these adults even, like, how are they different from maybe a neurotypical or maybe, say, typically wired kid? I mean, I think of them as...

kind of the more kids. And I know you have your deeply feeling kids. I think they're similar in a lot of ways. I think most neurodivergent people are deeply feeling people. I think there are people for whom navigating many environments that are kind of expected in society, whether that's school for little kids or the workplace for adults, social situations, they're

There is just a little bit more intensity in how they experience it. And I like to think of the parents of these kids as kind of being engaged in an extreme sport. I say that we're like the wingsuit flyers of parenting because everything's just a little bit more intense for us. I really love that. It really resonated. Everything's more. Like, okay, so I see that kid is having a hard time studying.

starting basketball, like the hard time my kids having is more. Like I see it more. It comes out more there, comes out more. There's a lot more. And so one of the things I often say to parents of deeply feeling kids is if it feels like your kid is having, let's say it's, you know, their moments are bigger and more difficult than other kids. Like, I don't think you're crazy.

Like, I believe you. And that's actually a helpful starting point. Is that, you feel the same? Yeah, absolutely. Because I think so many of us feel like failures from the get-go because, you know, I mean, again, when my child was young, there just weren't the same resources and even conversations around this. And so I constantly felt like,

I'm doing this wrong. I'm doing everything my friends are doing. I'm getting much different results. And so it's really hard to not make that mean I'm bad at this. 100%. So, you know, one of my ways in here, right? So I'm a clinical psychologist. I'm in private practice. I'm seeing so many families. I had my first kid.

Right before I have any kids, I'm like, I know exactly what to do. Then you have your own kids. You're like, wait a second. But I had my first kid and definitely not perfect. Definitely had some struggles. And I would say like when I would do things that I would think would be helpful, like in general and not like magic, but like they kind of were helpful. Like there was a little bit of a

not perfect linearity, but if I zoomed out, a little bit of linearity. And I remember parents of my practice at the time, not all of them, some of them saying, Dr. Becky, I'm doing exactly what you told me to do. But my kid is escalating. My kid covers their ears. My kid just yells, stop talking, stop talking, stop talking. My kid hisses. My kid is growling and trying to scratch me. And in the back of my head, Debbie, I

I feel awful saying this, but I want to be honest. In the back of my head, I'd think, like, I don't think you're doing it right. I would. And I think on the surface, I'd say to them, okay, like, let's roll with it. We'll try some other things. Right? And I started to get a little creative. But I did have that thought. And then I had my second kid. And I was like, wait a second. Like, I'm watching myself?

do the things that like I know in my body I did with my first like and I really kind of even hear the tone the same and holy moly and all of those people's their stories like it was like I heard echoes of them and I was like there's there's something here and I don't know if you feel like that but maybe for me I have to be honest like it was like I had to experience it to like feel it and believe it in the realest way and it is it was so different when

Well, I will say that I rolled the dice once and I got lucky the first time. So I have one child and I really went into my parenting journey feeling so intentional and equipped and I'm a researcher and I'm problem solver and my husband and I are like,

you know, a great team. You know, he's a project manager. Like, we've got this. And so I didn't have this experience of feeling competent once things started to really deteriorate. And I just felt like I was always behind and not able to figure out what to do to support this kid. Yeah, that feeling of feeling behind. Yeah.

Like I'm trying all the things and like nothing's working and, you know, and then I see the kids around me and I feel like their parents are doing the things I'm doing. But this comparison, can you talk about that a little bit? I feel like that's so common. Oh my gosh. Yeah, I talk about the compare and despair, which is just a reality of life when you're raising a kid who's moving through the world differently. I think early on, you know, first

For me personally, it was so challenging, again, because I do think of myself as a pretty competent person and a problem solver. And so to just be continually feeling like a failure and then seeing judgment from other parents or seeing other kids kind of moving on in their education or making choices or doing things that I always envisioned would be what our family looked like, that's

It was so painful. And, you know, and I'll just say it doesn't really, that's always something that I personally and many families in my community have to always be aware of, especially as like graduation season rolls around or prom season or, you know, there are always these reminders that our path is a little different. And so a lot of the work we have to do is on coming to peace with that. Yeah. Yeah.

I think you're right that compare and despair because I think one of the reasons we despair is on some level we think something's wrong with us or we feel like our kid has something wrong with them, right? And I think that's also one of the first messages I know. You're right. There's so many frameworks maybe for understanding the same thing, maybe understand something differently. To me, it's just about having any framework that actually feels like it makes sense to you and helps you move things forward. And I know for...

People I see as parents of deeply feeling kids, it's one of the first things I say and it's so relieving. It's just, there's nothing wrong with you. There's nothing wrong with your kid. You need a different way of understanding them. That's the start of probably a set of slightly different interventions. And like,

you're going to feel better as soon as you even have that new understanding and know that there's a path. We think we are all going to feel better when something changes, but I think we all feel better when we have some like aha moment that feels new and useful and that resonates, and then we have hope. And I know that's what you give so, so many parents. Yeah, that sense of feeling seen is, it's just...

It's so incredibly powerful because I think so many parents do isolate initially because of fear, not only fear of the unknown, but fear of their children being, you know, stigmatized or having this label associated and what is that going to mean? And we can really just get so caught up in that. So to be seen and understood and realize, okay, I've got this. There's nothing wrong with me. There's nothing wrong with my kid. To take that anxiety away can be really powerful.

So in your book, you talk about these tilts, right? These kind of tangible, doable shifts parents of differently wired kids can make in their lives for kind of everyone's, the whole family's benefit. And there are 18 of them. I don't know if I'll get to all of them. We probably won't. But if it's okay, I'd love to like name one, you know, name a few, and I'd love to jump into them. So starting with the first question, everything you knew about parenting. Tell me more.

Yeah, I think we have to start there because, again, we go into this with this vision for the parent we're going to be, the educational philosophy, you know, whether it's Montessori or Waldorf or, you know, what's going to work for my family, public school, private school, all of these ideas and who are kids going to be and what

We can cling to that vision so tightly, and it really has nothing to do with the human that comes into the world, this human that we're actually raising. And so to start by just questioning everything and really examining what is true about this child, and maybe I need to be more flexible about what might actually work. But a lot of this stuff is

it's really ground deep into us from our own childhoods, from, you know, our family culture. And so it can feel really disruptive to just kind of throw all the rules out. Yeah. You know what that reminds me of? Andrew Solomon's book, Far From the Tree. To me, I think every parent should read the prologue. And it always strikes me, his first line is, there's no such thing as reproduction.

And what he says is the word reproduction is a wish. It's a fantasy. It's our desire on some level to live forever. We do not reproduce. We produce.

Your child is not a reproduction of anything. And I think what you and I kind of probably would, one of many things I think we'd agree on is so many of our struggles with these kids come from that difference of reproduction versus production. And I know I'm not immune to it. Like we all have this fantasy, right? In some ways we're going to live forever. Our best qualities are going to be in our kids. They're not going to have our worst and nothing's going to be that different.

And instead, what he says about parenting, he goes, parenting is being forever cast into a relationship with a stranger. So good. Sobering, but so good. Yeah. And maybe we don't say that because people would have...

fewer children. You're like, what? I don't know if I'm going to do that. But you have this stranger that is produced and you're like, who is this kid? And how do I get to know them? And, you know, just curiosity. And I think maybe one of the things you're saying with throw out everything you know about parenting is like kind of

These ideas about who our kid is going to be as some reflection of the best version of us, we have to really question that. That can really get in our way. And it's so hard. It's so hard, right? It is so hard because our ego is really involved in just how we're perceived in the world. It's so tricky. I love that quote. I read that book very many years ago. Right? Yeah, it's great.

It's so good. I would actually take a picture on my Kindle of the prologue and I would read it to a lot of parents because obviously he's such a brilliant writer. And that idea of like, I just think it does. It always hits me hard. Like, why is my kid doing this? I would never. And I was like, wait, wait, right. Because my kids, like to some degree, it's helpful. Like my kid's a stranger. Like why are, I can ask the same question, but in a very different tone. Like,

why are they having such a hard time? There must be a reason. I'm going to assume that. I'm going to do what I always like to do is what is my most generous interpretation? The why is actually a helpful question if it comes from curiosity, but when it comes from these preconceived ideas and our wishes and our fantasies, then I know for me at least, it's like an

angry. Why? It's kind of like, why are you not being the version of the kid I always thought you would be? And when I articulate that, I'm like, wow, that's offensive. Like, I don't think that's useful. But that comes through, I know, for me sometimes too. Yeah, absolutely. And I think it's good to say that because I think we can then have shame if we don't share that out loud. I mean, I hear from parents all the time, especially around sports, right? Like,

If I was an athlete and my husband was a soccer player, of course I assumed I was going to be standing on the sidelines of all kinds of sporting events and cheering and all of that stuff. And my kid is not an athlete. Going for a walk is a big effort at this point. And so that's something, there's sadness around that too, because we associate so much meaning to those experiences and how important we think they are. And so then we perceive our kid's going to miss out on this. And so

We really have to do this deep work to understand where our pain points are. I think that's exactly right. And I think that idea of like, the thing that actually helps us see our kid a little more clearly for who they are versus who we'd wanted is,

is actually allowing for that very real loss. Like that is lost for me. Like I would have loved if, if it's true, like I would have loved to stand on the sidelines. Like not only do I think maybe my kid would have liked it, but if I kind of like, wait, my kid isn't me. So it's almost irrelevant. It's okay to say, I would have liked that. Like I would have loved if my kid was an amazing soccer player. Like I would have actually loved that. And that is not my experience as a parent. And I,

I'm actually really allowed to have feelings about that. I can give myself permission. And the more I do that, probably the less I'll act them out on my kid. But I think that that's really important. Yeah, absolutely. Okay, get ready for the most relieving, not at all stress-inducing message about back to school. I promise.

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And until then, please do check out goodinside.com slash podcast. Scroll down to the Ask Dr. Becky section at the bottom and let me know what you want to talk about in future podcast episodes. Okay, here's another tilt. Parent from a place of possibility instead of fear. I'd love to hear about this with Differently Wired Kids.

Yeah, I mean, there's just a lot of fear. I think there's so much fear in all parenting, right? So we don't own this as parents of neurodivergent kids, but I think our path is so less clear at so many steps along the way. Like even from a safety perspective, there's fear for a lot of parents because we might have kids who elope or don't have good street smarts. And so like building independence can be really scary. But just the fact that there's so many unknowns about what's,

what's going to happen next year? What's going to happen next week in this school? What does this mean if my kid is on screens all the time and I read the research and, you know, and we know that these kids have really long, you know, launch pads, I guess, or runways, you know, and we...

And statistically, these kids have a harder time as adults with mental health challenges, with staying employed, all of those things. And so as a parent, we don't want those outcomes, but it's really hard to not pivot to that place of fear. And so when I talk about pivoting from fear to possibility, it's like a daily practice. It's something we have to always be checking in on ourselves and checking in on our motivation behind it.

Our interactions with our kids, the things that we're prioritizing for them, the pressure we're putting on our kids, is that coming from fear? And if it is, how can we kind of shift it and think from a place of curiosity, you know, which you mentioned earlier, I think is such a great word, curiosity and possibility. And when we can show up from that place, it's just going to feel so much better for everybody. You know, I was just talking about this the other day in a workshop because...

I was saying, our kids really do feel the place we're at when we intervene. Because sometimes the intervention, if someone described it simply, concretely, it would be the same. But for example, I was talking about the difference of punishing and protecting our kids, especially older kids. Punishment, I think, is something you do to your kid. Protection is something you do for your kid. On the surface, it might look like taking away their phone for a week based on something that happened.

right? Where punishing would sound like, I can't believe you did something so stupid. You know, we don't do that in our family. I'm taking away your phone for a week, you know? Where protection would be, hey, I'm kind of concerned about this text message I saw, and I feel like we have to like figure some stuff out together. I am going to be taking away your phone for a week. And look, I know that stinks. I know it's a big deal. I don't take it lightly. I also don't take lightly your kind of safety, your digital safety, and it's my responsibility to teach you some things. So on the surface, it's interesting. It's not like people are like, you don't believe in punishment. Like,

It's kind of silly. Like, so anything goes, like, I never said that. Actually, the intervention might concretely be the same, but our kids will know whether we're doing something to them from, by the way, just our own frustration or fear or whether I'm doing something for them because I actually believe in their capability. I believe they're a good kid and I believe part of my job is setting up a structure to help bring that out because I believe in their possibility and I have hoped.

And I just really want to give that example to parents because I think when people say, oh, instead of like punishing, which is often from fear, right? Like an immediate punishment, I always say like in the real world, we punish our kids because we just don't know what to do in the moment. And we randomly say something that by the way, we later take back and always undermine our own authority. It's like, you can't watch TV for a week. And then I'm like, wait, did I say week? I don't, I don't really know. I don't think I said a week. I think I said a night, you know? And my kid's like, oh my goodness, you know? And yeah.

The idea of seeing possibility to me is kind of the same thing as best coaches do to their athletes. They're like, wow, my basketball player is really missing a lot of free throws. Like, oh, like I could be like, I'm worried you're going to miss every shot for the rest of the, you know, season. Or I'm like, wait, their shot looks a little off. Like what's going on there? Are they nervous? Is it actually their form? Is it, I don't know, their muscles? Like if I see them as being capable of developing some new skill...

Then there's a lot of possibility and hope. And I think we all feel that difference. Yeah. It changes everything. And our kids are so attuned to us. You know, they know what our intention is, even if the words coming out of our mouth are saying something different. That's exactly right. Differently wired kids, where do you see a lot of fear? Where are parents very fearful? I really think...

It is about the future unknowns. I think that if a lot of, you know, I just was on a call with families in my community last night and there's so much school refusal right now and the anxiety and mental health challenges and just not thriving really socially, all of these things. And we see the potential in our kids and we know how incredibly bright they are and how they have so much to contribute to the world. And I think the fear is around them now.

not thriving long-term and then worrying about

Am I going to make a mistake? Am I making the wrong choice? Like parents get paralyzed at every juncture because there's still this idea that if I make the right choice or if I can control this, then I can guarantee this outcome. And that can be paralyzed. There's no right choice to make. We're feeling our way through this at every stage. But I think it is that fear that our kids ultimately aren't going to make it. Yeah. Yeah.

Can I ask you a question? You know, one of the kind of ultimate, I feel like, thought errors parents in general make, I don't love to hear error, it feels so harsh, but kind of this thought pattern that ends up being not so useful to us is something I call the fast-forward error. So I see my kid today struggling with something, and I fast-forward usually not even like three months. You know, I don't know. I see my kid isn't listening to the music teacher, or is like hitting their sibling, and I'm like, stop, that hurts. And they look at me and they do it again. Yeah.

And I'm like, I see them as like a sociopath as a 30-year-old. And then I respond to my four-year-old or my eight-year-old, whatever it is, as if they are that sociopathic 30-year-old. Not to say that would even be useful, but like, it's like I fast forward to the future. I have an idea I'm worried about. But then I accumulate all the things that would have led to that. And I feel all that today. And all of that is infused to this small moment in front of me. Yeah. Yeah.

Totally, totally relate to that. Even, you know, having this idea when my kid was three or four and I was having a really rough day, very emotional. And my child was like, oh, can I have a piece of bread? Like completely didn't track that I was upset. I'm like,

Who is this kid? Like, what is wrong with this kid? Of course, now I know my child is incredibly, deeply empathetic. But yeah, I think that is very true. And one of the things I talk to my families about all the time is to just remember that our kids are always, always, always changing. And sometimes they're changing, you know, in zigzag. It's not all full steam ahead. Yes.

I think that is one of the hardest things. I actually remember that very viscerally from when I had a baby where I remember there were like, you know, three days in a row where they didn't eat or they had slept through the night for a while and then they didn't. And the way I always described it is it felt like whatever was happening today, like was the forever reality. Like I have a kid who doesn't eat, but then like someone who knew me well would be like, I was with you like four days ago. Like I'm not trying to invalidate that this is hard. That's just like,

That's not what I saw, right? And I think that's why these stages feel so hard. A stage would never feel hard if you were grounded in the fact that it was just a stage. Like, it wouldn't. So inherently, the trick it does in our brain is it makes us think this is the forever, which of course is a desperate, awful place to be in. And I love that you're saying, like, you actually have enough years of experience now as a parent

Right. To say like, I've kind of experienced enough stages where my body kind of like trusts that maybe more than it used to. Love that. Yeah.

So my kid is 19, as I mentioned earlier, and is on the SCAP semester program in Ireland. And honestly, like even a year ago, even three months ago, I wouldn't have been able to say that this was going to happen. And that's just such a reminder of how our kids are always changing. And as part of that, I've just been over the past few years really realizing that I keep waiting to get to some stage where things are going to be just easy.

And oh, we've made it. We're there. And so I've spent a lot of time trying to hurry through what I'm in right now. And so I've been really working on intentionally just being present for this because this is, you know, this is life. This is what we're doing right now. I'm parenting this kid right now. Yeah. And I think what's really beautiful about that is like, I just know when we all have, I don't know, 30, 40 year old children, let's say.

I feel like we're going to want to say, I had a relationship with my 10-year-old. I had a relationship with my 11-year-old, with my 12-year-old, with my 13-year-old. Not, oh my goodness, I kind of fast-forwarded until 40. Here we are at 40, and I kind of missed out. Like, who were they? Like, what could we have done? Not to say, not to be Pollyanna, it's not easy, you know, but just, this is where my kid is today, and what's a version of connecting to my kid today? And the irony, I always say, is to me with the fast-forward error we all do,

is the best thing for our kids down the line is to see what's going on with them today and try to meet their needs and build the skills they need today. So you're actually kind of, in some ways, like killing two birds is one stone. Anyway.

Debbie, here's my question. Like, we want to keep our kids safe, right? But safe doesn't mean always comfortable. And so what is this line between secure, safe, but on the other hand, something that I can't imagine is good for any kids, kind of some version of like over catered to or coddled? How do you see that?

It's such a good question. And it's something we talk a lot about. You know, I think of scaffolding when you ask this question. I think it is so important for us as parents to, I talk about becoming fluent in who your child is. And that means really understanding them on such a deep level that you read their nonverbal cues, you're attuned to their nervous system, you can kind of see where their threshold is, which might change from minute to minute, hour to hour, day to day. And

And always be trying to find that just right challenge, right? So we want to be, of course, stretching our kids. And part of the job is looking for those windows of opportunity. And so I personally have gotten so good at that.

And noticing when there's an opening, I'm like, okay, like, what am I going to squeeze into this opening? And how can I connect some dots or help my child, you know, feel pushed a little bit further outside their comfort zone? And we want to do those things at the right time. If I do that when my kid has come home and they're already activated and they're kind of in shutdown mode.

there's no learning that's going to happen. So we want to stay really attuned and always be looking for those opportunities. They might not happen that often, but we're always playing the long game here, right? So I always try to zoom out and remember the bigger goal and looking for opportunities to, whether it's executive function or emotional regulation, to kind of stretch those skills. Yeah, and to me, I just want to emphasize, I think this is so important because I think too often in my private practice, I saw parents who'd come in talking with their kids about

And they, with various terms, they have ADHD, they're differently wired, they're, you know, they're deeply feeling. And so they can't do X, Y, Z. And I'd say, oh, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa. Like, I'm not even debate the nuance of whether they can or can't. But if this is the framework, then we're constantly reflecting to these kids, you are not capable of learning. Now, maybe your learning is going to be different. Maybe your outcomes are going to be different. But we definitely don't want to limit any kid's sense of their competence to

based on any, you know, one specific term or, you know, any trait. And so to me, there's this nuance where we need a framework to understand our kids. Some kids are different. Like I said, I have these kids in my private practice. I have one of these kids myself. Their pathway is going to be very different. Like, just like some kids take longer to learn how to swim, like some kids take longer to regulate their emotion or take on challenges 100%. To me, side by side with a nuanced understanding of our kid,

It's just holding on to the idea of like, my kid is going to be able to overcome obstacles. And I'm going to both understand them and kind of reflect back that I see them as a kid who's capable of kind of growth in that way.

Yeah. Yeah. And looking for those opportunities. When our child does something that was really brave or resilient, saying, oh my gosh, how did you do that? I noticed you just did that. That is so cool. You're really developing that trait and it's really exciting to see. So we can be making those connections in real time so that they can really start internalizing those messages. Awesome.

Well, thank you for all of this, Debbie. Is there anything today we haven't covered that you're like, oh, I'd hate to end without saying this to parents? I mean, the thing that I always like to share with parents, especially parents who are with younger kiddos on this journey and may be feeling overwhelmed, is just to remember that your child is not broken. They do not need to be fixed. And I personally feel like having these more complex kids, they demand so much from us as parents, but that is...

presents this opportunity to have even a deeper connection with them and to also grow more ourselves as parents. So if you can lean into it, it's an incredible journey. Well, thank you so much. And I appreciate like everything you're doing, all of your guidance, so helpful and so important. Thank you so much, Becky. It was such an honor to chat with you today and same back to you. Thank you. I have one final thought I want to share.

There's really this nuance in my mind in approaching our differently wired kids, or kids I often think are deeply feeling kids. These kids go zero to 60. They tend to push away help when they need it the most. They tend to become very overwhelmed by emotion or even talking about emotion. And to me, this nuance is we have to understand these kids and who they are. That is so important. They have to be understood, and they're tricky. And at the same time,

We cannot walk on eggshells around these kids because when we walk on eggshells and we kind of let these kids, our deeply feeling kids' emotionality essentially be the pilot of the plane, what our kids actually feel from us is, oh my goodness, my feelings are so overwhelming to me and holy moly.

They are overwhelming to my parent. They are so overwhelming to the adults around me that the adults around me won't even be the authority I need. They won't even set boundaries. They're not even really fully in charge of decisions. They're kind of putting me in the driver's seat, and that is so not where I'm supposed to be, and I am so scared. I'm even more scared of myself. My feelings might actually be as overwhelming and toxic as I worry they are, and I'm

For all of you here who want a little more guidance on that, I just want to make sure you know where to get it. My Deeply Feeling Kid workshop, without a doubt, addresses this, but I just added actually a new short video to our member library because I wanted to get at this specifically, and it's all about how to not walk away.

on eggshells around your kid. Whether you have a deeply feeling kid, a not deeply feeling kid, a differently wired kid, what you think is a neurotypical kid, there are moments when we walk on eggshells and having an understanding of why we don't want to do this and what to do instead, to me, is game-changing in the family. So how not to walk on eggshells is now there in the library. I'm so excited that you know where to access it. Also, if you want to learn more about Debbie and

Definitely check out her most recent book, Differently Wired, A Parent's Guide to Raising an Atypical Child with Confidence and Hope and her Tilt Parenting Podcast. Thanks to Airbnb. Remember, your home could be worth more than you think. Find out more at airbnb.com slash host. Thank you for listening. To share a story or ask me a question, go to goodinside.com slash podcast. Or you could write me at podcast at goodinside.com.

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