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3 Things To Do If You're Still Not Over Your Ex

2024/10/18
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Jay Shetty: 本期节目讨论了如何走过失恋的痛苦。首先，Jay Shetty 指出，即使分手很久，仍然无法放下前任是很正常的现象，这并不意味着你软弱或做错了什么。他解释说，分手后的痛苦类似于戒毒，这是一种正常的生理反应，因为一段亲密关系中建立的情感联系是由多种神经化学物质引起的，分手后，这些化学物质的失衡会导致类似戒毒的症状，例如强烈的渴望和思念。 其次，Jay Shetty 强调了改变环境的重要性。他指出，特定地点会触发与前任相关的记忆和情感，从而加剧痛苦。因此，为了避免触发痛苦的回忆，应该避免与前任相关的人、事、物，例如改变出行路线、听的音乐等，打破旧的习惯和模式。 此外，Jay Shetty 建议识别自己究竟是怀念过去的习惯还是情感。如果怀念的是习惯，就需要找到替代的习惯来填补空缺；如果怀念的是情感，例如被照顾、被认可，就需要从其他方面获得这些情感，例如参加新的活动，培养自信等。 最后，Jay Shetty 提醒大家，沉溺于过去会消耗大量精力，阻碍我们创造新的机会和生活。专注于建设新的生活，例如事业或个人成长，可以帮助我们摆脱对前任的执念，最终找到属于自己的幸福。

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Jay Shetty discusses the common struggle of not being over an ex and emphasizes that it's normal and doesn't mean you're weak or have no future.
  • Feeling not over an ex is normal and doesn't indicate weakness or lack of future.
  • Breakups can lead to physical sickness and depression, highlighting the deep emotional impact.
  • It's crucial to recognize that moving on is a process and not a sign of failure.

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Do you find yourself thinking about your ex often?

What has been the hardest part of moving on for you?

Today, Jay taps into the emotional complexities of getting over an ex and provides actionable steps to move forward. Drawing on insights from neuroscience and psychology, Jay explains why it's entirely normal to struggle with letting go of a past relationship, even if it's been months or years. The emotional pain we experience after a breakup, he explains, is comparable to drug withdrawal, highlighting the deep biological connections we form with our partners.

One of the most impactful ideas Jay shares is that clinging to the past steals energy and time from the future. By ruminating over what could have been, we rob ourselves of the opportunity to build new experiences and relationships. Ultimately, Jay’s message is clear: while it's natural to struggle with letting go, the key to healing lies in breaking old patterns, embracing new habits, and shifting our focus toward growth. If you or someone you know is struggling to move on from a past relationship, this episode offers practical tools and compassionate advice to help start the journey toward healing.

In this episode, you'll learn:

How to Heal by Changing Your Environment

How to Replace Emotional Attachment After a Breakup

How to Shift Focus from the Past to the Present

How to Build Confidence Without External Validation

How to Move On by Breaking Old Patterns

Trust that with patience and self-compassion, you will find the strength to not only move on, but to thrive in ways you never imagined. You deserve the love and happiness that comes from within—keep moving forward, you're stronger than you know.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro

02:29 What to Do If You’re Still Not Over Your Ex?

04:11 What Research Shows About Breakups

07:20 #1: Change Your Environment

13:26 #2: Identify What You’re Missing: Habit or Emotion

17:18 #5: Focus on Building Your Life

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