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Why does the wife feel disrespected in her marriage?
The wife feels disrespected because her husband does not contribute financially to the household, creating a pattern where she pays for everything, which she sees as a lack of mutual respect and support.
What advice does Dave give for tackling a $45,000 student loan for a master's degree in social work?
Dave advises against financing the entire program and recommends cutting back to cash flow the program over three years to avoid taking on debt for a serving profession, which can lead to burnout.
Why does Dave advise against borrowing $1.2 million to buy a small business?
Dave advises against it because 80% of small businesses fail within the first five years, with cash flow problems being the primary cause, which would be exacerbated by the debt burden.
What are the physical and mental challenges of working 80 to 90 hours a week?
The challenges include lack of sleep, physical exhaustion, and mental fatigue, where the mind can tear itself apart from the stress of grinding out long hours, especially when feeling tired and needing to push through.
How does the husband justify not paying for household expenses in his marriage?
The husband justifies it by considering his wife's vast amount of money as 'our money,' and he might think he fulfills his duties as a husband by being the fun, loving guy, without realizing the impact on his wife's feelings of respect and support.
What is the core issue in the wife's feelings of being taken advantage of?
The core issue is a lack of mutual respect and the pattern set from the beginning of their relationship where the wife paid for everything, which has continued for so long that it feels like she is being taken advantage of.
How does Dave suggest handling the $45,000 student loan for a master's degree?
Dave suggests cutting back to cash flow the program over three years to avoid taking on debt, and potentially finding another employer who pays better and helps with education costs.
What alternative method does Dave propose for buying a business instead of taking out a loan?
Dave proposes agreeing to pay the business owner a percentage of the profits after taking a basic salary until the owner receives the agreed-upon amount, which can be faster and safer than taking on a large loan.
What are the benefits of pushing physical and mental limits for a short period?
The benefits include character development, emotional and psychological growth, and relational benefits, as it shows what the couple can achieve together, boosting their confidence and what they believe they can accomplish.
How does the wife's support help the husband during his long work hours?
The wife's support, such as sending encouraging texts, helps the husband feel less alone and more motivated to push through his long work hours, even when tired.
- The wife feels disrespected by her husband's lack of financial contribution.
- The husband is retired and relies on social security, while the wife has significant financial resources.
- The issue is more about respect and mutual contribution than money.
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