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Professional investors like Ray Dalio and Warren Buffett are in agreement. Bonds are an important part of a healthy financial diet. And the legit only place I buy bonds, this is 100% true, you can totally check my account, is public. The modern brokerage for investors looking to build an awesome multi-asset portfolio.
And a quick moment of humility here. I have been trying to work with Public for years now and low-key stock them because I am such an avid Public user and every other app or site I've tried to buy bonds on has actually made me want to rip my hair out. Public is so easy to use and has thousands of bonds to choose from and not just US treasuries, but corporate bonds too, like for the magnificent seven stocks like Apple, Meta, and Nvidia.
And you can use public for more than your bond investments. On public, you can find all other major financial food groups, stocks, ETFs, high yield cash accounts, options, and even music royalties. If you're looking for a simple yet sophisticated investing experience, go to public.com slash money rehab. One more time, because trust me, you will thank me. It is public.com slash money rehab. This is a paid endorsement for public investing. Full disclosures and conditions can be found in the podcast description.
I'm Nicole Lappin, the only financial expert you don't need a dictionary to understand. It's time for some money rehab. Measuring financial success against someone else's benchmark is not a new phenomenon. We humans have been doing that forever. Just for example, the phrase keeping up with the Joneses has actually been around since the early 1900s.
But even though it's not new, it certainly has gotten worse because of social media. Last year, Intuit put out a study that found one in two Americans feel less prosperous compared to others. And an even larger group says that social media specifically makes them feel like they're falling behind with their financial goals.
I think to some extent we are all feeling this, but it seems to be hitting Gen Z particularly hard, especially when it comes to debt. 64% of Gen Zers say they'd rather talk to their family about their dating life than their debt. And 66% say they tell their friends more about their sex lives than their debt. The numbers are clear. Social media is fueling fin-security or insecurity. And as a result, there's a new psychological phenomenon that's taking hold of our collective psyche.
Money dysmorphia, a state of distorted perception of one's financial health caused by the relentless comparison of depictions of wealth online, often adding up to feelings of inadequacy. A recent study by Credit Karma found that nearly one third of Americans grapple with money dysmorphia.
Have you ever felt this way? I know I certainly have. Because interestingly, even rich bitches get money dysmorphia. This isn't an experience reserved for people who are struggling financially. People who have above average savings with a good salary are also susceptible to this kind of thinking.
Only 14% of Americans consider themselves wealthy, but over 33% of Americans make over 100 grand a year, which is the common price tag people put on wealth. The difference between the 33% of people who actually make that six figure salary and the just 14% of people who consider themselves rich highlights the break between financial reality and perception. This gap certainly hasn't been helped by the economic challenges we've seen over the past few years.
The super high inflation rate especially has worn away at consumer confidence and purchasing power, which is basically a jargony way to say how the average American feels about their ability to buy what they need and want. And let me just say that I know if you're struggling financially, it is super frustrating to hear that people making over 100K just aren't feeling wealthy.
But to be clear, that is just an example I'm using to illustrate how money dysmorphia can really warp your sense of reality. Money dysmorphia isn't only experienced by upper middle class people who want to feel like they're part of the 1%. If you're living paycheck to paycheck and feel inferior to someone wearing a Rolex on TikTok, that is money dysmorphia as well. And just like body dysmorphia, money dysmorphia is a toxic way of
thinking and can lead to people chasing flimsy shows of wealth at the cost of real financial stability. In other words, this problem goes far beyond the feelings of inadequacy. Some people act on it, which is really where you can hurt your financial future. I have seen this firsthand. I know people personally who have spent way more than they can afford on luxury vacations, designer clothes, all the things because they just want to look rich
to other people. There's even a photography studio that has a set built to look like the inside of a private jet where you can take photos for just 64 bucks an hour. The fact that this kind of business even exists is a byproduct of how pervasive this mindset has become.
This is in effect the opposite of living within your means or below your means. This is living and spending way above your means. And when someone tries to spend money they just don't have, they turn to their credit card, which can get into a scary spiral of debt. Or worse, it can turn into an addiction or financial crime. I've talked to a few cast members of the Real Housewives franchise on this show, like Brandi Glanville and Kelly Ben-Symoné, and I've asked them, why spend
So many Real Housewives alums commit financial crimes.
crimes. Like Jen Shah, who is currently serving time for conspiracy to commit wire fraud. Or Teresa Giudice, who served 11 months in prison for fraud. Both Brandy and Kelly told me that they thought these financial crimes were motivated by the desire to accumulate more money by any means necessary to keep up with appearances, aka money dysmorphia. We cannot forget that Instagram, TikTok,
are so curated. People are posting, quote, hashtag wanderlust vacation pics, posing in front of fancy cars, the view from the front row seat at a concert. The content that makes a grid is just a highlight reel. We know this by now. It is so rare to see someone actually being honest on social media. Even if they're talking about having a bad day or a failure, I find it so often to be
an ulterior motive there, or it ends up being a backhanded compliment to themselves, like an entrepreneur talking about the time they failed only so that they can talk about how much of a success they turned into. Some people have been honestly opening up on social media about hard moments they've had. I've tried to do this myself, but I feel like it's a more complicated problem that there simply isn't enough representation of normalcy,
on social media. As I've said before, comparison has always been the thief of joy. Measuring our financial lives against the financial lives of our peers is not a new thing. But it used to be easier to escape. 50 years ago, you could go see a movie where James Bond was driving around in an Aston Martin and maybe you'd feel a little ping of jealousy, but then you'd go home. And there was a physical barrier from those intruding thoughts.
Because typically neighborhoods are flat socioeconomically. Home prices will vary a bit within one neighborhood, but that range will be pretty small. The home prices in Calabasas, California and Castine, Maine are very different, but all
but all of the home prices in Castine, Maine are relatively close in price, and all of the home prices in Calabasas all are pretty close in price as well. They're all pretty freaking expensive, but they all fall into a pretty narrow range. So 50 years ago, if you were at home in Castine, Maine, you wouldn't be confronted with Calabasas-like wealth when you were sitting at home on your couch. But social media has brought this standard home with you. It has also made exposure to luxury content
constant and it is totally distorting what we perceive as normal. Private jets are not normal. Private jets are also not what we should be aspiring to. Instagram makes us obsessed with spending when we should be obsessed with wealth, which you do not get from acting like you're rich. You do get by being rich. When we want to map out our financial goals, we should go to our broker jobs, not to Instagram.
For today's tip, you can take straight to the bank. If you feel like you need a digital diet, you can always set a timer on Instagram that will give you a little pop-up notification if you've scrolled past your time limit for a given day. I've set a 20-minute time limit for myself in the past, and I'll be honest, I often ignore that timer. But on the days when I could and I did put my phone away, it felt pretty damn good. Between summer vacations and going to the beach and having the hot girl or guy summer of your dreams, this
season can be a little hard on our wallets. A Chime checking account helps you reach your financial goals while still enjoying the summer. You can take back your finances with features like fee-free overdraft up to $200 with SpotMe or getting paid up to two days early with direct deposit. Learn more at Chime.com slash MNN. And you know I hate overdrafted fees. One time I overdrafted buying a latte, which was so embarrassing at the time, but hey, it happened.
That's Chime.com slash MNN. Chime.
Feels like progress.
While you're binging the pod, how about a little bonus tip? As a starting place for your investment allocation that you can, of course, tailor depending on your goals, pros recommend making your bond allocation your age. How about a second bonus tip? When you want to invest in bonds, use public. The modern brokerage for investors looking for a simple yet sophisticated investing experience.
Public is truly the only place I buy bonds, legit, because every other app or site I've tried to use is so complicated, but on Public, I can buy a bond on my iPhone in less than five minutes. This is a major upgrade because most investing platforms that offer bonds design their user experience before the iPhone was even invented. I'll let that one sink in. And you can use Public for more than your bond investments.
Public is the brokerage I use for all my investing needs, whether I'm looking for stocks, ETFs, a high-yield cash account, options, and other assets, even music royalties. To build the multi-asset portfolio of your dreams, go to public.com slash money rehab. One more time, because trust, you will thank me, public.com slash money rehab. This is a paid endorsement for public investing. Full disclosures and conditions can be found in the podcast description.
Money Rehab is a production of Money News Network. I'm your host, Nicole Lappin. Money Rehab's executive producer is Morgan Lavoie. Our researcher is Emily Holmes.
Do you need some money rehab? And let's be honest, we all do. So email us your money questions, moneyrehabatmoneynewsnetwork.com to potentially have your questions answered on the show or even have a one-on-one intervention with me. And follow us on Instagram at Money News and TikTok at Money News Network for exclusive video content. And lastly, thank you. No, seriously, thank you. Thank you for listening and for investing in yourself, which is the most important investment you can make.
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that house returned the favor. And to get real with you for a sec, I felt so much guilt before treating myself on vacation because traveling can be so expensive. But since hosting on Airbnb, I feel zero stress for treating myself to a much needed vacation because having Airbnb guests stay at my house when I'm traveling helps offset the cost of my travel. So it's such a win-win. I mean, if I could do it, you could do it. And your home might be worth more than you think. Find out how much at airbnb.com slash host.